Abbisgranma (Marion) has asked me to relay this message that she won't be able to meet the deadline of a "winter swap block" as there are urgent family matters that demand her attention.
She apologize in advance for this, and I have assured her that the ladies here would understand.
I tried looking for the particular group she's referring to... but I got lost through the threads!
Thank you Barb. She certainly will need all the prayers sent her way.
If you're aware of the swap she's talking of, can you please let the organizer know?
This is what she said:
"We need prayers big time for here!! Mom started coughing up blood Tuesday evening and was rushed to the hospital. She lost about 1/2 cup which is not what she needs at the time; down to 82 pounds and running a fever. She has been put on a stronger antiboitic for the pneumonia and is now in isolation as the are making sure she hasn't contracted TB at the nursing home. We are all on standby until the results of the testing comes back. Sad to say, it must be considered as her aid is Haitian and does make frequent trips back and forth. He may not have it but could be a carrier so in the meantime, testing are being done. They have not been able to stop the bleeding, she is alert but oh so weak.
I am here waiting until we know more information and how things develop over the next few days. "
"Mom hasn't lost any ground today nor has she gained any. She is getting morphine every 4 hours as directed by the doctor now. It helps with her breathing and actually allows her to get some rest. I did forget to mention I think---she has a broken rib which is adding to the mixture. No clue when or how this happened. Atleast today she hadn't coughed any more blood and we are hoping and praying it continues this way."
Marion, my heart goes out to you and your Mom. Life is so hard at times. There are no words that can make this easier to bear. Just know that you will be able to smile and find joy again. Been there. I know.
"Things are not any better, in fact, not a very good report today. She is unable to bring up anything, they did say she has mucus that she is unable to expel. A doctor told her nurse today that she is trying to leave us. The skin test for TB is negative but the infectous disease doctor said we have to wait until the blood test comes back before we can stop wearing all the "grab". They are keeping her comfortable with the morphine. Today she wasn't interested in eating very much and it was difficult to drink with a straw. What will be, will be it is out of our hands. Sue and I just pray she is not in any serious pain and can go peacefully if it is time. They did do a chest xray today so we should have a better understanding how the pneumonia is doing.
Yes, there are many things that could have caused the broken rib. Unfortunately they are unable to tell us how old the break is so we are just very careful with her.
Thanks for all the thoughts and prayers to all here during this time. We certainly need them."
Oh Marion, I'm sorry that the news is so discouraging, right now. :( The morphine is probably what's keeping her appetite dulled, but at least she is not in pain. I hope that she will have some lucid moments with you first, if this is indeed her time to go. May our good God keep you and strengthen you and give you His peace. Sending a hug and prayers for you all.
I have returned home for a while and I thank each and everyone of you for your thoughts and prayers. I will never be able to express how much you taking the time to post has helped. My son had been out of state working when the latest happened with his grandmother. When he returned from his job requirements he came to see her and I came back with him.
Before Mom was sent back to the nursing home, she had to undergo a scope of her lung. Actually they "cleansed" the lung and took cultures to send off for more information. We were told she has bronchitis, pneumonia and the lung has liaisons (no cancer) and a cavity caused by acid reflux. She was moved back to the nursing facility when she stabilized from the procedure. She is extremely weak, sleeps more now and her appetite has decreased a great deal.
After many questions and discussions, it was suggested I come home to take care of some issues here...the fact our a/c - heat unit chose this time to die!!! The Hospice rep. said if there was any change they would call me direct rather than going through my sister. So I am trying to get some things done for a small family holiday before returning to stay an extended length of time with my sister.
Again, thank each of you for your kind thoughts and prayers. A wonderful holiday to all and take time to hold those who are so dear and precious to you just a little closer!!!
Glad to hear your back home, even for a short time, and your Mom is back in the nursing home! ! We will continue prayers for your Mom and you traveling back and forth! Get some rest, and hope you get your A/C - heater working soon!
Heater is fixed--yet again. I was really worried this time as my unit is 37 year old and living on borrowed time in my opinion. $60.00 and back in business--just don't make them like they used to anymore. The caps that cover wires, wire nutsI think they are called, cracked thus shutting down the unit--replaced with something other than plastic this time.
Talking of AC - the old one was fine, but old - DH decided to take advantage of some of the rebates last year as we were staying here as perm residence.
The new one already had motor problems a couple of weeks ago. Wouldn't shut off. Of course it has warranty.
It was hot here then I shut it off manually, put it back on this went on all night until repair came.
I think that is why busineses like to hire older people - dependable. HD
Oh Mittsy, not you too with the a/c heat unit. Thankfully I "slipped" by again with mine but I am sure the day is coming. Good thing it was repaired yesterday as today it is chilly, overcast and on the miserable side.
I must remember to switch mine over to "heat" tomorrow. Meant to do that last weekend & forgot.
See it's to be overcast with 50% chance of rain tomorrow. Well, planned to be working inside so that's OK.
Our gas furance has not worked in 9 months. It needs an expensive computer board and we haven't had the money during the times when DH had the physical ability to get it done. Thank goodness for our good gas fireplace. It's been down to 12. We have to augment with space heaters occassionally.
You have been on my mind and in my thoughts this past month, Marion. I know how difficult it is to try and take care of a family member when you don't live in the same town. I really hope my kids don't have to go through that with me.
I lost the wife of the couple who share the condo with me here at the Center right after Thanksgiving. She had a stroke this summer and just seemed to go down hill from here. I will miss her as she was so nice and welcoming when I first moved in.
I sometimes feel that life is definitely "lived from breath to breath" and we never know how many breaths we have. Let us hope that your mother is able to live and die as she would want, in her own time and in her own way.
enjoy the little things about the Holiday; the lights, the kids and being with family.
How nice to hear from you Janice. You have been missed. And you are so right about living for today. I want to laugh as long as I can...
None of us knows what tomorrow will bring so Norm and I are going to spend their inheiritance now!!!!