The "flower" part of this plant doesn't look like a flower but kind of looks like a spear that can be up to a foot long, perfectly vertical. The overall form is spear like (slender 5"- 12" spikes) similar to the form of a lupine or cattail, only it does not have individual florettes like the lupine but rather soft white segments which resemble the look of a pine cone which has not opened yet (and points up, not down). The "tail" or "cone" is stiff, and perfectly vertical.
There are several (5-12) thin stalks from the base of the main plant. Total height of each stalk including the spear runs about 4.5-5.5 feet tall. At the top of the stalks is the white (perfectly cylindrical) spear that comes to a point at the top. The very tip, which is the top, is a dark pink color where the new growth is, about 1/2 inch, as the new growth matures, it turns white and the cone's get longer (taller). It's stiff, while the surface is soft. All along the spear in the white segments are tiny black seeds inside.
Can someone please direct me to a picture on the internet or possiblilties?
I have this very plant and you described it perfectly. It is a Celosia "Pink Flamingo". In fact, I went around to my 5 plants today and dead headed lots of them that were seeding. Mine is also close to 4 ft. tall.