During my mother's last two years and now after her passing, a time of intense emotional upheaval for me, I found myself drawn to gardening for the first time in my life. I used to return home from upsetting nursing home visits, grab a shovel and start digging. Many times I laughed as I told family and friends that I was weathering the emotional stress fairly well, but the yard was full of holes.
There is really something to all that you've said, BEV -- at least for me. Having multiple allergies and other health issues has made it challenging, to say the least. But my little gardens, which will never win awards of any kind, have been the best stage for my grieving process to play out.
OK, you made me cry! We have very similar experiences with our mothers passing. The nursing home visits destroyed me mentally and physically. I have hay fever once a year (when itís hay-cutting time), but Iíll don a bandana, or stuff tissues in my pockets, and shovel away until my hands hurt. My condolences for the loss of your mother, but we can both look out into our yards now to see and remember them everywhere.
Thank you so much for reading and posting your experiences.