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That was the most difficult one for us. Just after Thanksgiving that year, she was diagnosed with metastasized cancer. We didn't know if she'd make it till Christmas, but she did. We all knew it'd be our last with her. The most special moment was when my nephew arrived from out of state with his family. He carried his month-old baby, my mother's second great-grandchild, through the throngs of family to where my mother was sitting quietly, and placed him in her arms. She just loved babies and was thrilled with the newest edition to our family.
My nephew was in the military then and could only stay for a couple of days. I was standing outside smoking when he left, and he just broke down, knowing it was the last time he'd get to see my mother alive (he had no more time off left). So hard to see a grown young man crying. Nonetheless, I am very thankful that we were able to have her with us for Christmas and again on the New Year and I really cherish the pictures of her holding baby Jake and looking so happy in spite of her illness. She passed the following April.
There have been many years before and since that I didn't feel like celebrating Christmas for various reasons and it's so hard when there's so much pressure to do so. Other years I just love Christmas and can't get enough of it. It's taken me a while, but I've learned to just go with the flow- my flow, not outside pressures.
I see that it's been ten years since you lost your Dad. I hope that soon you'll be ready to honor his memory by taking joy once again in the holiday he loved so much! Also, I think yours is great advice- not pressuring people to celebrate if they aren't in that place.
