That last resolution about enjoying the garden more and spending more time looking rather than working is more achievable if gardeners use plants that are more low maintenance. I have a bed of lantanas on the south side of my house. Currently I have a cultivar that produces mass amounts of seeds and requires deadheading in order to keep producing the maximum amount of flowers throughout the summer and keep the branches from drooping to the ground under the weight of the seed heads. This Spring I am replacing all of my lantana plants with the sterile cultivar, "Miss Huff." That will be one less group of plants I will have to mess with and more time that I will have looking at my garden and spending time with my family.
Below is a link to a photo of the lantanas I will be replacing. I will probably have to increase the size of the flower bed, but a little extra labor now will save me a lot of time later. http://www.flickr.com/photos/27657351@N07/7183882933/