You are right. For one thing, you are thinking of something else, not your pain or sorrow. Then throw in a few cats who won' leave you alone: I want food, my boxes are soiled, I want in, I want out. They refuse to give you time to focus on yourself. I also lost my father after 3 years of illness and I was his sole caregiver during that time. If it had not been for little breaks in the garden and my cats, I do not think I would have made it. As it is, it was a year before I realized that I was depressed. Then I gave myself a lecture and built a rock wall, fell and broke 2 ribs, got up and planted some more flowers. Of course, It was God who gave me all these distractions to help me through it. Then there were the wild birds and other wildlife around my home. Living in the woods really helped. For sure, wthout Him to lean on when I weakened, it woul have been very hard in deed.
My heart goes out to you for all that you have gone through! The garden (nature) really does help those of us that have access. I'm so glad you had your faith and pets to help you through your time of grief, too. Sometimes critters are the only ones to take the time to console us (just the right way), even if it is through distraction.
Thank you so much for reading and posting your story,