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rubyw
Crozet, VA

August 10, 2011
2:24 PM

Post #8749147

I will start off quoting a few things the article I read stated.

A 2004 UCLA study of hoarders brains showed lower activity in the decision making, motivation and problem solving areas of the brain.

It was once believed that hoarding could be categorized under Obsessive Compulsive Disorder but is now classified as being a separate condition in which OCD treatments won't work.

The following are ten red flags that may warn of hoarder tendencies.

1 - Acquiring items brings a rush.

2 - You have trouble finding things.

3 - Throwing things out upsets you.

4 - Fix it projects pile up faster than you can repair them.

5 - You avoid having visitors.

6 - You put off having repairs done because the house is a mess.

7 - You are saving items that may be valuable or useful some day.

8 - You've maxed out credit cards.

9 - You are afraid to throw out magazines and newspapers because you believe you might miss something important.

10- You can't use rooms in your house because they are too cluttered.

So, these are things to look out for that may possibly lead a person down the road to becoming a hoarder. I have to admit that there have been times when I fit in to a few of these categories but thankfully I currently have things under good control and these aren't currently happening with me. I still find the whole topic very interesting and can't get enough of hearing about it.

Beware...

Ruby
ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

August 10, 2011
8:23 PM

Post #8749694

#1 fits me. I do enjoy acquiring things--but not just anything. I look for good quality items that can last a lifetime. And I do get a rush when I find a bargain. But I've gotten good at not bringing home things just to bring something in. Everything that comes into my house must have a purpose and must fit.

I've also gotten good at getting rid of stuff when I get something new. Recently I got a beautiful new cabinet, like a fancy credenza. So I sold the small rolltop desk that really wasn't functional for me. I've also finally admitted that the two barstools I love take up too much room in my kitchen, so today I carried them to the flea market, along with a couple of pedestal plant stands I'm tired of sweeping around.

As much as I enjoy bringing new stuff home, I enjoy getting rid of stuff even more, especially if I can sell it and recoup some of the money I paid for it. I'm saving up for a newer vehicle, so every little bit of money I make certainly helps.

I would say I'm not a hoarder, but I was an avid collector of many things (books, lighthouses, ships, teddy bear figurines, tons of tropical houseplants, and other useless clutter). At one time I wouldn't consider parting with them. But eventually I just got tired of my shelves being so cluttered and it taking so long to dust.

The thing I'm battling now is trying not to give into temptation to bring in another pet. I'm a real sucker for poor defenseless animals, which is how I ended up with the two big furry companions I have now. I have to avoid the ads on Freecycle and Craigslist in which people are offering free puppies/kittens. I could fill my house up with neglected, abandoned animals. I'm thinking I should just go volunteer with a shelter so I can get my "furry friends" fix. LOL
handbright
Coral Springs, FL
(Zone 10b)

August 11, 2011
3:45 AM

Post #8749889

Read with interest Ruby! I watched the television show a couple of times, but had to stop, it was just so sad. As I first read this I immediately thought yep, thats me alright! Then I reread it more carefully and analyzed each one and breathed a sigh of relief. While I have done some of the things on this list like the magazines, its never been to the degree that would constitute hoarding. (I have 8 House Beautiful magazines from the 30's through the 50's that I simply cannot toss) but I stopped buying decorating magazines years ago. Why bother when its all out there on the internet! I am in better shape than I thought I was, though there is still much to do.

I get what you mean ButterflyChaser, I am a total sucker for any abandoned dog. I tried fostering for awhile, but had to stop because it was getting too hard to let them go. They call it a failed foster. Now I just click on every donation site like "Free Kibble" I can find and try to send a few dollars once in awhile to my local no kill shelter, or to a rescue network.

rubyw
Crozet, VA

August 11, 2011
10:35 AM

Post #8750382

Yes ladies...on occasion I could have answered yes to several of these questions myself, but not to the level of any of them being chronic, so I am letting myself off the hook too. The tendency to hoard is like some other areas of my life in which upon becoming aware of an issue...I then begin to address it and thanfully no more damage than necessary is involved.

Alright, big hearted, sucker for a pet BC, watch out in regards to hoarding animals. Dogs needing homes is the reason that we once owned four of the furry friends at a time. Two have now gone due to old age but we are still paying Vet and medication costs for the two still here. One of the boys had surgery on Monday to remove a growth on his eye on Monday to the tune of $460.00. Thinking of the added cost of keeping a pet may put a new slant on the desire...for me at least.

Anyway...this information came from a website that sends daily messages to my email and I believed this to be important enough to share with others. Thank both of you for your comments.

Ruby
Pippi21
Silver Spring, MD
(Zone 6b)

August 20, 2011
4:42 AM

Post #8765913

Collections that gather dust..knick nacks..suppose you would drop dead today or become seriously ill and could no longer take stay in your home..do you have children or grandchildren that would be interested in your collections? I bet if we are all honest with ourselves, our kids don't want our "stuff." Today's young adults can't think ahead..they don't want anything they have to polish(like silver)they don't want anything that they can't use right away, like nice glass serving pieces. Today's kids entertain off paper plates, unfortunately. Their taste are not like ours or our Mother's.

Butterfly chaser has the right idea of taking it to the Flea market and hopefully get some of it sold. Some consignment shops will only keep your goods for a specific time, then they donate it to charity and take it off their income tax or sell it to somebody that goes around collecting other people's discards, sets up his or her own business or flea market. Yard sales are fun but they are a lot of work and sometimes you make out good financially and then sometimes it wasn't worth the effort and time you put into it. I saw gather up the stuff and give it to some of these charity organizations, take it off your income tax then.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

August 20, 2011
5:01 AM

Post #8765933

I am hoping that my kids will do what I did when left with a huge household of items belonging to my parents after they died. Family members take what they want and sell the rest at auction. I don't know if it is a southern thing or not, but when I was a kid going to auctions with my parents was an almost every weekend thing. If I were as financially set and had a house the size they did, I too would love to include visiting auctions whenever a good one came along.

Truth of the matter is...I spent several years doing just that and always found it to be lots of fun, but lifes circumstances have changed and I no longer attend them. During the time I was attending auctions, I also had two online stores going and enjoyed that but again, different life circumstances and it no longer works for me.

I did a major de-clutter last winter and I too was able to make some money off of getting rid of things. Again, if I were honest, I could probably go back through the house and sheds again and come up with just about the same amount as I got rid of last year and not be bothered. I purposely set aside some of the better things in hopes of selling them at some point.

I no longer have the time nor inclination to sell online and other than using Craigs List from time to time, I believe my best bet would be to once again, send the greater amount of things to auction and pray that good buyers happen to show that day and I be reimbursed for the time and energy I spent in getting the things together.

Anyway...I suppose if I can continue the pace I have set over the past ten or so years, buying and selling I won't have to worry too awfully much about being labeled a hoarder. I cannot stand filth and clutter so I have a certain point I will allow collections to grow to, at the over the top for me time, I begin the elimination process. Keeps me involved if not rich. hahaha

Ruby
ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

August 20, 2011
8:28 AM

Post #8766127

I'm trying to make things as simple for my loved ones as I can. Not only do I NOT want to deal with my own clutter, I don't want to leave it for family members. When I die, I hope that everything I have left will be something someone in the family would use--my queen size bedroom suit, my 32" LCD flat panel TV, my computer, my power tools. I don't want to leave behind a butterfly nic nac collection or a useless china set no one cares about or a large collection of ships and lighthouses people will just have to haul to goodwill. Face it, our kids and grandkids are from the ME generation--they don't want our crap and they don't want to have to deal with our crap. They hope WE will take care of it and just leave them the money. LOL

I helped a friend clean out her mother's large house after her mother died. Her mother did oil painting and the oil paintings she painted are about the only things in her house that friends and family wanted. I inherited all of her painting supplies and just about everything else was sold or donated. I remember how much work my friend and I did sorting thru everything and hauling everything to various places. She was so relieved when, months later, it was all done and the house sold and she was out from under it. With full-time jobs, cleaning out her house consumed any free time we had for weeks. She only made about $400 selling a houseful of stuff--much of it old and ugly--not even antique--just old or in poor taste. $400 for several weeks worth of her time--she'd tell you it wasn't worth it.

I've already gone thru my mother's hoard once and I'm dreading going thru it again. I remember how testy my brother was as he hauled away trailerload after trailerload of junk when mom had her stroke. When she recovered from her stroke, she was mad that we'd gotten rid of her "precious treasures". And she's been trying to fill the house up again. So one day, when she passes, we'll haul several more trailerloads of crap to the landfill. Why? Because my mother is a hoarder and hoarders are selfish.

It's a lesson I hope I've learned so I can break the cycle. When I die, I don't want people to grumble, "Why did she keep this?? It's useless! It's junk! No one would ever want this! What a mess she's left us with!" I want people to fight over what I have left. LOL I want my brother and son to fight over who gets my compound miter saw and electric drill. I want my siblings to fight over the oil paintings I've done. I want someone to claim my beautiful mahogany rice bed and matching bedroom suite. Maybe I'm selfish, but I want people to be proud to own some of my stuff after I'm gone rather than wishing I hadn't left them a major chore to deal with.

I do keep going thru my house, pulling out more stuff I've decided I don't need. I'm now able to part with things I didn't think I'd ever give up. But I'm trying to be realistic. Will I use it? Have I used it recently? Will I use it soon? How much longer is it going to take up space and energy? Can I fix it? OK, TODAY I'll fix it or tomorrow it's outta here. Do I LOVE it? Does it fit my decor? Yes? Then where does it belong? No? Then why is it still here? How much more energy do I want to spend on this item? None? Ok, it's going in the flea mkt box!

Soon, I'm having a lady come by to put fresh eyes on my stuff. I'm going to pull out pictures and things that I want to incorporate into my house and have her help me decorate the house. Then whatever we decide doesn't belong will be sold in my flea mkt booth, unless the lady wants them. I want my house to look done, but not overdone. I want people to feel comfortable here, not overwhelmed with too many pictures, too many nicnacs or floral arrangements, etc. I'm really excited to see what this lady has to say about what few "treasures" I have left. Once the house is decorated, I think I'll feel "accomplished" and can finally relax.
huckleberry6
Eagle Point, OR
(Zone 8a)

August 21, 2011
9:37 AM

Post #8768541

#1 -Yes
#2 -Now that I have so many items and am older, Yes
#3 -So true
#4 -Oh, boy
#5 -Too busy sorting thru stuff
#6 -Alot of this stuff is for fixing up this dump
# 7 -Just sold a broken child's bracelet I had dug up in the yard for $115.00 American. No kidding! 10,000 more items left to sell
#8 -No! Good thing yard sales don't accept credit cards
#9 -Such as article #1,000 on how to get clutter under control. Yes
#10 -Add "surfaces" to rooms

Doing better. Thanks for the wake-up quiz, Ruby!
rubyw
Crozet, VA

August 21, 2011
10:41 AM

Post #8768691

Thanks for the giggle Huckleberry. I could always count on you to give some funny comment to a situation. That is how I like to take things that happen with me...take it with a grain of salt and laugh if I can, guaranteed on down the road after I experienced a lot of angst over any situation, years later it is laughable to have become so involved, feel as though it is the end of the world type of scenario and most was for naught.

BC, if everyone in America decided to do as you are doing, and have things in order at their deaths so family members won't have it to deal with, you would take away a great American pass time. It has been going on for years and years and is likely to continue, because let's face, not only are hoarders selfish, but most of man kind is, if we get right down to it honestly.

On the other side of the coin, I have spoken with people who haven't been left any thing of sentimental value by their parents and they are probably more hurt in their souls due to not having anything to recall memories from than the generation of us who complain about being left with dealing with folks belongings.

I was not left with a hoard, though house keeping practices towards the end of my mother's life had worsened, but I regarded it an honor to be allowed to have decision making opportunities regarding the things they did collect over the years. The things my parents had were valuable. Ninety percent of the their furnishings were hand made by a local company who is in the business. I received several of the furnishings and feel honored to have them. They are true heirlooms and my children will be passing them to their grand children. Clore furniture in this area of the country is regarded as some of the finest quality being manufactured these days. My grand children are using a rocking chair that was a Christmas gift to my dad some ninety years ago and it is as solid as the day it was gifted.

Heck, I still have a couple boxes full of paper work from my grand dad dated in the 1920's and 1930's. I suppose they made their way my way because my folks were left things to deal with when grand daddy died, and they never did any thing other than keep them. I plan to make them available to my cousins whenever another family reunion is planned.

We may do things differently in this area of the country, but most folks I know feel very honored to have sentimental things to recall good memories from. It was a lot of fun for me to go through those papers which are reaching near being one hundred years old and imagine the times back then.

Again, to each his own, everyone has different ways of doing things. I have made a major dent in what I will leave and in the mean time will continue enjoying my pretties. For about fifteen years I have been fortunate enough to have someone else do my weekly dusting and other household chores for me. Some months back I had to cut it to bi-weekly and do for myself in between her visits. It has now been about a month since she has appeared and didn't answer my phone call last week, so she may have flown the coup. I might be needing to re-assess the chotskies sitting around here too if I am to become head house duster.

Anyway... glad to hear from you Huck. I miss you.

Ruby
ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

August 21, 2011
11:49 AM

Post #8768833

Not everyone is as fortunate as you are, Ruby, to have a husband and housekeeper do some of the chores. And not everyone has parents who can leave them good quality stuff. If my mother had taken the time to sell some of her junk, she could have bought a few good quality items instead of having a houseful of junk we'll have to haul to the dump someday. The new flat panel TV we bought her for Christmas is about the only thing any of us would want. My mother felt that quantity, not quality, was more important.

There will always be auctions, Ruby, because many people will always hoard and others will always be getting something better and putting up for auction their old stuff. So you don't have to fear that an American pasttime will ever die. But auctions are no reason to perpetuate hoarding. Much of America is ridiculous in their selfish need to acquire and keep. Storage facilities make a killing off hoarders. These people pay big bucks to store stuff that usually isn't worth the storage fees. And then one day they can't afford the fees anymore and their stuff is then auctioned off to pay their past due fees. Such a shame. They could have sold that stuff in the first place and pocketed the money themselves.

Years ago I was too attached to my stuff. And I had a houseful. I wasn't exactly a hoarder but I did have too much. I had some nice cheap stuff but it overwhelmed visitors. As I cleared out, I began to lose that attachment, and I view that as an accomplishment. My stuff used to control me; now I'm in control. And it feels amazing! I'm always reminding myself of how simply the people in Korea live, as Juney talks about. I don't think I want to live that sparsely, but I don't want to overwhelm my quests with too many nicnacs or too many pictures on the walls or too much greenery jumping out of corners and off shelves. I've learned that not every inch of the walls needs to be covered, not every bookshelf needs to be full, and not every surface needs to be covered by nicnacs. Clean, decorative, but comfortable is what I'm striving for. I try to think about the homes I enjoy visiting and the ones I feel a little tense in, with an urge to escape. So I'm trying imitate those homes that leave me with a sense of peace.

Apparently what I'm doing is finally working. My brother asked me the other day to come to his house and go thru his stuff. He feels the walls closing in. I told him I came over, I'd be throwing out a lot of stuff. He said, "That's exactly what I want! I know things need to go, but I just can't do it myself." So that may be my next project--to transform my brother's house into a home again.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

August 22, 2011
4:23 AM

Post #8770228

It feels good that others have confidence in our ability to help them. Yep, the example you have sat for him made him go home and re-evaluate his surroundings. Cool beans. I know you have a lot of anger towards your mother and her hoard. You wouldn't be human if it didn't bother you. The poor family members on the Hoarders TV shows are so sad to watch. They feel helpless to help and I feel badly for them and for your situation. Heck, who knows, but this could eventually rub off on yor mom...and she will decide to do something sooner rather than later...stranger things have happened.

Anyway...continued good luck with all of this. I feel you are the right woman for the job. Have a good week coming up.

Ruby
handbright
Coral Springs, FL
(Zone 10b)

August 22, 2011
6:30 AM

Post #8770441

I really need to get my kids on board with the stuff they want and the stuff they could care less about. For instance the sterling can go because nobody wants to polish it, but the good china is spoken for. By all of them. Thats a pain in the butt, because I dont want to break up the set, but the only thing that is of equal value is the silver! And I absolutely will NOT do to them what their dad did so all things will be equal. What the heck, maybe I should just sell it all, throw the proceeds in a cookie jar, spend what I need to keep body and soul together and if there is anything left they can just count it out and divide it themselves.

I started to use the old glasses for everyday, if they break, (and they do)- at least we got to appreciate them! I was going to sell them off, but they are just too fragile and selling and then shipping glasswear on line is just too expensive and work intensive.

I do have a really big problem just throwing clothing away, I have to admit to that one. I had so many really expensive and pretty clothes from back in the day that it's hard to just donate it all, plus I'm getting so old now that more and more of it is getting to be truly vintage... LOL!

Okay- back to work. Theres a hurricane headed our way and i need to batten down the hatches!
Happy cleaning everyone!

:D
Amy
ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

August 22, 2011
7:03 AM

Post #8770488

Amy, with the china, which of your children would be hosting the Christmas dinners when you're gone? That's the one I'd give the fine china too. Then everyone can benefit from it. If no one wants the sterling, sell it and do something nice for yourself.

Check around for a vintage clothing consignment shop and sell some of your old clothing. Or donate to a drama class at your local high school or college. Wouldn't it be fun to see a play where the stars are wearing your old dresses?

Does living in a hurricane-prone area force you to minimalize--keeping only what's important? I live in tornado alley so I often consider what I could lose if a tornado smashed my house to smithereens. At least if I sell off what I don't actually need, I can leave the money in the bank where it will be safe.

The decorator helped for about 3 hours last night. She's coming back tonight to finish up. We've found a few things that I don't need and found some other things I want to incorporate in the house, but one or two of them just may not fit at all. I love them but if we don't find a place for them tonight, they have to go. One is a winter landscape I painted; all my siblings want it so when I part with it, I can still visit it from time to time.

Here are some befores and afters of the living room.

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ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

August 22, 2011
7:10 AM

Post #8770500

Here's the after. The small seascape in the above picture doesn't seem to fit anywhere so I'll take it to my flea mkt booth. I love it, but I like my other stuff better, and it's not one I painted, so I can let it go...I think. Wonder if my brother might like it. Hmmmm.

In this picture, the painting on the right, I did. The painting on the left, a friend did. We took Bob Ross painting classes together.

Please ignore the blankets covering the furniture. That curious little rat you see in the above picture has chewed holes in my leather furniture. I keep blankets over them to keep him from climbing INTO the holes. Silly little puppy!

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ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

August 22, 2011
7:20 AM

Post #8770517

Oh, I thought I was posting on the Accomplished Declutterer post. Sorry Ruby, I didn't mean to intrude on your thread! I'll post my other pictures over there.

As for being angry with my mother, it's more frustration and disgust, as well as concern for her health too. Anything that comes into her house does not leave--ever--except true trash. She doesn't pile her house up with paper plates, bottles, cans or anything that is absolute trash, like some o fthe hoarders on the shows. Occasionally I "use" her bathroom so I can sneak out a 20 yr old bottle of aspirin or a 15 yr old bottle of benadryl. She's never allowed me to throw out a can of food even though she'll never eat it. I've been taking care of her for 12 years, and all the canned food she insisted on bringing to this new house is still in the cabinet.

She has a broken bookshelf shelf that collapses if you touch it wrong. I had an identical one so carried it over there to replace the broken one. She refused to let me swap them out and put the new shelf in the bathroom between the toilet and the wall. It's a very tight fit and totally useless. She keeps ONE roll of toilet paper on the shelf. And you still have to be careful not to bump the bookshelf in the kitchen.

Last year her water heater busted and flooded the guest room which is piled up. The water heater is in the crammed full closet in the guest room. She would NOT let me in that room, fearing I'd throw stuff away. So it took my brothers all day to clear out the junk so they could get to the water heater. Mom sat in the living room watching TV like a princess. Once it was all done, my brothers snuck a lot of useless stuff out the back door. Later Mom accused ME of taking her stuff. I reminded her that she wouldn't allow me in the room, but she still thinks I can't be trusted. Her stuff (much of it empty boxes) is more important to her than her family. So yes, it's frustrating.
SkeptikSharon
Ontario, CA
(Zone 8b)

August 22, 2011
9:27 AM

Post #8770798

I was just reading through this post, think I missed it before.

Pippi Ė your comment about todayís kids entertaining off paper plates made me laugh. That is totally me and my husband, though we are working on it. But we both hate, hate, hate doing dishes, so for years now, weíve lived off paper plates, bowls, plastic cups. Very sad. Itís not even so much that I donít like the nice stuff. I do. But itís the taking care of things that is the drawback. Weíve been getting better lately though. I havenít bought any paper plates or anything since beginning of July! (Hey, itís a start.) =)

Ruby Ė good call on keeping those boxes of paperwork from the 20ís and 30ís. Those may be of interest to anyone in the family who does genealogy. I know if anyone in my family came across a find like that, I would be super excited to go through it and see exactly what might be in there.

I was thinking as I was reading through about furniture, and the attitude that the more recent generations tend to have towards stuff. I think part of the problem may be that furniture (and lots of things really) nowadays is made so poorly and made only to last a couple years. At which point, to the dump it goes and new furniture gets bought. I admit, I am of the Ikea generation, and that stuff is just not made to last. Up until we bought our house 2 years ago, almost every single piece of furniture we had was from Ikea (except the hope chest my mother gave me for graduation). Now that we have the house, we are slowly replacing everything with better quality items. If it was the right style, I would be ecstatic to get good quality used furniture passed down to me. Good quality furniture is expensive!

BC, it is so sad that your mom is hoarding to that extent. Very good, at least, that she doesnít keep all the true trash. Those are the ones I really canít understand when I watch the hoarding shows. When itís absolutely trash, not even anything potentially useful. After the water heater broke, did she get rid of anything that was water damaged, or did she insist on keeping that stuff as well?
rubyw
Crozet, VA

August 22, 2011
9:38 AM

Post #8770834

Oh gosh...your closing line says it all and gives me a truer sense of the frustration that family members must feel...the hoarders stuff seems more important than their family members do. That would feel like a big old sock in the gut I imagine. You are handling it all a lot better than I would probably be able to do. Another thing you mentioned and I have seen first hand is health issues stemming from hoarding. I had a great aunt that my mother and I used to visit a lot. She had paths leading from room to room. She eventually died from complications of asthma and emphysema. I am sure that inches of dust on every surface didn't help the breathing issues at all.

I love the looks of your living room, before and after BC. You have a good eye.

Amy dear, I like your idea of selling some items and pampering yourself with the proceeds. All of your life you have been giving, giving, giving. It is time for you to begin giving to yourself and making sure that your remaining years are happy ones. I have seen a decal on some Recreational Vehicles on the road that read - "We are spending our children's inheritance." I loved it.

As for the clothing, I like BC's idea for selling it on consignment. I did that with some of my mother's stuff after her death. The majority of her clothing I donated but things that were special I put in a consignment shop called Glad Rags. Glad Rags does a booming business being located near the University here. She sells about half clothing and half jewelry. She says her busiest time is halloween because so many of the students and other folks looking for unusual dress for the occasion. So...if you have the time and inclination, you might want to go through some of the clothing and try getting it to them before the end of September. Glad Rags is so busy during the month of October that she doesn't even take clothing to consign during that month.

Anyway...there are endless possibilities. I am with you on the time consumption of selling on line. I did that for a while when there were no kids at home and John worked away from home. My current home situation is not at all condusive to trying to do that these days.

Also as BC has pointed out many times, selling on Craig's List is usually a quick moving process and you can set your price and people can call or not. I thought that you mentioned a while back that getting some things together and getting Jesse set up to sell online was something you were thinking about...did he not agree to doing it or what happened with that? Again, many possibilities with some creative thinking. It helps that you are not hurting for money at the moment and won't have to let it go for less than you want to. Hold on to something and try again later if no takers the first go round.

After things at your place have settled a bit, you can begin focusing on getting rid of things. You are currently busy with other things and there is no rush.

Thank you both for the dialogue today. Always fun hearing others ideas.

Ruby
rubyw
Crozet, VA

August 22, 2011
9:49 AM

Post #8770861

We cross posted Sharon. Good to see you. You have a good point on the quality of things we buy these days. My dad was famous for saying that a good vehicle hadn't come off the lines since the early 1970's. I always laughed whenever he said it, but there was probably a whole lot of truth to the statement.

Just a few minutes ago John and I were discussing the re-arrangement of some furniture. I will be storing a few good wooden pieces unless Tucker can use them in his bedroom now. Some day we will be helping him furnish a place of his own hopefully and some of this stuff will come in handy then.

Sharon...I hadn't though of contacting kin folk who are interested in Geneology. I have a distant cousin who once upon a time was big in to it. I will try to remember to contact him and see if he'd like to have some of the paper articles. Thanks, hadn't thought of that until now.

Anyway...thanks for the chat all. Hope the upcoming week is a good one for all reading.

Ruby
ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

August 22, 2011
9:53 AM

Post #8770877

Today's generation is very hectic. So many mothers are single moms who have to multi-task and manage time wisely. Or households are two-income households with both people working outside the home. So there's just no time for menial tasks like doing dishes. I eat on paper plates too most of the time. It sure simplies my life. When I have guests over, though, I do enjoy REAL dishes. I mentioned before that I got rid of my "everyday" dishes and kept my "fine china", and I'm not afraid to use it. In fact, I treasure it and enjoy it. I also make sure my guests know that if they break a piece, no worries. The whole reason I have it is to enjoy it, and I'm not going to worry over a broken glass. It's Wexford glassware, from the 70's, and I can buy more pieces at flea markets should I need some. I love having just one set of glassware. There really wasn't any point in taking up extra cabinet space for dishes.

Like you, Sharon, I've spent the last couple of years getting rid of cheap, poorly made furniture and getting better, solid wood, well-crafted furniture. My most favored piece is a high boy dresser I found at a flea market. It was all scratched up and some of the drawers don't open right. But it called out to me. It wasn't anything that I was looking for...or so I thought, so I kept passing it by. But it just kept calling me. At one point I walked out to my car, intending to leave, and I heard it call again. I knew if I left it there, I'd regret it before I even got home. I walked back in and told the store owner that I would take the highboy IF he could fit it in my van--half-hoping he couldn't. I had really wanted light colored furniture for my bedroom. He managed to fit it in my van (it's a two piece unit) and shut the hatch. I gave him $100 and left. When I got home, I found the name of the manufacturer in one of the drawers and looked the company up online. I found MY highboy on their website...selling for $3200!!!! I have expensive tastes! I restained the highboy and fell in love. I pet it everyday and have since acquired a complete set of bedroom furniture to match it.

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JuneyBug
Dover AFB, DE
(Zone 7a)

August 23, 2011
7:20 PM

Post #8773835

If your kids do not want it, who does?

When my older sister got married, my Aunt gifted her with lots of glass junk that she was getting rid of so that she could downsize (her whispered words to me) = it was all of that precious crystal and silver that had been handed down through the family along with a few shelves and a cabinet to display them in. This is stuff that had turned into Clutter for my Aunt and Treasures for my Sister. She dearly loves the 'stuff' and has decorated and furnished the dining room so that they are 'center stage'. It tickled my Auntie to death that Beth loved that 'junk' so much and Beth is still delighted these many decades later to have these bits of history.
btw, none of my Aunt's 4 kids wanted anything to do with that stuff. It requires upkeep and is too delicate for children to be close to, so they didn't want it - niece Beth treasures these family heirlooms.

My Mom started in '33 to collect costume jewelry and purses. I love the stuff and had hers and loads of my own. There was too much for me to deal with and I wanted to downsize.. My Son & DIL didn't want any of it...at all. At a family reunion I noticed a niece wearing some neat pieces of jewelry and we discussed The Collection. I was so very, very glad to bring it to the next reunion and she loves owning it :-) She has heirloom treasures and I have a wonderfully clutter-free bedroom.
At that reunion I had also brought some books and knick knacks that were family mementos and saw that it was the young folks that were most enthralled with them. For them it was ♥Family History♥ & Heirlooms♥ For us grey-haired ones; it was a really neat way to pass this ~stuff~ along to someone that would appreciate it. Every reunion after that had tables covered with 'stuff' to pass on and plenty of folks sitting around that could give the history of each item. I hear now that it is turning out to be the best part of our twice a year reunions.

This is an excellent way to get rid of lots of the stuff that our kids do not want.
ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

August 23, 2011
7:34 PM

Post #8773865

Great idea, Juney!!
rubyw
Crozet, VA

August 24, 2011
7:03 AM

Post #8774351

My mom had also acquired a great deal of costume jewelry and none of the grand kids seemed interested and I took the opportunity some years ago to go about selling it. I first visited a high end jewelry store who bought up the gold and silver and she then referred me to Glad Rags the local consignment shop specializing in vintage clothing and costume jewelry where I sold more of the gems. I have a running account with the consignment shop but haven't taken any thing in for some time now and the thought of shopping there is out of my financial ability because she marks things really high.

Juney, maybe my idea to take the ancient business papers to a family gathering must have been from you mentioning doing this some time last winter when the boards were more active. Anyway...I love the idea. First ask in immediate family if folks want anything and then spread out in to extended family. It does feel great when there is someone who will take the gifted item and cherish it.

A childhood memory of mine which is now at least 45 years old is receiving a box in the mail post marked with a Florida address where my dad's aunt had retired some years earlier. In this box was all of her costume jewelry and she had picked my mother and myself to be the giftees. Much of what she sent during that time was stuff I later sold. When taking some of the things to the consignment shop years later, imagine my surprise when the shop owner put a price tag of over three hundred dollars on a Coro set. Good grief, I almost fainted. Didn't realize I was carrying around gold in the back of my car for months and months.

Now, if I can find a buyer of old dish ware I would be set. Haven't yet decided on my way to sell some of the stuff I packed back last winter. I am at the point though that I am willing to admit that I have no more space for display things and so even if some of this stuff is really beautiful, it needs to go elsewhere. That is stillmonthsdown the road. I have more immediate things to take care of currently.

You ladies have a good day. As always, lovely to hear from you Juney and your input is always full of great info. Thanks for sharing.

Ruby

Pippi21
Silver Spring, MD
(Zone 6b)

September 19, 2011
2:44 PM

Post #8815262

BC..that highboy is beautiful. I can't believe that man let that go for $100. It looks like it was an expensive piece of furniture when it was new. He didn't have anymore of the set with him?

Ruby..if none of your family wants any of the stuff that your Dad had, or that cousin that does genealogy...check with the Historical or Genealogy society in the county where it pertains to. When my dear FIL died, we took stuff up that he and Mom had saved to the Historical Society where he grew up, and they have an activie historical society along with a museum and they were very happy to receive it and display it. He and Mom had a lot of Masonic and Eastern Star Jewelry. We gave away all of her formal gowns to the Eastern Star(about 30plus) and the long gloves they had to have with the formals and they had a sale and let some of the members buy it at good prices and also there are new members that were coming into the ES that didn't have the money to buy a lot of gown changes. For certain events, you have to wear white, for other events, you may have to have another color, etc. The jewelry was nice, expensive jewelry and we hired a lady that was highly recommended to us and she and her husband were in the Masonic and ES group and that woman sold a lot for us and her health declined and we sold the rest for the price of the gold to a jewelry. I know he probably took advantage of us but all their friends had as much as they had and didn't need anymore. The lady would go to Masonic conventions and set up a table and sell. She was well known for her quality pieces. She only took 10% to sell it. She knew her stuff and we were very pleased with her and what she had sold. A jeweler that we know well said his business for masonic jewelry, etc. has dropped off drastically because the older ones are dying off and the younger generation doesn't have time to belong to the Masons and they don't have the money it takes because they are paying big mortgage payments and running their kids from one sports event to another.

We still have a few pieces of Masonic stuff to get rid of..but just haven't put an effort into getting rid of it.

Ruby, you could probably google the Historical or Genealogy society and find out if they would be interested in looking at it and donate it. We donated my FIL's tuxedo to a local theatre here nearby. They were thrilled to get it and I knew it was almost brand new and the man at the theatre said the same thing and he recognized the designer's name and place where it was purchased and told us that my FIL had paid anywhere from $400-$700 for that tuxedo. He gave us a receipt for income tax purposes and I used the lower price. I think I gave away about a dozen tuxedo shirts and matching cumberbuns; many colors, same way with white gloves. They could have traveled all over the USA and stayed with Masonic and ES friends and never ran out places to stay if they'd chosen to.




ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

September 19, 2011
8:19 PM

Post #8815699

Hi Pippi, I love that highboy. It looked really rough when I brought it home, but I sanded it and stained it over the weekend and made it shine. It was the only piece like it that they had in the flea market. But the next weekend, a lady here in town was selling a big tv armoire just like it! And I bought it. Turns out, she has the whole bedroom suit. She took me inside and let me see all the various pieces together and it was awesome! Of course I don't have room for all the pieces. The dress with the triple mirror was just huge! And incredible. To see all the original pieces together made me realize I made a great choice when I bought that highboy.

Then a few weeks later, I found a four post "rice" bed that matches these first two pieces. And I get so many compliments on my bedroom. It looks cozy and traditional with interesting pieces of furniture. The straight, clean lines of modern furniture just bore me. And of course this older furniture is well made, all wood--not that pressed board we see so much of today.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

September 23, 2011
9:12 AM

Post #8820565

How interesting to hear of the Masonic and Eastern Start stories. Very cool, thanks for sharing Pippi.

What a great idea for donating this stuff to the historical society. That or The Virginia Dept. of Forestry which according to much of the paperwork, my grand dad was Fire Warden for that County. So, I will find some time in the next couple of weeks and go through it. There is a family reunion planned for the 15h of October and I will take what I don't want to it. I will offer it to kin folk and what isn't taken, I will first offer to VA Dept. of Forestry and then to the Historical Society of Madison County VA. Thanks for the tips, I now have a plan.

It being almost one hundred years old and in perfect condition makes me think that it will hold value to someone. Some of it I do want for myself and my boys, but there is certainly enough to share all the way around. Amazing that the records were kept in good shape for all of these years.

Hope everyone reading will have a great weekend coming up.


Ruby
Pippi21
Silver Spring, MD
(Zone 6b)

September 23, 2011
7:29 PM

Post #8821262

Ruby, Do you know for sure that the Va. Dept of Foresty has a museum? Maybe the Historical Society of Madison County, Va. can tell you if they do or put you in contact with somebody that knows. Maybe you can google and find out. I'm sure the Historical Society will put it to good use. Maybe make copies before you give away and give to your sons and let them be responsible for putting it in a safe place. Sometimes when our kids are young, they don't see the importance of keeping genealogy related information. Not every one is interested in their hertitage for whatever reasons. If anybody thinks doing genealogy is Free..I've got a lot of proof it isn't always free. It take patience, determination and sometimes an inquisitive mind. Sometimes people don't want to know their hertiage for various reasons scared of what they will discover. Every family has skeltons in it, believe me, even the most prominent families.
Jtaylor38
Highgrove, CA

September 28, 2011
4:14 PM

Post #8828349

i'm afraid i will be a hoarder one day...i like to save so many things. my house is not messy at all, but the things i keep are ridiculous. i have one of my favorite shirts from kindergarten, my movie ticket to my first date...etc. all memorable things, but i just don't know when to quit saving.
JuneyBug
Dover AFB, DE
(Zone 7a)

September 28, 2011
5:52 PM

Post #8828471

Jtaylor, that IS how it starts. You can get a handle on it now by what they call "respecting your stuff". Organizing and framing collections of memorabilia and displaying it (shadow-box frames are great for this) or taking pictures of it all and throwing it away while keeping the digital memory.

Take it from me: 'stuff' starts owning you after a while.

I immediately thought about your first movie date ticket in a frame with pictures of you and your life; covers from the hot music of that era and bits of bric-brac that bring that time to mind... I did one like that for my SIL's teen years and was able to copy lots of pictures from the web and print them on photo paper - her fav. bands, the advertising picture of the golf course she hung out at was used for a background, jewelry, a bunch of copies of school pictures & memories from the school's website, her first keychain that held car keys. All kinds of "junk" that had sat around in drawers and jewelry boxes mixed with photos pulled from the 'net all neatly kept in a frame. She has now done this for her DSons life: one for 1-5yo, 2 more for up to middle school and he has a box of 'stuff' to go through and put together for the years leading up to his marriage. My SIL had the most organized 'stuff' I had ever seen...but every space in her house was crammed with it.

In liberating our storage areas of all of that 'stuff', we are liberating ourselves, too.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

October 3, 2011
10:51 AM

Post #8834344

Hi everyone - I haven't been reading threads for a few weeks now due to be ultra busy with other things. I am finally taking some time this rainy and dreary Monday to try and catch up with some of the threads I have been participating in. Good to see folks talking.

Pippi, I am not as far as checking on a Museum for the Div. of Forestry yet. I will contact the Madison County Historical Society and let them be the lead with this. First of all, finally got the three boxes of paper off the spare bedroom closet shelf and down where I can start going through them. There is a reunion for our family on October 15 and I plan to either take most of the paper myself or send with a cousin who will attend and let the first cousins have some if they are interested. I will give word that if it isn't all taken, I want it back and then I will contact the Historical Society. I want to go through and save some of the things for myself also. My grandmother was named Ruby also and some of the things addressed to her or pertaining to her, I will keep.

Jtaylor, welcome...always good to hear from new folks. I don't find your choice of memorabilia odd at all because I can just about assure you that I can go through one of my many jewelry boxes and find some of the same sort of mementos. Listen to Juneybug, she is one of the folks who helped me succeed in de-cluttering a very large amount of items last winter when that was a few month long project for me. Juney did sort of a running diary on one of the clutter free threads about her getting ready to move from the States to Korea and was only allowed a certain weight of items to take along. It was very interesting to read about her daily successes in ridding her home of the many excesses she had collected over the years.

Being involved with the clutter free threads and thinking a lot along the lines of downsizing or decluttering opened my eyes to a lot of my behavior that I have since been able to make some changes to. I had at one time taken shopping on as a sport. I have an addiction to everything for a Dollar stores and would often buy several plus of good deals. One of the things that really surprised me was a comment that Juneybug made one day about beginning to calculate the dollars spent on the things she was donating. She said that she stopped counting at ten thousand dollars. That one really opened my eyes and though not actually recording or keeping count of the brand new items I sent out of the house for donation, I knew that I could have easily hit that same dollar mark. Sickening...man, what I wouldn't give to have a check for that amount. hahaha

I have always been interested in keeping a neat and orderly home and for several plus years it seems that I always had at least one room devoted mainly to clutter. I didn't feel that was making good use of precious space, so I began getting involved with the Clean and Clutter Free forum here at Dave's. I just chatted for some months and then one day it just kind of hit me that I wanted to begin what would be a major process of ridding my home of the things that were just taking up space and not serving any good purpose. It took some months but with the support and encouragement from the folks here at Dave's I was able to make a very major dent in my excesses. I still have some things that I held on to but at some point, I may decide that the time has come when I am able to let go of some of those things too.

Unless my health fails me and I am unable to keep up with things, I don't believe I would ever become a hoarder. I am much too sensitive to my surroundings and am bothered by messiness and unsanitary conditions. I do know to never say never, because I do have an addictive sort of personality and when I like something, I really like it and want as many of it as I put my hands on. Some might ever consider my obsessive number of house plants at the moment to be a sign of hoarding in fact. I do have plants to cut down on the number soon though, so that hopefully won't be an issue for too much longer.

Well, I have bent everyone's ears and eyes enough for one sitting. Here is hoping that all are having an enjoyable Monday and that the upcoming week is a good one for all.

Ruby




Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

October 4, 2011
4:40 AM

Post #8835325

Greetings to all that have posted comments on this subject. When I first clicked onto the topic title, I was expecting something else ~~ not comments on "hoarding or would be hoarding." Back in my Dad's day, this was known as being a "pack rat" and not a "hoarder." I've just finished reading the comments ~~ each one ~~ and some I feel that I, unfortunately, can relate to, while others I don't. I hate to say it, but I think some of my Dad's pack rat ways had rubbed off onto me too! I've been on my own as a single mom since 1985, but now both kids are grown with families of their own. The situations that I found myself in over the years, I'm sure haven't helped in my "clutter" ways, but am really working hard at changing this.

After going through a divorce in 1985, living in various apartments with the kids and then eventually finding myself living in a 'rental' house in Rialto, helped because it had a garage for all the overflow of stuff. After the kids were out on their own, the "owner" of the house that I was renting, decided he didn't want to deal with it anymore and came to talk to me. I had been living there for 6 years at this point and had hopes of maybe one day buying it. Well, buying it didn't work so then I set off in search of another place to live. As much as I wanted my own place, it didn't work out that way and I ended up renting a "room" from someone. My room that I rented was literally wall-to-wall boxes and totes. While I got rid of quite a bit of stuff before the move, there was still alot of stuff that came with me. Amazing how much stuff you find out you've got when it's time for a move!! I lived in the "rental room" for about 2 1/2 yrs until I had the opportunity to buy a mobile home. The person that I was renting the room from started acting all "psycho" on me to the point that I was scared to come home, but had to because of my animals. So I really needed something fast!

Fast forward to the mobile home, which is a double-wide, 2 bedroom with 1 1/2 baths. All the stuff I had at the room rental [plus my other belongings] came with me. I had been diligently working on my sorting technique while still working full time. I'm still continuing on that path, only now with more stuff to deal with. I ended up with things of my Dad's when he passed away 2 yrs ago. I have tools that used to belong to my Dad [which I do use] and also quite a mound of his old paperwork to go through and shred. If anyone has ever lived in a mobile home, then you know there isn't alot of storage space offered. I just put a new shed onto the lot early summer, 80 sq. ft, and will have to be careful about what I put in there. For now, my 2nd bedroom is totally a storage room. I've been renovating the rooms one at a time, so it gives the appearance of things piled everywhere. I can't have things in my way while I'm renovating the back bathroom, so everything has to go somewhere.

I do take alot of the comments that I have read here to "heart" and some have hit home too. Just like one day, my 11 yr old grandson asked me if I was a "hoarder" ~~ I told him, "no, I'm not a hoarder, I just don't have alot of storage space to work with." But, I tell you, it did hurt my feelings just a bit when he asked me that. So, that was an 'eye-opener' for me in that regard. One room at a time is the way I'm dealing with things now. Not only with renovation, but also the clutter. I want to have a place again that has a cozy feel to it and be clutter free ~~ and also one where I won't mind friends & family coming over. I am also trying to get away from the "particle board" furniture that is so common these days. I may pay more for it, but I want real wood from now on ~~ no more cheap stuff.

I also donate things to my local charity stores too, so I'm sure when the sorting of the cardboard boxes starts again they will be getting some of my stuff too, as I don't really have the time for yard sales either. Things that are still useful & in good shape, I may try posting them on Craigslist. I wouldn't mind some extra money !! :)

Sorry for this to have gotten so long, but I guess I needed to get it in print instead of just closing my mind to some things I have to deal with. They say when you put it in writing, somehow it becomes more real. Thanks for your patience with my venting. If any of you have any other ideas for me, other than what I'm already planning, I'd like to hear them please. I posted a picture showing the front of my mobile home during our "freak" snowfall in April 2011.

Jennie

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ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

October 4, 2011
6:07 AM

Post #8835428

Hi Jennie,

Welcome to our discussions. I remember the term "packrat". Isn't it funny how terminology changes over the years? Now that they've decided it's a disease, they change the terminology.

The front of your home looks so inviting. Use that as your inspiration as you work on the inside. And remember that at times, you may not be able to let something go, and that's ok. That particular time may not be the right time to give up that particular item. A year later, it may be quite easy to let it go. So if it's too difficult today, move on to the next item. The more you let go of, the easier it gets, especially if you're making a little money from it. Craigslist has really been instrumental in my decluttering. I had some really nice items that I would not have given away, but getting money for them was a great incentive.

The hardest things I let go of were books. I kept every book I ever read! Why? I don't know. But I just kept buying bookshelves and more books. Little by little I donated them to our public library and kept only ONE book--my very favorite book of all time. I still have it. It's the only book I'll read over and over. I've recently found some new authors I like and have bought up a bunch of their books and began reading them rather quickly. I feared the old compulsion to keep them all would come back to haunt me, but it hasn't. I've been passing the books on to my sister who likes the same authors. So as I read one, it goes into the stack I'm saving for the next time I see her. I feel victorious in conquering that compulsion.

I think it's important for us to see ourselves and our lifestyles thru someone else's eyes. We can't really be objective, so having another set of us give us their opinion can help if we're open to the criticism. Recently, when I decided I had completely decluttered my place, I hired a friend to come in and help me redecorate and declutter further. She helped me to see a few other things that just didn't belong here and rearrange other things in a cozier way. It was really helpful and now my house does look like a cozy little home. So be open to others' opinion and suggestions. Invite them to offer their opinions--what works and what doesn't work in your home. Have a friend over to help you work on one room. Allow your friend to take out everything that doesn't belong in that room and then fix the room up as it should be. Once one room is in complete order, you'll feel energized and focused on getting the other rooms in line as well. Keep us updated on your progress too. Some before and after pictures would be wonderful.

NancyAnn
rubyw
Crozet, VA

October 4, 2011
9:25 AM

Post #8835660

Welcome Jennie and thank you for writing. It is always interesting to hear what others are dealing with and as Butterfly said, maybe some folks will have some ideas to help that you hadn't thought of. I know that the support I received from the folks on the Clean and Clutter Free boards last winter were instrumental in allowing me to persevere and do a quite large de-cluttering job with my house and storage shed.

It did feel good as each item went out the door. I first began donating everything that could be regarded as clutter and I kept hearing Butterfly speak of selling a lot of her things and I too began selling some of the more valuable things rather than donating. The donating worked well in the beginning because it motivated me to keep at it. I sold through Craig's List also, I sent a load of things to auction and visited a pawn shop with gold and silver that I wasn't using or was damaged. Yes, we can always use a little spare change.

I too learned some good lessons on how my behavior had influenced the condition of my full house. I had a few year long habit of visiting everything for a dollar stores as often as I could and spending a lot of money at them. I had one spare bedroom, which sounds much like the one you now have where I had bags and bags of purchases and other items that I hadn't stored properly. I came to realize that I was wasting a lot of space by using it as storage. I also admitted my obsession with buying deals and not needing the things I purchased, so my trips to the dollar stores have been cut back considerably and when I do purchase things there these days it is usually edible or a cleaning supply versus every little cool gadget I saw.

I am sure that as you continue on your de-cluttering journey that you too will begin to see patterns in how you have accumulated some extra things. I cannot say enough about the excellent support I found with the very friendly and helpful people on these boards. I couldn't have accomplished what I did last year if I hadn't had a place to come and write about my journey and get lots of helpful tips while doing so.

I understand what you are saying about writing things down. I visited these forums for many months participating in the chats, probably giving lots of excuses why I hadn't begun the de-cluttering process yet, until the "bug" bit me and I too wanted the good feelings that the others were talking about with each item they sent away from their homes. I often use the forums here as a diary or a blog of sorts. I have found time and time again that I can have some issue on my mind and sit down and start writing about it and viola...the answer to my issue suddently appears in front of my eyes. Great therapy for sure.

Anyway...keep us updated with your progress or just check in even if you haven't made any progress. It is all a process and one that for me personally took the support of others to accomplish. Good luck.

Ruby

Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

October 6, 2011
12:28 AM

Post #8837889

Hi rubyw and Butterfly Chaser!

Many thanks for responding to me. The reason the 2nd bedroom is currently used as storage is due to the time when I first moved into the mobile home ~~ the guys that were helping me move just put boxes or other furniture in there if it didn't already have a designated room to go into. And, of course, I've unfortunately added to it over the years.
Among my other daily activities, I'm presently renovating my back bathroom connected to my bedroom. I jokingly refer to that bathroom as my "mini onsuite." LOL!! All that is in that bathroom is the toilet and vanity cabinet. I've already taken out the ugly 'eyesore' medicine chest and will patch up the hole next week. While I've been unemployed since Dec. 2010, collecting unemployment benefits and looking for work, I've been busy with the room renovation and involvement with my 2 camera clubs. I've had my own photo business since Sept. 2009, but that's been really slow due to economy. I've made a little money with it, but not enough to consider self-supporting.

When I first moved in here, I was doing a little bit in each room, feeling tired at the end of the day and never really seeing any progress being made. That's when I decided to just concentrate on one room or area at a time. So far, this mode of reasoning has worked for me. I started on my kitchen first with painting and replacing all the hardware. This is still a work in progress. I need to get another tool to aid me in the next step for this room. Eventually I would like to have a whole kitchen redo with a kitchen design I saw at IKEA, but that's way off. My hallway bathroom is totally renovated, so now I'm just decorating it. I refer to it as my "cat" bathroom because of the decor. The back bathroom I'm currently working on is the "duck & bunny" bathroom~once again because of the decor.

I've always had an "eclectic" taste in my decorating style and don't want my place to look like a page out of a magazine. My decorating style is a little country and cottage [kitchen & bath areas], while the rest of the house has a more Southwest touch with the paint color and my Native American artifacts that I've collected over time. I'm a little bit sure that when I eventually start going through that back bedroom, I may end up getting rid of something that I bought long ago when I knew I'd eventually have my own place again. Well, time to sign off for now. Will check in with a progress report for y'all later down the road. I will post some before & after photos when I get the back bathroom done. The hallway bathroom was done by a contractor [my plumber, his dad & brother]. I can post some b/4 & after photos of that if you'd like to see that room. Just let me know. Y'all have a good weekend and will catch up later. Peace!
Pippi21
Silver Spring, MD
(Zone 6b)

October 6, 2011
3:44 PM

Post #8838707

Unfortunately my report will all be related to Gardening. The weather was absolutely delightful today and yesterday too. This is what I accomplished outside: pulled annual vinca plants up, transplanted the snow shasta daisies that I had potted up about a month ago, pulled up annual geraniums, emptied a 40 lb. bag of mulch into Rubbermaid Tub, and spread the overflow in flowerbed, used the electric hedge trimmer to mow down the Zagreb coreopsis, emptied potting mix/leaf gro mixture into Homer buckets, filled in hole where I had dug out last week. a large Zagreb coreopsis to share with a new gardening friend. put metal fencing up in garage rafters, moved around some of my husbands tools(Drills, saws, etc)to a different location so I could make room for my gardening supplies, emptied wheelbarrow and hosed it out and put it back in garage where it is supposed to be. Transplanted a tall garden phlox and washed nursery pots out with power spray of the hose. I feel like I accomplished a lot.

Tonight I'll work more on "weeding out " gardening paper clutter. The folder is getting thinner.

Tomorrow evening I'm throwing a pizza party for 7 of my neighbors/widows. We lost one of our widow ladies that was in our social group on 9/24 and Sat. would have been her 86th birthday. I had planned on hosting a dessert party for her. She was buried in Fla. on Monday. We're still planning on celebrating her birthday and she will certainly be with us in spirit. She was a wonderful lady and will be missed a lot.

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rubyw
Crozet, VA

October 8, 2011
9:12 AM

Post #8840757

Good to hear from both of you. Gosh, you are both really go getters. No worries about becoming hoarders for either of you. Fleur, I understand you coming to the realization that even though you were working hard when doing bits in each room, the pay off wasn't showing quickly enough. Good idea to work on one room at a time. That way you can see the progress sooner. That is what I did with my de-clutter process last winter. Went from room to room and completed one room before moving to the next.

Pippi, wow you go girl!!! That is a lot of work for one day. Today, later in the afternoon is when I am planning to head outside and do a bit of gardening maintence. I was appalled when looking at the front bed up close one day last week. I made a mental note at the time that when things were calmer here over the weekend, I would be attacking some of the weeds.

If a person were to walk in to my house presently, they would beleive me to be a house plant hoarder. This past summer my husband John set up a display at two local Farmers Markets to sell some of the extra plants we have in our gardens. I sent along a lot of my extra houseplants and I have been happy with the ones we have sold, but I potted a lot more than we were able to sell, thus I have lots of extras that I didn't have last year.

The pharmacy that I use has agreed to let us use one of the their front windows as home for some of the extra houseplants. I tagged them with a name and stuck a price tag on them so am hoping to be able to sell some of them over the winter when the Farmers Markets won't be open. Two people on staff at the pharmacy have already put in orders for two plants. Cool.

Anyway...thank you both for writing. Hope that you have continued good success Fleur and Pippi, don't work so hard. hahaha

Ruby
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

October 10, 2011
11:56 PM

Post #8844548

Hi Rubyw!

Good to hear from you again! Among the many tasks that I've got ahead of me in my "declutter" process is going through alot of my Dad's personal papers and shredding quite a bit of it. Well, happy to say, that I started in on that task again on Sunday night. I'm now going through a large envelope that contained his retirement papers from his last job. I keep my shredder near the couch so I can watch t.v. at the same time as I shred. Smart idea huh -- might as well get in some t.v. time while I shred, right? When I'm done with that envelope, there is another large clear tote that has more of his papers in it. See, he was a packrat in the paper department. He never threw away a bank statement, paid utility bills or anything. I've found statements dating all the way back into the 1970's. He had a large desk and metal filing cabinet that housed all these papers. I'll keep you posted on the progress with this task.

If I personally had to admit to being a "hoarder" of anything -- it would have to be picture frames. Well, maybe it's not a "hoarder" thing ~ more like a "weakness" thing. Even though I already have quite a few "unfilled" picture frames [all sizes], for some reason most of the time if I go to Michaels or Walmart, it seems I walk out with a picture frame. I'm into photography big time [even have a small business], and have quite a few images that I'm in the process of framing. Even though I already had a tan colored frame, I recently bought a more rustic looking 8x10 frame for a 5x7 image of a 'Pelican' that I recently photographed on the Redondo Beach Pier in August. The 2 camera clubs that I mentioned my involvement with are always having print competitions or public exhibits; so therefore, I'm always buying mattes and frames. Most of the time the exhibit rules require a 16x20 frame, so again off to Michaels or Aaron Brothers I go. But ~~ I do have a plan for this "weakness" of mine ~~ I'm going to make use of all the frames that I presently have on hand before I buy any more. Unless, I need a 16x20 for an exhibit. I also noticed a "Photography" forum on here before I logged on here. Guess I'll have to check them out too.

Signing off for now. Have some photos to finish "editing" before going to bed. If anyone of you are on Facebook, let me know and what name you go by. I am, that's where I post most of my personal photos and for my photo business too. Yep, Rubyw, guess you could say I'm a go getter and not a couch potato either. Sometimes I wish I could be cloned then I'd be able to get everything done in record time! LOL !!

rubyw
Crozet, VA

October 11, 2011
6:41 AM

Post #8844761

Such an upbeat and very positive update you sent Fleur. Sounds as though you are making good progress. One of my chores for the week, my deadline is Friday, is to go through and sort some old papers too. These paper are also very old, some dating to the 1920's. They were business records, personal correspondence and greeting cards that belonged to my grandfather. There is a reunion this Saturday for his side of the family and I plan to between now and then separate the papers by each sibling's family and offer them to them on Saturday. I will keep the special ones and any pertaining to my dad.

Hey, I wouldn't feel even an ounce guilty about purchasing picture frames. You have an excellent reason for buying them. You are going to use them at some point, so I wouldn't worry too much. Later, I will dmail you and get your name for facebook and I would love to see some of your art. I am in awe of photographers.

My son is wanting the computer. Must run. Will return later on. Enjoy your day.

Ruby
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

October 14, 2011
4:49 AM

Post #8848446

Hello all! I read with interest so many of these topics and the posts they get. My family has pack-rat tendencies. Badly. My dad, my mom, both my sisters, my mothers mom. Things come into the home, and never go out. I have always been the non-pack rat. Even more so when I had to learn what 4K pounds looked like for a household goods shipment as a military family, back in the 80's. I try to delete, discard, donate...as much as possible. I still do, in every room of the house. The kitchen, bedrooms and bath. Even so...things still manage to pile up. It is a never ending cycle.
I have been trying to remember to use my re-usable shopping bags...so I can use up my supply of the plastic ones. I have gone through desk paperwork, tossed and shredded. The shreds go out on my flowers for mulch.
I have weeded out the kitchen cabinets, several times. I sew, and try to keep that collection to a manageable amount.
Now that I am with DH...his mom likes to hand us things as we go out the door. Food, newspapers, mags, clothing, furniture. I think it is so she wouldn't have to dispose of it.
Anyway, it is continuous. And, as we do not have trash service out here, every bag we generate, has to be taken off site.
I am always looking for ways to Reduce-Re-use-Recycle.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

October 14, 2011
9:25 AM

Post #8848713

Thanks for writing Moxie. Sounds as though you are doing your part. Must be difficult to have come from a family where everyone else was doing things differently from yourself. You said a great big mouth full about it being an on-going and never ending process. I know that I have re-organized my food cabinet in the kitchen quite a few times this year plus the cabinet that holds the plastic storage cups I keep for leftovers. Both of these cabinets have a way of getting messy very quickly and need my attention quite often. Thankfully most of the other cabinets don't need quite as much attention.

Last year another member here was downsizing in order to move under military orders too and it was fun to keep up with her progress as she worked to keep the move to the weight maximum. I learned much from her and was also motivated by her to begin my own downsizing project.

I need to be ever vigilent about bringing things in to the house now that I live in a smaller home than before. With the larger house I was always able to find space to put things. Since moving here whenever I even mention making a purchase my husband will ask where I am going to put it. I finally realized that he had a good point, I don't have any extra room for any extras, and I do need to give thought to storage before purchasing things these days.

Being involved in these boards has taught me a lot of little tricks for having a much tidier home and I am grateful to all contributors.

Ruby
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

October 14, 2011
10:46 AM

Post #8848789

Ruby! Good afternoon! I find the weeding out to be an exercise in self control. Being a tad OCD...on the other end of the hoarding spectrum...keeps me in line. I helped my older sister clean out her house. One and a half stories...and I have a truck with a shell on the back. I took out 20 loads of donatable goods, to a thrift store. And I filled up the back with dry trash. Not the garbage. I could take the dry trash back to my house...as my trash pick-up wasn't limited. She is in the city, and is only allowed 1 bag a week. It is so much easier just to sort and toss when something comes into the house.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

October 15, 2011
8:16 AM

Post #8849753

I too have a tendency to exhibit some signs of OCD. I know that I must wipe down my kitchen counter at least a dozen times a day. This may not be so much that I am OCD, as I live with slobs. hahaha I just cannot tolerate seeing crumbs or water rings left from drinking cups on a surface and reach for the dish cloth to tidy up whenever seeing one. I become very uncomfortable when my surroundings are untidy and I don't like the feeling.

Sounds as though you helped your sister out big time. You go girl!!! I am sure that she appreciated it. There was a time when I had the belief that I couldn't perform any sort of de-clutter process without someone there with me. When finally starting without a helper last year, I found that I had been operating under a false belief because I was able to go through my whole house and storage shed during a few month long process.

I did find that the support I found on these boards at Dave's were very helpful in terms of me feeling as though I was accountable to someone and also was able to hear ideas for making some jobs easier and such. Being clean and clutter free has always been an interest of mine, boring as it is. I come back to your quote about it being an ongoing process, I find that to be absolutely true so I like to stay involved with others doing the same thing and hearing tips and tricks for making the process easier or quicker.

Anyway...hope that you have an enjoyable weekend. Stay well.

Ruby
ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

October 15, 2011
10:07 AM

Post #8849849

I find it interesting to see when one becomes a hoarder or collector. From watching Hoarders on TV, it appears that almost all hoarders began the compulsion as the result of some sort of trauma.

I know with my own "collecting", it began when I became rather sick and felt I'd lost control of my life. I'd always been neat and tidy. I had a few nicnacs and a large collection of books (I'm an English major; I love the written word and love to read.). But I kept my house clean and tidy, everything in it's place. I didn't compulsively shop and hoard. As my health got worse, I began compulsively shopping. I physically ached and was chronicly fatigued, and shopping gave me a "high". When my illness was at its worst, my collecting/acquiring was at its worst.

Once I was properly diagnosed (years after the illness began), had surgery and got medication for some of the symptoms, I began feeling better. And my house began looking better. All the stuff I had acquired annoyed me. I wanted my neat and tidy environment back. I no longer compulsively shop. I go shopping with a list and seldom drag home something that isn't on the list.

To check myself, I've looked back over the Hoarding Warning signs, and I feel pretty well "cured" now. But I do still have a small amount of trouble with:

1 - Acquiring items brings a rush.
Maybe "rush" is the wrong word. But I do enjoy bringing home a nice new piece of furniture. But when I do, an old piece of furniture leaves my house. So that's not so bad, is it?

4 - Fix it projects pile up faster than you can repair them.
I do still acquire materials for future projects--mainly because I can't afford to buy them new. So when I get them on sale or at a yard sale/flea market, I buy them and store them until I have everything needed for the project. I DO end up doing the project when the materials are all gathered. So maybe this isn't an issue really. I'm just being Frugal. Right?

7 - You are saving items that may be valuable or useful some day.
I do save some items for future use, but I have managed to cut my ties with a lot of things I'm sure I'll never use again. I don't get to do my oil painting often, but I am saving my supplies. They're too expensive to buy again in a year when I'm ready to paint again. But I have given up TONS of scrapbooking items that I'm sure I'll never get around to using.

Number 10, I'm proud to say, is no longer an issue. I can finally use every room in my house and even my storage building again. I've closed down my Flea Mkt booth and donated some new Christmas items and scrapbooking items to our charity auction. I have a table full of items left to box up and get rid of and will hopefully do that this week. Then I'll be neat and tidy again.

I can't even express how accomplished I feel to have regained control of my life and my clutter. Even as the clutter piled up, I felt helpless to do anything about it. Now I feel comfortable in my home, which I had become to think of as a warehouse. Now my friends and family come in, sit down and stay a while. No one is anxious to leave, and that's a real compliment.

So if you're battling any of the warning signs, just keep plugging away. You CAN take control and you do it one day at a time, one thing at a time. I think it's really important to know WHY you hoard/clutter. If you can fix the "why", then I think everything else just falls into place.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

October 16, 2011
8:31 AM

Post #8850879

It is always great to hear from folks who have taken control of their cluttering issues. You are always an inspiration BC. I too answered the ten warning signs when I first posted them and I too was able to answer that in most cases, I had lots better control over the tendencies than I have in the past.

When I first began participating in the clean and clutter free forum, I too was really interested in "why" I had become the way I had with all the extras sitting around taking up space. I too can put a time on when I seemed to lose control over buying. It too was a very sad time in my life when I shopped in order to get good feelings, however fleeting. The problem was that it was over ten years since the trauma and my place and my habits were still the same as when it first started. I knew I was in trouble and needed to face the music and take control.

With everyone help here I was able to do so and am much happier for it. I also learned that in order for things not to get in the condition they had been, I needed to make changes with my shopping style. I wouldn't have a clutter problem if I didn't continue bringing things in to the house. Simple as that, but such a biggie to face.

Thanks for writing BC. As always you send a good message of hope for those still dealing with too much clutter.

Ruby

ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

October 16, 2011
8:54 AM

Post #8850918

It's easy to say that the clutter wouldn't get worse if we just stopped shopping. But that's like telling an overeater to just stop eating. With both "clutter-bugs" and overeaters, it's not that simple to just stop. There's an underlying problem that must be addressed which leads to the need to acquire or overeat.

Depression is a biggie. I didn't really realize it until the doctor put me on an anti-depressant. You don't even have to FEEL depressed to be clinically depressed. I didn't feel depressed, so I was shocked when he said I was. I knew I was out of sorts, but I felt happy; I felt my life was good and heading in the right direction. But I was out of control chemically. My brain and organs weren't producing the necessary hormones and chemicals that kept me balanced. I knew I felt out of balance but I had no idea that was actually chemical depression. After taking Cymbalta for a month, I felt like an entirely different person, like my old self, before all the stress of my illnesses. And the interesting thing is that my mentality and my habits changed in that very short time. I don't feel the urge to collect things; I don't feel the urge to shop; I don't feel compulsive. I feel normal again.

So for some of you still struggling with issues, you might talk with your doctor about depression and your options. One drug doesn't work for everyone and you might have to try several before you find the one that fits you. I got lucky and the first one we tried suits me perfectly. It's not a sign of weakness to ask your doc for help. It's not a sign of weakness to take an anti-depressant. It's no different than a diabetic taking insulin. Your body needs certain chemicals for optimum performance and without them, you can't be you. So if you feel out of sorts in any way, talk to your doc. I truly believe that our physical self impacts our mental self and vice-versa. If one is out of whack, the other will be, and that creates a chaotic lifestyle. When everything is in balance, than it becomes easier to resist whatever temptations we need to resist, like compulsive shopping or eating or whatever.

Ruby, don't you think that's the key--getting it all on track? I think you have mentioned taking anti-depresant. Do you see any difference in your life and your thought processes before and after the drug? I feel like Cymbalta is a "magic pill" for me. And I'm ever so grateful that my new doc is tuned in to me enough to pick up on it. I've seen several docs and gave them the same symptoms and not one mentioned depression. And I just thought depression was a feeling of sadness, crying all the time, being suicidal. I was none of those, so it never occurred to me to even consider it. I generally consider myself to be a pretty smart gal, but I was so clueless about depression or chemical imbalances. My new doc gave me a new awareness.

Chemical depression can occur from any kind of stress--changing jobs, losing jobs, raising kids, marriage, divorce, injury or illness, loss of a loved one including a pet, weight gain/loss, anything that causes you any kind of stress. And the longer you suffer with stresses, the bigger risk you have of becoming clinically depressed. So be aware of how you feel. My symptoms were insomnia, feeling constantly tense and nervous (which I now know is "anxiety"), being extremely absent-minded or brainless, and being agitated and feeling hostile when I shouldn't. I just thought it was hormones; I am officially "middle-aged" now. :-(
rubyw
Crozet, VA

October 16, 2011
9:47 AM

Post #8850979

Oh gosh...I would be lost without the use of my magic pill. I can remember clear as day the very first morning of my life when I awoke and didn't have gloom and doom as my first thought of the day. One of my doctor's described my depression as being mild recurrent depression, meaning that I had most likely been depressed my entire life. I can recall childhood thoughts and I now know I wasn't thinking normally, even then. So, praise God for Zoloft. I have been on it for over twenty years now.

I have been amazed with the emotional growth that I now exhibit, for the most part. I have faced things in life that had I known they were coming, I would have run so fast in the other direction in order to avoid them that it isn't even funny. About six years ago I was faced with several health issues that I never saw coming and was taken off guard and didn't do a great job in handling them. Anyway...I got through and today am stronger for it and the issues which seemed so large at the time, are now just a part of what makes me, me. I find it so much easier to be able to go with the flow rather than try to fight it. Fighting is so exhausting.

Yes, depression is real and thankfully is treatable. I am much of the same mindset as you BC and when I see homes that are totally disorderly, I wonder about the mental status of the home owner. They are actually calling Hoarding a mental illness in its own right. What allowed me to begin using anti-depressants some twenty some years ago is that my doctor told me that Zoloft had some pain relief ingredients in it. Even twenty years ago there was stigma attached to being treated for depression. Still is today I suppose. I am also like you in the mindset of it takes a strong person who is brave and courageous to address a mental health issue and treat it. I am not ashamed to say I am being treated for depression, because thankfully the treatment has been great for the most part. I still experience periods when I will become depressed, but at least now I know that they will pass. Before treatment I knew I felt bad, had always felt bad and only had a future of feeling badly to look forward to. That is no longer true. These days, if for some reason or the other I begin having depression symptoms, at least I am able to remind myself that I haven't always been depressed and I won't always be depressed, I just need to ride this one out and soon hopefully I will be back in a less depressed state.

One interesting thing that my doctor and I figured out last year was a drug interaction I was having. I used to be very prone to Urinary Tract Infections and usually used Cipro to clear them. Like clock work, each time I had a UTI, I became depressed and it would often last for a month or so after the infection was cleared. When mentioning this to the doctor, he said that possibly the Cipro was negating the antidepressant properties of the Zoloft. Thankfully, it has now been over a year without a UTI and thankfully no more episodes of clinical depression either. Our plan of attack with another UTI is to treat with something other than Cipro and hopefully that will allow me to by pass a depressive episode.

Anyway...I am with you BC on encouraging folks who are running in to a block when desiring to live a cleaner and less cluttered life is to speak with your doctor to see if there is something physical or mental occurring that can be addressed and treated. I know that a medication I began last year to treat chronic fatigue went a long way in helping me to have the physical energy required to do the de-cluttering job I was able to do. Without a med to treat the fatigue I would have never even attempted to undertake such a large and looming project, because past experience had shown me I just didn't have the stamina required. Thankfully, the correct medications has allowed me to join the human race again.

Best of luck to everyone. Have a great week coming up all.

Ruby



ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

October 16, 2011
9:59 AM

Post #8850995

It's amazing how differently you can feel and how your perceptions change when you get everything in alignment, isn't it?

I think part of the problem with the stigma of depression is that it is a labeled a mental health issue, which tends to make people think of someone psychotic or retarded or weak and incapable of handling emotional issues. But clinical depression is a PHYSICAL issue; the brain, due to stress, just stops producing needed chemicals, like in Type I diabetics, their pancreas just stops producing the needed insulin. It doesn't mean they're weak or anything. A part of the body just malfunctions. I didn't realize that until my doctor explained it this way. It's only a "mental" health issue because the brain is the organ involved. When you view it that way, it helps remove the guilt or embarassment of depression I think.

Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

October 17, 2011
1:57 PM

Post #8852907

Hi RubyW!

Thanks for the comment about my most recent post being "upbeat" and updating y'all on the "shredding" progress. Yes, I'll be looking for your "dmail" about the Facebook, thanks!

I've just returned from my weekend getaway with my sister to Santa Barbara, CA ~~ it was a "closure" getaway for both of us from having dealt with all the issues surrounding my Dad passing away in August 2009. It was a long-time coming, but with everything that we family members had to deal with after his passing, I think he would have been proud of his two daughters in regards to this weekend. I told my sister awhile ago [in 2010], that we need to do something fun together when all this was behind us. She agreed. Since I had never been to Santa Barbara, except passing through, we decided to go there.

We left on Friday, Oct. 14th and came back on Oct. 16th. Her son lives in that area, so we met up with him on Friday for dinner. We toured the Santa Barbara Mission on Saturday and then visited the "artisan boardwalk" down near the "Stearns Wharf" in Santa Barbara on Sunday. I haven't looked at my memory card yet, but hope that I got alot of good photos. The town is so beautiful that I want to go back by Metrolink, so that I can spend more time around the area doing some photo work. I did buy a few pieces of art work from a couple of the vendors there. I must support my "fellow" artists, ya know! One gave me his email, so I told him that I'd be in touch. I also got some ideas of what to do with my future photo work, just by looking at this one photographers' work [name is Jeff Kennedy]. He's apparently captivated by "doors" of all types, so he had several different ones on sale. I bought a few pieces from him that will go with my Southwest color theme. We did a little talking about my being a photographer and where I live, as far as where to go to get the kind of shots he sells. He also mentioned that he doesn't use "Photoshop" on any of his images, maybe just crops a little. Wow! His images are straight from the camera then. Impressive!

He said the desert area always has interesting things to photograph and of course, the beach areas too. My photo excursions are mostly "spur of the moment" or with my camera club, but mostly I like to go down towards the Palm Springs area to do my photo work, so maybe I'll make another trip down there in a few months. They have alot of interesting "doors" down there too. His 'door' artwork always has flowers in it and only shows the street number over the door, to protect the privacy of the person [I guess].

Oh well, enough about all that. Now that my weekend "getaway" is behind me and I've come back "rejuvenated," it's back to dealing with things at hand. Will start the 'shredding' tonight where I left off. I only have container pots for my plants, can't put any of the shredding out for 'mulch.' Talk to everyone later on!! Have a great week!
gen2026
Camden, AR

November 4, 2011
11:52 AM

Post #8876372

stumbled upon this thread while looking for something else... very interesting stuff -and some great suggestions regarding clutter and hoarding as well...


By the way, looked up Clore furniture because I had never heard of them! I love their work -but it looks like it is all out of my price range :( ...but it was nice looking! reassuring that there are still some manufacturers left in the US!



rubyw
Crozet, VA

November 5, 2011
8:55 AM

Post #8877571

Hi Gen - I will tell you the honest to God truth about Clore furniture. Most every piece that my folks bought and passed down looks about the same it did on the show room floor almost fifty years ago. I have some pieces which take a beating having survived children and now grand children. Just a few weeks ago my 18 month old grand son was using a spoon I believe and kind of beating on the table while waiting for me to serve him. By the time I told him to stop and went over and served is food I saw 8 or 10 good sized nicks in the wood of the dining table. This particular piece of furniture has been used the most of any of the items and has been restored once and when the grand children are older, I might consider having it re-done again.

If a person can afford, which we cannot, but have inherited pieces, they will have true heirlooms to pass on. It was considered a real privilege when daddy offered different pieces to different members of the family. One of my nieces
loves the furniture so much that she and her hubby have sort of made a hobby of collecting pieces. They order whatever the piece they want and are usually put on an almost two year waiting list and during that time they save in order to pay for it. I am not that disciplined myself, but her furnishings are really lovely.

I am going to try and take some pictures of some of my pieces and will post here if they turn out well enough. Maybe you and I will some day win a lottery and be able to furnish our homes with Clore furniture. Have a good weekend. You have just given me a fun thing to do along with the tedious things I plan to do today.

Ruby
gen2026
Camden, AR

November 9, 2011
6:20 AM

Post #8882764

Would love to see pictures! I didn't realize there was a 2 yr waiting period for the pieces either! Awesome that at least some manufacturing facility in the US is staying busy!!

rubyw
Crozet, VA

November 9, 2011
9:18 AM

Post #8882967

Hi Gen, haven't snapped any photos yet, but will sit the camera out on counter so I am reminded to do so. After I offered to show photos, I stopped and thought, oh no they will see evidence of my collecting habit and possibly some dust. Oh well, what you see is what you get when dealing with me.

Oh yeah, I suppose that the many year long reputation that Clore Company has lives on and people are okay with waiting for their product. They do have a show room floor where things can be bought and taken along that day. I haven't visited the factory in many, many years so cannot remember what sorts of things can actually be bought and taken away the same day. I would take a guess it would be things such as chairs and foot stools but not the bigger and more expensive items that they are not assured of selling. As you said, whatever they are doing, they are doing it right because I believe the company is over a hundred years old and still going strong.

Will get the photos later today hopefully.

Ruby
gen2026
Camden, AR

November 11, 2011
8:25 AM

Post #8885866

Don't worry about cleaning on my behalf - I am TOTALLY familiar with dust! :)

rubyw
Crozet, VA

November 11, 2011
9:17 AM

Post #8885911

Oops, me again and once again am reminded that I haven't taken any pictures yet. I suppose there is no time like the present. Gonna move my behind from this chair right now and go click away. Will return when I have something to show.

A good weekend to all reading.

Ruby
coleup
annapolis, MD
(Zone 7b)

November 12, 2011
6:18 AM

Post #8886849

lol Gen and Ruby! If I didn't have dust in my house I wouldn't know where the cobwebs were!

I do like pics and wish the pix/flix portion of my cell phone plan was functioning correctly. I can take pics but when I send them to my email program there is nothing there.

Seems that Clore funiture and "cell phone" technology are on opposites ends of the spectrum of functionality and longevity! To me, quality is not the most features and functions included or add-on-able. Off the top of my head there are very few brands that say quality to me, some just "better quality" than others.

Have a quality week end every one and check in soon.

Judy
ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

November 14, 2011
12:52 PM

Post #8890078

I have started again. Something has me in the detaching mode. ( I am detaching from my emotional attachment to stuff! LOL) I looked at several cook books I made a while back with recipes I had downloaded from the net. I thought to myself, there are 4 binders full of recipes and I have probably used 8 or 10 of the recipes. Why do I need to keep that. i could get rid of those and clean out a little spot. ( every little spot adds up, right?)
As for the dust around here, there are dust bunnies with pet names at my house. I have a very sandy yard, 3 dogs and a cat and a teenager and keeping things dusted is a fantasy around here. If my eyesight were better, it would probably bother me more.
Anyway, I just wanted to pop in and say hi.
Linda
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

November 14, 2011
11:05 PM

Post #8890807

Message to rubyw: Greetings to you!! I just wanted to let you know that I recently sent you a message on "D-mail" about an hour ago. It will be waiting for you whenever you get on your computer again. :) Don't have anything new to report in the "declutter" process right now as I'm still busy editing the wedding photos that I took in August, not to mention getting my art work ready for the art show I'm participating in located in Riverside, CA.

For now, the shredding that I was doing is still sitting near the couch waiting for me, but at least the plastic bag that it was in is almost empty. YAY!!! After that is done, I think I will start in on the "mountain high" pile that is sitting over on my china hutch area in my dining room.

I just found the tool that I need to buy to start the renovation work again on my kitchen and back bathroom. It's an 'oscillating" tool that comes with different attachments for various projects. Harbor Freight sells this tool for $39.99 online, but will go to the store this Thursday to see if they have it in stock. It comes with an attachment that can cut through wood, which is what I need to use to cut a small piece of wood that is slowing my progress in the kitchen. I had 4 plywood pieces cut, for the "sub-floor" and only one is installed so far. Once I have all the pieces of this "sub-floor" installed and covered with the 12" peel-&-stick" tiles, then I can move all the stuff that belongs back in there since it's now sitting in the living room. Maybe next time, I get on this 'forum' I'll have more to report with my progress of things. Hope you're feeling well and doing fine. Have a great week! :)

Best Regards ... Jennie
gen2026
Camden, AR

November 18, 2011
12:39 PM

Post #8895813

ROFL at Judy and Linda...unfortunately I can totally relate to the dust bunnies with names (apparently whose purposed is to point out the cobwebs!) at least now I know why I have them!!! :-)

My MIL passed away this past Sunday and my sister came and did a bunch of vacuuming and dusting and so right now at least the dust bunnies are better. Football season is almost over and the holidays are approaching so I sure hope I can keep it in order. I was embarrassed that she cleaned up my mess, but she knows I have been running running... and besides that she can clean a room in nothing flat. I struggle to stay focus and clean anything... I clean here then clean there etc and NONE of it LOOKS clean!! Trying to work on staying focused on an area until I have it done!

Have a nice weekend everyone...it has been a long week since the funeral was yesterday. I am looking forward to a little rest!

ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

November 19, 2011
7:51 AM

Post #8896760

Gen2026, you must remember too, that it is always easier to clean someone else's house. I am going to my Mom's later to day to cook for her and clean her house. I can get hers done in no time, but mine takes forever.
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

December 13, 2011
1:45 AM

Post #8927367

@ gen2026 & ibartoo:

Yes, I was stuck in that mode of "cleaning" my place and not seeing any progress also. Once I decided to change my strategy and concentrate on one room at a time -- it's been much easier! For the time being, I've been concentrating on getting rid of "stacks & stacks" of papers that have been sitting around for too long! I keep my shredder near the couch so I can watch t.v. at the same time while I shred. LOL !! :) There's always a method to my madness!!

As for my kitchen and back bathroom, those rooms I'm working on the renovations in each room simultaneously. Cheers everyone!

Jennie
gen2026
Camden, AR

December 13, 2011
7:44 AM

Post #8927618

That is true - but she is just a MUCH more effective "cleaner" than I am... I blame it on the fact that I was more of a tom boy and spent all my time outside with my Dad... :-) Can fix a fence with the best of them, but sure have heck cleaning! ... My BIGGEST problem is that my husband doesn't clean or pick up anything. I think I just get tired of constantly re doing the same thing picking up after him and cleaning only to have him clutter it back up again! VERY FRUSTRATING! Considering that we BOTH work full time jobs and I am responsible for cooking EVERY meal - I think he could at least help keep him mess cleaned up!!

Of course, that is just my opinion - not his! :) We had a bday party for my daughter this weekend so we did lots of cleaning and decorating getting ready for guests... NOW, if I can just keep it this way til next weekend when my family comes for our Christmas gathering...and IF I could get to some of those back areas that didn't get touched for the party!

Merry Christmas everyone!!!
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

January 9, 2012
2:00 PM

Post #8960922

UH-OH, I have several of those Red Flags waving at me. LOL
Just found 5 big boxes of old Horse Show Trophies (50+). They were used trophies that had been given to the 4-H Club when I was a leader. They have been in that attic for 20 years. We use to clean them up and put new plaques on them and give them to the 4-Her's. We pulled them out of the lower attic and they are now sitting in the living room. I called the Extension Office and offered them to the 4-H Clubs and put out a message on Freecycle. I just can't seem to just put them out in the trash before I try to see if anyone might have a use for them. If not as Trophies then maybe some crafter could dismantle them and use the marble, wood, and metal for crafts of some kind. If no one claims them they will go out in next weeks trash pick up.
Last year I did some good work organizing and de-cluttering but I still have a lot to do.
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

January 16, 2012
11:28 PM

Post #8970791

Greetings Everyone & belated Happy Holidays! I haven't posted anything here for awhile, but I've been following this forum for awhile and when I joined on here, I mentioned there were several rooms in my mobile home that desperately needed attention in regards to cleaning. In the past, I've had a problem with accumulating all those "throw-away" fliers that come in the mail. Y'all know what I'm referring to. They quickly 'piled' up on the end counter top.

Anyway, all throughout the year of 2011, I was "building" a mental list in my head about the various things that I wanted to work on for the new year. Well ~~ I'm happy to announce that I actually started working on the 'kitchen' item on my list prior to the end of December 2011. I will actually write down a list so I can stay focused on things. With me, it's easier to work on smaller areas in the room that I'm targeting, rather than trying to do the whole room at once.

I'm going to attach a photo showing the "sink" side of my kitchen [which was the 1st side I cleaned.] Better yet, I've managed to keep them "CLUTTER FREE" since then! Yay for me! Even the longer counter top [where my stools will eventually go] is cleared off. It's true, [at least for me anyway], that since I've gotten this area cleaned, I feel just a tad bit of 'clutter-stress' dissipate. I even cleaned off the top of one of my bedroom dressers. Next stop in the kitchen area is the bulletin board. I sent pics of my kitchen progress to my daughter & sister and they both replied to me "Good job! You're on a roll!"

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Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

January 16, 2012
11:42 PM

Post #8970803

Okay folks, here is the 2nd photo of the kitchen that I just finished cleaning. This is the "stove" side of the kitchen. The counter that shows the knife block is the area where those fliers piled up on. As you can see, the clock on the stove shows "12:00" which was actually 12:00 midnight when I finished this side. I've also kept this side clean too. Now, when the fliers come in, I look through them quickly, take out the fast food fliers & put the rest into my recycle bag.

Additionally, I went through quite a bit of "old" mail that was just sitting around, which I shredded all of the parts that showed my name info, account number, etc., and all the rest into the trash. Unfortunately, I even had some "old" mail sitting on top of my t.v. Oh well, that's all I have to say for tonight. Need to do some reading before I hit the sack.

Catch y'all later! Have a great week!

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moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 17, 2012
3:42 AM

Post #8970906

When I pick up the mail, from the mailbox, I immediately sort it. Any junk mail, yes, fliers, goes straight to the trash. I don't even look at the fliers. I don't need anything, nor want anything they are selling. Personal mail, goes to the person. I keep most of the envelopes to re-use for scratch paper and lists. After I get a good supply, then they go to the trash. I only use my shredder for personal info, and just deposit generic papers to trash bin. We still have to keep on top of messes, but it is not near as bad as it could be.
gen2026
Camden, AR

January 17, 2012
9:09 AM

Post #8971310

I have a HORRIBLE problem with mail at my house! I too try to put all I can in the trash immediately but it still piles up! It hits the end of my dining room table right as you walk in the door and there ALWAYS seems to be a pile there! It gets so bad at times that I don't even have a place to eat at my "spot" at the table and it infuriates me!! I try to sort that mail by WHO it belongs to... but that doesn't seem to help either! I have a "bill box" where I try to sort all my bills by date order and get them in the box. That still doesn't seem to deal with the papers that the kids need to deal with, the magazines, the junk! It is a CONSTANT struggle at my house to keep the dining room table decent! and the BAR!! My crew just thinks ANY horizontal surface is made to be COVERED!!

Congrats Fleur on a great job!! Even bigger congrats on being able to KEEP it that way. I spend hours cleaning on my kitchen and dining room only to have them trash it in a matter of days! REALLY frustrating!

HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

January 17, 2012
4:48 PM

Post #8971905

Fleur, That looks really great. Magazines are our big paper clutter. Ric has stacks of National Geographic that never seems to get any smaller.
The boxes of Horse Show Trophies are gone. We called a local Trophy Shop and they seemed glad to take them.
bluegrassmom
Lewisburg, KY
(Zone 6a)

January 18, 2012
1:24 AM

Post #8972334

I bring in my mail either put in on the bar or up on the microwave, if I am keeping the bar tidy for the day :( I try to sort thru it at least every couple of days and pitch all the junk. I have been looking for a low basket with a top. Then at least it would be covered and pretty.

I love to read, so I hang on to most of my gardening magazines. Don't have a problem with throwing away my husband's fishing/hunting ones tho. Hey at least half are out of the house lol.

I donated some of my mags last fall to the local nursing home and a mission This week I am tackling my closet. Gulp
It is so full that I can hardly get more things on the hanger so something has to give. So I am getting a garbage bag full for the mission. I love buying clothes and have new ones, I just have issues with parting with old things. Wish me luck.

Teresa

HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

January 18, 2012
3:15 AM

Post #8972386

We take them to the VA Hospital when we are finished with them but there are still big piles of mags.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

January 18, 2012
9:24 AM

Post #8972826

So glad to hear that my shortcomings are somewhat universal and that others are willing to admit the less than perfect state of their homes. Oh my gosh...magazines have been an issue here too Holly and others. At one time I had hundreds of them all neatly on three shelves of a glass front book case that now looks better with other things in it than magazines. We have a laundromat that I usually take old magazines to. I know that folks have idle time while sitting there waiting for their laundry to finish, so feel that they will be read hopefully.

Mail!!!! That is actually something on my to do list today. It is actually only one mailbox pick up, but it about three or so days worth it seems. Anyway...I am the same as Moxie and use the back of envelopes as note paper. I shred everything shredable and throw very little in the trash.

Fleur...good work...I too spent a morning, oops have to admit, it went in to the afternoon also, cleaning my kitchen counter which had the reached the point of being an eyesore and thorn in my side. It looks good and even my son commented on it when he saw it.

Keep up the good work all. Great on not having to trash the trophies Holly. I too hate trashing anything I believe still have some value left in to it.

Ruby
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 18, 2012
2:11 PM

Post #8973200

"Everything has a place..." ...well, I try anyways. Our house is still in disarray, tools and such in the "living room"..other rooms, un-inhabitable. But what we do I, I keep them clean, picked up and as much organized as possible. My own family , they are hoarders, or very close to it. I try my hardest not to follow behind them.
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

January 18, 2012
3:59 PM

Post #8973341

Well I found a home for the pack and play. A local Woman's Shelter said they would love to have it. They didn't want any toys, with Christmas just over they said they had plenty of those.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

January 18, 2012
4:38 PM

Post #8973370

Is the pack and play what we used to call play pens? I had one that I put up a few months ago when Isaac was running away so fast from me at times, that when I knew I needed to be involved in something, I would put him in it. Just last weekend I had John take it to the storage shed. Our house is very small and leaving it out was taking up a lot of walking space. His older sister found the pack and play the most interesting and would ask to take naps in it somedays. She actually asked about it today saying she wanted to play in it. I told her that it was too heavy for me to lift and I couldn't get it for her. It has been sitting packed in the bedroom for at least a month where I could have gotten to it easily and sat it up, but nooooo, she waited until it was unaccessible to want it up again. That is the way things go it seems.

Moxie, I tell you that watching the hoarders shows on TV has gone a long way in helping me stay motivated with de-cluttering. I was never any where near the level of hoarding that is shown there, but I did have quite a lot of things taking up precious space that I was never going to use.

Hubby and I have agreed to get some new carpeting laid this spring and he has pointed out that we will need to pack up all my bookcases, china cabinets, and other things to get the furniture out of the rooms before the carpet can be laid. I am not looking forward to it, because I still display far too many shiny things in our main rooms. I have three china presses full of pretties, and at least that many more pretties stored away in different places. This afternoon as I was thinking of the upcoming chore, the thought to go ahead and send a good portion of this stuff to auction crossed my mind. I hadn't really ever thought along those lines before because so many of my good pieces are so very beautiful and many hold sentimental value also. I really hate to think of things going for a dollar or two that have certainly cost more than that when purchased. A lot of the things are handed down from my folks who were glass collectors and if I do decide that maybe some things can go out of here soon, I will give much thought before getting rid of things I have grown up with and of which some are true antiques.

Anyway, it was kind of an eye opener that the thought even came to mind with out me balking. I will continue to give more thought to it and might talk with my sons and maybe some of my nieces and see if there are any pieces that anyone would like to have now, or to at least put their name on and I keep it for them till later.

The thougtht of new carpeting and less densely decorated living area is kind of sounding good to me about now. I know that my cleaning lady will sing hallelujah if I begin putting some things away or getting rid of them. hmmmm...really interesting thoughts.

You folks have a good evening. Happy de-cluttering to all.

Ruby
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 19, 2012
2:07 AM

Post #8973723

Hello Ruby!

You have a son named Isaac also? I do. My oldest. He is 31 now.

About your many shiny's and nick-naks...you can pack some of them away, so as not to have so many on display at the same time. Just de-cluttering, cleaning, and putting some things up, along with the new carpet, will make your home feel so fresh and new.
gen2026
Camden, AR

January 19, 2012
7:02 AM

Post #8973938

Ruby, I would definitely think long and hard before getting rid of things handed down to you... just my opinion, but at least ask others in the family if they are interested. I like Moxie's suggestion of just packing some of them up and displaying some pieces at a time, then you could rotate them occasionally... or if you enjoy them that much just leave them out !!! I think that "heirlooms" are to be enjoyed whenever possible and not just hid somewhere for someone else to get rid of ...in most cases not even knowing what they are getting rid of. IF you do box them up, be sure to label as many as possible or put info in the box about where they came from etc so that your family will know...

I found stuff in my Mom's closet that I had NO idea she had and that I had never seen in my 40 yrs... several things I kept but I would sure love to know where certain quilts came from etc...

I have a longaberger basket with a lid that is my "Bill box" where all my bills are supposed to go, but unfortunately it catches other things sometimes too... I started that about 3 or 4 yrs ago thinking that would help keep my table clean, but it sure hasn't done the trick! I am at my wits end as to HOW to deal with it...
rubyw
Crozet, VA

January 19, 2012
5:28 PM

Post #8974799


Thanks for your input Moxie and Gen. You are correct, both of you. There are definitely pieces that I will hold on to and still display. I asked my older son today to some time soon set aside some time to come and look at things in the china cabinets and if there is any thing he particularly likes or feels special about to let me know and I will make sure I don't get rid of it.

At this point in time I am finding myself vacillating back and forth on whether to keep or let some things go. Maybe I can satisfy my need of feeling that some stuff needs to go by sending the glassware that I packed up last winter when doing a major de-clutter. These items already packed up are things that I couldn't get rid of last year for one reason or another and after having them just sit in the storage shed in bins all the rest of the year, just doesn't make sense.

One of the reasons I ended up with so much glassware is that some years ago I was dealing in it and then abruptly stopped doing so when my father died and some changes were made in my life style. I no longer had the time or interest to buy and sell and really can't see myself getting back in to it at this late stage of the game. I now have grand children that I baby sit for three afternoons a week and that is probably something I will be doing for another three or so years until they are both in school.

So, one the reasons I was kind of thinking of getting rid of some things is due to knowing that I was going to need to buy more storage bins for them and that to me seems like an added expense. I am sure that by unpacking and sending the contents of some of the older bins that have been stored all year, that I will have enough bins to put my dearest things in and do exactly as Moxie suggests...display them along with the new carpeting.

Anyway...I appreciate having a place to write about this and work out in my mind what I am going to eventually do. I want to get started with this project by the middle of February if possible. Thank you all for reading and responding and giving me pause. Earlier today I was ready to be done with it all and I know in my heart that if my china cabinets were too bare, I would regret getting rid of many of the things. So, thank you both for your input...makes me slow down a bit and begin thinking of other options than getting rid of everything all at once.

It is now my dinner time, I am hungry and can't wait to have a ham biscuit and some southern cooked corn pudding and green beans and potatoes...yummy ya'll!!! Thanks gals.

Ruby

moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 20, 2012
5:03 AM

Post #8975108

Yummy ruby...that last line sure does sound good!!

Good luck with the sorting. I know it is daunting, and intimidating. It all feels so overwhelming. I know when I go to my own families homes, it feels uncomfortable. No place to sit. My dad and sisters really have no idea of where to start with their own messes. And my sister, refuses to wear corrective eyewear. So she has no idea how really bad and grungy things are.
Right now, I am having to sort through DH's 35+ years of stuff. He has never thrown any of it away. Still has shoes and clothes from HS. It is not that he is a hoarder, he's just not a sorter. I can sort through, and know what is important papers, or sentimental, and, if I have a question, I set it aside and ask him later. Really, making those determinations for someone else, is not that difficult. I save all pictures, legal docs, his dress army clothes, stuff like that. I shred all old checks, and toss trash...and really, he doesn't need his white vinyl shoes from graduation from HS. He graduated in 76. Can you say "disco"? lololol

So, most of it is obvious. I have donated/deleted alot of his excess collection. OMg...he has sport socks/underwear/hankies...hidden everywhere!! I know they are just previous gifts from b-days and holidays. But really, how many does one man need? We don't buy/do holidays either.
bluegrassmom
Lewisburg, KY
(Zone 6a)

January 20, 2012
5:13 AM

Post #8975115

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Now I sneak holey tshirts to the trash bin or at least make cleaning cloths from them. You can not find the good things for searching thru the old ones
Teresa in KY
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 20, 2012
6:54 AM

Post #8975219

I have a new problem to deal with. DH's momma...keeps buying us new clothes. I don't want any new clothes. I don't need any new clothes. I am just going to have to try to convince her to stop shopping for us. I am already going through DH's things, trying to sort out things that are too small. As doing the same for my own. Grumble-grumble
rubyw
Crozet, VA

January 20, 2012
1:40 PM

Post #8975655

Same sorts of issues at our house too. I don't usually keep up with hubby's personal clothing but I too have been looking through his sock and underwear drawers in the past and found loads of unopened things. I know that I am the one who is often the purchaser of these sorts of things for him, and have cut back a lot on it, so they are not adding up as fast at least.

Gosh Moxie - how to convince someone to stop buying clothes for you? that iss can become a sticky one. Can you start dropping hints as to the things you desire or need and somehow get her to understand that you really don't need any new clothing. My grown kids have on occasion asked specifically for an item because they know that I like to shop and give gifts, but I am sure many of my past gifts were totally unneeded. When their youngest child was born a couple of years ago they asked out right if I would purchase a particular item. It worked for me, I was glad to do it and know that it was something they wanted and not just something I thought was cute. They did the same thing one Christmas too when they asked for a steam cleaner for their carpet. Again, I was glad to do it and it took pressure off of me having to think of something to give them.

Try bringing up the gift giving topic in conversation and you may lead by saying that you have decided to begin asking your gift recipients what they would like for you to purchase for them and maybe she will get the hint that you would like to have the same courtesy. Good luck and let us know if you are able to discuss this with her.

You folks have a good weekend.

Ruby

moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 21, 2012
8:25 AM

Post #8976395

rubyw wrote:

Gosh Moxie - how to convince someone to stop buying clothes for you? that iss can become a sticky one. Can you start dropping hints as to the things you desire or need and somehow get her to understand that you really don't need any new clothing. My grown kids have on occasion asked specifically for an item because they know that I like to shop and give gifts, but I am sure many of my past gifts were totally unneeded. When their youngest child was born a couple of years ago they asked out right if I would purchase a particular item. It worked for me, I was glad to do it and know that it was something they wanted and not just something I thought was cute. They did the same thing one Christmas too when they asked for a steam cleaner for their carpet. Again, I was glad to do it and it took pressure off of me having to think of something to give them.

Try bringing up the gift giving topic in conversation and you may lead by saying that you have decided to begin asking your gift recipients what they would like for you to purchase for them and maybe she will get the hint that you would like to have the same courtesy. Good luck and let us know if you are able to discuss this with her.

You folks have a good weekend.

Ruby




I flat out told her I didn't want any or need any more clothes. DH says she does the same thing to his 2 sisters...and they are both over 50 yrs old.

When DH and I met, back in 09, I told him I do not observe birthdays, or holidays. NO gift giving done at all. I think it is wasteful..to be made to feel obligated by society to "buy...buy...buy" because that's what we are told our whole lives. I speak up honestly. No hinting here. I tell it like it is.

DH and I both feel the same way...in general...about shopping. Buy what you need. Pay in cash. I told him, if he really wants to buy me a gift...it's because he wants to! Not because it is my birthday, or some anniversary, or a holiday. I am the same way with cards...buying and sending them. I will not do cards...except in an instance of a sympathy or thank you card.

As far as DH's momma goes...I just have to get her used to me. WEG He said I committed a grand faux pas...by telling her I didn't send out x-mas cards. She survived...lol I have no ill will towards her. She is just of the older generation...from the 50's. Not many rebelled against the total concept society foists on us...so, I guess she had never come across someone like me.. :)



rubyw
Crozet, VA

January 21, 2012
9:27 AM

Post #8976478

Wow...you are certainly living up to your name. I love it. Well, hmmmm...if coming directly out and laying it on the line hasn't worked to stop her from the clothing gift giving, I suppose the thing to do would be to ask her to include the sales receipts so that you can return them and get the money for them. That might make her stop in her tracks.

I don't know...that would be a hard place to be in. I suppose to keep the peace, so to speak, just thank her kindly when she gives a gift and then proceed to do as you have been doing with whatever the gift is.

Some people, and as you said...she seems to be one of them are set in their ways and don't get it even when blatantly told. Who knows, she may be carrying over some sort of guilt or something that she feels she was unable to supply when her children were younger and maybe money was tighter and in her own mind she feels she is making up for not being able to do better when the kids were younger. I guess unless you can figure out what motivates her to still do this, you will just have to continue to accept whatever she sends as graciously as you can.

I am sure that some of the things I have gifted to others in the past were probably a topic of conversation and probably some laughs for them. Some folks just like to give gifts, I am one of them. I know that probably many of the things I have chosen for certain folks in my life were not always well received. In fact, I have had my feelings hurt quite a bit by my daughter in law when I see many of the gifts that I have given to her, my son and the grand children be never opened nor used, but sent to charity. It made me feel as though she didn't care about my feelings and that may not have been her intent at all...but it has caused for many hurt feelings on my part, though trying to be the mature one and to try to keep the peace, I have never questioned why so many of things I have sent to their home have been snubbed.

I suppose to each his own and keeping the peace is the name of the game, especially with in laws. I hope you find a solution for unwanted gifts in the future. I hope it doesn't become too much of a source of contention for you because you may have ended up with someone who doesn't try to show you that she cares in any sort of way. Hope a simple solution can be found.

Ruby
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 21, 2012
10:34 AM

Post #8976564

Well, she is gonna take some training *winks*. I have patience. She had bought me some things, as well as DH a shirt...around x-mas. I was in a hurry, had to run, said thank you and brought them home. Well, an outfit she bought for me, was too small on the pants. She set up a date, after xmas, to return them and get replacements. she tried really hard to get me to buy...buy...buy... I found 2 items, and told her that would do just fine. She kind of pouted abut it, but at least her friend was with us too that time.

I know she is just being herself. She is a sweet lady. But, she also knows I am not a shopper. I don't partake of alot of the "girlie" stuff. I do my life, my way. >>>must be the red hair...hmmmm
summerkid
Rose Lodge, OR
(Zone 8b)

January 21, 2012
11:50 AM

Post #8976637

Gen2026, I am frustrated on your behalf & would like to have a talk with your family. Hubby first!
rubyw
Crozet, VA

January 22, 2012
7:25 AM

Post #8977471

Dear Moxie - I love it!!! Yeah, must be the red hair. You seem to be a person who knows their wants and needs pretty well and are not too much in to fluff. As you said, it is in the training her. If she insists on taking you shopping you may be able to guide her to the garden department of the store if there is one or at least a department that holds things of your interest verses shopping the clothing department. Anyway, sounds as though you have it under control and doing the right thing by allowing her to give to you. I am sure she adores you, who wouldn't right? Giving you gifts, even if inappropriate is her way of showing you she cares and likes you.

Gen, I had to re-read what you had written when seeing summer's comment. Sorry that I didn't comment earlier. I too have the same complaints about my family not respecting the work I do each day too. If the past attempts that you have made in trying to get them to respect the work you do and to try and maintain a neat area hasn't worked, maybe you need to think of some new ideas on how to handle this issue. Have you let them know how disrespectful you feel it is of them? That is probably where I would start if you haven't already. If the reasoning doesn't work and they don't straighten up and begin to fly right, I would move on to some other tactics such as leaving every thing exactly as it lay. It may mean that you have to close your eyes as you walk through a room in order not to see messes they have made, but when they begin running out of clean clothes and cannot find things that they have mislaid, maybe the message will begin to sink in.

It looks as though it is going to be up to you to see that your family members begin to do better. Laying out the respect or disrespect card may work. I hope it will be as simple as you having a serious talk with them and pointing out this aspect of it, but if not, go on strike. I have done it in the past. Yes, the house ended up being upside down for short periods, and it truly got on my nerves, but I believe I made my point. Stop doing for them and hopefully that will end it.

Anyway...I hope that you can get it resolved. Please update us when you think of your plan and also let us know how it works for you.

Hope that everyone will have a pleasant Sunday.

Ruby

moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 22, 2012
8:47 AM

Post #8977547

Dear Moxie - I love it!!! Yeah, must be the red hair. You seem to be a person who knows their wants and needs pretty well and are not too much in to fluff. As you said, it is in the training her. If she insists on taking you shopping you may be able to guide her to the garden department of the store if there is one or at least a department that holds things of your interest verses shopping the clothing department. Anyway, sounds as though you have it under control and doing the right thing by allowing her to give to you. I am sure she adores you, who wouldn't right? Giving you gifts, even if inappropriate is her way of showing you she cares and likes you.

Good Morning Ms Ruby!! Oh, I tell it like it is :) I am from Missouri...the show Me State. She can insist all she wants...but I am just as likely to refuse. I cannot stand shopping. Not even online. If I shop ..."shop" that is...I write my list, find my items, pay for items, and leave. If I go to look...I go to Home Depot, Lowes, and places like that. Even then, I have my limits.

As far as everything else, I was a Navy wife for 15 years, with 3 young children. Their father was deployed 10 months of every year...family not included. We tried to do the holiday thing when he got home, but most times, it just didn't work. So, we just made it up as we went along. We made up our own holidays, had "Happy Un-birthdays", kid food suppers every so often, all sorts of things. Nobody decrees we have to observe holidays "just because every one else does...".

Oh, I put 3 cherries on my hot fudge sunday too...no rules say I can only have one. And, go to a nice restaurant...if I want dessert first...I say so. It really messes with the servers, but I remind them I am an adult, and I can eat dessert first if I want to. :D

This message was edited Jan 22, 2012 11:48 AM
rubyw
Crozet, VA

January 22, 2012
1:37 PM

Post #8977846

Oh my gosh...maybe some of the moxie you have developed over the years will rub off on me. I have reached the age, 56 last October that I too believe that my years allows me too to be able to do things that please me, as long as I am not hurting anyone else, and have them done my way. I finally realized a few years back that I would usually end up getting really peeved at myself for allowing others to talk me in to or out of something I wanted to do or not do. I am getting better about not feeling as though I have to go along with others desires over my own. I suppose I spent so many years trying to people please, and ran in to so many people who refused to be pleased, no matter what I did, that I no longer waste my time or energy attempting to please the unpleasable. The Rick Nelson song Garden Party says what I find to be a perfect quote for the way I have chosen to live my life...You can't please everybody, so you gotta please yourself. Sounds like it could be your motto too.

As for shopping, I can take it or leave it. In recent years, I mainly leave it. I think much like yourself in that before shopping lost its interest for me, the stores I frequented were Lowe's and Home Depot types of stores too. Many times in the past couple of years when there is something I want, I purchase on line. I hate shipping fees and try to get free shipping if possible, but many time I will gladly pay the shipping fee in order to not have to deal with the hassle of shopping.

I am now getting age on me but my mother too was a much more avid shopper than myself and that is how most of the time I spent with her growing up and in my early married years were spent, in malls. Anyway...I would usually be in the car waiting for an hour or two sometimes before she was ready to leave. Since she died, and now that I think about it, I would probably give my right arm to have one more shopping day with her. That was our together bonding time.

It sounds as though you have lead an interesting life. I have had years when I too served as a single parent, and that take guts for sure. My older son called earlier today and we talked almost an hour and much of it was recalling past times and the way he was raised, and how he is now raising his children. It was a very pleasant conversation.

Anyway, thanks for sharing more about your life today. I appreciate hearing what makes other tick. Maybe you can give some thought to ways that you and Mom in Law can spend some time together that doesn't require what you see as a dreaded chore. Relationships do best when they are not one sided. Again, she sounds much like my mom and that is how my mom knew to spend time with me, taking me shopping.

I hope that the upcoming week will be a good and productive one for you. I have a lot of things I hope to tend to. I normally babysit three afternoons a week for my young grand children and their folks are taking the week off, so I get the week off too. I am excited that I have a few extra days to tend to things that are hard to do when little ones are around. Again, I have enjoyed chatting with you and getting to know you better. And if you can tell me where to purchase some Moxie, I will try to find more for myself. hahaha

Ruby
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 22, 2012
1:53 PM

Post #8977879

Oh, I have absolutely no hard feelings towards Mom in law. I help her do her gardening and quite a few other things. I mainly help her out, because I can do so much of the things she asks her son to do. Her son, my DH...is the sweetest person...and a good son. But, he also works 35 miles away, in another town...and there just isn't much left of him when he gets home. So, I stepped in, to help him...help her and his dad.

BTW...the ex gave me the "moxie" moniker. We were trying to think of names for an internet thing. I like moxie cause to me...it means ...chutzpa...balls...and I don't give up easily. I married the ex when I was 16...and stayed married to him for 23 yrs.

I grew my own "moxie". Had to. Being a Navy wife put alot of responsibility on me as a 16 yr old. I had my first child at 18, and 2 more 5 yrs later. Between deployments, hurricanes, moving household goods shipments...etc...I had to put my big girl panties on. Or, at least ...make like I had my big girl panties on...ROFLMAO

moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 23, 2012
5:08 AM

Post #8978581

Ruby- I know it is tough to find the courage to part with things. Since my whole family is "packrats"...I know that gene is in there. I still have to practice de-cluttering on a daily basis. We shred papers with our names etc on them, toss out obvious jun mail, sort and donate old clothes. I did alot of that before I moved myself to SC back in 2008. Moving makes for a wonderful opportunity to downsize and de-clutter. I managed to get all my worldly possession in a small U-haul roll door truck, and 3 of my pick up truck loads. I drive a Nissan Frontier, as does DH...so,I know exactly how to position and what will fit in there.

Now, fast forward to 2010. DH and I finally found a place to set up house together. He had stuff everywhere! Where he was living, some at his folks place, and a storage shed full. I had my stuff, as I was renting a 2 bdrm mobile home in another town.

Well, we are still moving stuff here and combining households. On top of that, his mom keeps giving us stuff. So, now, we have 6 recliners, 3 microwaves, 3 dining room tables and chairs, numerous linen bed sheets sets, the clothes she keeps buys AND giving me from her personal things, and on...and on...and on. Not to mention DH has an 18' camper trailer a friend of his folks gave him. It is full of things.

Now, on top of it all, this place we bought. It has no living room ...yet. It needs some serious work to get that way. So, we just use the living room area to store the tools and supplies for repairing the rest of the house. All we have, is a room we have converted to the master bedroom, the kitchen-rehabbed enuff to use, and the bathroom-rehabbed enuff to use. From the outside, the place looks nice. Lace curtains in the living room windows...lol. But, inside...not so much.

It will be a great place to live, once we ever get it whipped back into shape. Right now, we have to work on insulation. With only one income, that is being quite a challenge.

I am setting up a store in our store building we have up by the road. I hope to make some money with my sewing skills. But even the store is not turn key. I have alot to do before I hang up my shingle out front.

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ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

January 23, 2012
8:59 AM

Post #8978960

Ruby, I understand what you mean about shopping with your Mom. Many times that is what my Mom loves to do. I don't enjoy shopping, but I do treasure the times I get to spend with Mom. I certainly don't need anything, but sometimes she needs to do things. I let her. When I bring something home, I try to get rid of something else. Mom is 75 now and losing her eyesight and some mobility. I try to spend as much time as possible with mom. Some days it is hard because I do need to work. Mom knows I really hate shopping, so most of the time, we shop for plants or go to books a million and read magazines, but if she needs to look for clothes I will go with her. I used to fight it completely, but then I realized that we could have a good time just being together and if it meant a little shopping then it wouldn't kill me.

Moxie, it looks like a wonderful house. I am sure you will have no problem whipping it into shape.

One of my projects this week will be to declutter my studio. Hubby needs new books to read, so I will be clearing some book cases and getting him some new reading material which means extra space on the book shelf. ( again 1 in = 2 out) Yipee!
Anyway, Just wanted to say hi,
Hope everyone has a great Monday.
Linda
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 23, 2012
9:10 AM

Post #8978987

Hello Linda down in the Lowcountry. This house is purty from the road. Come up close, and step inside. It is a re-muddle, with 2 rooms and a bathroom needing black mold remediation. No insulation. One very sorry bathroom. But, we love it. It is ours. It has no mortgage. We are in process of making it safe and habitable. There is the need to add at least a whole new bathroom. The one we do have, is in no way accessible. It's too tiny for barely one person. But, 80% of our house is clean and liveable. We just block off the mold rooms and don't use them. Can't use them. I just check the mold...air out the rooms when I can.
ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

January 23, 2012
3:25 PM

Post #8979575

Oh Man, the mold here is a real killer!, we built an addition to our house about 10 years ago and had no idea the roof was leaking until my son went up there and told us there were some soft spots. Sure enough when we started poking around, the entire porch ceiling had to come off and now we have an open deck. We kept thinking we would put a new roof over it, but we just haven't yet. I am not sure I want to now tho. I have enjoyed just having a shady deck this past summer. The rest of the roof was pretty solid, so I think it was ok.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

January 25, 2012
9:59 AM

Post #8981826

Again Moxie, I can see how you earned your name. Gosh, must have been hard to become a wife and mother at such a young age and to be kind of thrust in to the world of the Armed Services and their rules and regulations. It sounds as though you did a good job at surviving it and have now reached a place where you seem to be satisfied with the life you have today.

I too like the house, the fact there is no mortgage is wonderful...we paid ours off last week and what a major relief that is to us. Yippie and hip, hip hooray for both of us!!! When we first bought this house about seven years ago we too threw ourselves in to some quite extensive remodeling type of work. Today, I am very comfy and snug as a bug in a rug in my little place. I often wish I had more space, but in reality I would just fill that space up too, so what we have is fine. Thankfully we have two storage sheds and hubby has a four bay metal building garage that houses most of his personal hobby interest types of tool and mechanisms.

I would love to hear more about the store you hope to open and your plans for it. How cool. I used to be involved a bit in buying and selling collectibles and had a couple of on line stores going once upon a time. It has been at least seven or more years since I have been involved in that, and sometimes I miss it but as I mentioned, when we moved here and had the funds available to work on the house, that is where most of my energies went. Buying and selling got lost along the way. What I now have is a rather large collection of fairly nice glassware items and some other things that I don't truthfully see me ever being involved enough to try selling on line again, so may eventually send as a lot to auction and be done with it. I know I probably won't get the money back that is invested in them, but I will have some storage space and lots of plastic bins. hahaha It was fun while it lasted and was good for me mentally during the years I was doing it, but having given it some thought the past week or so, I don't believe I will ever have the time nor the inclination to do it again.

Linda, great to see you posting. I always love hearing from you. I loved hearing about the time you are spending with your mother. It is well invested time, for sure. Good luck in getting the studio straightened up and in good shape. I find it so much more pleasant to work in an environment that is neat and clean. I know that my physical surroundings play such a real part in what my mood will be at any given time. My cleaning lady was here yesterday so I awoke to a clean and sparkling house today. Always a big lift for me. While the cleaning help was here, I was able to tackle a few things I needed to do myself, but just needed a taller person to help from time to time, so it was a day well spent for me.

I dont have grand children babysitting duty this week, so feel as though I am on vacation. I have a list a mile long that I want to get to and have included on it some fun things to do and not all drudge thankfully. I am getting a very late start to my day today. Haven't felt the very best for a couple of weeks, and am slowly getting back to feeling better which is good.

On February 11, a group of the Mid Atlantic Gardeners here at Dave's will be having a Seed Swap which they have been doing for several years. I have attended many of the Plant Swaps with the same group which usually occur both in the spring and again in the fall each year. This will be a first seed swap and one of the things on my agenda is to get my plant seeds together and see what I have to offer to the other gardeners. I have already had three people make offers to give me live house plants and now the question of keeping them alive that day due to several hours of traveling is the big issue.

Either of you ever transported live plants during the winter months or have any ideas for not allowing them to freeze while doing so? The sticky thing about this particular get together is that it is being held in a public restaurant and no soil is allowed indoors, so the live plants will need to stay in people's cars. Do you think an insulated blanket or something wrapped around them in car will be suffice for a few hours? Any thoughts or ideas are much appreciated.

Enjoyed chatting with you two today. Moxie, tell us more, tell us more. So nice to meet you and it sounds as though you are in an exciting time of your life currently. I will look forward to hearing more about all that you have on your platter at the moment and your progress with all the endeavors.

Linda, stay sweet and check in when you can.

Ruby
summerkid
Rose Lodge, OR
(Zone 8b)

January 25, 2012
12:39 PM

Post #8981979

Having stuff takes energy. Buying & selling stuff takes even MORE energy. I expect to get back into selling my quilts this year but all the kimono & obi? Aside from my personal faves & the ones that will work their way into my art, I'm SO eager to be done with them, much as I have been enthralled with Japanese textiles over the years. I so hate ebay but unloading them any other way takes such concerted effort. Bleagh.
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 25, 2012
1:00 PM

Post #8982006

Either of you ever transported live plants during the winter months or have any ideas for not allowing them to freeze while doing so? The sticky thing about this particular get together is that it is being held in a public restaurant and no soil is allowed indoors, so the live plants will need to stay in people's cars. Do you think an insulated blanket or something wrapped around them in car will be suffice for a few hours? Any thoughts or ideas are much appreciated. [quote]


yup...when I moved out to SC this last time, in 08. I had them in the cab of my pickup truck with me, but I still had to spend the night in Kansas City. They all froze, and looked like crap when I got here. I managed to save all but one.
ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

January 25, 2012
3:44 PM

Post #8982208

I haven't ever moved any to a colder climate.

Buying and Selling does take energy and having and Keeping takes more energy for me. For me I am really enjoying getting rid of the things that I don't want to keep, or don't use, or won't display and I am doing it a little at a time so that it doesn't really look like a big difference. ( really a merciful method for my hubby because he hates to get rid of stuff)

A friend of mine who shows her art at art shows all over the country recently sold most of her things and then her house ( because they live on the road 8-9 months/year working), She tells me that I just wouldn't believe how freeing it is. Of course, they don't have children and they can live comfortably in a travel trailer. I wonder if I would feel free(er) by finding homes for more of my stuff?

Ruby, Why in the world would they have a swap like that in a restaurant where you can't take the plants? I will pray for good weather. By the way I am changing my shop around. I will send you an email when I get some new things in it.

gotta run, Linda
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

January 26, 2012
5:30 AM

Post #8982645

Ibartoo, The swap is really for seed swapping and to have a social get together in the winter. We have it in Feb just about the time people will be starting seeds. You could put a small plant in a good bag and people also bring plastic bags with cuttings.The idea of no plants is so we don't drag a lot of dirt and debris thru the restaurant. We get a back room all to ourselves and have a great time. If you have plants to trade they ask you to leave them in the cars and do that in the parking lot. I usually take cuttings from my black pussywillow and leave them in the car and hand them out to people as they leave.
I have friends that pretty much got rid of everything. They bought a sail boat in the US Virgin Islands and are now living on it, and running a charter service. Much like your friend living in the motor home. I think I would like to have a motor home and travel around the US for a while but I am afraid that I am too attached to my home and family to be gone for more than a few weeks at a time.
I have been making some headway I got rid of 4 boxes of books, a pack and play several pre-school toys, some fabric and two bags of very old clothes.
ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

January 26, 2012
8:24 AM

Post #8982861

HollyAnn, The swap Idea makes much more sense to me now. It sounds like great fun. I am too attached to my home and family too. I think about it, but there isn't any way I could realistically live that way. I am sure my son would love it tho. I would just get bored after a while and want to come home.
I went with hubby to the thrift shops yesterday. I did great, I only came back with two organizers which I will use in my studio for various files and tools and hubby came home with enough books to keep him reading thru the winter months. Today I am playing catch up. He is working, so I am getting rid of things I no longer want to keep while he is gone. ( Ahhhh to de-clutter in peace. Life is good!) Anyway, gotta run,
Linda
rubyw
Crozet, VA

January 27, 2012
10:06 AM

Post #8984210

Really great that your frozen plants all survived but one Moxie. I believe the few live plants that will be traded that day, will be okay in the car for a few hours. Holly did a good job explaining what the swap is all about, thanks Holly. I haven't attended the Seed Swaps in the past, but have been to many of the spring and fall Plant Swaps and love all the people in this particular group and as Holly said, it is an opportunity for the group to see each other while we wait for spring.

I was just dmailing another member and telling her what Dave's Garden and the people I have met here have meant to me over the six or so years that I have been a member. The first year I began chatting here, I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer and I was treated so kindly by so many that I will never forget it. Hardly a week would go by in the first year or so of being a member that I didn't have something special in my mailbox, whether it be live plants, seeds, a kooky sort of gift, or something another member had seen me discuss and just because, they mailed it. I couldn't believe my good fortune to find a group of such giving and kind spirited people.

A few years went by and I was then surprised to find that some of the chats became very ugly. I never experienced any sort of bad situations as long as I stayed in the Mid Atlantic Gardeners group, but only when venturing out to other forums where some of the folks didn't quite live up to the caliper of folks from the Mid Atl. Group. My mistake, I try to steer clear of any nasty toned threads and have done a better job recently of avoiding misunderstandings and hurt feelings. The administration seems to have done a good job in keeping most folks happy for the most part.

Anyway...I am really glad to have folks once again discussing de-cluttering. It is an on going thing with me. It doesn't take long at all for certain areas of my home to get piled up and to begin looking messy. With the encouragement and support of people such as yourselves, I have done a better job at maintaining my house in good running order this past year than in times past.

i was interupted while writing this and have lost some of my thoughts, so will close. I will first wish everyone a great weekend coming up. Not sure what the weather forecast is here, but the past three days have been mild temperature wise and I am loving having the sun shining brightly today.

Thank you to all participating. One of my favorite subjects.

Ruby
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 27, 2012
11:29 AM

Post #8984289

It is so sad when chats turn ugly!! I try to keep things light...and if they seem to be going the other direction, I just quietly exit "stage left". I cannot stand confrontation. I have had enuff of that in real life, don't need it here.
I have enjoyed Daves Garden. I will be a member for a year in March. I think.

Okay, time to go get my grill fired up!! Beautiful sunny day makes me want some BBQ chicken!!!
bluegrassmom
Lewisburg, KY
(Zone 6a)

January 30, 2012
12:39 AM

Post #8987551

hmmm, that sounds delish! I have been a DG member for yrs. Have been to a few Round Ups, it is really fun to meet others in person.

We all just need a little encouragement. I am a big collector, so it is difficult to keep organized and tidy but I am trying. I love glassware, Blueridge, McCoy, daylilies, hosta, just lots of things!

Have a great week,
Teresa in Ky
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 30, 2012
1:49 AM

Post #8987564

I have heard that even collectors don't display everything all at once. Rotate the stock, box things up...it is nice to freshen the scenery from time to time.
bluegrassmom
Lewisburg, KY
(Zone 6a)

January 30, 2012
2:47 AM

Post #8987580

Oh gosh yes, if I had everything out it would be so cluttered! Rotating is key.
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

January 30, 2012
3:40 AM

Post #8987602

I have an empty bedroom on the first floor that I would like to move into. Problem is that it keeps getting filled up. It has become a catch all for years now. When we remodeled the laundry room and utility/mud room everything was stored in that room. Last year I made a big push to clean it out but I didn't quite get there. Then of course summer came and we got side tracked again. So I have decided to finally finish the job. Of course the bed room has filled up a bit again but I now have it almost empty and will start refinishing the floor this week then move the bed downstairs.
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 30, 2012
3:49 AM

Post #8987605

I'll just pick a room, and attack it. work only on that room. My problem rooms are the mudroom, the bathroom, the storefront building, the woodshop, and my hothouse. Sometimes, it's my truck cab ...lolol

Or, sometimes the back of the carport collects things that need to be gone through. Clutter...tsk...tsk...tsk

The big project..is the brush pile and 4 trees down I need to clean up. DH has yet to fix my yard tractor wagon wheel..it is flat. I can only do so much without it.
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

January 30, 2012
5:23 AM

Post #8987668

I try to pick a spot and work on that but it always leads down the path to other projects everything is intertwined.
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 30, 2012
6:57 AM

Post #8987802

Ohh..Hollyann...look the other way!!... I know...I always see something else I should be working on. I try to keepthem in my head...and not let them distract me too much. I have lists, of lists,of lists...of "to do"... >>sigh
ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

January 30, 2012
8:00 AM

Post #8987890

My sister tells me that i have a tendency to chase too many rabbits at once. LOL she is right, but my brain has always worked that way. I used to have a room like that, but now I don't have the extra room. It is proof that everything works for the best, because I would probably fill it up with my unfinished projects. If we rearrange some areas, I may get new office/studio space, but end up giving up more "living space" in the short term. I don't use the " living space" myself, ( the guys keep it too warm and loud and war like {video games} for me ) so I think it will be a good trade. I just need to motivate the guys to start the process.

Maybe, I can go light a fire under them now. LOL

Hope everyone has a great day.
Linda
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 30, 2012
9:08 AM

Post #8988000

Ahhh...lighting a "fire" under the guys. Priceless :D
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

January 30, 2012
11:53 AM

Post #8988240

Well, I dropped off two bags of magazines at the VA Clinic, shoes and other odds and ends at the salvation army, and the plastic grocery bags in the recycle bin at the grocery store. I put a few things in the garage, some in the mud/utility room and a few in the upstairs bedroom. I am finding more permanent homes for some of these things that I don't want to get rid of but must be stored elsewhere.

This message was edited Jan 30, 2012 4:16 PM
ButterflyChaser
Northeast, AR
(Zone 7a)

January 30, 2012
4:04 PM

Post #8988529

Wow, I kinda got behind on this thread!

Moxie, I just love you. I think we're cut from the same mold. I've got a suggestion for you. Why don't you tell your MIL that instead of new clothes, you'd just love to spend the day with her on your birthday. Have her cook your favorite meal or your favorite dessert. Tell her that would mean way more to you than a new dress. Very few people can buy adults the kind of clothes they would appreciate and actually wear. Tell her if she MUST buy you something, she could donate that amount of money to cancer research or an animal shelter. It might even be fun to go together and buy some dogfood and treats for a local animal shelter. Tell her you'd rather be making memories with her instead of simply adding more clothes to your closet.

Ruby, I think it's great that you're thinking of letting of go of more stuff. It actually feels good when you do, doesn't it? There's only one thing I let go of and wished I hadn't for quite a while, and now I can't remember what that was. LOL I've let go of almost everything that just became a nuisance. And now I'm at the maintenance stage. If I get something new, I let go of something old. I got a new office desk and got rid of my computer armoire. I got a new jewelry armoire; I've got my old one up for sale. I bought a new computer a couple months ago and when I get all my files off the old one, I'll sell it.

I make a lot of use of Craigslist, both with buying and selling. I sell as I get tired of something. So I no longer have to stockpile stuff in the guest room. I just sell every now and then as I have a piece of furniture or something to get rid of. If I sell as I go, then I don't get overwhelmed with all that I have to sell. I just continually keep my house cleaned out.

The more I get rid of, the more I learn to accept stuff as just stuff. I no longer "collect" things. I buy things that have a useful purpose or really compliment my decor. I hate to dust and clean, so when I consider bringing something into my house, it has to be worth the effort of owning it. I used to keep all my shelves and tables filled with nicnacs and lots of them. I now see that as tacky. A few theme appropriate pieces in a room make a bigger statement than a shelf of nicnacs. And they're less time consuming. Most of my tables and shelves are minimally decorated now and they look a lot better.

My biggest collection was books. I wouldn't let go of any book I ever read. I used to have bookshelves everywhere. Now I have one and as I read a book, I pass it along to someone else. More recently though, I've discovered E-books. I have a new tablet that I can read books on, so I won't be buying many physical books in the future. I no longer buy CDs either. I download music onto my computer to play in my MP3 player or my phone. I can store 1000's of songs on an 8 GB micro SD card, which is about the same size as my fingernail! And I can take them anywhere I go! That's so amazing!

So now perhaps I'm becoming a technology hoarder. LOL

moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 31, 2012
1:27 AM

Post #8988976

ButterflyChaser wrote:Wow, I kinda got behind on this thread!

Moxie, I just love you. I think we're cut from the same mold. I've got a suggestion for you. Why don't you tell your MIL that instead of new clothes, you'd just love to spend the day with her on your birthday. Have her cook your favorite meal or your favorite dessert. Tell her that would mean way more to you than a new dress. Very few people can buy adults the kind of clothes they would appreciate and actually wear. Tell her if she MUST buy you something, she could donate that amount of money to cancer research or an animal shelter. It might even be fun to go together and buy some dogfood and treats for a local animal shelter. Tell her you'd rather be making memories with her instead of simply adding more clothes to your closet.





Lol...I wish. I don't celebrate my birthday...accept no gifts, need no cards. As far as a whole day, neither her health nor her husbands health would allow it. As for me, I am happy just doing things for people. I try to give of myself...like cleaning their home for them...but she insists on paying me.

She's a sweet lady. They are both really nice people. I just hate that she insists on buying clothes. I don't mind so much she wants to give me cast offs. At least no $$ spent then.
ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

January 31, 2012
7:45 AM

Post #8989299

Bflychaser, I like your idea of it has to be worth the effort of owning it. My sister once offered to make me a fake cake. She decorates cakes that are breathtakingly beautiful and at this time, she was using cookie tins and silicone caulking to decorate them and they were gorgeous. They looked good enough to eat. She kept wanting to make me one to display in my cake plate, but I couldn't ever see the need. We went round and round about it. It was just a "look pretty" as I called it and it didn't fit anywhere in my kitchen " decor". LOL I guess I was very utilitarian in those days. LOL To me I guess it wasn't worth the "effort of owning that" even though I know it would have been pretty.

Moxie, some people are just happier if they pay for things. They don't know how to accept someone doing for them. My Mom is like that. If I take her shopping or clean her house she wants to pay me and most of the time take me to lunch. I have learned it makes her happy if I let her do it, so most of the time I don't fight it.

Gotta get busy. Lots of work to do today.
Linda
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

January 31, 2012
8:42 AM

Post #8989349

ibartoo wrote:

Moxie, some people are just happier if they pay for things. They don't know how to accept someone doing for them. My Mom is like that. If I take her shopping or clean her house she wants to pay me and most of the time take me to lunch. I have learned it makes her happy if I let her do it, so most of the time I don't fight it.


Linda


Most of the time I don't fight it either...but she tends to give me stuff that just doesn't fit right...and then, tries to "correct" my dressing skills. DH says she does the same thing to his sisters. And we are all over 50 now...well, I'll be 50 in March.

ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

February 1, 2012
7:28 AM

Post #8990565

Oh, I understand better now. LOL When mine does that, the stuff gets hung in my closet and then eventually ( as soon as possible) finds it's way to the good will store.) Sometime it doesn't even get to the closet first. I know that sounds terrible, but some things I just can't wear. I too just turned 50 and I refuse to dress as though I am 16, or 80. There has got to be a middle ground.

I am stuck waiting for a phone call today, so I am working on projects inside today. Maybe i can get my laundry room cleaned out. That would be nice.
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

February 1, 2012
9:40 AM

Post #8990743

I just flat refuse to be treated like I am 16. I am a mature woman, and can dress myself.
ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

February 1, 2012
2:09 PM

Post #8991038

I do agree with you Moxie. Really I do. It is so frustrating at times. If you don't mind me asking, how old is your MIL?
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

February 1, 2012
2:16 PM

Post #8991043

I think she just turned 76, this Monday. She is a sweet lady...but has her moments.
ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

February 1, 2012
2:20 PM

Post #8991046

Yep, sure sounds familiar. Mom will be 75 next week. In my case, Mom still wants everyone to look like we just walked out of a magazine life where everyone is dressed just so and everything is formal. Our life was never like that.
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

February 2, 2012
1:43 AM

Post #8991658

I get to go clean today. She has alot of stuff on her list. And usually whoops my butt too. I come home exhausted.
ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

February 2, 2012
5:35 AM

Post #8991786

I am doing that for mine tomorrow. I have to do it here today. Our washer died and we are waiting for the new one to be delivered, so with the rain coming in this morning, it is a good day to get my own house cleaned. Hubby did a beautiful cleaning the laundry room yesterday to make room for the new washer, so I need to continue what he started today.
Have a great day. Don't get too tired.
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

February 2, 2012
9:54 AM

Post #8992097

Cleaned and re-organised laundry room. Filled my truck up with trash and donations. She said it was 20 yrs worth. Swept the dining room. Cleaned one bathroom...and vacuumed all of the main carpet traffic flow areas. No town run for me today...I'm pooped.

This message was edited Feb 3, 2012 5:55 AM
ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

February 2, 2012
8:39 PM

Post #8992845

Wow, I thought I stayed busy. My new washer was delivered this morning, so I caught up all of the laundry that I haven't been able to do. Cleaned out 3 dresser drawers and part of my closet. I put together a couple of bags for the goodwill store, that I will drop off tomorrow, had to sweep about 4 times, because the dogs tracked in so much sand today and then cleaned the kitchen and bathrooms. I never got to the studio or office, but it will wait for me. You put me to shame.
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

February 3, 2012
3:00 AM

Post #8992945

I have so many lists of "to do"...never ending. I have been working in the hothouse all week too, starting seeds etc. I try to keep track of all of our living areas, to de-clutter. Mice seem to love clutter..and we do have mice here. We have had so man that I write them down on the calendar when I catch them.
I have garden beds to clean too...time to plant.
Today is errand day. Groceries, post office, bank, look for seeds etc... DH says we can get pizza fer supper. Yum. Since pizza place doesn't deliver here, he calls me on his way home from work...4 miles out. So I can call the order in. Then, by the time he gets there, it should be ready. We rarely get take out pizza. That is a luxe item anymore.
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

February 15, 2012
2:46 AM

Post #9007256

Greetings to all here!

Sorry that I haven't dropped in to "keep" up-to-date & in touch with everyone, but as you know from my last post I had been busy with cleaning & decluttering my kitchen area. During the month of January, I bought a 2TB external drive with the intention of keeping the majority of my photo work on it. The computer tech guy said it would be better to 'back-up' everything from my "C" drive [hard drive] on my computer just in case. They did a system 'restore' which makes it just like you bought it brand new. Well, since I had bought the new 2TB drive, I needed to clean up the "desk" part of my computer area so that it would have a place to sit. I guess buying the 2TB drive served a 2-fold purpose ~ 1-- to back up my computer stuff and 2 -- clean off the computer desk [another eyesore area]. Since I had started this undertaking, I've gotten the whole desk area cleaned and 1 cubby area cleared of all the papers that were in both areas. I couldn't believe, well maybe I could, how many papers that I had stuff jotted down on. Now, all those papers are sitting in one pile on the computer desk, so that I can "input" all the email addresses, websites, etc. that I wrote down for one reason or another. About the only area on the computer desk that is organized is the very top where I have some Native American decor items, my lamp & 2 picture frames; which needs dusting again.

Unfortunately, some of this paper mess from the computer desk landed on one of the kitchen counters, but only temporarily until I can get the time to deal with it. Not to worry folks, my kitchen still looks fairly comparable to the pics I posted earlier.

HollyAnnS ~~ Nice to make your acquaintance here by the way. I can relate to the magazine issue all to well!! I've got many old issues of Family Handyman, Outdoor Photographer, Digital Photo and a few others that are in separate piles on my coffee table. Last year I bought some of those magazine holders and plan to label each one for the specific magazines. It will be nice to eventually "reclaim" my coffee table again. I find it hard to get rid of these, as most of the photo magazines have really good helpful info that can help with my photo work. The home repair magazines are a wealth of info for a DIYer like I am.

ibartoo ~~ Yes, I agree with your philosophy about the "1 in / 2 out" theory. I recently put that into action regarding my granddaughter's toys recently without even realizing what I did. :) Anyway, in her bedroom there is a shelf that goes the entire length of one of the walls, which some of her toys sit. Mostly Disney related toys. She wanted me to get one of her toys down, so of course had to get the stool to do this. My daughter was also in the room, so I told Sophia [granddaughter] that if she wanted a stuffed toy down, then another had to go up on the shelf. So I told her that I was going to put one of her smaller bears up. My daughter was surprised to hear what I said, and she told Soph -- "yep, gotta listen to Nana about your stuffed animals!" That little girl has the entire shelf filled up with stuffed animals, a toy box full and not to mention the two ottomans in the living room that have removable tops. I think this little girl has more toys at her age [3 now, will be 4 in March] than my own daughter ever had at that age.

moxies_garden ~~ I'm with ya there lady regarding Home Depot and Lowe's. Those are the only 2 stores that I can go into and wander around for awhile to get some ideas, well okay maybe Michael's and Aaron Bros. for picture frames. I was just recently in both of them [H.D. & Lowe's] this past Monday to price materials that I'll need to make an "A-frame" easel to display my framed prints at art shows. There is another art show coming up in April, but requires the artist to supply their own tables, easels etc. if they want to participate. Between both stores, I priced the same items to see which one will cost less. Both stores were about the same with prices on everything except for the pegboard that I need. Home Depot has it for around $2 less than Lowe's. By buying one 4'x8' piece of pegboard & cut in 1/2, I can get 2 sides to hang my prints on. So for probably around $50 [maybe less] I can make one easel.

ruby ~~ I've missed our chats on here, as you always have some helpful hints to offer, not to mention just miss the conversations. I'm still looking for a job without much luck, hardly any photo jobs coming my way; so for now am keeping busy with the various art shows and going on the photo "field" trips with both my camera clubs. Usually on these "field" trips I manage to get a few good images that I can work with. One of my other camera club members that also had prints at this recent art show in Redlands, CA told me about how she made her "bookmarks" and her "greeting cards." So, I think I will be veering off into this direction, in addition to framing prints, to start making these items to add to my inventory. She sells her bookmarks for $3 each and $3.95 each for her greeting cards. That's why I need a job so badly, because this endeavor of mine is getting more costly. I recently had to go back down to the South Bay area for a memorial service. I figured since I was down in the area, I might as well go back down to the Redondo Beach area for some more shooting. I had taken my Canon 60D along with me just in case. I got lucky, on the agenda that day included Pigeons, Pelicans, Seagulls and some scenic shots. There was one seagull that I took a pic of that had part of a fish hook with line, somehow imbedded into his neck area. I'm planning on using that photo to hopefully get the attention of somebody in a gov't. office that can help to safeguard these birds in a better way from the people that like to fish from piers like that one. Then the same day, as I was on another part of the pier, trying to shoot an image of a seal that I saw in the water, dolphin fins too, and actually saw a bird get caught up in another fisherman's line [got a pic of that too]. The fisherman brought him up to the pier and was able to get him loose. I hope that bird will be okay. Sorry, I know I got off point from the declutter topic with my comment to you. Haven't seen you on Facebook, so I thought I'd pop on here to see if there were any new comments. Looks like I found a myriad of them! I hope my comment finds you feeling better, as I know you sometimes get tired.

Once I get my bookmarks and greeting cards made, if anyone would like me to send you one as a gift, feel free to ask; then you'll have a "Jennie" original. LOL ! :) One day this coming week, I'll be taking the time to actually get my website created and up on the internet. Another Facebook buddy has one on WIX.com and it looks great! Also it's free!! That's even better! Once I get it totally done, will put the website info on here so you can see and check it out. I'll post the seagull pic to your Facebook page, since this isn't the place for it. Eventually, the recent Redondo Pier pics will make it to my Facebook page. Gotta scoot, didn't realize that it's almost 3am. My how time flies!

Y'all take care and will try to stop in again more frequently. Wishing you all a happy and healthy year ahead! Bye for now...

Jennie
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

February 15, 2012
5:09 AM

Post #9007322

Fleur, Nice to meet you, too.
I don't usually watch the TV Show Hoarders but I saw an add for it that caught my eye so I recorded a couple of episodes. Boy talk about an incentive to clean out. Afterward I was looking at the piles in my bed room and thinking I have got to get this stuff out of here. LOL
ibartoo
Pawleys Island, SC

February 15, 2012
7:32 AM

Post #9007480

Fleur, nice to meet you too.

Hoarders is such a sad show. I have known people who lived in conditions close to that, but none quite to that extreme. I am still decluttering a little at a time. With all 3 of us at home all of the time, there isn't much of a chance to slip things out very often.
The guys moved my studio last week and I am itching for a chance to get in there and rearrange and re-organize it. I ordered a photography "studio in a box" to photograph some of my jewelry and art pieces, so that will help a little because once I get them photo'd then I can get them packaged and stored until they either sell or I need to use them.


Today, I am going to hang out with my Mom and help her with a project that she wants to get organized. Here's hoping I leave everything there when I am done. LOL
Hope you all have a great day,
Linda
summerkid
Rose Lodge, OR
(Zone 8b)

February 15, 2012
11:02 AM

Post #9007731

Fleur, you might consider just tossing all those magazines. What are the chances that you actually will sit down & scour each of them for information? Think of all the time that would take, and much of it will be dated. Meanwhile you will be using time, space, money & energy to catalogue them while most of a magazine's heft is taken up by a compendium of increasingly useless advertising.

I subscribe to a few quilting, woodwork & shelter magazines, but each one gets read immediately. I tear out pages of interest & quickly file them where they belong -- recipes, inspiration file, renovation plans, etc.

Occasionally, a Dwell or Fine Homebuilding goes on the shelf because it may have a particularly timeless, useful set of articles.

I have one filing box with folders for all of my clippings, like "General Garden," "Outdoor Art," "Color Palettes." Last week I sat in front of the fireplace & went through them all, which was a fun chore, and found that half of them no longer applied to anything.
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

February 15, 2012
11:11 AM

Post #9007738

With info so easily available on the internet I think more and more about getting rid of mags and books that I have kept for years. I have a whole series of craft books that are pretty much out of date and haven't been used in years. But it is still hard to part with them.
summerkid
Rose Lodge, OR
(Zone 8b)

February 15, 2012
12:41 PM

Post #9007856

Yes, I know that feeling -- but I'll bet you'd never miss them. Although for some of us books are like a security blanket. I have tons that may not be relevant or that I will never read (one such as me can only take so much Edith Wharton & Doris Lessing) ... but I love the way my bookshelves look, even the lower ones with a 60-year-old set of "Funk & Wagnalls New Encyclopedia."

Of course, I have tons of space & way fewer books than shelves.

This is in my living room. What would I put there otherwise?

Thumbnail by summerkid
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flowAjen

flowAjen
central, NJ
(Zone 6b)

February 16, 2012
11:22 PM

Post #9009525

Ooooo, just saw this...all the more reason to clean out that clutter!!!
http://usnews.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2012/02/16/10429065-hoarded-items-bury-man-killed-in-house-fire
summerkid
Rose Lodge, OR
(Zone 8b)

February 17, 2012
12:50 AM

Post #9009532

Near Chicago they just discovered a woman lying dead under debris in her house. There's more to the story, but still:

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/ct-met-worth-hoarder-20120216,0,1683306.story

flowAjen

flowAjen
central, NJ
(Zone 6b)

February 17, 2012
6:23 AM

Post #9009670

geez, the son that lived there didn't even know where she was???!!!!
rubyw
Crozet, VA

February 17, 2012
7:29 AM

Post #9009765

Good to see you Jen. Hi everyone. Hmmm...I am not sure how I missed posting here for so long, but am glad to see that things have been moving along nicely and lots of good communication going on. Oh my gosh, Jen and Summerkid you posted links to these tragic stories. Yes, using the term death trap for these hoarders homes is right on par.

Holly, I try keeping up with the Hoarders shows but have to admit that there are times that I need to change the channel when they are showing particularly disgusting things. I have been exposed through the shows to issues that I would have never thought of in a million years. The often practice of folks using disposable underwear and then heaping a years used supply in a corner of the room is just so disgusting to me. It makes me feel really badly for the professionals coming in to help when they find this sort of thing in homes. Opening refrigerators and seeing maggots is another turn off. Yuck!!!!!!!!

Anyway, really great to see everyone. Keep up the good work folks.

Ruby
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

February 17, 2012
8:38 AM

Post #9009850

Just finished the mudroom/laundry area winter clean-up. It was getting kind of messy, I thought. Newspapers, old leaves from he sage plant, general dustiness, ..it all needed some vacuuming and sunshine. Time to start fresh for the summer!
We don't use our front entrance anyways...only the UPS guy rings the bell if he has a delivery.
I searched all over for the extension tubes for the shop vac to use on the porch. No. Where. Danggit. I know I put it somewhere. Must be time for some vacuum organization. Between the main house, the wood shop, the store front building...about the only places I would put it. I even looked behind the deep freezers, just in case. I have to use the shop vac to clean the bathroom floor, as it is a re-muddle...added onto a re-muddle. Had to just paint the floor for now, as it will all get ripped out in the future.
So goes another day of "anti-hoarding" tactics. If things start looking a bit messy...time to attack and conquer. I got all the stacks of newspapers, juice plastic bottles, and a bag of trash loaded up in my truck to take to the recycle dump this afternoon. That made a big improvement.
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

February 17, 2012
2:01 PM

Post #9010192

Ruby, It isn't a show I watch often, so sad for the families in the show. We are gutting the 2nd floor bathroom and I can't quite seem to get rid of the ceramic tile that I am pulling off the shower walls. So I am cleaning them and putting them in a bucket for Ric to store in the barn. Maybe some project this summer we will be able to use them. More things to store in the barn. Blush, Blush
bluegrassmom
Lewisburg, KY
(Zone 6a)

February 18, 2012
12:46 AM

Post #9010689

Yesterday it was quite warm, I went for a 2 mi walk. That helps me feel better and more energized. Came back and cleaned off my desk. I really needed to get that done. It makes me feel so much better to have things tidy. I don't know why I resist. Today I want to start on the 2nd closet.

My answer to magazine pile up is going to the local library. Ours have several on gardening each mo. I found I read a wider interest not that I do not have to pay for them. I do still subscribe to Audobon, and Hobby Farm.
My old mags were donated to the nursery home. They seem to enjoy the pics of Birds and Blooms!
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

February 20, 2012
5:38 PM

Post #9013981

Hi there summerkid! Thanks for the suggestion on what to do with the mags sitting on my coffee table. Most are my photography & home repair mags and some other miscellaneous ones. I think maybe next week, I will start on one pile at a time. I have them all stacked according to their titles. At least I'm organized that way! LOL!!! :) I just bought three more small plastic storage bins [shoe size] to go into the area of my computer desk that the desk's original drawers would have gone in. These "prefabricated" drawers that you have to assemble don't even go into the grooves right 1/2 the time. I got frustrated and took all the metal slide rails out and threw those and the so-called drawer pieces in the trash!

The plastic storage bins may have not been the size I wanted [had to return the wider one already], but it will get the job done for what I bought them for. I have 3 of them stacked in there now and probably room for a 4th one, if I want to get one later. I'm planning on putting some of the things from the hutch cubbies in them, like blank CD's, etc. I even have some space on the slide where I can put my plastic file folder I use to keep my photo business contracts in. See, folks, I am making progress! I'll do the dusting on the hutch top on Wednesday. I have another photo field trip coming up this Saturday to a beach area, so will have a bit of time for doing things before that. If any of you like photography and are on Facebook, besides rubyw, let me know what names you go by & I'll send a friend invite. Then you can see my photo albums on there. :) Gotta scoot for now. Will pop in again during the week sometime. Y'all take care now!
gen2026
Camden, AR

February 21, 2012
6:44 AM

Post #9014449

Just catching back up on this thread! Hope everyone is doing well...

The links to the articles are sooo sad! How bizarre that the woman's son didn't even know where she was!! and how scary!! I have seen the show a couple of times, but I am really opposed to that type of thing being broadcast for the world to see... I think it only encourages more of that odd behavior, but maybe in the case of hoarding - it might actually serve as an incentive for people to seek help!

My son brought his girlfriend home from college on Super Bowl sunday so we had to really clean like crazy...and I did really well at keeping my dining room table cleaned off for over a week, now it is slowly piling back up again! I have a meeting tonight after work, and I try to walk on the treadmill every night for at least an hour, so I have it on my list for tomorrow night to get that table clean again!! It is not nearly as bad as it has been but I know it is headed that way if I don't get it back under control! :)

We lost our Great Pyrenees last week and my husband made an appt with ADT to come in to install an alarm system tomorrow afternoon! I told him NO WAY could I have all the rooms cleaned up for someone to come in and go thru every room by tomorrow!! I had a meeting last night and another tonight...told him he would just have to reschedule or he better get busy cleaning. SInce in almost 30 yrs of marriage his cleaning has been EXTREMELY limited, he better reschedule!

Have a great day everyone!

Genna
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

February 21, 2012
9:17 AM

Post #9014615

Genna, So sorry you lost your pet. Great Pyrenees are wonderful dogs.
I can't have things pile up on the table. There are lots of piles in lots of places but not the table. I think it was because our table is right in front of the door and it is the first thing I would see when I walked into the house. So it is the one spot with no stacks. The cupboard just beyond it is fair game though.
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

February 21, 2012
9:24 AM

Post #9014628

Hey Ruby, Josh is coming tomorrow to sand the floor in that extra bedroom tomorrow. I will move the last of the things out of it this afternoon and he will get it sanded tomorrow morning. Then a good cleaning and the floor will be finished stained and poly coated and the bed will get moved downstairs and the room set up as Ric's and my bedroom before the end of the month. After all these years I can hardly believe that we will be sleeping downstairs.
gen2026
Camden, AR

February 21, 2012
11:52 AM

Post #9014784

Thank you! Great Pyrenees are wonderful dogs for sure! I read one time that one look into their eyes and you are hooked...that pretty much sums it up! My daughter is REALLY having a hard time with it.

My husband is supposed to call ADT and reschedule the installation...there is no way I can get his study and my sewing room (catch all room!) presentable by tomorrow. I spend almost every weekend out of town working on my son's house so there are a lot of things that don't get done at my own house. HOPEFULLY we will be thru with his remodel project soon and I can catch up on some things at my own house!

Anyone have experience with ADT or a similar alarm company?? Makes me kinda nervous because when we were looking at houses for my son, the realtor set off an alarm in one of the houses and it took almost 20 minutes to get it shut off. Neither the police nor the alarm company called or came by... :( That was in a major city! We live out in the country so I doubt we would ever get a response. I had to pay that monthly fee for nothing!
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

February 21, 2012
12:15 PM

Post #9014820

No I don't know anything about it other than there is a fee for the monitoring. My FIL had it for some reason even though he kept the system turned off for most of the time. We sat down with him and talked about why he felt the need for the system and why he wasn't bothering turning it on. At the end of the discussion we canceled the service.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

February 22, 2012
10:03 AM

Post #9015898

Hello to all...been a while since I have had the time to leisurely read the threads, so am a bit behind. It is really great to see so many folks writing in. I suppose all progress is good progress. Even the little things. I also read the "Daily Chuckle" thread and reported yesterday about getting rid of a few things along the line of junk food. Someone started the thread daily chuckle where folks can write in and report if they have chucked anything recently. I suppose by chucking, things such as either trashing or donating is fair game. I try to donate first and if I suspect what ever I am discarding is not worth a cent to anyone, I am then willing to trash it. I do not trash much at all, and a big recycler of most things. That I suppose comes from growing up with depression era parents who never wasted a thing.

Well, I hear someone in the drive way. Will cut this short for now. Did want to say hello to everyone. Summerkid, I will try and be in touch in regards to a kimono soon. Remind me if I get side tracked again. Any possiblities?

Take care all. Way to go on your project Holly and love the term remuddle Moxie. Ya'll be good.

Ruby
Texasgal77
Baytown, TX
(Zone 9a)

February 22, 2012
4:19 PM

Post #9016341

The need to save everything does come from having parents that went thru the depression. Mine did also. She was never a hoarder, as my stepDad was in the military and we moved from time to time, but she never wasted anything either.

She passed away last June and it is so hard to give her things away. I know I cannot bring them all home with me, because then I'd be a hoarder. Reading thru this thread has been helpful. I'm sure there are agencies that will find a good home for them.

Jeanne

flowAjen

flowAjen
central, NJ
(Zone 6b)

February 22, 2012
7:03 PM

Post #9016549

My parents weren't hoarders at all but saved some things that most people wouldn't since they grew up in the depression
Old mixer in attic with a tag "broken will fix later" or old windshield wipers
coleup
annapolis, MD
(Zone 7b)

February 23, 2012
8:29 AM

Post #9017046

Yeah, waste not, want not. And weren't Girl Scouts "thrifty"?

Just a comparison of sorts:

My Mom in her 78 years had
---two refridgerators and one of them is still running in my basement
--two electric stoves
--one electric hot water heater
--two washing machines (after the wringer washer) and one dryer
--two vacuum cleaners (the new one did not work as well as the old electrolux so we kept both)
--one cast iron fry pan which I use now
--my daughter is enjoying the one Mixmaster in our family

Materials that were saved because of the war effort were rubber, aluminum, scrap metal and paper. Both Grandmas had rubber bands on every door knob and a ball or two of aluminum foil in their pantries. In the garage was a wooden box for flattened tin cans and other scrap metal (nails that were too bent or rusted} and another box for paper. Food scraps were made into soup, fed to animals or composted.

Some times I think the burden of hiding the excesses of our society"s consumerism has been outsourced to the clutterers amonst us because our landfills would surely be overflowing if our stashes were not so neatly or un neatly "kept"! lol Maybe my county should pay me for everything I don't put into the waste stream!

Anyway, have a great day every one. Judy
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

February 23, 2012
10:18 AM

Post #9017157

Definitely a different age than the one I am living in now. I have found it is cheaper to buy new than fix old. Not to mention that you would be lucky to even find someone to fix the old. I remember paying more to fix an old VCR than it would have cost to buy a new one, we did it because the old one was a gift from to my daughter from her father that had passed away really wanted it.
Tossing out things are hard for Ric and I to do as we always think someone could use it not to mention just about the time you get rid of something you find a use for it.

flowAjen

flowAjen
central, NJ
(Zone 6b)

February 23, 2012
5:15 PM

Post #9017602

oh yeah everything now is made to be throwaway

How about the ball of rubberbands???
gen2026
Camden, AR

February 24, 2012
11:22 AM

Post #9018430

That is the truth - they 'engineer' things NOT to last so we will throw it away and need a new one! YET the whole time, you hear recycle, reduce etc... hard to not throw away when things aren't made to last. In 1985, my sister gave me a washer and dryer set that was over 20 yrs old at the time. The washer had a small leak in the tub that my BIL had tried repeatedly to fix, but it would leak just a small amount of water occasionally and was ruining her floor. I had a concrete floor in my laundry room and an overflow drain so it was not an issue. I used that washer and dryer until 1995... I think I might still be using it except that my husband worked on a masters degree in the summer of 94 and 95 and when we came back home after being gone for 3 months the first summer, it didn't want to work. The repairman got it going, but the next year it did the very same thing. I swore that it had been used almost every day for over 30 yrs and when it didn't get used it thought it had been retired! Since 1995, I have had TWO washers and neither work as good as that one! It is disgusting to me how things are made today!

rubyw
Crozet, VA

February 26, 2012
7:14 AM

Post #9020464

First of all, thanks for writing in Jeanne. Always good to hear from new folks.

Oh gosh, how I identify with every thing being said. I remember well a saying my dad had about vehicles. I have heard it dozens of times in my life. He liked to point out whenever complaining about the vehicles he drove that nothing worth a durn has come off the lines since the 1970's. He too was big on pointing out the shoddiness of things we purchase these days.

Speaking of recycling, re-using and saving the Earth. I can remember being a member of the Ecology Club in high school and taking the things I learned there very seriously. It seemed to be a big theme in the mid 1970's and then up until about the past ten years or so, it is not something I heard too much about. I wondered where all the passion had gone for most folks over the years. I am aware of Earth Day, but that doesn't seem to go far enough. Every day should be Earth Day.

I can remember about his time last year being involved in a major de-cluttering of home. I spent a lot of time on the Clean and Clutter Free forum here. It hit me one day what a spoiled and ungrateful people we Americans are. If we look at the majority of the other people on this earth, if they had what we discard as rubbish, they would believe themselves to be rich. For hoarding and cluttering to be such a large issue these days, it tells me that most of us have more money than we have sense. Please do not take this as me pointing fingers at anyone in particular here, because I am as guilty as the next guy of all of the above. I do cringe at times when seeing or hearing of folks sending perfectly good things to the land fill. Waste...all the way around.

Not sure if any of us here will live to see the day when this currently over consumerism comes under better control or not. I know that I can look back and see how my sons are with material goods and wish that I had done a better job in teaching them to be thrifty and save not and want not. I know that there have been several occasions, recently when I will be putting something in one of our larger trash bins and see perfectly good items that my son who is still at home has tossed. Makes me sick and I am not above admitting to pulling a lot of the things out of the trash and using them, if only as a toy for my grand children. I believe I pulled out three cell phones the last time I saw that he had cleaned his room.

Anyway, I suppose if we can each ask ourselves at the end of the day if we have been guilty of waste in any area, and the answer is no, we can be assured that even though it won't make a big impact on the world, we are at least doing our part.

Quite interesting topic. Thanks everyone for sharing.

Ruby
Texasgal77
Baytown, TX
(Zone 9a)

February 27, 2012
8:56 PM

Post #9022766

Totally agree with all of you! As Americans we generally are very spoiled. We are so obsessed with material goods, and our younger generations are never "satisfied" with anything...Technology is moving so fast, and they all have to have the latest and greatest!

I guess it is truly a sign that I am now a "Senior Citizen"...when I can attest to "What happened to the good old days?????!!!!!!!" LOL!

I have enjoyed hearing from all of you. I love this forum and this thread. It helps keep me in a "Reality Check"... hah!

Thanks for the welcome, and thanks to all of you for your thoughts and input on the subject! It is appreciated!

Jeanne
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

February 28, 2012
4:34 AM

Post #9022913

Hi all! Just wanted to pop in and say howdy to everyone again! Well, I've had a very productive past 2 days with getting things done. On Friday, 2/24, I went to Home Depot and bought all the materials that I needed to make my "A-frame" display easel to hang my photo prints on for the upcoming art show in April. Later that same evening, went to another art show reception for a local "Yucaipa" resident that is a photographer. Going to the reception had a 2-fold purpose for me ~ one to see how a reception is done and the second reason was to get an idea on how she "priced" her work. She's an amazing photographer! I got some ideas from her too! It's all about the 'networking'! :) Saturday was the day of my photoshoot at the Bolsa Chica Wetlands Reserve, so nothing else got done that day. On Sunday, I built my "A-frame" easel and it only took me just slightly over an hour.

During Monday, as it had started to rain outside, I got another one the plywood panels underneath my kitchen sink area installed. See, originally there was a sheet of paneling under there, sustained some kind of water leak damage & bowed really bad in the center. After I ripped out this thing out, measured the total width and height and then had my 4 pieces of plywood cut to make the new "subflooring" with, got 3 of the 4 pieces installed only to find out that I didn't exactly measure correctly for the "width" part. After I get the 4th piece installed that will surround the water pipes, then I've got to measure the area that will need another 'skinny' piece of plywood to finish it off; then I can put down the "peel & stick" tile that will go underneath the sink area. After which I can get all the kitchen items back under the sink that have been sitting near my front door for sometime now. That will eliminate a huge area of "clutter" for sure!

Still have the plastic totes that have more of my Dad's old papers to deal with. I'll get to that when I get my computer hutch/desk cleaned. At least when I get all of those totes emptied, I can reuse them for what I need. I need my computer area cleaned more so I can feel less stressed when working on my photo editing. That's my priority area now! I know I posted the "before" pic of my computer desk on the other "Got any Before & After photos?" forum, but will post it again here, since it has to deal with the "decluttering" process. Once I get this whole area cleaned & organized the way I want it, then will post the "after" pic too. Feel free to leave any comments if you'd like to. [ I know I'll get a few, LOL !!]

The 2nd image posted is the long view of the kitchen after I had cleaned it. Yeah, I know ~~ I'm a magnet collector too, but only for souvenirs from areas that I've visited! LOL !!

Gotta go for now, but will stop in again soon! Bye for now...

Jennie

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rubyw
Crozet, VA

February 28, 2012
9:18 AM

Post #9023272

So glad that you are benefitting from your visits to the Clean and Clutter Free threads Jeanne. I know that having others to chat with while I was under going a major de-cluttering a year or so ago helped me tremendously to stay focused and motivated. I felt that I was accountable to the folks in the group, and without holding my accountable to someone, I am very apt to let things slide for a long time.

Fleur, thanks for the photos. I believe that my fridge has your beat though, because the whole side of mine if full of magnets. I like them, they give me a bit of a pick up when I take the time to read what is on them and things.

I also love your idea of putting the peel land stick tiles under the kitchen sink. I hadn't thought of that, but I have extras, and might try to do that at some point. Maybe I will be more inclined to try and keep it neater and cleaner if I have taken the time to spiff it up a bit. Thanks for sharing that little tip that I would have never thought of on my own.

I hope that every one reading is being productive today, and if not productive, at least having a pleasant day. I haven't really started my day yet, but I plan to go outside in a bit and see what is popping up or is in bloom and then spend some time re-potting a few houseplants.

See you folks again soon I hope.

Ruby
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

February 28, 2012
11:46 AM

Post #9023398

Jennie, What a cheerful kitchen you have. Good luck at the art show.
Things are moving along here. The down stairs bedroom is finished. After years of being a dumping ground it now is almost a bed room. Our bed is and old antique oak and needed some minor repairs so it is in the room but not set up yet. It needed some gluing and clamping so tomorrow it will get set up and we will be sleeping in it Wednesday night. The room got a complete refresh. Floor sanded and refinished, new baseboard put down, completely emptied and cleaned (even the closets), paint touch up, furniture all cleaned and polished as it was moved in. The living room is starting to resemble it's old self as the things are finding new homes.
gen2026
Camden, AR

March 1, 2012
9:00 AM

Post #9025806

Hope you enjoy your downstairs bedroom! I am afraid if I had a two story home, and slept downstairs that I might never venture upstairs to clean or do anything! :) considered a two story when we built, but opted for a spread out one story

Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

March 2, 2012
4:12 AM

Post #9026711

@ HollyAnnS: Thanks a bunch! I like being in it quite a bit more when it's clean, and having alot more area to prepare food too! In the past, I used to let things slide and pile up on the counters. Mostly it was the throw away mail / fliers that come almost every other 2 days. Now I take a quick look to see what comes, keep the fast food coupons for what I like & throw the rest in the recycle bag. Now that I keep the stove top clean, I always have a candle on there lit while I'm home. Helps it smell better too. :)

@ rubyw: I came up with the idea of using the "peel & stick" tiles quite some time ago, when I decided to rip out that paneling under the kitchen sink. I didn't want to paint the wood before it went under there, so came up with that idea. I've had one box that I bought from Anna's Linens few years ago, it's a wood grain color. I'm sure I'll have to get at least 2 more boxes to completely cover the area. Once I get it totally done the way I want it, will take some photos to post on here.

Y'all have a good weekend till we chat again! :)
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

March 2, 2012
5:06 AM

Post #9026758

I like the peel and stick tile idea as well. I put shelf liner in my under sink cabinet but the peel and stick tile would be thicker and more substantial.
Texasgal77
Baytown, TX
(Zone 9a)

March 2, 2012
6:59 PM

Post #9027667

That is a great idea! I have some areas I could do that in...like under my hall bathroom sink!

Thanks!
rubyw
Crozet, VA

March 4, 2012
9:13 AM

Post #9029465

Looks as though you have started something here Fleur with the sticky tile. I can't say that I have worked on mine yet, that is way down the list of things needing attention, but I do just love the idea and plan to do at some point. I have listed touching up painting my kitchen cabinets on my to do list for about three weekends now and never gotten any further than getting the supplies together to do it. I washed all the cabinets down good some weeks back and then was too tired to paint that day, and so the project keeps getting pushed back and pushed back. The paint is chipping around several of cabinets handles that get used frequently and it is beginning to bother me each time I open a door or drawer. I am hoping to do it on Tuesday when I have a cleaning lady here to help, and things will be kind of upside down already.

I was just on another thread talking about two other projects that are becoming an eyesore a great bother to me each time I look at them. I am kind of thinking that today will be day. I have my master bedroom closet which is packed full of recently buys and future crafts needing some work. There is also the issue of now that I baby sit my grand children three days a week, somehow a lot of their toys are finding a new home here. Until now, I have been able to keep the corraled on a Bakers Rack in the spare bedroom. In recent weeks a pile is starting in the corner of the living room. I believe it is time to go through toys and get a collection together to take to thrift store. Please send motivational vibes my way...all will be accepted.

Holly, things sound great on your end. How cool. I know for a fact that you and your hubby Ric are real go getters and spend a great amount of time on enhancing your living quarters and gardens. Folks, I will be having the privilege to once again visit Holly and Ric's home in May when the Mid Atlantic Gardeners Group here at Daves will be having a semi-annual Plant Swap which they will be hosting again. I visited their place a couple years back and they have a super place and are such warm and gracious folks. There was a huge turn out when they hosted it in the past. Holly's living room is my idea of the very perfect living space for a gardener. She has two sliding glass doors on either side of the room and a lovely place for house plants. This room opens up on to a deck which adjoins a swimming pool. They have created a true paradise and I am really looking forward to visiting again. Holly, you know we all love pictures, so if you have snapped any recently, please show.

Well, gonna mosey on along for now. May be back later while taking a break from chores. I have talked enough about my afternoon tasks, so now is as a good a time as any to get started. Here is hoping that all reading are having a great Sunday and that the upcoming week will be a very productive and pleasant one for all.

Please send those motivational vibes my way...all are appreciated.

Ruby
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

March 4, 2012
1:07 PM

Post #9029684

Such nice comments Ruby, Well here are a few pics of that bedroom I have been working on. I took the picture shooting at the end of the room with the mirror closet doors so you get a pretty good look at the room. The walls are pretty bare right now and I will need end stands, lamps and a bedspread. The old oak bed and dresser looks pretty good in this room. I have an Elm book case to move down also. I put in a close up of the wall treatment and border and one of the refinished floor. I know the old sponge paint job is out of date but I have always loved the look of this room so I just cleaned it down and touched up with some white paint. I have a few spots that I would like to sponge over if I can find the right yellow to blend in. That is just an extra dining room chair sitting at the end of the bed.

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HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

March 4, 2012
1:20 PM

Post #9029697

I got rid of my stack of old records and an old turn table today. I sure do understand how hard it can be to get rid of things. We have moved that heavy stack of records around for years and haven't played any of them for at least 15 years. But when I was getting them ready to get rid of them I realized that there were quite a few great old records in that stack. The old Disney songs that we played for the kids, a set of Christmas records that we played every year while we decorated the tree and baked cookies. Some Jazz, Johnny Cash, Cat Stevens, Steppenwolf and more. My daughter took them, her BIL has a player and record collection. Any thing they don't want will end up at Goodwill or Salvation Army.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

March 4, 2012
3:53 PM

Post #9029856

Thank you for the pictures Holly. That will be a nice and restful room to catch your zzzzz's. I too like the Hydrangea edging. Really pretty. Heck, who cares about something being outdated, if you like it, you should keep it.

Oh gosh, I too can remember moving record albums over the years too. At this point I cannot remember where all of our finally ended up. I haven't seen them for some years now, so somewhere along the line I did away with mine too.

I watched a special on Biography Friday evening on Davy Jones of The Monkees who died one day last week. They were the beginning of my loving music. I was in the fifth grade and the show had the covers of some of their albums and I can remember owning them. I mentioned to John that I had been fanatic over the Monkees. I had told him earlier that my niece who got turned on to them in the 1980's from re-runs and I went to hear them in the mid 1980's when they were in Richmond VA. Richmond is about a two hour drive from here and it was a week night which meant work tomorrow and I went, so that tells you something about how "in" to them I had been once upon a time. I still prefer music from the Seventies if I had my choice in the matter.

Anyway...my day didn't go as planned, but I did accomplish something I have been needing to do for awhile. I pulled the couch covers off both couches and spent the afternoon washing them. I will wait for some help to put them back on though, because they are tricky to get back on. I am now working on regular clothing laundry...it seems to be never ending.

I also made some tuna salad and anyone wanting to eat will have to do with a sandwich. Our freezer is out of meat and I need to meat shop one day this coming week. I am usually pretty good about keeping things on hand, but let the meat situation get lost in all the confusion.

Anyway...thanks for the pretty pictures. Enjoy the week Holly.

Ruby

Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

March 5, 2012
2:23 PM

Post #9031177

Hi again y'all!

Since we have another camera club meeting tonight, I'm meeting up with 2 of my other club members @ 4:30pm to go over some pics for the upcoming art show at the Kimberley Crest Mansion & annual Flower Show both held in April; so I just wanted to take a few minutes & pop in to see what has been happening / discussed on here the last few days.

I think the last time I posted something on here I was talking about cleaning out my "eyesore" of a computer desk/hutch. I'm happy to report that I've gotten 3 more of the small cubbies cleaned out and are totally empty [spent Sunday doing this!]. I had bought a small green wicker basket for the bathroom to keep some of my stuff in & I wanted to see if the size would fit into the largest of the smaller cubbies ~~ it did, but since I don't want the green color on the computer hutch, I'll look around @ Michael's for a deeper & richer brown color ~ something similar to a dark chocolate color. They were having their baskets on sale for 40% off the regular price.

rubyw: yeah I guess I did start something with the sticky tiles, huh! It just made more sense to me to do that than try to paint these boards & wait for them to dry. I didn't want to put more adhesive shelf liner down either [like I did when I moved in], because now those are also starting to lift up. When I get the rest of the kitchen completed & finished painting, I will more than likely replace the shelf paper with some design of sticky tiles too. Only I know it will be a "bear" to rip out all that old shelf liner. :( Once I get the rest of the plywood panels & sticky tiles all installed, then I can continue with the rest of the painting of the lower kitchen cabinets [attached to the sink]. When I get that section done, will post another pic of it.

The other big thing I need to do, when I work on the kitchen some more, is to buy another sheet of paneling to replace one in the kitchen area that has some damage to it. When I'm ready to tackle that job, will also pull out the fridge from its alcove, drill a hole for my water line and then paint that wall area too. Thank goodness my fridge is on roller wheels! :)

@ HollyAnnS: your bedroom truly looks like an oasis to retire to and relax in! I can at least say that after my bedroom was totally painted and my new bed & older furniture was back in place ~~ it looked good like yours did for... hmm...maybe a week. LOL!! Then I had clean laundry piled on my sewing machine to put away, etc. Since I've been reading & commenting on this thread, I have managed to clean off one of the dresser tops & keep it that way! Now my cats have a place to sit & watch me do things in the room! LOL !!! So ya see, this thread is really beneficial to me in many ways!

Well, gotta scoot for now...have to post some images onto my flash drive for review when I meet up with my friends later on. I promise to let y'all know how the art shows go that I'm participating in. :) Hope everyone is having a great day and a better week to come!

Jennie
rubyw
Crozet, VA

March 9, 2012
2:49 PM

Post #9036136

Hi Jennie - I am a bit behind in reading the forums that I try to keep up with. I too am taking a short computer break because I have been hard at it for a couple of hours and my feet have begun to hurt from being on them for so long.

Oh gosh, last year I was big time in to the threads on the Clean and Clutter Free forum. It really served a great purpose in allowing me to begin and to stick with a major de-clutter. I would check in daily and tell of my progress and talk to others who were also doing the same sorots of things.

As someone mentioned early on, de-cluttering is something that a person as to keep with. It is not a one time thing and it is done. It doesn't take very long at all for things to begin to pile up. I am not telling you anything new, I am sure.

I went Easter candy shopping today and now have to tackle the master closet which I didn't get to last weekend, before the new stuff will fit in there. I still have bags of things from a shopping trip a few weeks ago. I bad!!! You mentioned Michael's, one of my favorite places. I was in there a month or so ago and saw something that I really should have purchased at the time, but thought I would wait and use another coupon for it. Twice I have printed off the 40% off coupon for the week and still haven't made it there for the particular purchase. It is going to be a birthday gift for my grand son who turns two the last day of March. I still have time.

I thought I was going this morning while in town, but was tired due to lack of sleep last evening and came on home after going to one store. I have put away a few items from shopping today, but still have the Easter things I need to hide in my closet. They might have to stay out tonight, and I will do the closet either tomorrow or Sunday. I just s tarted preparing things to make a tuna casserole, feet started hurting, so am taking a bit of rest. I do not feel like cleaning my closet on a Friday evening. If I leave things thinking I might do them later, later often comes and I am too tired.

I don't work well in the evenings, and after feeling as though I go, go, go all day long, I am ready to eat dinner and then veg in front of the TV until bed time. You are coming along on the computer hutch, keep at it. Sounds like you have all sorts of neat little ideas for sprucing your place up. Keep sharing your tips.

Good luck on the art show in April. I find that whole business really interesting. Have you found any sort of employment yet? Anyway...good to see you posting. Hope that you have a great weekend.

Ruby
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

March 13, 2012
12:09 AM

Post #9040568

Hello Ruby! ~ On the employment front -- still nothing. The job at McLane Distribution didn't materialize, if I hadn't heard anything within 2 months time, then I figure the job went down the toilet ~ matter of speaking.

On the photography front of things ~ couldn't be better! There are several art shows that are actually going on within the month of April. One that I've already paid for is connected with the Vision Quest Art Gallery located in Yucaipa where I live. I've already paid my $25 to participate, so will be taking all my framed prints with me that I've been showing from previous shows, but haven't sold yet. :( I'm also going to see if I can get some extra prints that are only in mats, in case someone can't afford to buy a framed print. That art show will be up in the Oak Glen area in the mountains above the city that I live in. I'll send you the the post to your FB page b/4 I get off the computer, then you can read about it. I barely put it on my FB business page last night.

I went on a photoshoot, with my PAN camera club [Riverside, CA], on Saturday March 10th, to an area called "Joshua Tree National Park" ~ OMG! the drive out there seemed to take forever, but once we finally got there ~ it was so worth it! I uploaded my 8GB memory card last night to the computer & saw that I took about 517 images. I'm shooting in RAW now, so I've got my camera set for "RAW + JPEG" ~ which means that all I can see is the JPEG image. That way, I can see if I have to adjust the settings in any way. The "RAW" image has to be opened up with Photoshop, the RAW image will retain all the "golden goodness" [as my instructor calls it] and you can work the image however you want & can always come back to it the way you left it. With a "JPEG" image, you get a 'crunched' down version. You can still work with it, but only so much. After each time you work with the JPEG image, then save it ~ it gets compressed more.

I know Ruby, this camera talk is all "Greek" to you. LOL!! When I went to the Los Angeles Zoo at the end of December, I took some photos of a colorful sign of some elephants ~ I just have to "play" with them just a bit to increase the saturation of the color a bit, then will post them to our FB page. I hope you can save them onto your computer from that point. I think you'll like them. I don't think I've sent them to you before.

I'm also going to the San Diego Safari Park with this same PAN camera club on March 21st. I'm hoping to get some decent images that I can work with. We're taking a bus down there, leaving @ 7:30am from Riverside, CA and then leaving from San Diego @ 2:30pm.

Come to think of it ~ the month of March is turning out to be a fairly busy one also. Not only have I been going on these photoshoots with my friend for the "Flower Show" and "Kimberley Crest Show" ~ on March 31st, I'm going to Disneyland with my daughter again for my youngest granddaughter's b-day. She wants to be "Princess Jasmine" for her birthday ~ so she'll get the 'star' treatment at the "Bippity Boppity Boutique" at Disneyland. I'm taking my Canon 60D, so I can use my 50mm f/1.8 portrait lens to take photos of her while she's getting all "primped" up. She'll get her hair all fixed up and some make-up too. Should be an interesting day! :) I'll let you know how things go.

As for the computer desk/hutch ~ I have the 3 smaller cubbies all cleaned out and took the measurements so I can get some small baskets that will fit into the spaces. Now there are only the other 3 cubbies to deal with. I think I'll get another plastic storage tote to go with the other ones. I already have 2 of them almost full. I'm being picky about what I'm putting in there, don't want to save just junk ~~ lord knows I got enough of that already! LOL !!! I have my plastic file folder and the Avery label packets alongside the totes now. I was supposed to go out of town this week, but that got postponed so now I have a little time to clean the kitchen counter again. I had to set some of the stuff from the computer desk over there till I can deal with it -- again! Ahhhh...life goes on! Catch ya later my dear. Have a good week!

Jennie
rubyw
Crozet, VA

March 19, 2012
10:44 AM

Post #9048799

Hi Jennie and all...you are really keeping yourself busy Jennie. All seems like fun stuff too other than the decluttering, which can actually become fun as a person get a momentum going and it becomes sort of a game to see how much you can get rid of.

I have to admit to being rather stagnant about getting much done recently. I did start a toy bag for things to be gone soon. Only got half way through that process and need to finish before sending it away. I am growing rather tired of seeing the grocery bag of toys sitting in the living room floor, so I may make different plans for getting rid of it than I had thought previously. I just want it out of here.

I was just reading another thread that reminded me of the many, many books that I have packed up in plastic bins in my storage shed. I have a thing for books and have amassed quite a few. Living in a smaller home than previously means there is not display room enough to put them books out. this is probably the last house in which I will live, since recently paying it off - hallelujah!!! - so I don't see any more book cases in my future. May as well start thinking of what I will do with them.

Next week I will be going floor shopping. I have been talking about getting carpeting installed for some months now and just in the past couple of weeks have thought that I would like to have hard wood floors installed instead. I won't be babysitting next week, so I have all week to do some shopping around.

However we decide to install the flooring, will mean a lot of moving of furniture and other items. I have been dreading this part of the deal. I want the flooring, but am not looking forward to packing up my hoard. Anyway...I hope those reading these threads don't tire of my talking about the flooring. It is at the forefront of my mind whenever I start thinking about the house.

Anyway...good to hear from you and I hope the trip to Disney is all that you all expected. I suspect my own almost five year old grand daughter would love to have a day of what you are talking about having done. Too cool. Please take and share pics. Thanks...

Ruby
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

March 20, 2012
11:52 AM

Post #9050275

Ruby, just pick up that bag of toys on the way through... and toss them in a Goodwill box somewhere along the line.
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

March 20, 2012
11:54 PM

Post #9050970

Greetings Ruby!

Won't take too much time on here, as I've got another photo field trip scheduled on Wednesday to the Wild Animal Safari Park, located down near San Diego. It's close to 12midnite on my end of the country. I'm done with all the photoshoots for that were needed for the Flower Show and the Kimberly Crest art shows. I had one image chosen for the Flower Show, which I will share with y'all here. Sorry, to say, that none of my images were chosen for Kimberly Crest art show, but my friend had one of his selected for Kimberly Crest and 2 images for the Flower Show.

I'll be sure to take plenty of pics of my granddaughter getting all "dolled" up or should I say "princessed" up ?? LOL !! Not to worry, will share some with y'all here. :) Let me know what you think of my image that was selected for the Flower Show.

Catch y'all later...have a good one!

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rubyw
Crozet, VA

March 24, 2012
1:53 PM

Post #9055425

The bloom is definitely out of this world gorgeous. The color is dynamite. My goodness, it that doesn't win an award, nothing else will either. So pretty and thank you so much for sharing here Jennie. I will looked forward the Princessed up little one. What a fun day that will be for everyone involved.

Moxie, it is now either two or three weeks later and the original grocery bad full of get rid of toys are still sitting where I placed them the day I put them in the bag. Not going to bother hubby about taking them and will donate to the local charity thrift store.

One night last week I had my son straighten his bedroom because I had bought two chairs at a yard sale for his room. Later on when I was in the utility closet where we keep our largest trash can I saw some clothing and pulled it out to see what he had thrown out. The little sucker had thrown away about five white undershirts and pair of perfectly fine Docker's shorts probably because he has out grown them. I was really tiffed. This is not the first time that I just happened in to that room and found where he has been room cleaning and throwing out valuable things that other folks could be using. I will take the clothing along with me to the thrift store one day this coming week.

It has kind of quieted down on here. I suppose that everyone is taking advantage of the wonderful weather that Virginia at least is experiencing. For several weeks we have had above average temperatures and so many things are already blooming in the garden. Way early this year for sure. I get out and do something cleaning up wise every chance I get. My hubby says that temps will be much cooler next week. I actually had my air conditioning on yesterday because the day before I was too hot to do anything much. No air on today, but all windows and doors are open.

Anyway...hope some folks will speak up if they have anything de-cluttering wise, or any topic and stop by and say hello. In the mean time, hope everyone is doing well and life is treating everyone decently.

Ruby

Texasgal77
Baytown, TX
(Zone 9a)

March 24, 2012
8:56 PM

Post #9055900

Hi Everyone,

We are making progress at Mom's house. We bagged up all of her clothes for donation...well at least most of them. My sister is keeping a few. The Master closet is almost empty except for what Sis still has in there.

I am using the Master Bedroom for a staging area for things that are "donations".
mine, and baby sister's. Gradually I am bringing my things home, and am making an effort to put them away each day. Baby sister's I will bring home to my garage until she can get here to get them. She lives up North.

There was 35 years of accumulation. It is looking much better. We still have a ways to go. I hope to put it on the market by April 1st.

Please keep us in your prayers for strength to get thru this. Praise the Lord it has been beautiful weather to move stuff.

Thanks!

Jeanne
gen2026
Camden, AR

March 26, 2012
5:05 PM

Post #9058219

Prayers with you Jeanne... been there, done that...and it was extremely hard physically and emotionally! I hope you have someone that is helping you!!

Texasgal77
Baytown, TX
(Zone 9a)

March 26, 2012
5:22 PM

Post #9058254

My sister and her boyfriend, his nephew, and my granddaughter have been helping. My son will help also later.
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

March 27, 2012
4:20 AM

Post #9058745

Hi y'all!

Is "de-cluttering" the trunk of your car worthy enough to be up on this board? I know it's not "house" stuff, but I still had to take quite a bit of 'stuff' out of the trunk.. Only thing in there is a first-aid kit, my granddaughter's booster seat & an umbrella. It's been long overdue, I put the stuff into a box that will need some attention at a later date. At least now I can finally take my old phone down to the thrift store next week. Now I have room in there to put suitcases, if need be...or maybe a body...just kidding! My friend's car trunk is spotless! When I said, wow you have a huge trunk and he told me, " yeah, enough room for a dead body, huh?!" Yes, he was kidding too! I showed him my car trunk earlier and he started to laugh.

Now that all the excitement & rush is over for the photoshoots for the art shows, I can finally get back to concentrating on doing more cleaning, decluttering & home repairs now. Will be back on next week, till then I wish everyone a great week and healthy habits! :)
Texasgal77
Baytown, TX
(Zone 9a)

March 29, 2012
6:24 PM

Post #9062500

My guess is yes! I have beein trying to keep the trunk clear and put away each day everything that we bring home. It was good that I did, because today we had to go get groceries, so there would not have been any room for them!

Tomorrow I need to get back over to the other house and tackle the garage!

I did get the sewing room and closet almost done, and the master bedroom is empty except for what is being donated which needs to get moved to a designated corner in the garage.

I plan to sort by "my house", donations, and then trash. Hopefully it won't take too long.

DS has been sick, and dear son has been down with his back so our "team" has been slowed down some.

Hopefully everyone will be back in shape soon.

We have made alot of progress tho.
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

March 30, 2012
1:31 AM

Post #9062786

DH and I both have Nissan Frontiers Extended cab versions...and we both have them filled to the brim. I go through mine more often then he does though. No telling what I might find in his truck...lol
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

April 4, 2012
2:42 AM

Post #9069086

A couple of years ago, I had to do a "de-cluttering" process with my Dad's old 1990 Ford F-250 that he used to drive when he went deer hunting. I had started with the cab part of the truck and wasn't exactly surprised at what I found as I went along. Among the many 'old' tissues and rags that I found, there were also 3 baggies of coins too. Along with a pack of "Juicy Fruit" chewing gum in the ashtray. Funny, huh? I guess maybe he had them in there if he ever needed to make a phone call while on the road. He never did move into the "cell" phone age. Took us long enough to talk him into getting an answering machine for his home phone.

He was definitely "old school" and firmly believed that if something was working fine, why 'mess' with it! His truck wasn't as bad in the "pack-rat" way as was his garage or patio. He used to deliver movie films [78mm reels] to the drive-ins & walk-ins, so he had quite a few of these tins ~ most in the garage & workshop, but one found its way into his truck & this one had tools in. I transferred all the tools that I found to my car. Anyone want an extra wrench? Hahaha!!!!

I cleaned out the back of the camper a few weeks ago [trashed more junk], as I'll be using the truck to go up to the art show in Oak Glen. I have my pegboard rack & folding chair back there so far. I'll have enough room for the totes to haul my prints up in. Next on the list to buy for this truck, is new hydraulic lifts for the back camper window. I have to prop it up with a long stick for now [major safety issue!]. I'm afraid that the only area that I've "de-cluttered" lately was the truck & car. The last few weeks have been rather busy, so I'm a bit behind on my house 'de-cluttering' attacks. Maybe I'll have different news in the next few weeks. Y'all have a good one and be safe & happy! :)

Jennie
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

April 4, 2012
12:50 PM

Post #9069795

Ric did a bit of work on our old bathroom. Took out the old sink cabinet and built me something, sanded the tall cabinets on either side and painted them, painted the walls and ceiling. Just freshened it up a bit. Put a good bit of work into it and in the process emptied all the cabinets so they will be all cleaned updated inside as well as out.
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

April 9, 2012
9:51 PM

Post #9076534

@ HollyAnnS ~ Sounds good for what your hubby did in the bathroom. I bet those cabinets look real nice now!!

I'll be tackling the space saver that is in the hallway bathroom soon. I just bought several baskets from Michael's Craft Store [40% off] to "corral" some of the loose things on the shelves. I still have to attach the space saver to the wall with the bolts & then can organize the 3 shelves. I had originally thought of using clear acrylic planks on the shelves, then later on got the brilliant idea about using some thin craft boards like they sell at the craft stores, I think it's Balsa Wood. I just have to go to the different stores to see who has this item. I only need them to be about a 1/4" thick. Not sure if I will might paint them at this point.

I rounded up all my receipts for tax time, caught up on laundry & cleaned off one of the kitchen counters again. That's how I spent my Easter holiday.

@ rubyw ~ next time I'm on here, will post some images of Soph getting the "Princess Jasmine" treatment at Disneyland. Trying to organize them into an album on Facebook.

Well, gotta scoot for now. Hope everyone had a real nice Easter holiday [if you celebrate].
rubyw
Crozet, VA

April 10, 2012
8:27 AM

Post #9076921

Greetings to all. Sounds like Texasgirl is coming right along with the de-cluttering gig she has found herself in. Yep, know the feeling too. Since moving in to a house half the size of my previous one, both my husband's and my parent's estates needed to be dealt with. My folks went a lot faster than his folks place did. Wow, we still have things we brought home from those homes in our storage shed and garage due to no space in the house.

Holly, you and Ric are so amazing in terms of the loving efforts you have put in to your home. I love it, love it, love it and am looking forward to visiting again for the Plant Swap you are hosting in May.

As for de-cluttering here...I have been avoiding it at all costs. I just don't want to deal with what I need to deal with. I am planning on having new flooring installed in the near future and I have so much packing up to do before that can start. I also need to have my enormous house plant collection moved outdoors for the summer before we begin, because that is the room I want done first. I suppose something will finally occur that will give me motivation I need to begin this major project, but for now I am taking advantage of the down time so to speak. Sure is a lot of early gardening work to do also. I suppose maybe I should plan to have the gardens in good shape before it begins to get too hot to even go out and look at them and then tackle the floors during the hotter months when I won't be outside for the most part anyway.

Anyway...I understand that vehicles need de-cluttering from time to time too. I always have to rush through throwing out things or putting away things each time I need my car washed. I plan to take it to be washed later this week, so maybe this afternoon I will devote a bit of time to seeing what needs to go where so it will be ready for its bath.

Anyway...again, it is always good to hear from all of you. Sorry I have been missing in action for a bit, but feeling particularly swamped with all that this early warm weather has brought about. Will try to do better on keeping up with everyone.

Ruby
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

April 16, 2012
7:38 PM

Post #9085473

Here are a few pics of the updated bathroom. Most of this is reclaimed material, The biggest expense was the light bar and new ceiling fan light.
He did most of the work while I was out of town for a week and it was a big surprise for me. He repainted and added the boarder, boxed out over top of the cabinets, painted the cabinets and made 2 doors for the cabinets as well as built the counter top. That is a scrap of counter top he picked up from someones trash, the two tall cabinets were from my parents kitchen years ago . None of the wood matches so he painted them. Made the molding from reclaimed wood and the tongue and grove was scrap from a project of my sons.

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HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

April 16, 2012
7:41 PM

Post #9085481

BTW The inside of those cabinets are all clean and organized now. LOL

flowAjen

flowAjen
central, NJ
(Zone 6b)

April 16, 2012
8:26 PM

Post #9085529

Looks great!
moxies_garden
Batesburg, SC
(Zone 8a)

April 18, 2012
9:24 AM

Post #9087518

Wow...he did a super job!! Don't you just love it when free pieces can all come together and look so good? No need for a $10,000.00 bathroom remodel.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

April 19, 2012
8:23 AM

Post #9088806

Just gorgeous Holly. Yes, some fine looking work went in to that room. I love the color and feel that I wouldn't have any trouble at all soaking in a bubble bath and probably dozing off with my head on a blow up bath pillow. zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz...Love it and good going for both of you. Thank you so much for sharing the finished project with us. Gives me hope that things around here will eventually get done and it will be my turn to show some great looking photos. Don't hold your breaths waiting though...the flooring project is still in the thoughts phase. One thing at a time.

I do think that next week when I don't have the grand children for the week, I am hoping to begin the packing up of items in order to store them elsewhere while the flooring work is taking place. That has been the hold back for many months now...I haven't started packing in order for the work to begin...plus I haven't been flooring shopping yet either, but that will also take place next week. Gotta stop talking about it and do it!!!

Take care all.

Ruby
Texasgal77
Baytown, TX
(Zone 9a)

April 22, 2012
4:47 PM

Post #9093313

Hi everyone! Love the room Holly! very soothing!

We still have a few things to go thru in the garage and antique dishes to pack in the kitchen, but most everything has been gone thru, donations were picked up last week, and we have now started on preparing the house for "the market", cleaning, painting.

Glad to hear everyone is OK!
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

April 22, 2012
5:56 PM

Post #9093391

Sounds like you are making some really good progress Texasgal,
I still do more shuffling around than getting rid of but it is better. As each room gets finished stuff either gets moved into a different unfinished room or gets moved out of the house. The 2 upstairs bedrooms are taking the extra items that I haven't given up yet or need to find a spot for. They won't get touched till winter. Now it will be mostly yard work and hopefully getting the tile floor and suspended ceiling put in the utility/mud room. That job needs to be done in the summer while the wood stove is shut down and can be moved around. So far I am really enjoying using the new downstairs bedroom. It does get morning sun and more noise than the back upstairs room so we will see how it is to use this summer.
rubyw
Crozet, VA

April 23, 2012
7:43 AM

Post #9094166

So much accomplishment by so many here. Makes me feel like a slouch. I do have plans that will require much of me later on, and not too very far in the future. I have been waiting to get my houseplants outside to spend the summer before I start on my upcoming flooring project. Now, a flooring project doesn't sound too hard, does it? It is the preparation before hand that is holding me up and creating a bit of discomfort for me. I have so much that needs addressing before a new floor can be laid. What to do with all the things that are stored in closets, sitting on shelves and here, there and everywhere. It is going to take some real determination on my part to get this project under way.

Later this week I will be carpet shopping, and maybe after that part is done, I will find the motivation to start the packing up and storing of items. I like reading and seeing pictures of other folks successes. It gives me hope that soon I too can come in with some pictures of a newly completed project.

Continued good luck to both Texasgal and Holly on their on-going projects. Great work gals.

Ruby
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

April 24, 2012
2:29 AM

Post #9095453

Well, I've got a little more progress to report in my "de-cluttering" project! I've found another site, other than here on DG, where I was reading another thread about de-cluttering. The other site is called "Centsational Style." Anyway, as I was reading all these comments from everyone else, I found myself literally looking at these 2 large totes that have been sitting in the same spot since I moved in ~ pretty bad, huh? Well, after reading all these comments [Thursday night], I made a commitment to myself to sort through these totes on Saturday.

I'm happy to report that I've condensed everything from 2 totes to 1 tote. Both totes had a combination of cookbooks, craft magazines and other odds & ends. I got rid of a box that had an "old" electrical sander w/disks [from Dad]; some old Corning Ware cookery and a whole box packed with the other cookbooks and craft magazines that I didn't want. I've also got a large trash bag that I'm putting all the old magazines that I've had for years [Woman's Day, Family Circle, etc.] and once filled will go down to the recycling dumpster. I also cleared off all the stuff that was sitting on my rocking chair that will be refinished at a later date, put some of my processed film pkgs into a box [to be organized later] and cleaned off a magazine storage file that I came across. The cookbooks and craft magazines that I've decided to keep have been neatly condensed back into the clean tote.

I believe it was 'Summerkid' that gave me the suggestion on what to do with all my "old" magazines, so I have taken her suggestion to heart! Now that I've got this trash bag on my kitchen floor with the start of the "magazine disposal" project inside, I'm more motivated into going through all the magazines that I've had sitting around forever! Tuesday, I'm taking what few bags of soda cans & bottles I've got down to cash in and then back home to work on the items I need to get ready for the outside art show on the 28th. Once this art show is over & done, then I can concentrate more on my "de-cluttering" jobs. Even as I look around, I can see one area that has a bunch of magazines sitting on a chair that will need to be dealt with ~ soon. Thank goodness I kept a few of my boxes that I get when I go to Costco, I'm using those to haul all my donations to the Goodwill store. I also bought some baskets at Michaels when the 40% sale was going on. I bought a few for the hallway bathroom's space saver & another one for the computer hutch to help corral the loose items.

I haven't been on here for a few weeks due to being sick since the 10th, but now that I'm back to about 85% recovered I'm getting back into getting things done. I thought I had posted some images of my youngest granddaughter's "Princess Jasmine" costume, but didn't see them, maybe I did it on another thread on here. I'll post two here that I took with my camera while Soph was sitting inside the Princess carriage & next to the animal statues. I really like this image [carriage photo] & even the lady that was doing the professional photos said it was cute! Well, gonna sign off for now. Catch y'all later. Have a safe, happy and productive week! :)

Jennie

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rubyw
Crozet, VA

April 24, 2012
6:21 AM

Post #9095666

Jennie - The little princess is adorable. What nice shots. I am sure that the day she experienced all this will be a day that will be with her forever. How very cool that she had this opportunity. How very cool that you got to be a part of it too.

Good going on the downsizing of the totes. I became excited hearing about that success of yours. I want some of that very soon. I suppose my biggest hang up for getting any de-cluttering done currently is that I haven't yet just begun somewhere. I find myself doing as I did before the major clean I did here last year and just talking the issue to death before actually doing any thing about it. This might be the week I begin though. I might be having a friend come by tomorrow to help me start addressing some of the items I kept last year and wasn't ready at the time to get rid of. I have several ideas on how to get rid of them.

I did decide a bit ago that the several huge boxes of books that I have in my storage shed can be donated to the local thrift shop. By getting rid of the books, it will open up a bit of space out there. On Saturday my oldest son is coming to take a dresser that is stored out there and take it home for his daughter to use in her bedroom. Those two things will be a good start. Hopefully my motivation will continue and as I see space open up, I will want more and more of it.

What did you end up doing with the magazines Jennie? From time to time I will get a couple of grocery bags full of mine and have hubby drop them by the local laundromat where folks there can read them. They seem to multiply though, get rid of a some and more come in the mail. I have a hard time turning down cheap subscription rates, such a sucker it seems.

Anyway...hope that you recover 100% soon. Sorry to hear that you have been ailing. Knock on wood, been a pretty healthy year here for most. Write again when you can.

Ruby
summerkid
Rose Lodge, OR
(Zone 8b)

April 25, 2012
3:38 PM

Post #9097659

Fleur, I'm very pleased that anything I said was helpful. Going through magazines is a win=win chore, right? Because you feel virtuous about decluttering yet you get the pleasure of looking through them.

Ruby, I know from experience with you that the talking part is a necessary part of your process, but what if you took a timer & set it for 15 minutes & just tackled one decluttering project, ANY decluttering project?

JUST 15 MINUTES and then stop.

flowAjen

flowAjen
central, NJ
(Zone 6b)

April 26, 2012
8:04 AM

Post #9098486

I unsubsribed to all my mags but I still get garden gate...is it free??? I haven't paid for it, weird...
I conquered the catalog situation, as soon as the new version comes in the old one gets tossed and when I look thru the catalog and if there is nothing in there that I would buy right at that moment(can always check them out on line), that one also gets tossed.
I find such satisfaction even when I clean 1 tiny area, just makes me want to do more
rubyw
Crozet, VA

April 29, 2012
7:25 AM

Post #9102331

I hear you summer, and that is really some good advice. The next time I am tempted to yet moan and groan over undone tasks, I will try to remember this and get my behind in gear. I did purchase a timer some years ago, might have used it once, but will pull it out and have it where I can see it often, and that may work as a reminder when I am basically just piddling around, that I could use the fifteen minute deal and yes...you are correct, fifteen minutes often turns in to more and more, as Jen says. I know for myself that getting started is the major hurdle I face with just about anything.

Once again, these threads have been a good source of motivation for me. Am going to begin addressing some things very soon. I have an excuse for about two more weeks, when my houseplants go outside for the season, and then there will be no excuses for not getting started on what now, in my mind at least, seems like a very major undertaking.

I think I can, I think I can, I think I can...thanks Summer and Jen.

Ruby
summerkid
Rose Lodge, OR
(Zone 8b)

April 29, 2012
4:06 PM

Post #9102894

I live & die by my timer, Ruby.
Just think -- one day you'll no longer have big chores, just small tasks.
Because we all will get there eventually.
No more mystery rooms.
No more boxes!
HollyAnnS
Dover, PA
(Zone 6b)

April 29, 2012
9:28 PM

Post #9103345

LOL Summer, Ric is working in the Laundry/Mud room again putting in the drop ceiling and boxing in the corner utility. I keep thinking when the rooms are all finished /remodeled and the big garden beds and projects are done we will just have the daily maintenance to do. Not sure I will ever get to that point.
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

May 1, 2012
2:42 AM

Post #9105012

Howdy Everyone! Hope everyone has been doing fine, happy and productive since the last time that I had a chance to post my progress. With all the hustle & bustle of all the art shows that I've been involved in are finally over ~ one more on the horizon to come ~ now I can get back to concentrating on my home projects. The outside "art show" that I had been talking about for last few months went well & I learned a few things along the way as well! If I'm ever to do another outside art show, I'll definitely have to invest in one of those "pop-up" canopies or tents that everyone else had ~ except me! Boy, did I get some sun that day! I also will have to look into getting some "lighter" weight display racks, because the pegboard one I made was way too heavy. But I have a solution for that ~ good thing I assembled it all with screws ~ I'm going to dismantle it next week & then take the pegboard panels & 2 of the support beams to HD & have them "re-cut" the panels into 2 more pieces from each panel. Then I can re-attach everything & have 4 separate panels ~ which should be easier to handle by myself, if need be. Enough of the art show talk...

Yes, rubyw, it did feel good to downsize the totes and haul some stuff down to my Goodwill store. Only problem was when I took my stuff down there, I saw some things sitting outside that I could repurpose & use around the house. I saw a little round wood table that would make a good table in one of the bathrooms...no, I didn't buy anything that day. I had to get back home to do some more around the house. Rubyw ~ I have a large garbage bag that I started putting all my "old" magazines in to get rid of. I do mean "old" ~ I found some that were dated back in the 1990's ~ yep! have to go! I did tear out a couple of recipes that I wanted to keep to try out, but that's about it. I did find a whole collection of "McCall's" paperback cookbooks that I kept, but did get rid of quite a few that I've had for years! If I didn't use them back in the years I was married, sure don't need to keep them now! :-)

One of the totes that I emptied out, I ended up using that one to haul my smaller framed prints down to the art show in. I didn't sell any of my framed prints, which kind of disappointed me, but I did sell two 5x7 prints only of lions that I had recently taken while at the San Diego Wild Animal Safari Park. I had my 5x7 prints priced at $5 each and some lady bought 2 different ones. That was it ~ my big sale of the day! I did pass out a lot of my business cards tho, hope something will come from that! Next time I get on here, will post the images of my display table & pegboard display. Gotta scoot for now, but will check back here in a few days. Y'all have a great week!
rubyw
Crozet, VA

May 6, 2012
9:46 AM

Post #9112619

Hi Everyone - Gosh Holly, you took the words right out of my mouth as far as ever being caught up goes. I thought a year and half ago the major de-clutter I did was so great. Here I sit now, and probably could get rid of almost as much as I did then, and still have more than I need.

I have finally arrived at a point where the jabber stops and the real work begins. Later today some of my house plants will be making their way outdoors for the summer. Tomorrow I will visit the showroom of a flooring business and make a decision on what to have done here. No more idle talk...time for business. There is a lot of preparation work to be done, but I am up for it. It is now or never...this is where the buck stops.

Jennie, it can be disappointing when no one wants our wares. Keep at it though. There will eventually come a time when the sales will begin. My husband has been attending local Farmers Markets for a few years now selling garden plants and some house plants that I pot up from rootings. Yesterday was his first day to hit over a hundred dollar sales mark. Hopefully this will start a trend. You never know about folks...some times they love the work and just don't have the funds on the day of the sale, or whatever. Keep getting out there, showing the pics, ande the customers will come. They will remember you from times before and maybe between the shows they will have thought of something in particular that they will come back for.

I saw the canopy tents at Big Lots stores I believe, for a very decent price recently. John purchased one last year and yes indeed, it does make the job a lot more pleasant versus having the sun blazing down upon you.

I will be having the pleasure in a couple of weeks of visiting Holly's home for a Plant Swap that the Mid Atlantic Gardeners here at Dave's have at least twice a year. I attended one a few years back at her place, and can attest that some major work has been done and is still being done on their lovely home and gardens. They have created a haven there and it is a lovely place to visit and I am sure they love living there. Both she and her husband Ric are real go getters in terms of thinking of a project and seeing it through. I want to be just like them when I grow up. hahaha

Anyway...you folks all have a good week. I am hankering to get outside and play in the dirt, but the rain for the last two days has prevented it and all I would find out there is mud, which I am gonna pass on this time. Take good care all.

Ruby
Texasgal77
Baytown, TX
(Zone 9a)

May 19, 2012
10:11 PM

Post #9130155

Thanks for the congrats...the house is now on the market! YEA! It looks so different, hopefully some loving person will come along and fall in love with it. We've been getting really good hits online on the MLS listing, so hopefully they will go see it as well. Please pray it sells soon. We need a miracle...another one...

We had a family emergency...with my sister in ICU last weekend...you can read the details on the prayer forum. She is now out of ICU and in a room, but still has alot of healing to do. All of my focus has been on her for the past week.
My baby sister was able to come in from Indiana to be with us during this time, so it has been a healing time for all of us! Please keep all of us in your prayers!

Sounds like everyone is doing such a good job on their projects! Great job girls! Keep it up!

My garden looks great, my home, not so much...but then that's another project for another day...!

Jeanne
rubyw
Crozet, VA

May 20, 2012
5:39 PM

Post #9131056

Thanks for checking in Texasgal. So very sorry to hear about your sister being ill. It is a positive thing to hear that she is now out of ICU though. May she continue to do well.

Yeah, my projects are sitting and waiting for me to get around to them. This past weekend was filled with traveling and lots of activities, so nothing on the home front got done. Attended an out of town plant swap yesterday and now have loads and loads of new plants to tend to. Was busy at a family reunion most of today, so no house work or gardening was done. Hopefully the weather will cooperate this week and I can get some of the new plants in the ground.

Here is wishing everyone a good week coming up. Take care all.

Ruby
Texasgal77
Baytown, TX
(Zone 9a)

May 20, 2012
7:23 PM

Post #9131215

Thanks! I am so glad you had such a good weekend and good time at the town plant swap! Sounds like great fun!

We had a setback. The hospital called this morning early and said her status had changed in the night, they were not ruling out a stroke and she was being moved back to ICU.

Her speech has been severely affected, I can hardly understand a word she says. Her left side of her face twitches, and her left hand trembles. Whatever the episode is, it has happened about six times during the course of the day. Fortunately she is right handed and can write notes. She is very upset that she cannot speak. I have assurred her that everything is going to be alright.

The CAT scan showed no bleeding. They were supposed to do an MRI but still had not come to get her at eight pm.

She has a swallowing test tomorrow. We are back to day to day.

One DR thinks it may be a reaction to medication and that it will just go away...which would be wonderful.

Please continue to pray!

Thanks so very much!
Jeanne
rubyw
Crozet, VA

May 22, 2012
1:03 PM

Post #9133760

Dear Jeanne, I am so sorry to hear about he set back with your sister. I know that it is weighing heavy on you. I am hoping that the doctor is correct about it being a reaction to medication and a possibility of it correcting itself. Medicines are scary!!! I was astounded to learn some years ago that the fifth leading cause of death in the United States is medical or medicine error. Gives a person a lot to think about. I do take a lot of medication, but have been fortunate to have not experienced any damaging affects that I know of anyway.

Yes maam, a prayer for swift and complete healing coming your way for your sister. Keep the faith. Thanks for sharing this here. Please continue to update her progress. I will keep you close in my mind and heart today. God Bless Jeanne.

Ruby
Fleur_2011
Yucaipa, CA
(Zone 10a)

May 25, 2012
1:53 AM

Post #9137667

Hi again y'all! Is it just me or has anyone else noticed the "big" gaps of space in some of the comments posted above? All you see in some of these posts are the greeting part and the very tail end where the poster signs off...then a whole lot of "NOTHING!"

Won't go into a lot now, as I've got to finish doing something else b/4 hitting the sack [it's now 1:45am Cali time]. The next time I get on the computer, I'll be posting some pics of the area underneath my kitchen sink that I finally finished with all the plywood & sticky tiles. I have enough left over that I can do some of the drawers.

I'll be tackling the painting of the lower cabinets near the floor next, so won't be putting the things back that belong under there until I get the painting done. Why... you ask? Well, cos I have some kitties that are extremely nosy and since I have to have the cabinet doors off when I paint ... it's like an open invitation to them to play around in there. I'll be posting a pic of the area that is covered with the sticky tiles with my next post.

Y'all have a good weekend! :)
rubyw
Crozet, VA

May 25, 2012
5:19 AM

Post #9137750

Thanks for checking in Jennie. I hope that you have a great weekend too. Does anyone know how to start a part two to this thread? I haven't learned that trick yet, but see that this is getting pretty long and may use a part two. Thanks for any help with this.

Yes indeed, happy long weekend to all. Be safe and enjoy.

Ruby

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flowAjen
central, NJ
(Zone 6b)

May 25, 2012
8:34 AM

Post #9137990

here ya go
new thread
http://davesgarden.com/community/forums/t/1260808/

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