I am not a hoarder and I am not a minimalist. I am somewhere in between. I would guess if you are on this forum, you are too. I have realized I have waaaayyyy too much "stuff" and am going through and getting rid of as much as I can. I have also found that after I go through a room, if I go back to it a few weeks later, I get rid of more on the next round.
Anyway, I came across this article today and it struck a chord with me on a couple points. Maybe it will do the same for you, so I thought I would share. I have a small part of #1 problem. I over came #2 completely but am still working on the #3 & #4 ones. I think that comes from being on the poorer side of life for as far back as I can remember. That's a long time to retrain the brain, but I am working on it. I think the article makes some good points about these things.
One point is simialr to what I said in another post here. I realized the same thing, and that's the importance of "taking control of your home instead of being subordinate to your possessions". That was my "ah-ha!" moment a few years ago and has made it easier to let go of many things I was holding on to. Oh I don't have the war won, it's one battle at a time.
Dear Debbie - Thank you so much for providing this link. I just read the article and see myself being guilty of all of the above too. It is very appropriate that I found and read this article today as in a bit I plan to start working on packing up my china cabinets in order to begin a whole house paint project before too very long. I come from a family who spent many of my growing up years collecting old glassware. When my parents died there was so much glassware to be distributed between seven people and still enough left to send to auction with some of their other things that none of the family wanted. Gosh, haven't really given it any thought before but I would guess that the majority of the pieces in my cabinets came from my parents rather than being something that I loved and purchased.
I know there are some pieces that I enjoy displaying, some of the larger pieces. I am sure that I am going to find things that I can easily live without though. This being the second time in less than a year that I have packed and unpacked all these items, due to having updates done to the house...carpeting installed and the paint job to come leaves me feeling that these items are now fitting in to a category of almost being more trouble than they are worth.
I have had some major mind set changes due to the reading I have been doing about clutter for some months now. I have to take what the professionals are saying and begin acting on it in order for my surroundings to come to a point where I am much more satisfied than I am currently. I want new paint, plus I want less things on my wall. I have jokingly called all the many things I have hanging on walls and other spaces as wall jewelry. That was okay for a while, but what catches my eye mainly these days are minimally decorated homes.
I know that two year ago when doing a major de-clutter that almost each day as more and more things were gone from here, the lighter the house seemed to feel. I cannot explain it, but that is the feeling I want from my environment for now. I will admit to having a cleaning lady who comes, used to be weekly and now is bi-weekly and she is the one who mainly deals with the dust catchers, of which there are many. I have often thought that if it were left to me to do the dusting, I wouldn't have half as many dust catchers sitting around. I am finally going to give her a break by getting rid of a lot of things that are currently serving as decor. It will make her job a lot easier, and heck, maybe she can begin only coming once a month or so. There will be many advantages to lessening my load.
Again, thanks for the link to this article Debbie. I see at the bottom of the page there is another article I plan to read about making a home vision. I need to get on paper in order to see it, what I want my house to become very soon. Happy decluttering.
Once again you hit the nail on the head. Yes I do understand the lighter feeling. As I get rid of things around here it can literally be exciting. If you haven't been there you wouldn't understand. Just like the Harley Davidson saying "If I have to explain, you wouldn't understand" - which is also true. LOL
I use to collect a lot of things, but in truth what I found I collected most was dust. Like you I'm not able to always do that stuff anymore. It gets it when I can and that's the best it gets.
Anyway, the link I sent to Houzz has a place where you can sign up for weekly emails. They don't share your email with others, you get an email each week with several articles from de-cluttering, to design ideas, to trash to treasure to archtectural designs. It often has some interesting articles you can read and then just delete. You might want to condsider signing up for the emails. I did and have enjoyed them.
Hi again Debbie - How funny...when I saw the origination of the article...Houzz...I remembered that I already receive an email from them but haven't really taken the time to read any that have come. In the past month or so I have been looking at a lot of decorating sites. Always good to have some vision of what we want to accomplish.
We awoke to about fifteen inches of snow this morning and it is still coming down. When I awoke and while sitting smoking a cigarette I looked around and in the much brighter light than usual, was quite fond of the way the blue walls look. Since having a light brown carpeting installed last summer the tone of the walls seems much darker usually and I am planning to have some painting done soon with a lighter color. Gosh, if we had the bright lighting from over a foot of snow each day I could stay with the current color.
I plan to read the article mentioned at the bottom of the one you linked to and see what they have to say about writing down a home vision. I believe that will be a way for me to hone in on some of the areas I need to concentrate on once the work of painting and semi-remodeling starts. I can see in my mind already, but need to have it in black and white to refer to and possible add to as ideas come.
Anyway...I am having fun and really appreciate that you are on the same wave length currently that I am. It is more fun to have someone to compare notes with. I hope this winter storm passes you by. Right at the moment the wind is howling something fierce. The newly fallen snow is pretty but what an inconvenience in so many things..
Take care and please stay in touch. I want to hear about any of your accomplishments. If things work out later today I hope to start packing up contents of china cabinets in order for the furnishings to be moved easier when the actual painting project begins...some time down the road.
Yes lighting will make or break a room. I have heard designers say (and I agree) that the lighting of a room is the most important and first consideration to make.
I figure I will be in a dark hole soon enough so let me have light! I have all my walls painted white. Some people laugh or are disgusted at that thought and say they'd never have white because it's like an apartment. Whatever...to each his own. That's why there is chocolate, strawberry and vanilla. LOL I like it for the light aspect, but another reason I did this is to be able to change decor very easily...and cheap.
When I bought this house (by myself) on my list of must haves, was hardwood floors. That was in 1989 when I was recuperating from being hit with a tractor-trailer that nearly killed me. At that time I had already had surgery on both knees so priority #1 was it had to be a ranch - no steps. I already had spinal problems as well as hip and shoulders, so hardwood floors was also a priority. I didn't want carpet to vacuum and shampoo that would only collect more dirt and dust when I was unable to do that work. Running a dust mop is so much easier. (Oh I still have pain because the herniated discs in my lumbar make that motion painful - but can you imagine a vacuum and carpet with that? Not me.
Anyway - decor was the topic...so I have white walls and hardwood floors. I can change a bedroom's decor in no time by changing the bedspread or comforter set and drapes. Sure some key pieces on the dresser or night stands of color work too. Quick, fairly cheap to do because I buy new bedding sets when they are discontinued, or marked way down. So I re-do a complete bedroom for less than $100.
If I stay with a neutral color for the sofa I can do the same in the living room and den - drapes, throw pillows, (a rug if I wanted but I don't because it would need vaccumed and I don't want the dust collector it is) and a few key accent pieces of color to pop the room - ta-da done - and a whole new look - cheap because I bought it on clearance sale. (I never pay full price for anything, not even groceries.)
After my two major car accidents (neither my fault!) and all the family health issues that fell to me starting about the same time, I fell into a depression and dark rooms would make it worse. (I have one room that has dark paneling and to this day I seldom go in there unless I have lots of lights on - just too depressing) I have also found that as I grow older I want more light than ever. I still have 20/20 vision, drive and see well at night, but I just get depressed in a darker room. Been down that hole before and I am not going back. So I keep things light.
The clutter became an issue when my problems along with the family's started. I went into that well of depression and have clawed my way back out. So along with the light colors I need airy too. Clutter is not airy!! As I de-clutter rooms I do FEEL lighter as well as the room BEING lighter and I see the difference in both ways. I will be at it for a long time. There is much to go through and get rid of. But I do what I can, when I am able and I can see some differences. Each time I do de-clutter something, I want more gone and it is encouraging in itself.
So I would suggest to you that you consider your lighting carefully but whatever you do about painting, if you don't want white then pick a light color. If you want to be able to transform a room easy and cheap, stay neutral. Your light brown carpet is neutral, so perhaps an off white to a very light beige? Then you too can change the appearance of you room very easily - so many colors look great with the brown/beige neutrality, too. You can change drapes. toss pillows accent pieces and have a new look. Orange goes great. I personally like turquiose with browns. I have even seen a lime green with browns...or maybe a sunshine yellow. Oh and I know this means buying junk - but, if you need a pop of color in a corner of that room and it's a color you don't have a treasured "keeper" in - then pick up a clear vase of whatever size you need at Goodwill or similar. Also pick up a cheap bottle of craft paint in the color you want. You've spent $2-3 so far, big deal. Wash the glass and make sure the sticky is gone from the price tag - use Goo Gone or alcohol. Now when you are ready to paint, wash the glass with rubbing alcohol inside. (you paint the inside so the outside gives a shiney finish and it looks like it was made that way) Drain well and allow to throroughly dry. Take the craft paint and paint the inside of the vase with the color or you can squirt one shade and roll it around and then another shade and roll it around to get a marbled effect. If you do that, don't roll it too much or you'll loose the marbling and mix the paint shades. (let dry between shades if you want harder lines between them, just let it run down the side, dry a little and move to the next shade). It's fun and you can really get creative for cheap! The other great thing is - there's not much cost involved so when you're tired of it - donate it and you don't feel bad giving away something you paid a lot for. See - I know that guilt trip well too ;-)
Wow, you're snow sounds pretty to look at, but it is also painful. We lucked out because although we were supposed to get snow, there was another storm blowing in off the ocean and it hit the cold air front just NW of us warming it and changing it all to rain here. That's painful too but I had to be out driving DH to a doctor and then prescriptions to fill, plus grab a couple things at the store. So I'm glad it was not snow. It was cold, very windy and we had gusts over 50 mph that made the rain go sideways. But hey, it's sunny today and this weekend we are supposed to have temperatures in the high 50's maybe it 60.
Good to hear from you and know we are encouraging each other!
Great article, Don't think that #4 is an issue for me. Don't have a lot of things that I spent a lot of $$ on that I want to get rid of. I really don't have a lot of expensive stuff in the house. What I do have is several things from when we decorated the living room in a southwest style that I just don't know what to do with. I liked them then and still like them now I just don't see where or when I would use them again, but I can't seem to get rid of them. I am sure that as soon as they are gone I will think of someplace or way to use them. LOL
Welcome Holly...always great to see you. See, if I were you, I would feel as though the house decor was done...Debbie, I have visited Holly's home twice in the past at Plant Swaps she has hosted. I love her place and she and her hubby Ric have made it in to such a welcoming place. They seem to have ideas and then do the blood, sweat and tears necessary for their idea to come to fruition, so their place has all sorts of neat and completed projects.
Completed projects being the name of the game...there are so many undone things at our home. We have a stone walkway that hubby was all gung ho about getting done and then life interfered, and it has now sat for about two years incomplete...dang it... he has promised to address its completion this summer. We will see.
I am at a point with my decluttering project currently in that when I was sending my "keep" bins out to the shed, John packed them in front of bins that I still need to go through in order to see what can leave the premises. Until I can get out there on a fairly warm and dry day, I am pretty much finished with the house and wanted to work on storage shed items and am unable to do that currently. A girl friend has told me she would come some weekend and help me go through the bins in order to see which ones I still need to do something with.
I do want to pat myself on the shoulder and announce that in the past two months I have sent a lot of stuff away for donation to an organization who will come here and pick up the items. They were here yesterday in fact. i find it rather interesting to go through the packed up bins and see and remember what I must have been thinking when packing up the items originally. I am finding a lot of things that I don't recall ever owning...how does that happen? Anyway...lots is going away.
Holly, I feel for you about the southwest items. I too am guilty of holding on to certain things. Heck, pack it away and try to remember where you packed it...if you loved it once, you will love it again and may want in the future to display the things again. i know that I have recently found some things that I am using again after them being stored for a while.
Debbie, you sound like a lost lost twin of mine. You seem to have taken the injustices that life has thrown your way and done the soul searching required in order to deal with them and come out a victor versus a victim. You have definitely had more than your fair share of ills come your way, but I detect no sense of self pity or oh woe is me...you are like me and take it as being a part of life to be dealt with, the best we can. I know that lesser willed folks would have been done in by some of the issues I have faced and survived during my life time.
To have Dave's Garden to come to and be surrounded by like minded people has certainly been one of my greatest joys of the past ten or so years. I can come here and forget the issues I am dealing with and read and write about gardening which I love and home decorating or house keeping, which I like to hear about too. I have developed some very great friendships here and feel very blessed to have found this web site when I did.
You two ladies have a good weekend. I have a long list of to do's but nothing really pushing, so am going to take it easier a bit longer before getting in to any thing too brain or body taxing. Heck, may spend the afternoon sitting right here with good coffee being served whenever needed. Happy Day to all.
I must admit when all the things that happened in my life, my car accidents, my entire family's health issues, and so on was going on, there was a period of "woe is me" . I think this was the biggest contributor to my depression. That, and the fact that the load is non-stop, even to this day. But when I hit the bottom of that well and could see no daylight I had no choice but to do something. I don't mean to preach here, but Jesus said;
Matthew 11:28–30 (ESV)
28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
I had forgotten I had help, if I but asked. I did and it was not a thunder crack miracle, but I had help climbing out of the hole. I worked at it every day, every hour, sometimes every minute to keep from slipping back down into the well. At the same time I had Jesus to talk to and ask for help and guidance. Sometimes at our darkest hours we find the faith within us. As you know, I still deal with much of my own problems and every member of my family has needs I have to deal with or take care of, but my faith keeps me going. Sure, I break down and cry about it now and then, but I get back up and say - nope not going down that hole again because I know I don't have to. Yesterday I had a couple crying spells, but not over a "woe is me" mindframe, it was due to pain and no pain killer was touching it. Today is sunny, 63 degrees and DH and I spent about 45 minutes walking up and down our driveway talking, enjoying the day and listening to birdsong. He hasn't been able to do that in almost 4 years. (It'll be 4 years on 3/12). Today was a gift. I haven't had to take one pain killer today and it was a blessing. So I try to keep things like this in mind. No matter what today is, tomorrow is a new day. I once read -
Don't worry about yesterday - it's gone.
Don't worry about tomorrow - it's not here yet
Live TODAY - it's a gift, that's why it's called "the present"
I think that is a good way to deal with a lot of things.
Once again, you and I chose the same path of recovery. I often think what I would be today if I didn't have faith and believe in a Lord who loved me personally and was concerned about, even the hair upon my head. I was big in to scriptures during my worst of times too and found much comfort in them...still do today but don't study as I once did. I am often confounded by folks who claim to not believe in a higher power. I wonder how they face trials all alone. I know that I am too weak upon my own to do much of anything, but knowing I have backing makes any struggle bearable.
Great for hubby being able to stroll yesterday. That is great news. Let's hope it keeps up and that the future is brighter for both he and thee. hahaha
I finally got to bed earlier last evening and slept not as late this morning and feel almost human. For about a week I was awakening really late morning and feeling as if most of my day was gone. This is much more to my preference. I need to finish taxes this afternoon and some other paper work and then can focus on more fun stuff. I had a great time on Pinterest last evening and found some great decor ideas. Can't wait till finally having the time to try some of the things that I am saving for later. I have tried some new recipes from there and some handy dandy household tips, but nothing in the decorating or crafts area which will be fun for me. I need to make more time for fun...
Thank you for the wishes. They changed his pain medication and in the process although they started a new one, they are decreasing the others so it is weaning him off the heavy stuff. It has been 6 months since his surgery, but he has at least another 6 -9 months before the fusion has grown new bone completely. It is filling in well, but it takes time.
I haven't had time to even go to Pinterest yet. I get on the computer a few minutes at a time when my back is screaming and I have to sit down. LOL I would like to spend time there and so it's not today. I have another full week of running; this time for my brother. He has several appointments to go to involving getting a new wheelchair. We're supposed to get hard rain on Tuesday so I am sure I will be miserable the day before when the air changes, and Tuesday too. I have to take him to an appointment on Monday but thankfully nothing is scheduled for rain day.
I might get a chance to go there then - it depends on what my back will allow. Anyway, just wanted you to know when I do I will figure it out and "follow you" there so you get your rating. I'll let you know when that happens. Til then...
Dear Debbie - I can truly identify with having lots to do and trying to fit in "me" time. I could spend all day on the computer but have other things that I need to do, so take breaks, same as yourself in between jobs and then enjoy looking around pinterest...Please don't feel obligated to go there...just a suggestion for times when you don't have much going on and want to see some pretty pictures or find some great tips for saving money or new crafty types of things. I know that I will never use or do all the tips and tricks I have saved, but at least have a place to go looking for ideas for things as they enter my itsy bitsy mind and what is left of it. hahaha
I am a proud monkey to say that I finally finished preparing our taxes yesterday and got them e-filed. That is a weight off my shoulders for sure. My house is currently a wreck...so bad that I called cleaning lady last evening and told her not to come today because I had too much going on. I have so many things out of order that need to be put away or put somewhere else, that I didn't want her here having to try and work around things. Hopefully I can catch up on that now and she can come and help clean later on.
I hope that you find some time to regroup or recover from all that you are involved in doing this week. You know that we are the best for others, if we are at our best and it is up to us to take care of ourselves first and foremost. A story on that and then I will close...I was hospitalized some years ago when my two boys were much youngers...ages about three and probably age twelve for the older one. The hospital stay was going by day by day and after several days I began complaining that I needed to be at home caring for my boys...a very wise nurse called in a female Chaplain to speak with me. What the Chaplain told me and has stuck with me to this day is that I didn't do what was necessary to take care of myself first and foremost, I was of no good for my loved ones. What I took that to mean was that it was up to me to some times maybe look very selfish with my actions such as not doing something or the other in order to have more energy later. If I am worn out and ill, I am of no use to anyone. If I do the things necessary to keep myself at my best, everyone gains...So, you please remember to take the time to recharge after all your efforts extended for everyone else. It is often hard for us women to do that and need to be reminded...Find some ways to renew and refresh your mind body and soul today...it will go a long way...take good care.
Great job on the taxes. You go girl!!! I haven't done ours yet, but I have the paperwork together. Does that count for something? LOL
You are so right that you have to take care of yourself. I try and I am getting better, but still, it seems too much for too many falls on me. My SIL is allowed to drive again and is returning to work. That should lighten the load a little. She still has to work and some appointments for my brother and niece I may still have to do, but at least her's; she can drive to. As for DH, they added another pain killer but it is actually helping him to decrease the ones he has been on since he was injured 3/12/09. As his latest double spinal fusion heals, he hopes to continue with the step downs in those meds and be allowed to drive again. That will again ease my load and he can drive himself to places - or even run errands for me. So time should help me regain myself eventually.
No I don't feel obligated but I would like to. I wrote on another post you may not have seen yet, but I did go to Pinterest and wow - you're right some awesome stuff there. I tried to follow you as you asked. I put in Ruby Seale Watts but it had no matches. I then put in Ruby Watts and it found 5-6 but I don't know which one is you. Please let me know and I will follow you for sure.
wow. i just wrote FOUR paragraphs, pouring my heart out, giving my history, sharing my inspiration, and committing to decluttering, and poof. my computer had a problem with a picture i was going to share and all that dispeared. i'm so bummed.
thanks for sharing. i can definitely identify with 1 thru 3, my hubby is guilty mostly of 4
i've done this before, and loved it. was so liberating.
history: ugly divorce, mom died. she was a hoarder. in 30 days i had to go thru her house, and ended up with a U-Haul full of stuff that has been in storage since Aug. 1 2005--and yes, i've been paying for that storage. i don't even remember where the key is now. ugh. a lot of my stuff is in that storage building too.
my now husband already had a houseful, or house & a half. his ex-wife didn't want any reminders of his deceased wife, so a lot of that stuff was in the big storage building on our property here* ~ along with one son's belongings (which are now gone, thankfully). his mom moved in Jul 2005, so ALL her crap from a house she had in Metairie came with her. we STILL have some of her crap here, although i was the bad guy for insisting when his sister moved her to FW, she take it all with her. his mom tortured me emotionally, until she had a stroke in 2008, two days before our marriage (yes... that's right. two days).
hubby: borderline hoarder, but see #4. he spends good money on the things he buys, but fails to take proper care of them. this drives me insane. boats, motorcycles, tractors, you name it. he has a huge movie collection (which i never understood, but no matter), now only DVDs. bless his heart, he still thinks he has a collection of movies on VHS "somewhere around here" ~ he hasn't even missed them since i took FIVE HUGE BOXES to be donated TWO YEARS ago.
* our storage shed. ugh. my stuff, his stuff, his mom's stuff, his dead wife's stuff. FOUR motorcycles (and all the stuff that goes with them), two bicycles, washer, dryer, bed, weight bench, fishing tackle, Christmas decorations. i swear i walk in the front door to get something... about faint, and walk out again. it's WAY too overwhelming.
inspiration: my BFF is having to get her house ready to go on the market because they are relocating in TWO MONTHS. no, less than 2 months. she and i were on a decluttering mission for 2013 anyway, so she's got a huge headstart. plus she has two girls who help her clean house who are going to help her with this project too. she lives in AL, so 3 states away. i have to work too, so i can't go help her. wish i could.
what she & i had been doing is taking pictures of our "areas of concern" just before we tackled them, then sent a "ta da!" picture after. that was cool and fun, and definitely inspiring!!
ok, having said that... i'm working on hubby to realize how ridiculous this all is. a LOT of the inside crap is mine. period. i have a problem with paper. i don't know what to keep and what to throw away ("might be important. i better keep it.") ~ what i plan to do is SCAN what i think i might need, and that project will grow old and i'll be able to toss it. my office is the worst place right now.
hubby has just informed me that he wants to turn Dee's armoir (that, by the way, does not fit in with our SW decor at all) into a gun safe. sigh. that means i have to find a home for all this crap inside it (half his clothes, half my crap) ~ see pic #1
i am not a hoarder like my mother... my base philosophy is "less is more" and i truly love the feeling of less crap. but here is another project (notice it's a closet. with a door. in a room that no one sees. with a door). most of it is leftover stuff of his mom's; some is mine, but i have no problem disposing of it ~ pic #2
and then my liberated linen closet - whoohoo!! ~ pic #3
done for now... bbl
(i've been unable to sleep since 3am and have to leave for work at 7am... i'm going to be exhausted. i could lay down now, but the alarm goes off at 6am)
thanks for listening ;-)
Cajun2, LOL just loved your post and I feel your frustration. It is sure hard to get rid of things you keep thinking maybe you will use it (even if you haven't in the last 5 years). Great start with the Linen Closet.
Cajun2 - I can sympathize dear girl. I could literally feel the weight of your problems as I read along. And yes, it was becoming suffocating just thinking about it. If I were nearby, I would help you when I could.
I have some very similar things going on in my life too. The answers are different for each person, but I have found a few things that have helped me to at least get started. Don't get me wrong. By no means do I have a "neat as a pin" house at all. Once upon a time I used to be the "a place for everything, and everything in it's place" type, until major family health issues started, one family member after another, including myself. Then it just didn't get done beyond the absolute necessary things. Years later I found myself like you... too much crap, in every corner, of every room, in my house. It was overwhelming and although I wanted/needed to get it done, my depression from so many things, plus physical limitations kept me from starting, causing more depression, keeping me from starting... and so on...
What I did was try to break things down into little achievable bites. Trying to NOT look at the whole picture is not easy, but it is a necessity. We all have big goals but you need some smaller goals that you achieve to keep you motivated. The house is waaaaayyyyy too much, rooms can be too much, so start with just one small thing. Look at how great you linen closet turned out!!! Yahoo!!
You can pick a table top. Clean it off completely and then move on to the next spot when you can. I have also found working myself to death on it only defeated the purpose because I didn't want to start again. So I keep it in small bites. For me, I wanted to clear and clean what could be seen. I did go through the closets and dresser drawers when I cleaned the bedroom but that was to find unused items to donate and make room to put away the clean clothes. My kitchen cabinets and drawers all need to be gone through and I will do so eventually, but for now the kitchen is clean and all work surfaces are clear. This is my plan to work my way through the entire house, a corner at a time, then a room, then the next one. I am about 3/4 through the house in this manner. Once done, I will go back and clean out the drawers/cabinets etc and likely cull more unwanted things I thought I wanted to keep too. I am finding the more I clean the more I want gone, so yeah some of what I have already cleared/cleaned out will be decluttered even more.
Oh and that is something else I found too. When I first started, I would clean here and then find something that needed to be put elsewhere. That's fine because it needs to be put where it belongs, but I'd find myself in another room doing something then another... That didn't work for me because I saw no progress with a little here, a little there. But when I started to concentrate in one room only, it didn't take long to start to show and then I wanted more done. If I were able and didn't have as many responsibilities with taking care of so many family memebers I would have it done. But I continue to clear and clean as time and my physical ability allows me to do so. You just have to juggle your obligations and time and try to do something everyday. Each day might not be lots done but if you keep chipping away at the mountain, it will be a mole hill and then gone. Just remember to keep what you have cleared/cleaned done as you proceed, or it'll be piled up again.
Anytime you need to talk - we're all here to help each other. I haven't been on DG long (8 months) but I have read a lot of inspiring words from many and feel as though we're all friends here. So, if you want to "pour your heart out" or just have a rant - we're here. Keep your chin up and keep chipping away!
Debbie, I really needed that pep talk. so I feel better knowing what I've been doing (now) is a good plan. I can't even set a goal of "once a week" let alone "a room a week" or "a closet a week" ~ it stresses me out b/c If I don't do it, I feel like I've failed. and like you, I get so depressed. I will just have to be content to do what I do when I do it. I've about finished my bathroom and my closet. and this, not being my first attempt at decluttering, I know I will be doing everything again and again until i'm satisfied. wow, like you, I also need to do my kitchen. but I will be content to do "a cabinet" or "a drawer" or a countertop... etc.
ohhh I so clean that way "take ___ to the bathroom. take ____ from the bathroom to the kitchen. take ____ from the kitchen to the laundry room. oh that needs to be clean. wait I was doing laundry. look at that crap on the floor. MAN my back door is dirty... where's my broom? I should sweep the deck while i'm here. oh my! when did I mow last? where's my weed killer?" yep. that's me hahahahaha
but I DID practice the 15 minute timer method before. it works for me. I can't leave a room until the timer goes off. that helps a lot. I also like the 21 thing fling method (my adapted FlyLady.net method... I think hers is a 7 thing fling--I just do it 3x lol). I could easily fill a trash bag three or FOUR times, but I switch from trash to donations to keep. we gotta do what works, right?
thanks again for the helpful encouraging words. glad I can vent when I need to. it really helps.
this weekend I hope to go to the RU in Hempstead, or I would stay home and work on SOME thing here ;-)
I'm so glad it helped! We're all here for that purpose, to help and encourage one another.
Yup - that was me too in your description of the cleaning here and there thing. LOL At first I thought maybe I was getting "old-timer's" disease, then I said nope it's me wanting it perfect (Capricorn showing through I guess, because I am certainly not OCD). I then realized that no, it was neither. The problem was, it took years in the making and I can't wish it away overnight. It's going to need me, my time, my effort, my work or it'll never get done. That which took years to build will take time to undo (hopefully not as many years)
I agree with you. I found the Fly Lady website too. It all makes sense and is a plan. That is what most people need ... a plan. The trouble was it did not work for me. I may have a few days where I can get a LOT done, then I might have weeks where nothing beyond meals, dishes and laundry get done because I am tied to caring for so many. (or I am just not physically able myself, at that time). I have written down her weekly and monthly chores lists, so when I get de-cluttered and clean I will try to implement it, or one tailored for me to keep things clean and clear. But that "room a day", "closet a day" (or week) crap won't flush with me either as it is. Like I said after I get it clear and clean, then maybe.
Lately I am using her idea about doing something every day though. I do not use a timer. I could, but I think I would be shooting myself in the foot if I did. Why? Well, she's right, 15 minutes is something you can do. But, for me, if it is a day in which I feel pretty good and I'm not dealing with other family member's needs, I might stay with it for an hour or more depending on the work. I feel that makes up for days I am unable to do anything. But - here lately I have been trying a new tactic that also works. On days I am really achy or get home after many hours elsewhere I at least do one thing extra. This is a promise I made to myself recently and it is working. It might be a very small easy job that is less than 15 minutes, but it is something. It might even be longer than 15 minutes but easy to do on bad days. So limiting myself to a 15 minute rule stinks. Besides, I have never been one to conform to rules and I doubt a timer would survive long before it would be in a donate pile!!!
I'd say the two key things for me were -
1. Stay in one room de-cluttering and then cleaning. Sure I'll find things that go elsewhere but I get my butt back to the room I am working on. That's when you start to see progress that encourages you to do more.
2. Always keep the de-cluttered rooms de-cluttered and clean, once done. Even if I have drawers, cabinets, shelves that need going through on round two through the house, what you see is clear and clean. That makes the whole air lighter and eases both depression and the weight of the stuff that has taken over our lives. I have said before my "ah-ha" moment was realizing that I served the stuff, rather then it serving me. That's just wrong. So look out crap - I am taking my house and my life back!! LOL
I mentioned in another thread that I found a place to trade in books and then use the credit to get others. Well, I read a lot (waiting in doctor's offices, hospitals etc and also the couple hours at night when I watch TV). I took a lot over there a few months back, but yesterday I gathered 3 more boxes of books to take over and trade in. I put them in the back of my truck (it has a cover) so they are out of the house and ready to drop off when I am in that direction. For now, I am not bringing more home, just trading them in and getting credit. I have a LOT of books here. I'll use the credit eventually for books that I might want to keep, or ones I am missing from a series. But not now. I am busy getting rid of stuff, not bringing more home.
Like you said "we gotta do what works". This de-cluttering mission is not a one size fits all kind of thing. It sounds like you are honing in on what works for you and I think that is wonderful. It's the first step. If you just take a few minutes, stop everything, walk inside a room and visualize what is wrong, what needs to be done, what needs to be donated, trashed, put elsewhere, etc., then the actual work to achieve it, is easier because you are focused.
Enjoy this weekend and get back to work on your "stuff" when you get back. Think of this weekend as your reward for that spiffy linen closet! LOL Hey maybe make a goal achieved = reward of something. It's surprising what that does too. tee-hee.
Hi gals - Boy can I identify with all being said. Me, me, me too for most comments. One thing I was think Cajun that you may want to try when you get "side tracked," that being an inside joke between my husband and myself because neither of us find it easy to stay on task, but often find ourselves going in ten directions at once. I am a big list maker too and I found at times that nothing on my lists were getting done. That leads to depression. I turned that around and began making "done" lists for the days when I didn't get to the to do lists. Just knowing that I have done something productive keep s me motivated to do more.
I really hate to admit that after some of the really great progress I have made from time to time over the years, I have now found myself amassing and gathering versus getting rid of. This all started a month or so ago when a girl friend called and said there was an opportunity for the two of us to rent a space in an antiques mall near by. I know myself these many years later and knew that while researching some of the pieces I wanted to sell that I would be tempted by all the pretties that showed up on research sites such as ebay and Etsy. Yep, for several weeks now I have kept the mail delivery person busy climbing our steep drive to deliver some of the things I am ordering to put in our store space. So far the things I have ordered I have already put in the shop.
Well, gonna scoot along for now. Will try to return later and chat a bit more. I have lots to say about the subject. You ladies have a good day.
Quoting: I at least do one thing extra. This is a promise I made to myself recently and it is working. It might be a very small easy job that is less than 15 minutes, but it is something. It might even be longer than 15 minutes but easy to do on bad days.
excellent!! I've started doing this too. some days I FEEL like just sitting on my butt, watching TV until it's time for bed. but I don't. if I just do a load of laundry, clean off my kitchen counters, clean my toilet, sink & vanity... SOMETHING... I can sleep at night (lol)
Quoting: If you just take a few minutes, stop everything, walk inside a room and visualize what is wrong, what needs to be done, what needs to be donated, trashed, put elsewhere, etc., then the actual work to achieve it, is easier because you are focused.
Yeah that doing something extra besides household chores works for me and I'm glad it's working for you. I think you will find the second point helpful too. Before I started doing that I would be in a room too long trying to figure out WHAT to do. Now I take a cup of coffee, tea or whatever and walk into whatever room I am working on, and just look around while I'm drinking my coffee. I touch nothing, but I visually see what needs to be done. Later when I actually go to work in that room things move so much quicker because I have already seen what needs to be done. So yeah it helps my focus. Maybe it will help you and others...or I'm just nutso and it only helps me. LOL That's also possible.
Sometimes I make lists of things needed to be done in different areas, or even topics, but also things that need to be done in each room. It too keeps me focused. Oh and isn't crossing those things off wonderful??? Love it!!!
Yes, It is fun. Some times I sing a little bit you know the song "And another one bites the dust". LOL
I try to put them in order of what needs to be done first and quite often list small jobs before big jobs if I can. I remember when the kids were little and we would say clean up your room they would just stand there not sure where to start. So we broke it down for them by telling them pick up all your cars, then pick up all the books, ect. It worked really good then and it works well for me too.
Quoting: Maybe it will help you and others...or I'm just nutso and it only helps me. LOL That's also possible.
hahahahaha love it!
Quoting: ♫ "And another one bites the dust". ♫ LOL
lmao! whatever works!!
my BFF told me the other day she's tackling her office this weekend. mine is MY bugaboo too. i told her i'd work on mine some too. i'm going to get a cup of tea in the morning and just stare at it... hahahaa almost stopped there. ok, no, i promise i will get ON it. i am in the frame of mind to look at stuff this weekend and going "really, Carole?! really?! throw that out!! if you haven't needed it in ten years, you don't need it now!"
LOL Holly - so often I hear lines of songs that fit whatever I am doing at the time. Glad to hear I am not alone there. And yes, Queen's song does come to mind on lists..."and another one's gone, and another one's gone..." LOL
I meant to say earlier too that lists are good because they will have both big jobs and little jobs on them. We all need to reach goals and so completing a small job (goal) encourages you to tackle a big job (goal). When you start crossing off the jobs, you are encouraged to go after more because you see your accomplishments on your list even if the job is something not seen by your eyes.
I hope your cup of tea and staring helped you laser sight your work in the office so you can fly in and get it done Cajun. You go girl!
I'm working on my breezeway. I did take a before picture and will get an after when I am done. It had become a catch all for everything, even stuff that belonged in the garage. My time and ability limit how fast I can get it done, but it is coming along.
Hello folks...waving hello to Betty...you show up all over the place Betty and I always get a kick out of seeing you. Maybe you can pass along some hints on how you have been successful in having the many things you are involved in stay straight and get done. I know that years ago you worked full time plus had a side business of teaching painting...plus a load of other interests...gardening and serving as a overnight lodge for travelers...making me tired thinking of it. You must have been born with organizational skills that so many of us are lacking. Anyway, all hints and tips appreciated.
Good going Cajun. Thanks for picture of your efforts. I know that I always feel better after completing a project such as this pantry job.
Boy, I cannot believe what all has occurred in my life this past month or so...I am super duper busy with my brain running one hundred miles an hour. For the past week my friend and I have been in negotiations with a gentleman who ran a Craigs List ad for someone to help with his odds and ends store and on line selling business. We met on Sunday at the store location he owns and have proposed our idea for making it in to a consignment shop for antiques and vintage items. We are supposed to hear something from him tomorrow.
Sorry summerkid, I have never been one to go at things in a small way...have to go all the way it seems. hahaha Anyway, my friend and I both have enough items in storage currently to stock a store. The store building is at an entrance to two very heavily traveled tourist sites and could be a gold mine if run correctly. Not sure what may occur but we laid out our business plan to him and are waiting to hear back after he consults with his family members who want to meet us. Will keep you all updated.
What I am envisioning with the possibility of moving some of my wares to his space is my living space having a lot of unused and open space. It will be great to have another place to display the things I own and love so much, but don't love enough to keep and don't want to just end up donating because many of them have cost me more than I am willing to lose at this point. If the shop comes through I will also be able to move a lot of my house plants there with the same idea in mind...they will pretty up the store image and are for sale also...a win, win situation.
Needless to say, I haven't been doing much de-cluttering wise for a while now. Waiting to see what I will have to work with. If this particular venture doesn't work out, my friend and both of our husbands are excited about doing a business somewhere at some point...the perfect opportunity needs to present itself. If all this falls through right now, I might bite the bullet and send things to auction at some point in the future. I am getting really tired of the present décor and want a change. The idea of painting the indoors is put on hold now at least until fall.
Holly, really hope the rainy last few days has enabled you to tackle some of your inside jobs. I know that I got involved in separating and beginning to re-pot a large pot of Aloe I had. I need to leave my seat at this desk and get to work on that. I spent several hours yesterday potting some of it up but still have at least double what I accomplished yesterday. It will be offered at the upcoming Mid Atlantic Plant Swap that takes place next weekend...Both Debbie and Holly will be attending and my husband and I plan to attend also. We will be meeting Debbie for the first time, but Holly and I have known each other for some years since we both attended the first of these swaps about seven or eight years ago. Holly has hosted two of the swaps at her home, and you guys believe me that the efforts she speaks of here, really show in the homestead that she and her hubby Ric have...a paradise with everything a gardener could ever want. The indoors work on their homes makes if enviable too. They are two real go getters...can't wait to see you girls.
You go girl! Still waiting to hear what happens with the "new" store proposition. It sounds like a wonderful adventure and opportunity. With your friend, you and both your husbands all on board it could really take off for you!! Keeping you in my prayers for the best outcome possible.
I am looking forward to the plant swap too. I want to meet and put faces on all these names. I already feel like I have made friends here, so it will be very nice to actually meet y'all.
It's been a tough last few days with some unexpected stuff and so I am really looking forward to a fun one!
Ruby, i couldn't agree more with Debbie, sounds like you have a great opportunity for you, especially with your friend and your husbands supporting you.
i know you'll be glad to get some of the things out of your house too.
anyone doing a decluttering project this weekend?
i'm going to attempt to work on my office a little (see before pictures). i've already removed all my jewelry making stuff and it's better. i'll be simply rearranging my closet to put the jewelry stuff on the shelf. i mean, i have a LOT, but... also had already done Round2 on my closet, so there's room.
i've started decluttering the armoir hubby wanted to turn into a "gun safe" and bought him a gun rack to hang on the wall instead. i'll still put a few things in the armoir for him, but not going to retrofit it for shotgun storage.
i'm also shipping off some bubble mailers to a DGer i traded for some seeds on my want list. i've found homes for some other items in my office, so that's clearing out some space too. have some magazines ready to donate.
Been too busy working outside to do much inside but I did start hanging the drop cloth in the bedroom in preparation of painting the ceiling. Just a small step but it puts me a little closer to getting all this stuff out of the living room and back where it belongs.
oh good for you, HollyAnn! little steps DO help, don't they?
we've had a good bit of rain in the past 24 hours, then the sun came out and all of a sudden it was 87 degrees! holy smokes! i'd planned to work on all this inside stuff at least today b/c they forecasted rain thru midnight originally. sigh. gotta love Texas weather!
right now i'm trying not to stress b/c you know how a decluttering project goes... well for me anyway. i started by clearing out stuff i can get OUT of the house. i boxed up SIX boxes to mail off. that helps a lot! but they're in the kitchen right now, so that's a little messy until i can get labels on them and get them in the car.
the office, of course, is where i'm trying to focus, but it's not too bad. i'm making room right now for the jewelry stuff in the closet. i know it's not my focus, but man... i have a whole different perspective than i obviously did the last time i "decluttered" in there. MUCH more needs to go. the bedroom is in the middle so it's become my staging area. good news is: with all that stuff on my bed i have no choice but to clear it off so i can sleep tonight.
i have cleaned my entire bathroom today. one thing i was going to say about FlyLady is that she taught me to clean my bathroom with the bath towel and wash cloth i use before taking it to the laundry room. now that my bathroom is once again spic & span, i plan to employ this method again. it really doesn't take THAT much longer after my shower, and it's nice to know this room is clean when you walk out.
Yes every little bit does help. I have been working at it little bit by little bit. Over the last few years we have been de-cluttering and refreshing each room. Everything comes out and each room gets a face lift depending on what needs done. Then only some of it goes back in. Then move on to the next room. Started a few years ago with the Laundry room, moved to the utility/mud room then our bedroom and now the bedroom that we use for the Grands. This room is getting a new paint job and new floor. We are keeping the wall paper the Grands just love the ocean theme and all the fish. I just want to get rid of the sponge painting on the painted parts of the wall. Ceiling has water stains from a mishap in the second floor bathroom and the old beige carpet put in about 15+ years old was terrible dirty and stained.
that's fantastic! that's probably the best way to do it. if my husband was home to help me, i would do it that way. it's overwhelming alone, or it is to me.
the Grands room sounds great!! love the idea of the ocean and the fish! cool.
Carole, I am so jealous. Those are your before pictures? Ha! I'd be happy with that as an "after". My office hasn't had the first de-clutter trip yet as I am working my way through the house and well... if it looked like your before pictures, I'd be thrilled. LOL
I was concentrating on my breezeway for the last week or so. I did a little at a time as I was able. I was making good progress but things kind of come to a halt as I am awaiting an answer from someone if they want this air hockey table or not. It's a floor model, about 3'x7' and takes up a lot of room. I don't have a way to haul it anywhere to donate. I called Salvation Army and they pick stuff up, but only in housing developments. I don't live in one so they said no. Go figure? If all else fails, I have a sledge hammer and I can bust it up into small pieces and add to the garbage to get rid of it, even if it takes a couple weeks worth. One way or another it is going and as soon as I can.
Today I decluttered the yard though (maybe that counts LOL) - Picked up some more branches that came down in the two pretty good storms we had a few days ago, mowed and trimmed the yard. It looks much better. The house got little attention this weekend, but after this thing tomorrow, it's back to the job at hand. Seeing a dent has only made me more anxious to clear out more. There is a lot I have done but still lots to do. Being between the garage and the house it was a catch all and I mean catch ALL.
hmmm...hmmmm...Dave's has a very strict rule in regards to talking politics. It is not to be done. I can see the above issue becoming a problem if it continues. I have my thoughts on the subject, but will keep them to myself as so to abide by Dave's Garden messaging rules.
Gosh ladies, you are putting me to shame. I have been so caught up in the possibility of a shop, that things here are not getting done as often and as carefully as I like. Anyway...almost seems that I prefer focusing on things other than de-cluttering...sound familiar anyone? I do know as Debbie pointed out that when I see a bit of progress it motivates me to want to do more. I can only imagine the day when I am able to look around at my surroundings as feel as though things are exactly the way I want them to be. This may be a pipe dream because during my many years of housekeeping, that perfection has never been reached.
Betty, I miss you too honey and am always glad to see you post. Folks, this is a fire cracker bundled in to a very small package...need a job done...Betty is the one to get it done. She makes all her activities seem effortless when for most of us it takes a lot of drudgery. Anyway...so excited about the blooms these last weeks in the yarden. Right now we have some really beautiful Iris opening. John cut a bouquet on Sunday and it is sitting directly in front of my desk, and it is so pretty will purple and yellow coloring. One of the purple ones has a delightful grape aroma to it...lovely all the way around.
Cajun, thanks for the pictures...I noticed in one that you have a walker that is identical to one I purchased a few years back, but have never used. It is now taking up space in my storage shed. I know the day is coming when I will be using it but sort of jumped the gun by purchasing it earlier than I actually needed it. For now my trusty walking stick is helping me get around better.
I feel the need to go back and read the introduction to this thread...refresh on the four obstacles and see where I am fitting and see what I might try doing about it. I do know that the month of May is an especially busy time for us. Maybe June won't be so jammed packed with things to do...I am sure I fit in a category of just not getting started with de-cluttering attempts...just putting off the inevitable.
You folks all keep up the good work. It works if you work it.
Alrighty...I went back and re-read Debbie's message and clicked on the supplied link and read that, plus another article by the same woman. All things I knew before, but I did jot down notes from the two articles. I find by making notes, I can review them at any time and more instill the tips in my brain.
I have loads of notes and articles that I have printed off in the past and should get them all together in a notebook or folder. All the things that I take time to write down means they are something I found to be true for myself and need reminders of from time to time. I guess I was especially impressed this time with the suggestion to break it all down, and go room by room or even a smaller space. Looking back, I know that I have tried to do that, but often get off course, and that only creates more stress for me.
When I get started on purging again, I will have lots of helpful hints that I have found in reading articles on the subject and by chatting with like minded folk here. Another thing that stood out in this latest reading was to get help. That has definitely been an obstacle for me in the past when I believed I couldn't get anything done unless I had someone sitting here with me. I was proven wrong on that belief, but do rely on the chats here to keep me motivated and to hear what successes that others are having.
A quick reminder from the admin team: we know that for many people politics (and religion) are part-and-parcel of the daily grind. We're not here to quash anyone's fun but we don't allow debate of either of those in the garden.
Over the years we've found it's wise to treat these subjects as you would if you were at a large gathering of friendly folks who are here to talk about a wide variety of topics, from gardening to pets to our homes.
Someone may mention something in passing that has religious or political implications, but let's not allow an off-hand comment to beget a focused discussion that in turn creates a debate.
In this case, I'm asking everyone here to re-read your own posts, edit out anything that in retrospect might spark (or fuel) a debate, and let's keep the conversation on friendly terms.
To all ... I am sorry to have expressed an opinion that is not allowed. I suppose my first comment from 5/12 was from the frustration I felt with the kids having to get married quickly rather than as everyone hoped, due to the unaffordable insurance cost they would face next month otherwise. My bad - I am sorry.
In my second post I had answered someone because I personally had not heard of anyone that was not being hurt. Fearing this would be a problem since there was a difference of opinion, I just linked to a news story and the actual bill. I thought people could then read and decide for themselves. I never planned to say anything more. I apologize again if this too is not allowed.
I do not know how to "edit out" a post, once posted. If you, as admin, can do so - please do. (or tell me how) No harm or malice was intended.
I promise to just talk about flowers, crafts and my piles of crap to get rid of and hope there are no hard feelings, since there was none meant.
Thank you to Terry.
Personally, I'm grateful for the rules on posts that contain references to religion or politics.
Everyone has beliefs and opinions but it can make for uncomfortable reading if you disagree.
Okay I did so. I hope that makes everyone happy. :-) As I said no malice was intended and I apologize for speaking my opinion.
I had to go and hunt for said rules after you said there was some. I had never seen them before. I didn't realize speaking about current issues was not allowed. So I'll stick with the plants, crafts and piles of crap to get rid of.
Thanks Terry - It is good to know that these sort of things can be resolved without too much adieu...to do...whatever the saying is.
Anyway...am off to a plant swap tomorrow in New Jersey...those attending...see you good folks tomorrow...we once again have a jam packed car of plants and other goodies...yippie...plant swaps, definitely a perk of being a Dave's Member...have a great weekend all.
Guys, I'm sorry i was away all week. I took some "after" pictures, but will have to upload them later.
Debbie, I sure wish we lived closer. My husband and i LOVE to play air hockey! oh well... hope it went to a good home.
i am proud to say I've been doing a little every day, either in the office /bedroom /closet or outside (and yes, Debbie, that counts!)
i have to declutter outside all the time! we live in an area surrounded by trees. we love them. they have limbs that get old, break and fall to the ground. we have a big burn pile we put them all in until we have enough to burn at one time. love living in the country!
i'm also always trying to imagine people wanting to come visit my humble garden, and what would they would focus on. so i make sure it's less of the crap and more of the landscape! this weekend, my plan is to finish spreading 1/2 bag of compost and 1/2 bag of black mulch so i can toss the bags. trying to decide just how to use the pretty white rocks my husband bought me. he's sort of designed a bed (his first) around an oil derrick windmill he bought me (i'd always wanted one). we're going to accommodate mother nature as it comes to our property. apparently she doesn't feel like we need grass as much as we want it. so it might be better to seek other options. he's talking about making an oblong oval bed around it, edge it with nice, long white bricks made of concrete (but look like natural stone), maybe plant blue agave on either side, surrounded with white rock, and then red lava rock to fill in. i think it'd be cool looking myself.
i have made a huge dent in the office. i decluttered and organized the armoir. moved the pictures, magazines and jewelry making stuff ALL to my closet, after doing another round of decluttering in there. i'm in the process of losing some weight, so hope to pare down on clothes soon as well.
i feel good about what I've accomplished. now there is another matter, but i dare bring it up. a couple of weeks ago, we were at the flea market and i got the notion i want to make my own garden art. you know, the cute cup & saucer kind of stuff on stakes to feed birds, or just look pretty in the garden. i ran across some plates, an urn, a tea pot, a ceramic canister, and some other odds and ends... all for a song. brought them all home, and much to my surprise, hubby thinks i should make several for my garden. wow, really?!! only trouble was: i have never done this and don't know how to put them all together. I've since found a youtube video and now just need to tweak my "totems" and get busy drilling. also need to get several lengths of threaded rod and copper tubing, and nuts, washers. for now... my problem is my kitchen table is covered. yes, cluttered. ugh. and i don't get paid until Thursday, so i need to wait to get my stuff to finish everything. also need to maybe pick up a couple of cute tea pots and coffee cups this weekend at the flea market (i can afford that).
I'm having coffee to wake up and then I am off to NJ fot the plant swap today. Yay!! My first one and for that matter the first day I have taken for myself in I don't know how long. I am always busy taking care of all the family's medical needs (there are MANY) I have little time, ability or energy left for me. It also seems every time I plan anything, something happens and I never get to go/do. I am still half-holding my breath until I get there. LOL I will be meeting Ruby, HollyAnn and Jan (who is hosting) along with many others. I am excited to put faces with all the great folks who I have "talked" with on here and we've all shared so much fun. Wish you were going to be there too.
I wish we lived closer too. You could have the air hockey table for sure. No one wanted it and so this weekend my step son and friend are coming to get it and take it to the dumpster at his apartment complex. He can dump it there since he lives there and I don't have to take the sledge hammer to it to make pieces small enough to fit in my garbage can. I tried to donate it many places, to no avail. At this point I don't care. I am at a standstill on the breezeway until it is gone, so I just want it out of here. It will make such a large hole!!
I think we have a lot in common. I too an in the process of losing weight and dealing with the clothes issue. But hey, I look at it this way. As I lose and then get rid of the clothes that are too big, I think it will be a good incentive not to gain it back. If I did, people would die from fear (or laughter) at the sight of me naked. LOL Besides, I found a women's shelter not far from me that can use them. I take them there instead of Goodwill if I can. It puts things directly into the hands of people in need. I used to box things up and ship it to the Pine Ridge Reservation in SD. I am Lakota and I have seen the poverty on the rez first hand. However, that was years ago when I was able to work and shipping was cheaper then too. I just can't afford it anymore. This is a good alternative. I have nothing against Goodwill, I just choose this option.
I'd venture to guess there might be some Native American blood in you too with your alignment and knowing what Mother Earth wants. Many people just don't listen and feel her when she speaks. I'd bet they garden in shoes too and never connect with her. LOL Your bed sounds awesome. I think it will turn out great and you'll have to take pics!!
I too have the outside limb gathering "fun" after each storm, every spring and sometimes in between when I get ready to mow. Bummer. For the last several years I gathered the larger ones and took them to the woods, but just raked the smaller ones around the maple tree in the front yard. In the beginning, it looked like mulch from the road. Good 'nuff. But as the years progressed and the pile got bigger - for some reason it started to look like a pile of limbs. ??? So this spring, I got rid of all of that. It took several days due to my physical limitations and I tried not to lift anything. I raked things onto a tarp then dragged the tarp back into the woods, walking it up from underneath, which dumped the limbs. It looks a thousand times better out there and I plan to do something crafty soon. I bought a couple different sized bowls I think will be dandy molds to make concrete mushrooms. I need to get some PVC to make concrete stems. I think I might also make a garden knick-knack stacky thing (I personally don't call them totems because totems are really important things meant to represent you, your family or clan). Anyway, if you go to the Trash to Treasure forum and search "totems" you will see many and lots of hints for "how-tos". Of course, Pinterest has lots too. I searched "glass garden art" on there, I think.Or maybe just garden art..."old timer's disease" - I can't remember for sure.
I'm so glad you found what I said to be true, that if you just do something every day, you will see it making a difference before long. That's what I have to do. Limitations on time, enerygy, my own ability - vary day to day. But I have been keeping my promise to myself that I made lately, to at least do one thing every day, regardless, and even that shows before long. When I get a great day I can really make tracks.
Well I need to get dressed and on the road soon. Thanks for sharing your victories! Keep them coming...
Debbie, that's so cool you're getting to the plant swap today! yea!! hope you find some real pretties, as well as enjoying time with our friends here. how fun to get to meet everybody! yes, i wish i was closer so i could go too.
i'm hoping someone sees the air hockey table and takes it home. what fun! glad you could get your stepson to help you take it off. i know what you mean about it making such a big hole. whew! and what a load off for you.
congrats on the weight loss. i'm only down 10 lbs. but it's in the right direction, and i'm not really working hard at it. i'm getting a lot done around the house (inside and out), so i guess that's where my energy is going instead of working out ;-\
yes, i donate to an Angelic Resale shop that supports a women's shelter. there's one in Conroe, and a different one in Cleveland. i agree with you on that one too. much rather give to those who truly need it. very cool that you were able to help the people on the reservation. i have such respect for Native Americans. i can't even begin to express my heartfelt sorrow for all they have been through... my husband is like 1/8 Cherokee. are you full blood Lakota? how cool!
you're right about the totems. for lack of a better word, meant no disrepect. i guess you would say the one i designed in my mom's memory may qualify though (pictured). the base is a crystal vase that my parents received as a wedding gift in 1945. at some point it got broken, so my mom filed off the top edges and put it on a shelf ;-) The plate is a souvenir plate from Seattle. my mom's sister lived in Seattle. Red was her favorite color, so the hummingbird feeder (also loved birds). and there's a little frog glued to the plate... she adored frogs ;-)
i may put that on a saucer or something before i sit it directly into the garden; it won't be on a tall rod like the others.
LOL funny you'd say that about gardening barefoot! when i lived in Benbrook, i had the nicest, lushest green grass... ahhh, cool and soft and sticker-free!! here... not so much. sand, gravel, sand, stickers, sand, sweet gum balls, sand... you get the picture. closest i can come is flip flops. i long for green grass. before i die, i pray i'll be gardening barefoot in the grass again.
thank you for the idea of loading stuff onto a tarp to haul off. i needed that. i have a wagon/trailer that i pull behind my mower, but i've got areas in the woods that need to be cleaned of limbs, etc. where my mower can't go.
very cool on the mushrooms!! i'd love to see!
and yes, i'm familiar with that forum. don't visit it often or post there. may start now. once it gets too hot here to be outside, i take my activities back indoors.
and yes ma'am!! a little something every day makes such a huge difference, and keeps me on track. my BFF and i have both started making sure we keep decluttered areas clutter-free. so refreshing!
Such uplifting posts these last couple of dayz! So happy to hear of hope & laughter amidst our trials. Debbie, I grew up on the Crow reservation in southeast Montana (my family encompasses Cheyenne, Assiniboine, Gros Ventre & Paiute once the adopted kidz are accounted for, not to mention African-American, Norwegian & German) ... so the condition of Natives weighs heavily on my heart. Pine Ridge is one of the biggest tragedies, that's fer sure. Do you still have contacts on the rez? I'm thinking that my unwanted fabric & batting pieces could find a home there; some of those tribes have strong quilting traditions.
Oh Holly! ...Thank you (and Jan) for asking me to join y'all. I had such fun meeting so many of you wonderful people!!! Some folks, I was not familiar with, but others like yourself, I felt I already "knew". I wish we had more time to sit and talk too. It was so nice to have a day of nothing but fun.
Thank you so much for the beautiful flowers, too!! Wow! So many folks were giving me flowers that I am not sure where I am going to plant them all yet, heck I might have to take pictures and ask - what was this one? where should I plant it ...sun or shade? Pot or ground? LOL I know you said you'd help me figure it out and so did Ruby. I'm sure I'll be leaning on you gals. I remember some plants, some are labeled and I can look them up... but a couple...?
It was a painful day with the storm coming, but we were blessed to not have rain for the get together. I got home, stopped the truck in the driveway and unloaded the plants onto the porch (where the planter bench is I told you about). Just as I carried the last two pots to the porch, it started to rain, but all I had left to do was put the truck in the garage. Another blessing - not only did the rain hold off, but it watered everything so I didn't have to. We had light rain off an on all night and this morning too. I might get something done with a couple today, but nothing too difficult. This weather sure hurts. I took pain pills yesterday and I try not to take them all the time, so I will not do so today, just take it easy. I'll work on the flowers as I can. It seems our forecast is for a chance of rain all week. So... a few a day...
Carole -- girl, you sure missed a fun day. Maybe you should check into the plant swap they have in your area? (assuming they have them all over - I don't know for sure, since I am fairly new to the website) It was fun, great people, lots of flowers and oh my goodness the food!! There was such a spread, there was no way you had enough room in the tummy to even taste everything. But all I did have was delicious. Every one brought something and it was quite the variety.
Oh and congrats on the weight loss. We sound like we are on the same track with that too. I am not starving myself or being a rabbit to lose weight, either. I am trying to make my "workout" working toward de-cluttering. (Although this week will add some digging and planting to the "workout" LOL) It's kind of funny because when I started this I thought... you know I am putting my house and myself on a diet - getting rid of the extras. So as the house loses weight, so do I. Pretty cool way to think of it and in all honesty, as I see the house getting de-cuttered and feeling lighter it helps my depressed mood, so I feel lighter mentally. It's more than just weight, and I am grateful for it all. Oops - I've made mention of blessings twice and being grateful too. I guess I shouldn't do that, or that might offend someone. Sorry if it did...
No, I am not full blooded Lakota. My grandmother was, so that is the majority of what I am. However, I also have Cheyenne and Cherokee on my mom's side. I have Cherokee and Catawba on my dad's side. My dad also has some Irish. I am not sure, but my aunt thinks there is some German and maybe Italian in there somewhere way back, but we're not sure. I'm just a "Heinz 57", with Native American making the majority.
Oh I took no offense to you using the word totem. I'm not that thin skinned. LOL I just said I don't use it, but many people do (probably most). I assume it started because they are stacked and reminded people of totem poles. That's a logical guess anyway, though I don't know for sure. It's fine. Things are what they are and everyone has a right to their own feelings, opinions and the first amendment right to say so. I would guess that totems are how they are known all over and not just this website, too. The more I think about it, I really do think it is the similarity of the tall totem poles that started it and no one knew what totems and totem poles represent. No biggie.
I am quite familiar with the Texas "grass" and lack thereof. I have a friend I spent some time with, that owns a big ranch south of Ennis. Though the farm had grass (he raised Beefmaster cattle) the outskirts were as you described. I also spent some time in AZ. Gee - I never knew there were so many shades of brown. Unless you paid dearly and watered like crazy like they do in Scottsdale most turn their "yards" to gravel because they have no grass there. Of course further north is different, like up near Flagstaff, but in the valley - shades of brown with a little green off a Saguaro cactus is what you see. I am barefoot all the time unless I am going somewhere. I even take garbage to the can in snow barefooted. I did wear sandals yesterday to the plant swap. I celebrated and made ladybugs (see pic - though I should have taken it on the driveway because the grass blades hide the eyes. I had to use toothpicks for the dots and lines on the smaller ones but the brush worked for the big ones. The eyes on the big ones are actually rings not all white, giving a black center. I made them using the bottom of a pen that ran out of ink. I took it apart to use to paint with making a ring)
I will share with pics the mushrooms when I do them. I might even make some concrete ladybugs too. I found a perfect shaped plastic container for that! That would be cute to have a couple of them hanging from, but looking like they are climbing the tree. I don't know when I will get to it, but when I do, I'll share.
I'm glad the tarp idea will help you. I have to figure out ways to get things done differently with my physical limitations. So yeah it will work in the instance you need too. You can move a lot that way with little bending or lifting because you can rake it on and don't really lift the tarp. You just lift the end and walk under it, walking your hands down and the stuff falls away on the other side of the tarp. That was some of that taking time to look at a problem beforehand and think about it before just tackling it I told you I do. It works for me.
Well, I need to get more coffee and start researching these plants so I know where to put them for best growth. Again - much thanks to all of you at the plant swap for everything.
Just found this thread - fun reading. If I am to declutter as I would like ( meaning ...meaningfully) then I just have one big item to get gone. 155 pounds. 5'10" and all sorts or debris seems to stick to this thing and it just can't let go. So...if I can just move this useless stuff "magnet" out--- I would be ok. It doesn't eat a lot. It is very happy and peaceful most of the time. Likes Italian food and all kinds of music. Cries watching ET and Rocky Balboa climbing that huge staircase and loves our country. Any takers? PS If you want 'it' -- you will also inherit 10,00000 screws, nuts, hinges, files, bolts and misc keys that "must belong to something". There will be lots of things that you will have that "someday you might need" or that "may be worth something." Just DMail me and I will offer free shipping.
"Possibly useful" and "maybe worth something" some day.
Summer - in order to get to that nice man you got to climb over that junk!
Love to Paint - what about 500 cans of paint that we may someday need? You love to paint! "It" has a metal chain strung with at least 35 of those metal things that are used to pry the lid off housepaint cans - interested?
I actually had those keys in my hands this past Friday ---and I was pondering about windchimes... Or tree ornaments tinkling in the wind... A few years ago I solicited ideas for those keys when our son added to the vast "collection." (Sigh) (He saw a bunch at our house and thought I COLLECTED them and saved them for his mom ;0). Friday's attempt to declutter is what brought me to this forum and Lovetopaint's thread and the Houzz article.
LOL Thanks for the offer MissingRose, but I have plenty of paint too. I guess I am pretty lucky on that front. Mine is the "clean-nick" around here. He always goes through his stuff, even clothes at least once a year, though he has been unable to do so since he was injured. I'm the messy one and working hard to change it. I am also lucky he isn't the type to get angry at me for my stuff either.
Yes, I think there is something to be said for all those folks living with their opposites. It isn't easy. Takes patience and understanding from both directions as Lovetopaint expresses. I can gather clutter with the best of the 'gatherers' --- but it drives me crazy unlike the magnet who doesn't even see it.
The Houzz article brings up good points but I think there should be better strategy for the kicking off. For me, the most difficult aspect of clearing out is actually starting the process. There is the physical energy required and even more significant all that mental energy needed in decision making about what stuff to keep and what to separate from -- and of course there is pressure to be a good steward of its disposal. It is a task that brings no joy except at its very final result. At least dieting injects incentive along the way with results that add up. Exercise (to me) is not fun but as it is happening there are perks - the socialization and distractions of a busy gym, natures sounds and sights if solo outdoors and the joy of being in the moment as you realize your legs haven't fallen off!! I realize everyone's experience is different, but for me being knee deep in clutter is the worst and feels endless --- minutes that feel like hours. And then, once done, I feel like I have to be vigilent so that it isn't all undone! No resting on the laurels!
Rosie, what works for me is my desk calendar, where I list all the things I pledge to do every day. Something in my primitive brain respondz really well to seeing an unbroken line of check markz every day! And lo & behold, several of those "chorez" have become ingrained habitz. I no longer have to put "drink water/floss/run/take vitamins/situps" on the list!
I consider myself a clutter success story & one of my tactics was to start with a closet or drawer because it is a finite space & because it is hard to get rid of room clutter if it has nowhere to go.
Also, I can't emphasize the timer enuf. "You can do anything for 15 minutes!"
15 minutes X 365 = 5,475 minutes = 91+ hours a year.
Just think how much less clutter you would have if you devoted 91 hours to it all at once, same thing.
I read about the timer - it does sound like it would be really helpful - it all adds up. I will have to see how it suits my personality. Once I get whatever it is needed to "kick off" - I tend to keep going. Gets me in trouble because once I start I make a big mess! But when done ..." How sweet it is!"
I can't tell you how many chores that were on my "to do" list for YEARS before the timer. Like, one time I wanted to nail lengths of silk fabric to the cross supports of an ugly covered patio, to serve as makeshift curtains. Dragged my heelz because I'd have to measure, cut the lengths, find a hammer, nails & step stool & then actually nail the fabric up. Seemed insurmountable & difficult.
But one day I was looking for a timer chore & dove in on this project. Whaddaya know -- it was done in 12 minutes from start to finish. I could have had those "curtains" up for years had I known! Crazypantz.
hey guys... and welcome, Rosie!
i am nowhere NEAR an expert, but have several decluttering projects under my belt now.
mine started years ago when my youngest daughter & i sort of got addicted to Mission: Organization.
while we couldn't do all that they did (mostly due to manpower & inability to afford all of the organizing thingees they could), we enjoyed spending the commercial breaks rushing around and laughing, seeing how much we could get done hahaha
after the show was over, we would set the 15 minute timer and go from room to room at least 3 or 4 times until we could step back and go 'wow! look what all we got done!! whoohoo!!' we would take bags & boxes of stuff to the car for donation, or to the trash, or it was neatly boxed up and labeled to keep.
anyway... i moved from that house, and it's been really hard starting over here. but i'm finally doing it. if it will help you, post a picture of some area (like summer said, a drawer, a cabinet, etc. not a room) you want to tackle, and then we will cheer you on until you are ready to post your 'after' picture. i love that!!
and i had to laugh... "Gets me in trouble because once I start I make a big mess! But when done ..." How sweet it is!" hahahahaha my house looks like a bomb went off while i'm decluttering. then, in no time at all, it's like 'hey, cool!! check it out!!' and i can sit back and be proud.
try not to get overwhelmed. that's where i get. ugh. seriously, i can take ONE STEP into our storage building and start to hyperventilate. and it's not too different when i go into our back room in the house. it's a 4th bedroom, but really... it's my storage room. NOT what i really want, but don't know what to do with all the stuff. you wanna see? it's ugly. ok i'll show you... wait... it may be up above. i'll look before i repost the dizzying pic.
but i try not to focus on what is NOT done, and focus on what IS, be proud and continue THAT pattern of behavior.
Hi Carole - thank you for the welcome and the advice. I have 'that' shed. It is outside and I would not dream of going near. It is jammed andthere is a raised ramp for the lawnmover access and I saw several snakes coming from underneath ( incl copperheads). I was supposed to have one closet opened from outside 12 feet long about 3 feet deep. Huge double doors - all for my gardening 'brews' and pots and the upright tools - rakes, shovels, etc. protected from above with lean to. But my husband expanded all the things he was storing into my space and so I don't have reason to go there. The attic was getting really hairy with papers and this year's tax things and boxes and Christmas wrappings and books. ( I can't seem to toss a book). Shelves jammed and spilling over. Finally the attic is neat as a pin and I made an office space in there for a desk and printer. I lined/tacked up the studded eaves with landscape fabric ( to cover prickly insulation figuring that landscape fabric would allow moisture to pass ) and put all rarely used things in those oddly shaped behind the wals areas (suitcases, grand kids car seats, etc, Christmas stuff) Food closet and all kitchen storage cabinets and drawers done. Tupperware even neat! My clothes closet neat. Screened porch pressure washed in and out ( the 'magnet" howled when I turned the spray on ceiling fans and speakers ! HaHa. It's clean now!!! I am just feeling stuck with all the papers in the house in piles from income tax and retirement. I also feel the need to clip and save everything - recipes, saving / finance info for kids, gardening. Stuffed everywhere. I WILL try the timer.
Rosie - I have to concur with all Carole said. This too is how I am tackling my problems. As I described in an earlier post the timer does not work for me because some days I have obligations to family members living 3 miles away that can and do take hours or more from me most days. Yesterday for example, Dad called right after breakfast and asked me to come over...I got home a little after midnight. Nothing got done for me yesterday. However, today (if nothing comes up) I plant to spend more than 15 minutes at clearing out stuff. True 15 minutes isn't much and I usually do more than 15 minutes so to time myself (in my case) is detremental. I prefer to work at it as long as I can, when I can, because days come up in which I can do nothing - or only that "one thing" I promised I'd do.
Everyone is different and so you need to find what works best for you. Lists are good because it both keeps you focused to the tasks needed, but it is gratifying to see them crossed off. Timers may work to keep you going 15 minutes and as pointed out that's 91 hours a year.
I too have found that breaking a room into smaller chunks works. If you clean out a drawer that's a goal reached/victory won. Pretty soon all the drawers are decluttered and cleaned and now the whole dresser is done - a slightly bigger goal/victory. Move on to the next item and continue around the room and the first thing you know - you have a clean room...even bigger goal/victory achieved. For me, I cannot look at the whole picture or I just freeze and don't know where to start. But broken into smaller chunks they become achievable. I have many victories but many goals yet to reach, so I think that's is why we all are here - cheering on each other and together we'll "git 'er done"
Working out side today, Organizing the tons of potted plants that need to be planted. It is very steamy outside today. So I have been organizing my plants coming inside to log them into my DG Journal, label, and snap a picture as I get them planted. Seems to be working out very nicely for now.
Glad it helps, even a little, Rosie. Like Debbie said, you gotta find your own rhythm and go with it. Sounds like you've already been getting after it with your attic, pantry, kitchen, closet, and screened porch! Wow! I'm impressed!! Totally hear you on the storage shed and paper. Holy crap, those are the biggest problems I face. I had moved disorganized boxes of paper for years. When my daughter and I started decluttering, i watched an episode of M:O about paper hoarding. It really motivated me to sit down on the middle of the room, trash can on one side, taking one box at a time. I had mostly trash. I had one pile for donations (magazines), one for financial, one household, etc. Kept bills only for the past 12 months. One pile for the shredder, which my daughter had a blast doing.
then after seeing WHAT needed to be filed, I made folders, or labeled boxes, and by the end of the day EVERYTHING was put away. It was such an awesome feeling!
I say all these things because I let it get away from me with my rather sudden move in 2005/2006. I'm getting there. I have a good sized plastic tote with paper junk.
Good job, HollyAnn! Can't wait to see some pics!
and missingrosie, I suspect that may not be your real name. Feel free to correct us if you don't want us to keep calling you Rosie *smile*
Here is my De cluttering project I have a ton of plants in the driveway just waiting to get planted. Mind you this was taken after I had Ric plant 3 trees, a very large hosta and a nice size bush. I planted a good dozen perennials, 4 water plants and a cute little pot. The white table with plants on top of it will be down soon those plants go to a fellow gardener who will come on Friday to get them and as I plant more of my own I can move hers over to the wooden flats bench. Ric just unloaded that white stand this morning, he picked it up from someones trash. I know I will have a spot for it and plenty of flowers to go in it. Also don't forget that I have a GH full of plants to get into the ground as well. LOL
Yes it was just beautiful out, very humid felt like a sauna out there. Heading to my parents house tomorrow to plant. Not much from the Driveway will go there. Mostly annuals that are in the GH going to her house.
HollyAnn, I gotta say... may seem cluttered to you, but I see the evidence of a serious green thumb there. so green and lush, and inviting. made me wish I was closer; I could see myself helping you out, gabbing about this plant or that one. believe it or not, it looks great to me!!
it's still so organized. what I think i'm 'hearing' is that you just need to put those well-cared-for plants in the ground. gosh, they sure seem content where they are now ;-)
yes, very glad you had a nice day for it.
cool that you'll get some planting done at your parents, and clear out some of the GH tomorrow too.
don't think I mentioned it but we're getting a new mattress & box springs delivered Thursday evening. I won't even go into how long we've needed one. seemed we always got into the discussion about what to do with the old one. and then he really didn't want to part with the money for delivery when we have a pickup... don't get me started on that. anyway... suffice to say, i'll have strangers in my house in a couple of days. even though they're delivery men, and not here to have high tea, i'm still funny about cleaning up my house for company.
**** FYI: I made sure the delivery was FREE and that they also haul away for free!! ****
if anyone is having a struggle with a starting point, maybe invite someone over. plan a party. I don't know about you, but company has ALWAYS been a motivator for me to clean my house. my ex-MIL was a super duper card carrying, certified housecleaning FREAK. at first, I cleaned my house like a crazy person b/c I felt like I had to; no son of hers was going to live in a filthy house. then I started doing it for myself. it didn't take long before she shocked me by telling me a) I didn't have to impress her; my house was my house & she did not judge me(shocker); b) she said I might be a lot of things, but LAZY was not one of them; c) she told me that she told everyone she talked to that I was a superb housekeeper. ha! how about that?!! big shocker, seriously.
ok, where was I? oh yeah, cleaning my house for company. it occurred to me, when I was locking my front door to leave for work this morning, that my front porch was positively shameful. I've been doing so much outside work, that i'd let it get seriously cluttered. so when I got home today, I cleaned it off!! all of it!! I also cleaned up all my lawn & garden stuff and returned everything to the plant shed. they had forecasted rain for us at midnight, so I was kinda scurrying b/c I didn't think i'd get it all done before dark. but I did!! I even cleaned off the mower deck (lawn tractor & a pain in the a** to clean!!) and put the mower in the mower shed.
I must be on a roll. I also straightened up the dining room, and cleaned off the kitchen island (the landing place for everything I bring in the house). I've got every room now from the front door to my bathroom 90% spic and span!! whoohoo!! all that's left really is the serious dust under my bed, which I plan to attempt tomorrow evening, the den just needs the covers straightened on the couches, ditto the living room, and there's still the "garden art" project all over my kitchen table. all I can really do with that right now is make it neat looking; I did that last night.
showered, clothes washed, ready for bed.
mission: accomplished ;-)
LOL summer! I really did not mean for that to sound like a brag.
you know, I still have major clutter to tackle, and it's all around me, if I look. And I don't have to look hard! But I totally believe in celebrating the little victories and accomplishments along the way.
this thing (clutter) is hard for all of us (here anyway).
hope that was all taken as encouragement.
it's almost like I'm holding myself accountable to you, my group.
my goal is to make changes a little along the way until I can look ANYWHERE around here and be proud.
hahahaha summer! good one! Buster is a long haul truck driver, so he's not home much *smile* gotta give him a pass.
and thank you, Rosie. i really needed to hear that. i haven't been able to get under there and vacuum anyway, and i remembered why tonight. his ex-wife had cats, who apparently enjoyed lying on their backs under the bed, clawing at the thin fabric covering the bottom of the box springs. there's nothing but fluff under there. can't even see the floor. screw it. i'll see it tomorrow night.
i didn't tell you guys, but i met a neighbor yesterday morning, who said he wanted to get rid of a bunch of bricks. he says "well, they're not really bricks, i guess. just those kinda concrete stone things that go around a flower bed, i guess." HA! mine!! Buster didn't want me going alone to a stranger's house, so i took my neighbor & her son. great visit. good neighbors & not very far away. his wife is a school teacher, who my neighbor's son knew. she wants to get into gardening, so i'm going to take her some plants. they gave me a pot full of cayenne pepper plants. he already had a huge veggie garden & didn't need them. i brought home 38 nice landscape bricks.
vacuumed my bedroom, dusted my fan blades, replaced the blankets on my den couch. and i'm done. had my shower, taken my pills and i'm ready for bed. IT WAS A GOOD DAY!
fyi... Friday night, i plan to come home and SIT ON MY BIG OL BUTT!! i'm so freakin tired!
anyone have any plans to garden or declutter this weekend?
Cajun, Sounds like you really did a great job and will just love that new bed when you get it. I spent yesterday visiting my parents and planting their front yard. It looks really nice going back sometime soon to put a few more plants in the side bed and the back. Rained pretty hard last night way to wet to go out and plant anything. I have to clean out the old pigeon coop for the new baby chicks. I have them in a box in the house right now and they are getting pretty big and are ready to be out side but not big enough to go in with the larger chickens.
CAJUN!! Don't let that bed go until you look for the ex's jewels maybe hidden in the mattress.
Not decluttering - dog sitting for son's mouldy pooch while he goes to bachelor party for college buddy in another state. Memorial Day weekend, so will try to grill and do outside chores. I'f the weather holds the plan is to put that thick paint with texture on the deck. We just did this last year with an opaque stain but it peeled in a few places!!! Not sure why --we sanded and did a really good job.
I got the chickies moved, Ric did most of the work as it was mostly his stuff stored in the old pigeon coop. My hope was as it came out he would store it in the barn somewhere but most of it just got stacked against the back of the barn. He did a nice job of cleaning it out. So the little chickies are now out of the back bedroom (the one I am trying to get referbed) and all their stuff has been moved as well. Ric carried up the spackle to touch up the ceiling which I just may do this afternoon. If I can get him to take down the ceiling fan (talk about filthy) I could start cleaning and painting the ceiling. I am working this weekend. I do temp work from time to time and was offered a job at the local fair.
HollyAnn, good for you! I know the little chickies will be much happier in the coop. Well, at least Ric did clean it all out nice for them. Too bad the stuff's not back in the barn where it belongs, but hey... little steps. Maybe will be easier to do something with it, since it's nice and neat where it is.
as for taking the ceiling fan down, is there any way to just remove the blades so you can do what you need to? might be easier? I dunno. just a thought.
would love to see what you've done with your parents flower beds when you get back over there.
Rosie @ jewels... HAHAHAHA you'd have to know his ex... but no, no jewels.
ooh! we may do that same deck treatment. saw it at Lowe's. our wood is not looking so good. stain or seal may not be enough. I think this might be a better solution. let me know how it goes.
hi Betty!! I love the mushrooms!! not sure what kind of glass flower containers you're talking about. of course, I don't have a clue how to start making them anyway. very cool though!
Good morning, Chicas!
Guess i'm here for some ideas... i was so proud to have finally gotten the shoe organizer down from the back bedroom closet and brought it to mine to organize bras, panty hose, knee highs, scarves... works great!!
Only one problem: now i can't shut my closet door!! the hooks are hitting the door frame and won't allow it to shut. i'm not handy enough to take the door off its hinges, rasp it down and hang it back up. any other suggestions?
i was thinking i could maybe hang it with four screws or something, but i'm not crazy about drilling holes in my door either.
That has happened to me...it seems like it was a matter of nudging the hooks so that they seat better over the door ...like maybe spread them or stretch them or something. It happened with an over the door organizer and also a wreath hanger.
LOL i know right?!! i only keep them in case of an emergency funeral or something. it's getting to be where it's more and more acceptable to wear slacks to all occasions now. may not even need them for my son's wedding in the fall, but that's another story.
jeez, thinking about wearing those EVERY DAY in the 80s and some of the 90s UGH!!!!!!!!!!
I've been so busy this week helping Dad with numerous projects I haven't had time to attend to anything of mine. I read all you have been up to and you are wearing me out just reading it ...hooweee girl! Slow down you're making me tired. LOL No - you are encouraging!! Keep up the good work.
Oh and if the ceiling fan is being replaced - don't toss the blades!! Someone had the cutest idea for them over on the trash to treasure forum, that I am looking for old fans now. LOL I'll link you the thread if you are interested. They made dragonflies out of them and hung them on a back fence! Very cool!
The mushrooms Betty made are what I talked about earlier making for under my big Maple. You just get a container in the shape you want, mix up some quickcrete, spray the inside of your container with Pam (or store brand same thing) and use the container as your mold. (A bowl works great for the mushroom tops). Let the concrete harden and then pop it out of the container. Just run a search on making concrete containers, garden sculptures, and so on and you'll find lots of links. There are a lot on Pinterest too. Get two plastic containers that will fit inside the other with an inch or so gap around it and you can make great flower containers for cheap! Just don't forget to "Pam" the outside of the smaller one so it won't stick. You'll also need to have something in it to weigh it down so it makes that void, Otherwise, as you fill in between the gap it would just float upward - not good. You can then leave them as is, paint them, stain them, acid wash them or even mosaic the exterior for some unique planters that cost little.
As for the door - it shouldn't be hard to take off. Generally door hinges have a long nail like thing running through it. If you tap on the bottom it should come upward until it is out. Then you can just slide the hinges apart. I'd suggest you do the bottom one, then do the upper one so that you are standing and can hold the door to wiggle it loose. If not, it could come out easily and fall on your head. Not that I have done such a thing...uh...hmmmm...well you do learn somehow, right? hee-hee Then after you plane it down a little and want to put it back up, align the hinges and drop the spike into the top of each hinge, tapping it down all the way. Ta-da...
Pantyhose - what a horrible memory!! Yuk! I wore those thigh highs the last few years I had to wear that kind of crap to work and liked them much better. Now, I'm in jeans and T-shirt all the time. I have some work t-shirts and some "dress" t-shirts though for going to the store or something. I have a dress to wear for marryin' and buryin' but I haven't even worn that the last few I have been to. So it'll likely go to the women's shelter too. I will be respectfull and trade the jeans and t-shirt for a pretty top and slacks for those "special" times, but I think the dress days are over. Yay!
Well I have been on the road all day running errands. I finished supper and now I get to go wash dishes. But - one place I went today was Lowe's and got supplies to get busy transplanting the plants from the plant swap. I also bought 4 more while I was there. LOL I bought an English Lavender because I love the smell and use them in cookies too. I bought a cherry tomato plant. A rosemary plant to use in cooking and a marked down, sad looking hydrangea. Tomorrow is supposed to be another cool day and I want to get them in the ground before it gets hot again. They say it might hit 90 before the end of the week - yuk!!!
Busy gals, think at some point you may need a break, maybe treat yourself to a project
Please forgive if I've butted in, mean no harm
Mushrooms done with hypertufa
Using same container use
1 part Portland cement
1 peat moss
1 vermiculite or perlite or using both use 1/2 n 1/2
Touch of Fiberglass fibre or hardening agent
Mix all ingredients well...add water only until firm, enter than firm but don't make it drippy. Lol
Make sure you use plastic to line your container
Make stems day before putting a 12" rod in it , distress with wire brush
Next day make your caps, after waiting a about 5 minutes while it sets add the stem, push stem in approx 2 or 3 inches. Leave set..wait a day, perhaps few hours longer (depends on temps) take out and distress..distressing gives them the look of a real mushroom
Betty, I've never tried hypertufa, but have heard of so many projects to do with it.
One i saw (think on Pinterest) was a cool Chinese pagoda for the garden.
Sure wish I could take lessons from you in person. I'm more of a visual person... (or visual learner, i guess).
Yours just look so much like real, large mushrooms. Love them!
i didn't do a lot today at all. in fact, the last thing i really did was vacuum under my bed before the new mattress went on it.
other than making my bed, washing daily dishes, and maybe washing a load of bed linens.. I've been sittin on my butt!
today i got up and put a few plants in pots that were soaking in Has to Grow. tomorrow i really do need to get the other few plants (soaking in H2G) in either pots or in the ground. i have some sprouting air potato vine that i want to plant.
my husband had bought me some really nice wood trim for my car, so i put 22 out of 36 pieces on this afternoon late. i'll finish up tomorrow.
i'm hoping to get a few things tomorrow to work on my garden art project, my oil derrick bed, a couple of bags of mulch, a squirrel feeder, more birdseed, eh i'm tired already. i gotta mow this weekend, so probably tomorrow evening.
as for decluttering: i will go thru the winter clothes i had stored under the bed before i put that back. figure out what i'll do about the door or the closet organization. and if i finish my garden art project, i'll have the kitchen table cleaned off.
and that's enough.
oh yeah, i'd mentioned before about showing you my back room that makes me hyperventilate. I've taken to going in, grabbing one or two items, and feel like i'm decluttering, two pieces at a time (LOL)
Looking a little closer at that picture, without actually going in there, i am trying to figure out just what i want to do in there. oh yes, remember the closet way up there with my introduction? that's in this room. so any thoughts of putting things in the closet means tackling that project first. so... let's see... on the wall you can't see are bookcases filled with our DVD collection. it's very neat and organized and needs no work. i have two large plastic shelving units in there. while the boxes look fairly neat and organized, i don't like them blocking the window that way. soooooo... will start by removing the things from the room that may belong elsewhere (or just find them a better home, like the linen closet or my closet):
i have 3 shoeboxes of seeds--my closet.
pillows for that futon/guest bed--linen closet. OOH! may get some of those ziploc space bags... squish stuff down & store more in there, not looking overstuffed.
i'm thinking there are more jewelry making items in there--my closet.
a LOT of what is on the shelving unit in the corner: gift bags, boxes, etc. --maybe my closet (may even donate some--i will never use all those)
i think i'd rather the boxes of stuff go on the shelving units--i think. at least two of the boxes contain paper clutter i need to go thru.
there is at least enough home improvement stuff in there to fill one or two shelves. i'd much rather all that go in the laundry room.
that would make a huge dent in that otherwise overwhelming project. sure helped to write it all out. and think it out by looking at a picture, rather than actually standing in the room where i can't breathe LOL
I have a bedroom upstairs that looks just like that, come to think of it there are two of them that look just like that. One is the old master bedroom that will get remodeled after the one we are working on now. The other is the inside plant/craft room. I will de-clutter them when we start to remodel until that they are just dumping ground for what ever.
Okay I feel good, because I am not alone! I also feel bad because I have two bedrooms that are WORSE than yours! As I have stated before, the last 20+ years of one family medical crisis after another, including my own, left no time, energy or ability to keep house like I once did (which unbelievably was a little on the OCD side - LOL though no one could believe it now) So working through the literal years of "stuff" (using a nice word here) I am slowly de-cluttering. I started with the rooms we actually use. Most of those are done, or at least presentable, though they should be gone through again on a round 2 after I am finished with the rest of the house.
In the process, everything I didn't know what to do with I just put in those 2 bedrooms - okay I'll be honest - I started putting them in there, but now just get tossed in there. I call them my "black hole bedrooms" because once it goes in there I never see it. Right now I am in the process of clearing, cleaning and hopefully painting the ceiling and redoing my breezeway. It is between the garage and kitchen so it catches everything - and I mean everything. Here's a "before" picture of that and you'll see what I mean. A lot of this is now gone, but I am still waiting on step son to come and get the air hockey table and his tires and wheels. He will be over this week with some guys he has as clients. He has an auto repair business on the side. The guys have a tree cutting service. He did a job for them cheap and they owe him a favor and he's having them cut down a tree, half of another, and trim a couple branches from 3 others trees for us. Sweet deal! We think it fair for them to at least walk away with some cash so we will "tip" them some money, but in the process I am hoping to get that stuff gone too, and then I can continue out there.
Right now the den is clean and that is where Dave watches his TV. The living room is where I watch mine but it is also my work room for sorting stuff. So it is also full of crap I am working through. Everything that takes time to sort I take there and work on it at night while I watch TV. It looks a mess constantly but it is the "processing station" as I clear out the rest. I just can't stand long at a time, so this works. Once the breezeway is done and then the living room, it's time to venture into the black holes. But hey I have already decided, if it's been buried in there for so long, I haven't seen it or needed it then why keep it? I guess it may be a blessing in that way because I might not have known what to do with it before, but now I think most can go.
Not today however - I ran all my errands yesterday including a trip to Lowes for stuff to get my plants from the plant swap tended to. Nice weather today and tomorrow so I am headed to do that. I don't want out there when it hits the 90's later this week and the guys are here to cut down trees. So ladies - no more DG forums, no Dmails or emails for now - I'm heading outside and getting busy there.
(typed yesterday evening, but guess i forgot to click 'send')
Wow Debbie!! I love your plan! And all the trading /bartering you and your son did--awesome!!
And then the bonus is, you get some of the clutter gone--yea!
Your breezeway really doesn't look that bad, and since you said some of it's gone already, it's going to feel so good have the table out of there.
Cool! i went to Lowe's today. i didn't see you there?? and i was in the garden dept. too (lol)
picked up 2 bags of mulch, 2 bags of white marble (to go around my blue agave), and 3 bags of smaller river rock (for around the septic system).
i can't believe it, but i actually did a decluttering project this morning. my cubemate (coworker) has started having hot flashes. i remembered there was a fan like i keep on my desk in my husband's closet. i went to get it out, surveyed the situation and thought 'how hard can this be?' it wasn't. i got rid of an entire box of nothing but backup documents for our 2005 taxes. CPA has already given the go ahead for that year. another box was EMPTY. another box was 1/3 full of old photos. i found another box with some photos, combined them into a smaller box, and voile! took out a monitor stand that was mine, and taking up space. it's going in the donation box, along with quite a few other things from there. put everything back and it looks so neat in there. oh yeah, found a set of four coffee cups someone had given him as a gift so i took them to the kitchen to use. we have several old ones i'd like to donate.
i'll be mowing soon, then finishing the trim on my car, going thru the winter clothes so they can go back under the bed, then i'll get my shower and maybe look at the garden art project. i got the stuff i need today to do four of them. a little nervous about the drilling, but i've watched the youtube video several times. seems the key is to drill a pilot hole first.
i should have hoed the weeds around the septic tanks this morning when it was still a little wet; it would have been far easier. either way, i need to get onto that project soon before the weeds grow back. i've already got weed barrier to put down before i put the gravel down. can't wait to see how that turns out.
Wow- you all been crazy busy and doing such SUPER good work.
My off season clothes go under the bed too. I hate the time to make the switch! Do you notice sometimes the clothes shrink under those beds?
We has 1/2 ton of river rock delivered - the 6 inch and bigger size) it sounds like a lot but it looks to me like maybe 100 pieces. Need to fill in holes around the water feature. HOW those holes appear exposing the rubber line beats the hell outta me! Must be those bullfrogs stealing the rocks dead of night!
I am hopeless. I look at your projects and say " Hmmmmmm, THAT box looks interesting." " I can use that exercise ball -- I wonder what happened to mine and where is my hula hoop?" "I hope she is not gonna toss that lamp, I could do something with the shade." ( I already have a huge chandelier with 15 arms waiting to be hung in a old magnolia - glass cups and all - THAT outta be full of bees and leaves in no time! )
Rosie you crack me up... yep, my clothes shrink when they're under the bed too. hmmmm
I've found it easier (only b/c our winters are so short and mild) to just grab what i want to wear, and put it back after i wash it.
i don't do the big changeover. we pretty much wear tshirts 365. of course it's b/c in the summer, we can go thru 3 a day.
and the frogs stealing rocks... buahahahahaha! love it. wouldn't you love to find their stash??
i know i have squirrels digging up and stealing my plants!! and i don't mean the bulbs. it's crazy. i had just put a Mother of Thousands in the ground Friday evening. i went to show my neighbor my garden and saw it all dug up, and in pieces. GRRRR!!!
should have gotten out earlier today when it was so nice here (only 72, low humidity). but no. talked to hubby until around 9:30 and went out to start the septic tank project. hoeing and raking is hard work!! and three bags of river rock were barely enough to circle three lids. we have six, and then the electronics, which still needs to be free of weeds. i think it will look as good as i'd expected (how cool can a septic system look really?). i'm thinking that the space between the storage shed and the gravel is hard enough to mow now, so i want to run two landscape timbers along the length, over weed barrier, and put down mulch for a path.
starting mowing last night, after killing the yellow jackets in the mower shed, airing up the tires on the mower and the trailer, hauled the mulch, gravel, and rocks to where they belonged. after all that, i'd failed to check the gas gauge in the mower--doh! i ran out of gas after i'd done about 1/3 of the mowing, but it was dark anyway.
tired. hoping for clouds. it's 91 with 36% humidity and not the least bit overcast ;-(
hey ladies... sometimes i hate my laptop ;-(
i was at the END of my last post for today and somehow, i ended up closing the window!! boohoo!
and i'm so freakin tired right now, i could just drop!
just wanted to say i've done a TON of gardening today, finished my mowing, putting the trim on my car, and spread out 3 bags of river rock, 2 bags of black mulch, 3 bags of white marble, and 3 bags of lava rock. i put 4 or 5 plants in the ground, one in a pot, and redid my windowbox planter.
watered the garden, and a small patch of grass, came in & got my shower, ate a bite, did a load of laundry, and took my night meds.
I. AM. EXHAUSTED!!! O M G!!
lights out in 8 minutes. tomorrow's going to be a long day at work (day after a holiday sucks). i need my rest.
p.s. pictures below of a) the septic system bed, b) the diagonal bed, and c) the oil derrick bed
Trying to recover from 2 days of digging, cutting out roots and planting some plants from the swap. My back is screaming nasties at me!!! Today is rainy and adding more pain but it forced me to take a day off from it. I have learned a couple things in the process.
1. Digging sucks more than it ever did and it sucks worse when it’s the ground. I think if I do any gardening when we get moved it will be in raised beds, or containers.
2. I found out why everything I have planted in front of my porch for years dies – I dug up two roots and millions if not billions of feeder offshoot roots that made an almost solid root blanket from the maple. What a job!!! That’s all gone after several hours work and now my clay/soil is mixed with Garden soil, so it should grow something. It took all day one day to cut out and make a bed along the front of the porch and another day to do the side of the porch. I have to put a deep edging in it yet to try to keep those roots from encroaching on it again...or at least slow them down for a year or two until we can hopefully move.
Holly - thank you! This is the place I was talking about moving my plants to instead of in the house for the winter. You can see the Night Blooming Cereus in the picture that wasn't moved outside yet from last winter.
Rosie - you're too funny girl...however, it's nice to know others have that shrinking clothes problem too. I was worried before but now I know the reason...it's just long time storage!!! Oh and the frogs stealing rocks..LOL Maybe they wanted a mountain? That reminds me of a squirrel I had here. There are always several but this one I think either had a few screws loose or was really smart. In 1993 we had snow, then ice, then snow, then ice and then both in the month of March - what they called the "storm of the century" at the time. Anyway, I took some cobs of dried corn out to the tree line (trudging through crotch deep snow/ice with it coming down sideways in the driving wind brrrrrrrrrrrr) for the squirrels. Once back inside I watched this one come down - pull all the corn off the cob, leaving it on the snow and take the cob up a tree. Dave and I were like what??? He'd be back doing it to another and another. I told Dave I don't think he's hungry, but he's cold. He's taking the cobs to make himself a cob cabin!!! Never saw it but I couldn't think of any other explanation.
Carole - I didn't see you at Lowe's either and I was in the Garden Dept. I guess it was at different times. Tee-hee You don't think it was the 1500 miles differnece do you? You're making me look bad!
You sure are making some tracks there girl. I don't know what gear you got into but it's working for you. It won't be long before you get the outside work done and will be back inside finishing up the decluttering. You go girl!!! I've been working so hard on the flowers and outside stuff I haven't done anything inside except the daily stuff. But hey, I'll get there. I do what I can. Some days it is more than others but as long as something gets done, I take it as a win.
I don't know how much I will get done later this week outside, because unlike your 36% humidity we will be in the 90's with the lowest humidty forecasted to be 58% and up to 70% so when it is hot here it's like a sauna. I will be inside with the AC for sure. I can't deal with heat. It makes the irregular heartbeat worse and the blood pressure go sky high. They will be decluttering days to some degree. I have the guys coming to cut trees, and although they don't need me to do their work, I'll be out to take them drinks and to answer questions about what I want trimmed beyond the obvious.
I need to go figure out supper and then I have some Dmails and emails backed up from the last 2 days I need to answer. I hope your day at work wasn't too bad. Tell your cubemate to get some Black Cohosh supplements and some rasberry tea to help with the hot flashes. It takes a while for it to get into her system so 1 capsule ,or 1 cup of tea, won't be enough. But it works, is better and more natural than the prescriptions they sell for it.
If I ran into those roots - you can bet I would have stopped in my tracks and the front porch would have a new raised bed in front of it. if I had a hat on, I would take it off to you --sticking with that project takes guts and determination and a handful of Motrin!
The squirrel story got me chuckling -- as I read about your plan to carry out drinks to the tree guys, I had a 'visual' ...you taking them can after can of coke and them pouring it on the ground and carrying those cans up into the trees!
Mentioning the clothes under the bed got me at least to venture that way today. I got out all my summer 'schmatttas' ( house dresses that you don't want the firemen to see if you happen to need rescuing---- WHOOOSH !!! the fire starts on the stove and before you even consider putting it out or silencing the ear splitting smoke alarm--- you pull off that schmattta and put on something presentable).
I put all my warm winter jammie's in the schmattta's under-the-bed storage box. Every year at Christmas my hubby buys me a set of flannel PJs. The things don't wear out. I ain't that young. I will have these for the REST OF MY LIFE! He is so proud of finding Jammie's decorated with spotted dogs, candy canes, bon bons, chinese dragons, leopard spots, cows, russian nesting dolls and cupcakes. As I open "the" yearly box and peel back the tissue paper, he looks at me and says "I know how much you like ...cupcakes (or whatever that year's design happens to be) -- well, hells bells - there are times I can appreciate a strong laxative but that doesn't mean I want to wear a photo of it captured on flannel stretching across my butt for all time!
decluttering clothes is so hard - especially when in perfect condition. I stopped to fix supper. I fixed a pork loin from Costco. I sliced it into cutlets about 3/4 inch thick then pounded each flat. Dipped in egg mix and breaded with Progresso Italan bread crumbs. Jammed fresh grated parmigian cheese into the breaded cutlet too. Fried and put a little 'burn' on the cutlet. It came out good - parm with a wee burn tastes great. Side salad of mixed greens and chopped farmers market tomatoes placed over a mozzarella slice drizzled with honey balsamic dressing and drizzled same dressing over a banana sliced longways. Added a side dish of steamed corn sliced off the cob and tossed with a little butter, salt and pepper. Quick and easy! I just hope next Christmas's Jammie's don't have anything from tonight's supper on 'em!
I get jammiez every Christmas too! And a robe. From my best friendz in Beaverton. I stay with them a lot. Lisa got tired of me lounging around in whatever ugly shirt Jack had passed on to me. So now I have jammiez here, there & in both of our Illinois domiciles. Last Christmas Larry picked them out & I got snazzy grey leopard jammiez. I much prefer his taste to Lisa's, altho she did get me red & white plaid with coordinating robe (trust me, much better than it soundz). Otherwise, she gets me stuff that cowboyz & the Jetsons might wear.
Unlike you, I DO wear them out. I am hard on thingz in general. For instance, it is a sad thing in life that, if you drink enuf beer, you spill beer.
Ha Ha. Maybe I should cook Sunday gravy (pasta sauce) in the PJs. But with most of those prints you could hit me with a paint ball splat and it would 'blend.' Summer you must be younger than me because there isn't enough time for me to wear out all these Jammie's. the flannel is supper thick and there are too many of them. Well...at least they are boyfriend style with 2 nice deep pockets at the hip on the top half and 2 in the bottoms. There are metal snaps at the cuffs too --- to shorten...???? In case of flood???
oh my gosh!! Debbie, your story about the squirrel cracked me up!! I can just see it!!
But I gotta say, I have TEARS running down my face LMAO @ you, Rosie!!
"well, hells bells - there are times I can appreciate a strong laxative but that doesn't mean I want to wear a photo of it captured on flannel stretching across my butt for all time! "
Now, let me get a little serious... I gotta say... we ALL are kicking butt, are we not?!! Heck yeah!!
I'm PROUD of us!!!
Debbie, you gotta get the award, girl, for tackling those million billion roots!! holy CRAP! way to stick to it!
Rosie, WTG starting on your clothes!! so did you end up getting rid of the 'schmatttas' ?
I know, clothes are hard. I have passed over the same blouses, dresses, SUIT COATS (for ladies that work, like I will EVER wear them again), jeans... and why?!! I have some sentimental attachment? that's just nuts!!
Holly, I love the plan you have. I really do. I can just picture you gutting a room, fixing it up, and refusing to clutter it up again. AWESOME!!
Summer, I love LOVE the "snazzy grey leopard jammiez"! Pictures!! =) I just love animal prints.
oh, and Rosie... we have jammie pants way thinner than yours here in Texas (South Texas)... I go thru a pair a year. when I get done gardening, get my shower, i'm in them... and on the weekend, I may be in them a little longer, doing everything from housework to gardening LOL (ok, if he's home, I DO like getting dressed right away b/c no doubt he will spring on me "ok, let's run to Lowe's, then Sam's, then grab a bite to eat.")
And Debbie... we've been in the upper 80s and bumping 90-92 for a week now. humidity Saturday, I think it was, was 85%. I swear, I thought I would drown in my own sweat! this is why I want everything done in the next week. all I want to do until fall is water and take pictures... at least until it's all dead and brown ;-(
I just hate it for you guys b/c ur not as used to it. I hate heat, did I tell you?
and one more thing, speaking of heat. I've been taking black cohosh for the past week, and using progesterone cream. are you saying I should take more than one capsule a day? didn't know about the raspberry tea. the other two have been keeping my hot flashes down considerably.
missingrosie wrote:Ha Ha...Well...at least they are boyfriend style with 2 nice deep pockets at the hip on the top half and 2 in the bottoms. There are metal snaps at the cuffs too --- to shorten...???? In case of flood???
stopped by Lowe's on the way b/c they (ok, WE) forgot to load my bonus "broken bag deal" (mix of different kinds, I think). the manager said it was the equivalent of about 3 bags that he marked down to like $2.58! sooooo I got the 6 more bags of the Colorado river rock, 2 landscape timbers, 2 bags of black mulch for the walk by the septic system. and then the two bags of red lava rock I need to finish the "oil derrick bed." not going to do it until probably Thursday evening.
gotta go take my meds now... and then off to bed
(FYI: I watered in my jammie pants LOL)
Yes. Of couse I kept the schmatttas. ;0). I have those work clothes too Cajun. And I have clothes that are too small. I keep thinking maybe someday... But what works for me is that I keep thinking of folks that maybe can use. Why am I holding onto clothing that someone can use for perhaps a job interview or to stay warm. It works most of the time. Tomorrow I am going to finish the switch winter for summer anddo some meaningful much needed donating!
I love reading your posts for my morning chuckles, but Rosie, I almost sprayed coffee all over the computer screen with the -
"-- well, hells bells - there are times I can appreciate a strong laxative but that doesn't mean I want to wear a photo of it captured on flannel stretching across my butt for all time! "
I laughed so hard I had tears running down my leg! Good one!!!
Thanks for the compliment too but a handful of Motrin wouldn't get it done. I have herniated discs in both my neck and lower back pressing on nerve bundles. So far it hasn't progressed to pressing on the spinal cord so as long as I can deal with the pain (with a little help) and my appendages still move, I don't have to have surgery, though it should be done. That's a good thing because right now the rest of the family depends on me to help them because I'm the best of the bunch. That's sad. Dave and my SIL have had recent surgeries so as they heal, some of my load will lighten, but for now... I'm it. Anyway, due to this fact I have a prescription for Vicodin and so that's what got me through the work. I should have washed them down with a cold beer but didn't. That would have helped more and that's why they say "don't do that" LOL
I have some flannel jammies but seldom wear them because they are hot. I might wear a pair of bottoms with a tank or t-shirt but the flannel top? indoors? Nope. Geez I'm happy with a Chamois shirt over my t-shirt all winter instead of a coat. I'm usually in a tank top and the shorts style sleeper sets all year around the house. Now if I lose some of my whale blubber, who knows?
Okay back to serious,... if we must. Yes Carole, I am proud of us too..."we done good"! (but oh so much more to do) That's why I have been trying to get done outside too. We're having some hot days starting tomorrow but it's supposed to go back down in the 70's next week. What I don't get done before the heat starts will have to wait until it gets cooler because I can't deal with the heat.
Rosie - here is what I did with the dress work clothes I no longer need. (I plan to also do the same with a lot of the clothes in the "black hole bedrooms" too) I ran a search for women's shelters in my state. I found one in MD, but that town and state is literally 5 miles from my door. It is run by a church community (group of churches) they have a men's shelter, a women's shelter both with and without kids and then a farm a little further out with some small homes on it for families. They take people in, help them train for work and find a job. They then can get items from the barn that have been donated to help them furnish their own place once working and can get an apartment. It is a start to finish operation for homeless, and out of work or bad relationships people to regain independence. I took a lot there because they take everything from clothes to furniture. It is all used by someone at some point. Now our state has a few battered women's shelters. They are not known to the public but they exist. So I went down to the police station and told the officer I knew they existed and I knew they were kept secret for obvious reasons, but could he give me a name and number of someone to contact to see about donating clothes. He did, I called and met the woman so some clothes went there. I have nothing against Goodwill and Salvation Army. I have donated to both, but I really like to put it in the hands of the people in need better. So all the dresses and clothes I used to wear to work - gone. All the high heels I couldn't wear if I wanted to - gone. My wardrobe consists mostly of jeans and t-shirts. I have a couple pair of dress slacks and blouses. I have a dress for ther "marryin' and buryin'" times. But that's it. I did keep some jeans that are too small for me now but I do intend to get back into them. No, they are not size 2 or something I don't ever recall being, they are a size maybe two smaller than I am wearing now. I think that is reasonable and an incentive. I hope to then donate the "big drawers" as I do lose to keep from gaining again. Anyway, my point is, if I don't wear, need it nor see me doing so, why keep it? It helps putting it into the hands of someone in need too because it enriches their lives and helps them make a new start. Maybe if you sought out a place like that in your area it would be the incentive you need to clear out some of the clothing. I know it helped me to lighten my load and will again once I get to those bedrooms. If you're already thinking that way, then perhaps finding the destination for them is all you need.
Carole - you rock! You're finding deals and working like a house on fire - shaming us all! LOL
As for the Black Cohosh and Rasberry Leaf Tea...what I meant was... time. Often people think things are like an aspirin - take 1-2 and the headache goes away. But not everything is like that, even many prescriptions take weeks before they have built up in your system. So take whatever the brand supplement says but take it everyday. The same goes for the tea - have a cup or two everyday hot or iced, with or without sweetener of your choice. Give it a month and you'll see a difference. Many herbs are great medicines. I love Lemon Balm. Sure it's great for cooking to add a lemony flavor, but dried and then make a tea ...it is way better at night for sleep than chamomile. I grow some things, some friends grow others and I supplement here -
I have no affiliation with them but their prices aren't bad, the products are great and they ship fast. I joined their free email list and occasionally the send codes for discounts too and no spam from them either. You can click on the links to herbs (and check out the AWESOME assortment of teas too) and read about the benefits of many things. Use Lemon Balm for an example - check it out and you see why I grow that stuff!
Okay off to chores after i take Dave for x-rays and a couple more errands. Have a great day ladies!
Love - I am going to do exactly that. I have donated clothes to Goodwill before (just $$ to Salvation Army) and I think the resale prices are too high for the folks I would like to reach.
I have dress white office shirts with tags or worn a few times -- they won't thank me because even tho are fitted and look great-- the iron must come out with these babies. Lots of sweaters and work clothes and so I will go to the shelter and I know where the local headquarters is for women's shelter.
I have spent the entire day in that closet and only half done!
I would love to wear shorts around the house and shortie jammies to sleep...but so many people rely on GPS that I am afraid with my veins looking like road maps --- I'd have a bunch of truckers landing at my door step middle of the night and how do I explain THAT to neighbors! The hubby -- HE would believe it and have coffee waiting! I am the queen of veins! Don't have too many rolls and so that is good.
Ha- ha - I got too many rolls but the legs look great, especially for an ole fart.
I'm glad the idea helped you along. I know when I thought of it, it was what I needed to "git 'r done" I agree with you the prices in Goodwill are crazy! You can find most of that stuff at Dollar Tree, Wally World or even K-mart for the same prices, sometimes cheaper! I feel better about putting it directly into people's hands that will use it.
Hey don't get down on yourself for spending all day and "only being half done" - turn it around and say - I'm half way to my goal in only one day!! I think that's our problem we see what needs to be done and not our accomplishments. I know I'm guilty myself. So... you go girl!! Just think ...you can get it done tomorrow (or the next day you work on it) and then check that off the list and feel good for a job well done AND helping others in need. That's a win-win!!
I hope to then donate the "big drawers" as I do lose to keep from gaining again.
chuckling as I read...
you guys are absolutely cracking me up!!
totally agree on the donations to shelters. we have one in our little bitty town of Cleveland. well, let me rephrase... the place that takes donations for them is in our little town on our "Main Street" (tho not called that). they take in ANYTHING... they first give to those in need, then what's extra is sold to get the money to buy whatever else they need. I donate there, or another Angelic Resale (something like that) who funds homeless shelters. ditto with handing out what is needed directly to the people, and selling the rest. I've found some good buys in there too, and shop there when I need something odd or off the wall. a hail storm came thru here and took out all but one of my gazing balls in the garden (THAT was fun to clean up!). I found a plain white round globe for a light fixture there for $2. fit perfectly in one of my bases. I've found planters and cute pots there too. I love it. and hubby likes it when I find neat tshirts for him cheap. he's hard on clothes (he's a truck driver, Rosie LOL). so I can usually get him a bunch for like $2 each, and then we don't feel guilty tossing them when they're too _____ to wear in public.
I've been using herbs and home remedies over western medicine for decades. one thing I know is the being patient, although it's hard sometimes when you're in pain* i'm happy that my hot flashes seem to have waned. i'll pick up some raspberry leaf tea next time i'm at the store. thanks!!
*I've got a wicked ear ache. both ears really, but the right ear is the worst. kept me awake last night. I finally got relief by dropping garlic juice in my ear, followed by a drop or two of warm olive oil. i'm going to have to resort to a little Vicodin myself in order to drift off, as opposed to the usual Melatonin. any other suggestions are welcome indeed, but i'm about to go get ready for bed so... speak up!!
I have to wonder what someone stumbling onto this thread must think reading our ramblings HAHAHAHAHA. hopefully they are somewhat entertained. hope they DO realize that between the lines, we are encouraging each other, trying to have a little fun as we trudge thru our crap, vowing to declutter and stay that way *smile*
too tired when I got home today to do anything outside, but I did manage to plant 3 dusty millers I got marked down to .44 each, put my Mother of Thousands back in the ground (that the squirrels dug up), and moved some Mexican Mint Marigold from a spot in full sun--it was really struggling there. I was thankful for the clouds and a little sprinkling, even though the rain will pass us (again).
instead decided to take some stuff TO THE CAR to be donated. i'm also helping my son and his new bride get ready to start out on their own soon. they live in Houston, so too far to just have her swing by. I take pictures and say 'you want any of this?' and she's good to say "it's really not something I think I would use, Mom, but thank you." but usually, she's like 'oh yes please!!!' I love it. so her stuff goes into 'their room' (where they stay when they come).
I put the two under bed storage thingees on my bed so I will go thru them real quick before I climb in tonight. and remember what I said I was doing in MY "black hole bedroom"? as I take something back to one of those rooms (my kids, grandkids, and THAT room), I have been taking SOMETHING out, even if it's just one thing. maybe small, but it still feels good.
on that note, ladies. I will go get ready for bed...
I got all the winter clothes cleaned out. Closet is neat - tomorrow the summer stuff. Then I got a call from my o,der sis (who has just started radiation for breast cancer) ..
I am so blue I don't know what to do. My oldest brother is the sweetest thing ( but no businessman). He gets all frazzled with a simple tax form or when going to negotiate a new car. If he has to read it--- he won't do it. Well he wanted a new truck. He owns his home outright. He has no kids and no wife. So... He sees the stuff on TV about reverse mortgages..."income in retirement". He has no debt but no $$ for a new truck AND he doesn't like debt especially at 71 yrs. So this bulldog saleswoman comes to the house and puts a thousand papers in front of him. He thinks it is an application. She tells him his house is worth 100K. He objects and says he will get appraisal. Next day guy shows up, brother lets him in... Guy won't speak with him, but brother lets him look. Then he gets a message " you are correct your home IS worth more. He is vindicated!! But not sure he wants all this paperwork business. He figures he will think about it. Two weeks later he gets bill for an "appraisa"l -- he doesn't like bills so he PAYS it. Then today he gets letter from his insurance company...homeowners insurance has gone up $1800/year (????) AND he now has flood insurance (???). So he calls insurance company to find out what is up. He normally has minimum coverage on house - like for fire with high deductible because he has no mortgage and no flood needs. WELL, State Farm tells him that he is not listed as the homeowner --- as of May 14 this reverse mortgage lender is!! AND, they require insurance of 235% of home value AND FLOOD. He had no idea the papers (if they were but they must have been) were an application that if "approved" would go thru as if it were a done deed. He thought he was just going through a preliminary approval. SO now his homeowners and flood per month will be much more than a truck payment FOREVER --- and lord knows what they actually gave him on the house ---but for sure he will spend it totally over time via these monthly insurance payments. So he in effect owned his house free and clear and has mortgaged it to do nothing else but use the proceeds to pay the lender. He is frantic. He won't be able to live there because his SS won't cover these additional bills. PLUS there is mortgage protection insurance the HE has to pay in case the LENDER defaults on the money it is supposed to lend him because if that happens HUD steps in and covers the payments to my brother. WHY doesn't the lender have to take out the mortgage protection insurance policy if it is the lender that could someday default?? He had no idea this was happening and there is only a three day grace to undo it and it looks like it was transferred via the insurance at least on may 14. If he did not get the State Farm bill he would have never known...,,
I don't know why I've told you all this but I feel better. Those folks on the commercials including Fonzie should be ashamed! Targeting seniors with offers of 'security'
Oh noooo!!! That's unbelievably wrong!! I'm practically speechless here.
Is there an elder care attorney near you? (is that the same as an ombudsman?)
Maybe even contact a civil attorney and ask if you can run the case by them, see what they say?
Surely, someone can help him. Poor man. I hate scams!! I can't imagine how they get those seniors to do the "testimonials" for them.
if they are not actors (more likely), they must be catching them at that moment when their eyes are glazed over thinking about a stream of income for the rest of their days, not realizing what it really is: is they have just been sold up the river. so very sad.
people need to know it's a scam. can't imagine it's legal at all. probably only b/c there are so many loop holes in our laws, it's like looking at a piece of Swiss cheese, nay tatted lace.
i'm so sorry... I hate reading docs too, but... i'm afraid if it were my mortgage, or my debt-free home, i'd HAVE to pay an attorney to check it all out. they get people because we don't want to read the fine print. I hope you can find someone who can help him.
Thanks. The Senior attorney is on the list but S. Fla is full of these stories. Few months ago my sis said the news told of 81 yr old who got sick and went to nursing home - the contract says that you must live in your home. Well she was convalescing beyond the period and was losing her home. Lawyers took case pro bono - court held up the contract. My brother is very independent and it would humiliate him as the oldest for us to know that money is tight ( of course we know) and he did this foolish thing. So my sibling can't say she told us. He was frantic enough to tell her - she is next in line after him. There were 14 of us kids.
He told my sis that the sales lady came in and was like a steamroller but since it was just an application to see if HE was worthy of the service he didn't think anything of it. It was actually all those piles of papers that she left that was working to divert him from the process. No wonder it is so successful - the señor literally has to sit there and gather nothing up ( he never would have gathered anything!) and go nowhere and do nothing!
But this is Loves thread and it is about cluttering. So I apologize Love for the diversion. And will thank you all for giving me space to uncluttered my heart and brain. We will figure it out. I am thinking we will give the check back -- gather funds to cover the closing and other costs he incurred and learn from this.
Well today I do the second half of the decluttering of the seasonal clothes. The shelter ladies will have a bright spot added to their day real soon - I am going to add some costume jewelry and scarves and purses! I will be very careful tho -- I keep a junk box of costume jewelry for the grand gals... In it was my DIAMOND engagement ring that it took me 19 years to get! I rarely wear it and I don't know how it got in that box but there it sat! Sophia USED to keep her "foolery" box next to Honey's (that's me) "foolery" box. Now that ring is in the safe!
Rosie - first of all I am so sorry to hear of your brother's problems as well as your sister's health. I have said a prayer for all, including you.
I agree with Carole - get a lawyer. I understand the 3-day thing, but there should be something regarding his state of mind for his age that can be done. If he is on any medications for "memory" like Namenda, Aricept, etc. that should help you in a defense. I don't know what can be done, but a senior lawyer should be well aware of this stuff. He signed papers so it is a done deal - but if he is not of sound mind in ANY way even with an Rx, I'd think he could win for sure. I don't know what to advise myself beyond getting a lawyer, but I certainly hope it works out for him.
Congrats on finishing the closet!! Good for you. Isn't it wonderful seeing something completed? I get so excited when I get something done it's a boost for days. Oh and congrats too on finding the engagment ring. As for the other jewelry - check it well. You never know if a gold or silver chain may have migrated into the costume jewelry too, especially since your diamond was in there. Even the costume jewelry might be worth looking at. A friend of mine dug out her Avon and Sarah Coventry stuff and sold every piece of it on eBay. She even sold some "no name" costume jewelry for a few bucks, Apparently even with hard times, women still buy jewelry. LOL
Last, this is not MY thread. I just started it. Clutter is usually a symptom of what state our mind is in. What we live in reflects that. I know that well. So - I am honored you felt close enough to us on here to share your heartbreak, decluttering your heart and brain as you said. If you bottled it up would you really be tackling more clothes today? I doubt it. See, at least in my mind, and I think it holds true for others, I have come to realize that sure there are many factors to my clutter - lack of time, so many needs of family that are my responsibility, and my own physical ability limitations but mostly it was depression over a lot of things and just not caring any more as the root of it and what started it all. You didn't "divert" anything dear girl. Mental clutter and heartbreak is a part of all our problems, so I am saying thank you for feeling close enough to let us be there for YOU! girlfriend!
Carole - you go girl! I tell you that one thing at a time will become two before long LOL and you'll start to see a difference before you know it. Good to get things to the car too and know a great donation place is close. Once it's out of the house, don't second guess and drag it back!
My step-son just got married 2 weeks ago. You may remember I was upset about that earlier. Not that they were getting married, I'm happy for them. They were sweethearts in junior high school and re-found each other years later. I was upset because of their health insurance premiums going so high in June they had no choice but to rush and get married before the end of this month. So instead of a small but nice wedding/reception which everyone wanted, they had to go to the justice of the peace. But they might do a reception at some point for everyone to just get together and celebrate. They live in a 2 br apt. with her 10 year old daughter from another relationship. They have her and her daughter's stuff from their apartment, his stuff from his apartment all combined and need nothing. In fact, they have a lot of her stuff still at her mom's. They want to buy a house as soon as they can or at the very least rent one. When they do, you can bet I will be doing the same thing - take a picture and say "want this?" before it goes wherever. If we get lucky and move somewhere more rural ourselves like we want, we might sell them this place. If they can't get a mortgage (her student loans are unreal) then maybe rent it with a portion going toward buying until they can. I'd get an appraisal, reduce it by a realtor's fee and likely reduce it more simply because it is them and we'd get them to help us move. LOL That would be a help for all.They only live 3 miles from us now, and I know they like the place. Her mom lives in walking distance (maybe 1/4-1/2 mile away) and we have a 2 car garage with space for a 4 car one which would make Dan happy. Time will tell there though. If not here, when they do get a place they'll likely be able to use more "stuff' and that means it can be gone.
Ear ache - I lay on my side and fill my ear with Hydrogen Peroxide. Let it bubble away for as long as it does (sometimes 5 minutes, sometimes more) then let it drain out onto a towel, dry (absorb) any left with a Q-tip. Roll over and do the other ear. I do it often and it stopped the ear aches I used to get all the time. It also helps if you have a sore throat to do this. I know, it sounds crazy but the Eustachian Tubes connect, and it helps. If you have a supply of many herbs already I can suggest more, but one you likely have is ginger root. Boil some of that and make a poultice in a warm wash cloth, apply to the outer ear and it should help too. Obviously don't burn yourself with the boiling water LOL
Sleep - Lemon Balm makes a great tea for that. It is calming and I like it better than Chamomile. You should find that wherever you get the Rasberry Leaf Tea. Pick you up a plant a grow it too. It'll grow almost anywhere. A hot foot bath helps before bed too because it pulls some blood to the feet from the brain. You can make it more effective with some Mustard powder in the water. Of course, lavender does help. Make yourself a "dream pillow" with some dried lavender flowers in a netting bag, or make an oil infusion and add a couple drops to a wash cloth or hankerchief on your pillow...sweet dreams!
Here's a pic of SOME of my herbs, spices and teas in my kitchen. LOL
Carole - forgot to say - gazing balls - check out the Mosaic forum and search bowling balls and check out what they did. I don't think hail would destroy a bowling ball. Ha! If it did break something mosaiced on it, just glue something else on. But...me and paint - well, you can make gazing balls with spray paint. Look for Chrome paint or Mirror paint. If you want to do colors, use a chrome paint then use a translucent candy color over it - ta-da. Gazing ball that hail can't break.
Oh and there was something else I forgot too but now I can't remember what it was...old timer's disease I guess - will get back to you when I think of it.
Thanks Love. You are right it did help and I am almost done with the summer clothes yea!
I have a funny health insurance premium story. I have been married 40 years. Recently I called my husbands HR to add myself to his dental insurance. Dental work is planned for this year to replace old fillings so I figured I'd have my and his dental coverage. Well, the benefits program rule is you have to show that you are a spouse to be covered. They wanted the front page of our joint IRS tax form with income and SS blacked out AND a copy of my marriage license. Well, when we married all those years ago (I was 18) I decided after a few weeks that marriage wasn't cracked up to be what I thought---- so I went to the family doctor and told him my sad tale -- catholic so no sense going to a priest -- I wanted out not a lecture on making the best of it. Old Italian doc said " bake bread - that is what my wife and girls do -- if you bake bread you will be happy ( no kidding - it was the 70's - womens lib - and he wanted me to bake bread) so...I did what I always do and took the bull by the horns and that evening told my new hubby that we made a big mistake. He didn't agree. Loud yelling ensued and he said "fine - go but you will regret it - you will be back in no time begging me to take you back because you are immature and don't know what you want." Well, to PROVE that I did TOO know - I ripped up the marriage license and threw it a him. He laughed and said that before the night was over, I would be taping it back together. Well, to prove to him that I meant business - I got a can of Campbell's Chicken Noodle Soup (our main entrée those days) and opened it and threw all the paper fragments of the license in the sink and poured the soup on it and stirred it up with a wooden spoon -- told him he could EAT THAT for dinner. Well girls...It was HELL taping all those noodled soupy pieces back together!! Anyway, I recently sent a photocopy of that raggedy thing in to the insurance folks - taped and chicken noodle stained. PS. Today I do bake bread occasionally and it doesn't make me any happier but it sure tastes good!
Holy crap Batman, you ain't gonna believe this. The noodle soup stained, taped marriage license story was a good one, but the bread had me ROTFLOL and here's why...
I got married young. I was in love and meant it forever, apparently he only meant "for right now" since he was having other fun on the side. Well, I got a call from him while I was at work and he informed me he'd moved out and wanted a divorce. He took everything with him too, except my clothes and ALL the debt, which he left with me. Great call to get at work, huh? He'd moved in with his latest girlfriend and naturally I was upset. That was a Friday and I cried and moped all weekend. Monday however, I realized I would be better off without him and filed for divorce that day. Tuesday HE called and said "I want a divorce!" By then I'd "grown a pair" and said "yeah I heard that Friday, so since you have everything of value, you are the one who wants a divorce then bring me the money and I will fill the papers". I'd already filed and paid for it but a couple days later he brought me the money. LOL Long story - short; I asked him "just answer me one thing,... what did I ever do to cause you to want a divorce? I never cheated on you. I have worked 2 and 3 jobs so the bills got paid when you managed to get fired so you could go hunting and fishing. (cheating too I guess) I kept our apartment clean. I always cook good meals, I never withheld sex, I did everything for you I could...so just what is it?"...He stared at me like a deer in headlights and after a minute or two I swear his answer was..."Well you never made homemade bread like my mom did". I laughed and said "what????" he repeated it and yup that's what he said. I asked him "just when do you think I had time to do that when I was working all the time to pay the bills?" He just handed me the money for the divorce and walked away. Soooo...it became the family joke. Every time I got a birthday card or I'd be at a relative's house they'd always give me recipes for all kinds of bread in case I met a man I fell in love with and wanted to keep him. I ended all that when those bread machines came out and I bought one. But even better 26 years ago, I met a man who makes bread for me. LOL
Talk about old timer's disease - geez...I came back because I remembered what I'd forgotten to say to Carole. I read Rosie's post that cracked up remembering the bread story...and forgot it again.
Anyway, 2 things Carole, both related to your glass ball globe. I saw on Pinterest (I think) where someone had taken those light covers and inserted a string of white Christmas lights inside it turned it upside down so the opening was on the bottom of course, and then in the evening around the patio there were nice muted lights. I think she'd done several and had them all around the seating area, but not too many that would make it bright. Depending on where your gazing ball stand is that you put it in, that could be a thought. Multi-tasking ornament white globe ball in day, muted light at night. Also, I have seen round globes, flower pots and other items painted in Rustoleum's glow in the dark paint. I think that would be a really neat idea too.
lovetopaint wrote:Rosie ... Congrats on finishing the closet!! Good for you. Isn't it wonderful seeing something completed? Woot Woot!!
Clutter is usually a symptom of what state our mind is in. What we live in reflects that. I know that well. So - I am honored you felt close enough to us on here to share your heartbreak, decluttering your heart and brain as you said. If you bottled it up would you really be tackling more clothes today? I doubt it. See, at least in my mind, and I think it holds true for others, I have come to realize that sure there are many factors to my clutter - lack of time, so many needs of family that are my responsibility, and my own physical ability limitations but mostly it was depression over a lot of things and just not caring any more as the root of it and what started it all. You didn't "divert" anything dear girl. Mental clutter and heartbreak is a part of all our problems, so I am saying thank you for feeling close enough to let us be there for YOU! girlfriend! Well put! My sentiments exactly!
Good to get things to the car too and know a great donation place is close. Once it's out of the house, don't second guess and drag it back! Words of Wisdom!!
Ear ache - I lay on my side and fill my ear with Hydrogen Peroxide. Let it bubble away for as long as it does (sometimes 5 minutes, sometimes more) then let it drain out onto a towel, dry (absorb) any left with a Q-tip. That's what I was doing. I finally read online about the garlic juice, warm olive oil, and oil of oregano to help with the infection. Hmmm, sounds like the beginning of a great Italian dish!
Sleep - Lemon Balm makes a great tea for that. It is calming and I like it better than Chamomile. You should find that wherever you get the Rasberry Leaf Tea. Pick you up a plant a grow it too. It'll grow almost anywhere. A hot foot bath helps before bed too because it pulls some blood to the feet from the brain. You can make it more effective with some Mustard powder in the water. Of course, lavender does help. Make yourself a "dream pillow" with some dried lavender flowers in a netting bag, or make an oil infusion and add a couple drops to a wash cloth or hankerchief on your pillow...sweet dreams! Definitely going to try these. Thanks! And I loved your herbs & spices! wow!!
And finally, it is absolutely uncanny how similar our sons' situations are. ours is marrying (we hope) this most awesome girl. She has a daughter who turns 10 this Saturday* They also have a baby boy together. he'll be turning one soon. Anyway, Tilly finishes Culinary School in June (and her student loans are also unreal!). I would love for them to move near us so I could help them more. but she has to put Gabriel in day care while she works (no, a sitter). the sitter lives in Tomball (about 30 miles from here), so she feels it would be best to live closer to her. I can't argue. I want life to be as easy as possible for her. she's been juggling school, work, home life, the baby, her parents divorce, our son's antics... sigh. anyway... *they are coming up to see me Saturday so we can celebrate Kayla's birthday. i'm going to take them out for Mexican food. can't wait to see Kayla's face when the waiters sing for her and she'll get a special dessert, etc. it'll be fun. i'll bring her balloons too. such a sweet little girl. the day I met her, she told me she had looked forward to meeting her new grandmother and asked me if it was ok to call me Mimi. so I have a soft spot for her *g* she's so smart...
anyway... I have taken my meds and am ready to catch up on some sleep. time for my ear ritual and hope for good sleep.
and I HOPE all this made sense... it took awhile LOL
lovetopaint wrote:Carole - forgot to say - gazing balls - check out the Mosaic forum and search bowling balls and check out what they did. I don't think hail would destroy a bowling ball. Ha! If it did break something mosaiced on it, just glue something else on. But...me and paint - well, you can make gazing balls with spray paint. Look for Chrome paint or Mirror paint. If you want to do colors, use a chrome paint then use a translucent candy color over it - ta-da. Gazing ball that hail can't break.
Oh and there was something else I forgot too but now I can't remember what it was...old timer's disease I guess - will get back to you when I think of it.
love all these ideas!! i'll go check out that forum. very neat ideas!! I can't wait to get me 2-3 cans of that glow in the dark paint. what a hoot THAT will be!! 'watch out, Mr. Squirrel!' hahahahaha
I painted a bowling ball that was originally a horrible glowing orange (with a big crack in it) a burnished copper (spray metallic by Rustoleum) Then covered it with glass - tempered- harvested from a refrigerator shelf that I put in a big garbage bag and whacked once with a hammer. Made nice sized little pieces that fit on the curved ball just right. I first filled in the bowling ball holes and that big crack with expanding insulating foam from a can - it extruded out and I shaved it close to the ball with a steak knife - then painted. I have another painted with a silver metallic ready for glass. I used is it E6000 but it slid around and did not dry as fast as I would like. When I rested the ball the glass was disturbed. I probably needed to be more patient with the drying or need a better way to seat the ball while working that gives me maximum surface to work on.
Greetings All - Gosh, a person doesn't come around for a bit and then takes a look and decides there is way too much reading to do to catch up. I did want to say that is great to see that you folks have so much to chat about. I have been a bit pre-occupied and am once again really behind in keeping up with the goings on of my Dave's friends. I do want to say that I am thoroughly enjoying the beauties in our garden right now. We have a strip of Peonies blooming that are located beside our drive way. What a delight when pulling in the drive and seeing those lovely things. Last couple of weeks the Iris were the ones putting on a beautiful show. How blessed we are to love plants and enjoy them so much.
Progress on the home front is slow going. I am working on cleaning and labeling and pricing items that will be going in the shop that my friend and I are opening. At this point we have most of the shelving and cabinetry in and now it will be deciding on where each display case goes and then unpacking our items, putting on shelves and then opening the doors for business. If any of you decide to follow in my foot steps in terms of this sort of venture...please talk to me first...so much has to be done, legal wise to get things open. Lots of unplanned for expenses, etc., etc...
Anyway...am thinking of you all, happy days to all and hopefully I will get back here before there is too much to read next time...have a great weekend all.
Carole after the Rosie bread story and my bread story you won't belive this one...My new "grandaughter" is also 10 and named...wait for it... Kaylah. Lori added the h because her favorite aunt whose name started with an H died just before Kaylah was born. So it was in memory of her, otherwise it would have been Kayla.
Me thinks we found each other on here for a reason. Ruby and I have a lot in common and now it seems we do too. I think there are some similarities going on with Rosie too. "Birds of a feather..."
After reading your comment - "what a hoot THAT will be!! 'watch out, Mr. Squirrel!' hahahahaha" I had a picture come to mind - My squirrel trying to take one of those planters up a tree to have light in his cob cabin!
Rosie, I remember seeing a copper painted ball with tempered glass on it in that forum. Awesome!! I wouldn't be able to put that outside. It looked too pretty setting on the dresser or server or wherever. I haven't attemped anything mosaic yet though it does intrique me. Maybe when I get rid of crap and have time, which hopefully will be this lifetime, I'll give it a try.
Yeah have time...Ha! That's why I thought about painting them instead. I saw the glow in the dark paint on planters and thought why not balls? (yeah I know girls where your minds went, but I meant bowling balls - if you painted the others glow in the dark, it would be their new toy) .. then I thought whoa... what about a chrome paint. Then my mind went wandering off into making them look like the colored gazing balls and how to do that. That's when I figured chrome paint, with a translucent candy over it, like automotive work. You could go so far as to do one in metalflake like automotive too, but that paint gets expensive. and hard to get right. Ooooo-oooo speaking of automotive paint, how about the "flip-flop" paint that "changes color" by your line of sight. Yeah, that's expensive too, but way cool!Hmmmm...that's a much simpler process than metal flake, and has been around for years now. I bet if I looked they probably sell that in a spray can these days. I'd better not look or nothing would get done for a while but paint - I love that stuff.
Okay, okay how about painting a picture of whatever on the ball (like a canvas) then sealing it in a clear urethane? That would be different, huh?
Note to self...Stop...Take a deep breath, remove my hands from the keyboard, walk away from the computer and stop the painting ideas...I have work to do.
Ruby when you get caught up with your other work, you do need to catch up on the reading here especially if you need a laugh like I have lately. Carole and Rosie have joined in and you can count on a chuckle to start your day here.
Good luck with your shop Ruby. The world would be no fun without our small scale shops -- I go to chains out of necessity not desire and I always bring my business to local merchants whenever possible. It is a win win situation with all the unique merchandise. It saddens me when I get to a never before visited town hoping for a new experience but instead find the same old chain and big box stores.
I have no talent with painting. I would have to decoupage the ball.
I don't even want to think about any other balls glowing in the dark...
[chuckling, nay, belly laughing]
you guys always crack me up!! hi Ruby!! welcome back, even if only for a short bit.
i love this group of merry misfits!! hahahaha!!
long week at work. feeling a little better now, thank goodness!!
hubby comes home NEXT weekend (apparently he didn't get the memo i had wanted our boys to come home THIS weekend to celebrate Father's Day... WITH HIM! hrrrrumph!!
anyway... a friend at work had me stop by on my way home, after i picked up my Rx for my ear infection, among many other things at Sam's...
i told her i'd get a box. we held out our hands to figure out what size to get. she figures about the size of 12 cans of soup. i just grabbed the first box i saw, which would have held 12 canteloupe (sp? i never get that right!). O M G! she took me thru the garage to her backyard (been there many times, gorgeous yard, flowers, veggies, everything). she had told me last week she had some Liriope she was digging up. she had too much and wanted to put something else in its place. HO-LY SPADES & GARDEN GLOVES!!! she OVERfilled my huge box, adding at least a dozen 4 o'clocks, and sent Jimmy to get a big black trash bag "for the rest." OH MY HEAVENS!! a) i'm so excited. i can use this in SO many places! b) did i mention i have company coming tomorrow night? c) did i mention it's going to rain Sunday? sigh. SO MUCH to do tomorrow and Sunday!
did i mention i have to mow? the 600' road frontage (by about 20'). the dog yard (about 80' by 50'). the open field (about 120' square). holy mackerel. granted, we have a fantastic Cub Cadet lawn tractor, but still. i plan to get up early tomorrow, get what plants i can in the ground, and put the others in a washtub, and then i can either spritz them with the hose or let the rain get them... but i can't leave them long...
she also has 2 pecan trees she wants to give me. i can't wait!! i told her i will bring her some solid green airplane plants i have far too many of, as well as some of those super tall perennial sunflowers i have far too many of. and i think i promised her a couple others things in my excitement, all which will need to be dug (maybe i can convince the kids "it'll be so much fun digging in the dirt with Mimi!" hahahaa) and then take everyone out for ice cream or something, as we swing by Kathy's to drop everything off!
i'm staggering a little at the thought of ALL i have to do tomorrow (didn't mention having to move "the garden art project" i still haven't finished yet from my kitchen table, i guess to my dining table so we can eat breakfast Sunday morning!)... and somewhere in there get myself a shower!!
i'm tired already thinking about it LOL
nighty night girls... i've scared myself now. i better get my pills and get to bed.
oh hell, i didn't eat dinner!! crap.
i plan to get up early tomorrow, get what plants i can in the ground, and put the others in a washtub, and then i can either spritz them with the hose
Shudder... THAT washtub?!! The snake one???
If you find you are running out if time to do it all...don't worry about the lirope. You can hit it with agent orange and it would probably live. I have left it roots up to the sun for days and plant it and it lives. Just hose it--- cover with news or paper towel if you are worried about it (or an old terry towel) wet whatever you use and get to it later in the week.
LOL! yes, that washtub... once that happened, i've never left it on the deck to gather rain water again!!
it gets moved on a regular basis so there's far less chance of anything using it for shelter.
right now it's in the shade with a little potting soil in it. i am going to spread it around the edges my beds (etc.) where i'm going to plant the liriope,
after i use a little of it to pot a start of Yesterday, Today & Tomorrow for a girl at work (she brought me her empty pot she wants me to use).
trust me, ANYthing i have to lift up or turn over around HERE gets a slow lift, with one foot aimed the other direction in case i have to run.
thankfully, the worst i've ever uncovered was a baby copperhead or a wolf spider.
Buster did show me where there are some black widows i need to know about. good to know, and thankfully i have no need to disturb them.
not trying to sound like Super Woman here (more like putting off going back outside), but so far today i have:
given the dogs their heart worm meds (1st of each month), filled the bird feeders & took the big bag of new sunflower seeds out of my car, watered, finished the septic system "bed" (looks good, i'll show you later), gotten a good start on mowing, taken the empty boxes out to the burn pile and lit 'em up, swept my kitchen floor (prematurely, i'm sure), can't think of anything else right now.
i'm about to go back and out start his pickup (weekly since he's not home to do it--it's a 1974 so a classic), empty the super good buy broken gravel bags into the driveway, move my car so i can mow under it, do the deal with the dirt & liriope, plant the 4 o'clocks she gave me when i figure out where i want them, take the trash up from the shed to the curb, and empty the lava rock into the "oil derrick bed" and rearrange the bricks so they complete the oval. then i'll take a picture and send it to hubby (he doesn't even know i've done as much as i have on it, so he will be surprised and pleased).
i got the Round Up out to hit those weeds around the compost bin. i thought i had Preen but was apparently mistaken. i saw a smallish nest of bag worms in one of the trees (may need to check my plum tree too), so i need to either get them the old fashioned way, or use the chemical spray i got for them. don't need them spreading!!
a lot of what i need to do won't take all that long really. i'm very thankful for overcast skies today (partly cloudy), and the humidity if fairly low. it's not expected to get any hotter than it is now, so i will survive.
Hi again everyone - I did go back a bit yesterday and started catching up on reading this thread...a whole lot of chatting going on the past couple of weeks...Gosh Cajun, I got tired reading your list of already and things still to do. Makes my list look piddly. Anyway...so far today I have washed one load of clothes, one more to do later...if you hang around me long, you will know that I seem to spend half my life washing clothes...thankfully I have a nice set of washer and dryer, so the chore isn't too terrible. I also just finished making a large bowl of cole slaw to take to my 6 year old grand daughter's birthday party later today. If I didn't already miss so many invitations we get, I almost feel like backing out of this today...do not look forward to being in the heat. I do not plan to stay long, but might find I am enjoying myself once I get there...right now, sitting in front of this machine for the rest of the day looks appealing to me...
My main task at present is going through storage bins which have been packed up some as long as a year now. It is interesting to open them and see what all I packed away. Most items are clean and don't require any elbow grease from me thankfully, but it is still a chore going through them all. Add pricing and describing each item and it is certainly slow going.
Again, my mind keeps thinking of the future and what my house will begin to look like when I am able to go through and cut back on décor types of items...holding a picture in my mind helps motivate me when I don't particularly want to keep at the chore at hand.
Hubby just walked in...gonna chat with him a while...hope you are all having a productive and pleasant day...
Ruby, i so admire what you're doing... with the emporium, focusing on your projects at hand, going thru box by box, pricing, etc. i'm so impressed.
Your plan, your goals, your focus ... inspirational indeed!
That's so cool that you're making cole slaw and going to your granddaughter's party. i totally feel the same way sometimes "... I almost feel like backing out of this today." I hope it turns out that you ARE glad you went. Not sure if you saw the part that my 10 year old granddaughter's birthday is today. i'm anxious to see them all. she's bringing her BFF up to stay with her too. that's so cute.
i've always been task oriented. i don't know why or what it says about me. i just always have so many things i think i need to do or get done, and most all of them are about home improvement (which includes my gardening). i have been that way for as long as i can remember. i don't know if it's because my mom was the total opposite or what. and that in no way is a reflection on her overall personality. what i'm saying is HER focus was having a good time. i wish i had more of THAT in me, and less of this task crap. i can drive myself crazy b/c i can never get it all done. three steps forward and two steps back. check one thing off the list, and add two more. it's never ending for me. and the funny thing is... i've always tried to simplify my life. is that like an oxymoron? where the very thing you're striving to achieve is creating the exact opposite? sigh...
well, speaking of which... i have only about three hours left to do all that i can do before i gotta get my shower and get ready to go meet them. at first i thought it was only two hours and felt a little tightness in my neck and my chest LOL (not a heart attack, i promise) i came in around 12:45 to catch my breath and cool off a bit. now i'm hungry. was so hoping for completely cloudy today while i work. it would make all the difference in the world. full sun on your back sure does take its toll.
Wow - tired just reading about that.
Today got up went to. Garden / outdoor art show in Raleigh. Held every year. It is so popular got to park blocks away. Grabbed breakfast out - sausage quiche. Home. Vacuumed all the ledges, furniture, floors, in the screened porch. Folded wash. Fixed a salad with mozzerella and chicken for dinner and then son showed up with 4 year old granddaughter. His wife working and the other grandma got the 9 mo old and I got the 4 year old. So I did floor puzzles most of evening and studied the alphabet. That is it ---so I am sure Ruby and Cajun put me to shame accomplishment wise.
I spent the whole day out in the yard. Going back out side again today. I did get the ceiling damage patched and Ric sprayed it yesterday with a sealant so once the ceiling fan is down I can paint. Calling for some rain later today so maybe I will get a little bit more work done on it. I started a small garden art project yesterday will post pics when I get it finished.
Good Morning, girls!!
Rosie, Holly ~ you guys did a LOT yesterday. who are you kidding?!!
just wanted to say i'm SO glad i did all did yesterday b/c i woke to thunderstorms at 6:15 this morning.
and i so didn't mean for all that to sound like i'm bragging. i am probably more mentally disturbed (lol half kidding!)
AAAAAND... MOST of those tasks only took 10 minutes or so, just had to be done.
emptying the bags of gravel in the drive even didn't take more than 5 min. ditto the lava rock.
watering was a nice break (i enjoy walking around with the water hose vs. sprinklers anyway ~ until it gets to be too hot out, then i start them when i get home & set a timer to go move them)
trash bag was mostly full with empty gravel bags!!! light as a feather. i even put it in my little trailer i haul around with me so i didn't have to walk HAHAHA!)
mowing? that's even a break. remember it's a lawn tractor... wide deck, smooth ride, fun... it's not a chore!
i took more breaks that i needed to really b/c i knew i was checking off a LOT on my list.
i ended up putting the 4 o'clocks in a soak of Has to Grow b/c they looked so sad.
the liriope is in the washtub with the good potting mix in the bottom (PLUS she left her super good soil attached anyway-whoohoo!)
so don't think i was all "balls to the wall" (sorry) all day long... good heavens, no!
i just wanted to get some stuff done b/c i was off and didn't do as much last weekend as i'd needed to.
kids got here early after having a blowout & having to get a tire fixed.
i had plenty of time after i showered to put my feet up.
Matt & Tilly work so hard all week, and then the baby (one year old) doesn't sleep well, so THEY don't sleep well.
i told them they can sleep in here... no need to rise with the sun on my account.
having said that, i visited with the DH by phone (our weekend routine) until just now.
i've got to try to figure out what to make for breakfast. he poo-pooed every idea i had b/c Kayla is a bit of a picky eater.
so now i'm not very motivated. i'll see if i have some regular bacon in the freezer; i buy peppered bacon for him, and she says that's too hot for her.
well, at least my garden is getting a good soaking. i'm VERY pleased about that.
this year we have more real grass than we have ever had before. it's tough finding a good grass for full sun in the Texas heat.
we really really needed this rain.
What I do for Sophia
One slice of bread in toaster
After toasted hold it down flat with your hand and cut it like you would filet -- don't go clear through to other side . Now you have one slice of toasted bread that flaps open. Tuck a slice of American chees, Swiss, whatever in there. Place back in toaster JUST BE SURE the cut side is facing up so cheese not melt thru to toaster. Kids (at least ours) love it. It is a bit of protein and dairy and if you have whole wheat - even better
Ps - I disagree about the 5 or 10 min here and there not being a lot because - lifting a bag of grave is lifting a bag of gravel. It is strength expended. Ditto moving quickly - especially in the heat. Sweeping uses a zillion muscles and upper arm exercise is very much cardio.
Have to say it was a good visit. My son got up with Gabe (1) around 9:00 and we visited. I tried to let him enjoy a cup of coffee and watch SportsCenter (they don't have cable TV, only internet). I know he works hard, and doesn't get much time to himself. Neither of them do really. Gabe didn't much want him to. They said he's really been clingy to Daddy lately *smile* We let Tilly sleep in, bless her heart. I know she's so tired... Matt visited with me while I cooked breakfast, and Gabe played. The girls didn't get up until almost 10:00, ate, etc. and spent a lot of their time in the guest room I've dubbed as Kayla's room. she loves it. she even has her own private bathroom *g*
Most of this I brought up b/c we were able to let Tilly sleep in until 11:30! she couldn't believe it either. Seems Gabe didn't sleep much last night, so they didn't either. I don't miss those days...
After Tilly had some coffee and breakfast, Matt & I got our work clothes on and he helped me fix my Cub Cadet. something happened yesterday when I was mowing and when I engaged the mower (PTO), it made a gosh-awful noise. he jacked it up, and crawled under it, and found a large pine root wedged up under there! I honestly don't see myself being able to do what he did today. I would have had to go all week without a mower. I haven't been able to start the push mower the last couple of times I tried. I just thought i'd flooded the engine, so I put it back in the shed and got back on the cub cadet (there are a few areas where the CC can't go). anyway... he is really good at this kind of stuff, and HE couldn't get it started either. DH will be home next weekend, so I will ask him to have a look-see.
we made sure they had a spare tire in the car, and I helped a little to get stuff better organized in their trunk. good thing too b/c when they went back, they about didn't have room to take everything home! they left at 9:15. I spent about 15-20 minutes straightening up, getting my jammies on, and assumed my position on the couch... ahhhh. life is good ;-)
had a good time with them. took the girls shopping today, and then we all went out to eat at the Chinese buffet by my office (Kayla's choice). Matt was able to get a good nap while Tilly & I visit; Gabe even napped. we did all our laundry. fun day... I've really missed them. Matt saved my bacon. and my house is clean. i'll see about maybe digging up Kathy's plants tomorrow when I get off work.
Sorry to be MIA for a couple days. I thought I was busy until I read Carole's list!! Whew girl, you wear me out just reading it all. I'm with Rosie on her comment. It may have only take 5-10 minutes, but still, hossin' those bags of lava rocks and gravel takes some effort. I used to work in an oil refinery and back then it would have been nothing for me... now however, it doesn't take a lot to do me in.
Well I went like a house afire there for a couple days digging, cutting roots and making flower beds to transplant to. The beds are full and coming on, yet I still have more to transplant. Holly, the mums you gave me are comng on strong! Thank you again. I like that sedum so much I have yet to decide where to put it. I think it's liable to wind up in a bigger pot - or separated and some in the ground and some in a pot. I really like it. Anyway, the flower beds out front got done. Then, the day temperatures went from "what a lovely day" to "it's so hot I'm looking out for satan" - so the chores shifted to inside. I hate the heat and humidity. I got all the laundry caught up and went through some things finding 3 bags full to take to the women's shelter. That's in the truck to go. The next time I am out that way, I will drop it off.
Day 2 inside and apparently whatever I did must have pulled something more than just sore muscles. The pain kept getting worse until breathing hurt. Going to bed seemed like a good idea.. until I tried to lay down. Lordy that hurt worse and there was no way that was happening. I went to the recliner to try. It took an hour or two before I found one weird position in which the pain was eased up enough to sleep. The next day was very painful but maybe a little better. It was my whole left side about 10 inches in height, from my spine around under my arm pit to my boob. Weird. Second night I did stay in bed but took a long time to find a place I could sleep. Yesterday I woke up and although it hurt to move, it was less and breathing wasn't painful at all! Yay! So because this week is busy, I got all the mowing done and the weed-whacker too. That's always hard on me. The doctor read my MRI the last time and was amazed I was able to even vacuum and mop because of how and where the herniated discs are, and how that motion would hurt. Well, weed whacking is a lot like that, only I'm holding it's weight out in front too which adds more pressure to where the discs are pressing on the nerve bundles. I'm always in tears by the time I get that job done. Yesterday was no exception. Can we say not just tears but sobbing? Yup - pathetic but it's what I got to deal with. Managed to get akk the equimment put away and get myself showered.
Today was off to the surgeon for DH's 9 month post surgery check up.(He had a double fusion). Although he physically could drive now, one doctor says no because he is still on pain meds, though it is being reduced every time they feel they can make a step that way. So I take him wherever. We'd gotten x-rays last week, we took with us and the surgeon said everything is healing as exepected and the bone fusing is coming along well. That was good news and we go back again in September which will be one year since the surgery - we are hopeful improvement continues. I am sure as he heals he will be able to resume some of the work here. He does what he can now, but healing is paramount and no point in messing up the work done.
I will have to take him to his regular doctor tomorrow and get his prescriptions filled. Then I have to take Dad to his doctor on Wednesday. That also means I will be at Dad's and my brother's (he and his family live 50 feet out Dad's back door, literally) . When that happens I can count on having umpteen jobs waiting for me to do. Dad's 84 and starting to get Alzheimer's. My brother is a quadriplegic, his daughter is home but she had a malignant brain tumor when she was 3. The surgery, chemo and radiation left her learning diabled. She can do stuff around the house if someone tells her what to do but nothing too involved. So like I said there will be things for me to do. She doesn't work of drive either, so if either of them need to be taken places that falls to me too, because my SIL works.
I may get back to plants or housework by Thursday. Nope I just remembered and spoke too soon. The guys were going to come and cut trees last week but the job they were on got bigger when they were asked to do more work. We shifted it to this week so Thursday &/or Friday they'll be here to cut trees. Actually now that I think about it, it might be a good day to transplant flowers. They'll be in the way where they are under the maple because that's going to lose some lower branches. So I will have to move them anyway. Plus I can be available if they want to ask me what other branches I want cut besides the obvious ones.
Ahhhh--- I think I am just being scatter brained. Don't mind me. I need to go figure out something for supper.
Carole it sounds like your family visit was wonderful. Sorry hubby couldn't be home to enjoy it too. Oh and I saw that truck of his. I like it. I used to have a '79 Ford truck but it wasn't blue. Mine was red. As it aged I painted the smallish long alcove white and put the white wagon wheels on it. I even installed chrome air horns on the roof. It looked pretty cool for it's age and I bought it used and beat up for cheap. Your's is pretty and in much better condition! I have a '97 Chevy Stepside that I swear looks show room condition. I keep it in the garage and it only has 46,000 miles on it. I plan on keeping it. She's my "baby". I look at the new stuff out there and see mostly beer can metal with all kinds of tracking devices built in. No thanks. LOL Most people who buy those "crossover" SUV's think they are getting a tough frame like a truck. They haven't a clue they are built on a car chassis.
Rosie - I love your idea for Sophia. Geez it sounds good to me! Of course, I haven't met a cheese I didn't like...maybe I'm part mouse...I am growing "whiskers" these days. Hmmmm...
Ya'll have a good night! Now, what's for supper? Can I make something with cheese???????????/
Hi Gals - I decided to take a computer break before doing any more chores for the day...thankfully all I really need to do this evening is fold a load of clothes...I have been going so hard and fast for some weeks, that it is almost like a vacation when I am not involved in something. We opened a business bank account on Monday and it must have worked to make it all REAL now...I awoke about 3 AM on Tuesday and my mind started spinning in twenty different directions, and none were good. I started thinking of every thing that could possibly go wrong with this shop deal...I knew I was in trouble when that started, because I can work myself in to a funk very quickly unless I take control at the first sign of stinkin' thinkin'. Anyway, finally fell back to sleep and awoke in a completely different mind set thankfully.
I guess after having that little anxiety attack, I have decided that I am stretching myself a bit thin and may not be the most popular grandma or co-business owner after I officially backed out of a couple of obligations that others have put on me...earlier today. We will see...I guess the main thing bothering me is whether I am going to be able to do all that is going to be required of me. I am not in good health, though am much better than I have been in the past...I know from living with a chronic illness, how my body reacts to different things...and stress and I do not get along...I will run as fast as my lame legs will carry me in the other direction when stress rears its ugly head...anyway, don't mean to be putting a damper on anyone elses mood...I guess I feel as though I need some encouragement and I got it when first coming here today and reading...
Cajun, I don't know if I would suggest that others do what I am currently doing or not...check back in a few months and I will let you know...hahaha...I am doing my best to have this business deal be something fun and interesting for me versus something to add further stress in an already stressful life...
I hope before too very long that I will be coming here all fired up and excited about all that I am doing. Just isn't happening at this moment...sorry, don't mean to bellyache too much...don't want to scare folks off...
After trying not to dwell too very much on getting in the shop, because this is a process and so many things need attention before we can actually begin stocking the shelves...I am somewhat at a stand still until the weekend when the store has the security system activated and a few other things such as phone lines, etc. I am really proud of my accomplishments at home the past two days...my hubby and I were finally able to get all my multitudes of house plants out side yesterday to spend the summer...that is major, believe me...I am now facing a few hours of work in tending the mess that about two hundred houseplants leave behind after living in one room all winter...The plants are so packed tight in that room that there are areas that I cannot reach easily, so dry leaves and other sorts of debris often ends up falling on the floor or at a place on the shelving where I can't reach...so I have a lot of cleaning to do to that room before it passes my inspection. I worked a bit earlier today, but it is still a big job waiting.
Two years ago I had so many houseplants at the end of the summer, after potting some of them for hubby to sell at our Farmer's Market that I didn't have the space to keep them all inside. We are regular customers at our local pharmacy and I asked them if I could display some of my plants there...they said sure and that I could actually sell them there if I wanted to. Every so often my husband will come in from a trip to the store and bring me a few dollars from a plant sale...this morning he handed me thirty eight dollars and said that one person bought five of them...hip, hip, hooray!!! Cool beans ya'll. Earlier today I got more plants for hubby to deliver to pharmacy to replace those that sold...I just need to label them and put a price tag on them.
I also want to have a shelf of houseplants for sale at the shop...not sure which ones will go yet...but I have some house plants work to do before that can happen.
Well, my coffee is finished brewing...off to sip on it and fold the clothes...hope that every one is having a good week and being productive...Holly, I kind of laughed at myself when you described a small project...I don't think you know the meaning of small...you and Ric have certainly done some great works around your home and garden...both so very talented and seem to together well. Will anxiously await pics of your small project...all others...catch you in the funny papers...
Wow it must have been a busy week for everyone! I was tied up every day this week doing stuff and thought I'd be waaaayyyy behind on catching up with you gals, and now I see only Ruby has visited since I was last here.
Carole, I hope you haven't keeled over from all that work you were doing. I do recall you mentioning that hubby would be home this weekend, so I hope you were just extremely "busy" (wink, wink) with him and not running from slitheries.
Ruby, it was so good to hear from you and know of your progess with the store. My mom had a store and I know how much work it can be not only in running it, but all the legalities and work just to get it started! Good to hear all of that is going well. I think an anxiety attck is warranted, after all it is all new, and so much "unknown" out there. I really believe once it is up and running and it becomes an everyday routine you will be more comfortable in your role. Geez, I get that way with a little change in my routine. I can imagine what a big change would do. So, let it run it's course, but don't let that voice of negativity and the "what ifs" overpower the positive side. As I have said on here before, and say to myself often - don't look at the whole picture, just see what you have to do today and proceed. Remember too this was something you and your girlfriend wanted to do for fun. BUT it will also help you recoup some money from your "good clutter" and likely make a profit on other things too. It really is a win-win-win but just a scary thing because it's a new venture. You go girl! Claim each day as a victory and be one step closer to a successful business woman.
Congrats on the houseplants sales too. That's cool to have them in other places and just collect money! It can help be another outlet for sales and who can complain with money coming in? I think having them in your shop is a good idea too. It adds variety to your inventory for little to no investment. Hey you could even make "special" gift plants. Telefloral makes Get Well thingies from fresh flowers in a coffee mug and sometimes a cup and saucer. If you found some "like new" cups/mugs at yard sales, put a pretty house plant in it and market it as "thank you", "thinking of you", "happy birthday", "get well" gifts. All they'd need is a card. Cheap enough that anyone could afford for many occasions - even to a teacher from a child. If you have larger plants consider any baskets you have to get rid of. If they are not antique or those expensive kind whatever they are called, you'd be surprised how beautiful you can make a basket with some spray paint. Paint them up add a plant and maybe a bow and ta-da...nice gift perfect for all the above and even a house warming present. Oh yeah... there are so many things I can think of you can do and make to sell from crap most people would toss it would almost all be profit.
Rosie...what are you up to? Are you trying to figure out what's gonna be on your jammies this Christmas. I haven't heard anything from you lately.
Grandchildren sitting. Whew... If I have to do one more floor puzzle --- I will need a crane to lift these ole stiff limbs. I need the tin man's oil can --- got that in your shop Ruby?
I wake up in a fizz sometimes Ruby. Not sure why - every worry descends. But even tho it is rough period in the wee small biurs of the morning --- morning does come ----and the bogey man disappears and it is one foot in front of the other and one thing at a time!. You will out out the fires -big and small - as they arise. I find that the things I think are required of me ------ mostly come from me! We can be our hardest taskmasters. So, try to take things as they come and have fun.
Yep, We have been very busy here, seems like it just doesn't stop. I had grandchild duty 2 days this week. Monday I had Lily & Lucas for the day. We went to the park and the Y for a swim, to visit the Great Grandparents for an hour or so and a stop for IceCream. Then Thursday/Friday I had Marissia for an overnight with lunch out and a movie on Friday plus a stop at the Great Grandparents house. We had Josh's girl Courtney on Wednesday for dinner and games while Josh is away and Jamie's family on Thursday for dinner and visit before they moved to BoyScout Camp. They are living there for the summer and we are keeping their sweet little dog Copper. Tuesday we spent the day gardening at my parents house. Ric mowing and digging up the small Veggie garden while I weeded and planted the flower beds. Add in a couple of days here in the gardens and a rainy day for Ric turned into a painted ceiling and ceiling fan taken down for repairs in the bedroom. Yea a bit more progress in that area.
Can't talk more Ric is waiting for me to leave.
Ruby remember take care of yourself first.
Back end of screened porch done! One more side to go plus replace 2 doors. Up and down that ladder with the bugs chewing on me grrr. It is taking so long because we put up those plastic splines. Before, the screens were stapled on with cedar trim covering the staples. Now, that the spline backing is up and the cedar screwed not nailed in -- next time will be easier to rescreen if the screens get damaged. Put down river flats 6-12 inch pretty colors but very heavy and moved one by one from the drop off point of pallet to the stream edging. Cut back beautyberry, amsonia, barberry ( ouch). I despise barberry - it was cute when young tho (and small no thorns either) Keeps the deer away from pond which was the point. Garbage bag LEAKED - I set it on screened porch. Was there two days waiting for T.S. Andrea to go away. There were cukes in it that I got from COSTCO - baby sweet cukes. The darned things were out of date and rotted! Liquified. It was a plastic bag ...leaked anyway. Hubby didn't check dates on the cukes - unusual for COSTCO to be outdated. Too lazy to go back to return ...anyway the ODOR ...went thru the Trex flooring to under the porch...grrr. So had to flood it with bleach water and Lysol. Since doing that --did the entire floor with scrub brush. Just cleaned that porch too wasn't even messy. Picked up endless birch twigs. Did laundry - just the two of us I don't know how we make so much laundry to wash. Fixed pasta for dinner. T I R E D Almost too tired to shower off the bug spray, grime, sunscreen, bugs and sweat.!
My goodness you girls are busy. The best part is you are busy with your own things.
Most of my time this week was spent taking differnet family members to doctors, getting prescriptions and their groceries for them. Carry it all in and put it away. Then of course they have other "jobs" for me to do that "will only take a few minutes" and if I get home before dark, I am surprised. I've yet to have the energy to get my own running done this week. I did get another flower bed dug out and made before T.S Andrea moved in. I thought it would be easy because unlike the others I had to work on so much, with the Maple tree root mat, this was in the back yard - well I was wrong. It was easier, but not easy. I found a mass of roots and eventually a stump of something. It must have been a bush or small tree and I was able to dig it out but it was a lot of work! I also found a brick several inches deep. I'm assuming that got lost when the house was built. Ha!
I got a couple things planted in it before my back started to cuss me out and call me names I can't repeat on here. Suffice it to say it had had enough. With the storm obviously nothing outside got done and not much inside either because storms mean pain. (Digging that bed and stump out didn't help either) So, it was the usual stuff, cook, dishes and laundry.
The guys who were going to cut trees last week had more work and it was postponed to this Thurs. or Friday. Well needless to say they couldn't cut them this week either because of all the rain, so it's on hold until next week. Step-son stopped by today and got his stereo he had in a truck that he sold off my breezeway and he said he would be coming for the stack of tires and wheels this week too...Yay! Now if he would also take that danged air hockey table like he said he was going to do... I think I will urge him to throw it on the truck he uses when he comes after the wheels and tires and I will help him load it! He did carry my big Night Blooming Cereus off the breezeway and around to the front porch for me. That thing is huge and in a big pot (see attached and that was from last year - it grew a lot more) it's HEAVY. So that was great because I shouldn't lift it.
So...I have some more room to get after the clutter out on the breezeway. Anxious to get that done and then clean it. Of course I need to get the rest of those plants in the ground too. Guess I'll see what I feel like doing tomorrow. For now, I'm heading for comfy couch, nighty night gals.
I'm still here! I finally got on here this morning and caught up on our thread.
I'm so proud of you all for getting so much done!
Wish I had more time to add some comments on all, but Rosie: Cudos on your porch! (and blech to the cukes--been there done that!)
Debbie, that plant and its bloom is gorgeous! I know you'll be glad when you get that darn hockey table out of there.
You have no idea how much I wish I could come get it! we would LOVE it!!
Did any of you get hit (damage) from Andrea? I was watching it and it looked like it might get to you.
We had some rain Thursday in the form of a t'storm, but rain is rain. They were forecasting it for 11pm last night, 8am today & again at 6pm today. I need to get out there this morning and finish planting the liriope my coworker was so generous to give me.
Hubby got home Tues around 5pm, but had to go back to work around 5pm Wed, back at 1am Thurs and then back out Thurs pm and not home again until Fri pm. whew. Yesterday, I did a LITTLE outside and then we went to run our errands.
He had to replace the steering box in his pickup, and then his alternator went out Friday when he was coming home, so he has to replace it today. Since he was with me, we picked up 5 more bags of lava rock & 2 more bags of the white marble (he loves the oil derrick bed I made, but thinks it would look even better with more rock & will help me spread it). he loved what I did with the septic bed, but also wanted to add 3 more bags of gravel. we got that yesterday and will help me spread it.
our grass is doing so well, we are BOTH amazed. with forecast for rain, we bought another bag of lawn fertilizer for it. it won't take long to spread that.
I have a couple of vines that have no place to run, so I bought a small folding wood trellis.
and i'm not sure if you saw his idea about the bird feeder clutter, but once I clean that up today, i'm going to slip a plastic terra cotta pot over the post to catch the clutter, with a drain hole in the bottom. Then when full, I can just slip it off and dump it & put it back. sounds to me like that might work and look halfway pretty in the meantime.
better get crackin. I will grab a quick bite to eat and get busy. pictures to come ;-)
happy Sunday, ladies!
No damage just rain - lots of it. That sure is a great looking healthy plant. It needs whells so you can move it Love T P. Looks like everyone has been productive. Cajun .. You might be able to find new resin or synthetic wide and low pot. Clay heavy for you. Especially if sliding it up and down over pole. Hole at bottom for pole and drainage holes can be enlarged easier and no cracking fears. Too bad couldn't cut it completely in half and install a hinge to open and slide away from pole to clean. That is an idea waiting to be patented! I was thinking of you this weekend as I yanked out the lirope creeping into the flagstone cracks --muscling the blue star creeper out of its home. Next time I stick to the varigated kind -- no spread! Holly, I know when that fan came down you knew you were in the home stretch.
Well our day was cut a bit short by a thunderstorm that rolled in. Got about 3-4 hours of much needed rain though.
Hubby & I came in feeling like it had to be about 6pm LOL
I got up & out early & got started. got the rest of the liriope planted (the soil was already mixed up and tilled with the garden claw. the plants were already in place, ready to drop in with a spade. I didn't get that one bed weeded like i'd hoped, but .. eh. should have started working cleaning up around the compost bin and bird feeder earlier than I did, but once the sun came up over it was HOT doing that. I told him I wasn't going to be doing that in the heat of the day in full sun. DH did try to help by getting the weedeater out and running it around the area. I appreciated it, but he's not been feeling all that great (chest pains ;-( ) so I didn't want HIM working out in the full sun either.
he mowed the back yard and a lot of the front before it rained. he'd replaced the alternator in his big truck, and the shocks in his pickup today, thankfully before the sun got too high in the sky.
I planted about 6 or 8 4 o'clocks (took like 5 minutes). went ahead and spread the 5 bags of lava rock & just one of the white marble in the oil derrick bed while he worked on his truck. I put my big soap aloe in the diagonal bed (it was in a pot without drainage--duh! and wasn't doing so hot). had to dig up and move an elephant ear that a clever squirrel had relocated under the edge of my big blue agave!
dug up my firespike and put it in the pot the soap aloe was in, and move it into "the nursery" (full shade bed in the middle of my garden). I had planned to put my four tomato plants into the ground in the big oak bed, but ran out of time (and out of gas).
can't remember anything else I did; actually think that was it. and i'm really happy with what I got accomplished.
I got the squirrel feeder hung and the faux cob (made with all kinds of goodies they like to eat, including corn) which will be far more durable than regular corn cobs. also trimmed up a couple of VERY low oak branches to allow view of it, and cut down 1/2 dozen sweet gum trees that were growing up where they didn't belong.
wish today was Saturday instead of Sunday. oh well. i'm happy.
Hubby is going to work on our gate tomorrow, and i'm going to schedule him for a stress test and a follow up visit with his doctor.
he also said he will finish the mowing, and maybe work on the bird feeder clutter.
I am seriously considering digging up the asparagus fern and ginger growing there and moving them to another location.
think i'm going to lay down weed barrier fabric, then cover it with either rock or those big red concrete squares... not sure yet.
but FYI Rosie, the pot we got is a plastic (faux terra cotta) - VERY light. DH helped me drill a big hole in the bottom of it for drainage.
I sprayed Roundup along the entire drive. Cleaned bird baths. Weeded. Laundry, more rock along the stream and helped with just a few screen chores. Clutter-- got some things from top shelf of hall closet thinned.
Rosie, you got a lot done yesterday too.
I guess I ended up doing both, because the ONLY thing I did yesterday after my shower was wash our dirty work clothes and put them in the dryer, which is where I left them!
I literally sat on my big ol butt until bedtime.
and from 1:15, that's a lot of sitting lol
Holly - I'm jealous! Snacking and sipping wine sounds like fun to me... Oh I wanted to tell you the mums you gave me are growing so well. I've been pinching them back like you said, and they are filling out nicely. I decided to put that gorgous Sedum in the ground instead of a pot. I really love it. I actually had never seen one before. Then again, I haven't had much time for flowers in the past. I could have walked by them and never noticed. Ha! But I love it as is, and when it blooms it'll be even better. Thank you again so much! Did I tell you the raccoons dug up and maybe sampled one of the Azaleas from Paul? Dang it! I don't know what color it was supposed to be. I still have one of his though.
I dug the one bed in the back yard and found the alien stump and roots underground and got that revived Hydrangea in the ground the other day. Once that was done, it was fairly easy to dig the rest. (It was even easier after the several inches of rain we had.) So, yesterday after it quit raining I got the Sedum, the Daylilly (also from you Holly, thank you - do you know what color it is?) a Butterfly Bush I think was from Ruby (thank you dear), something about 3' tall that I don't know what is or from whom, but was sitting by my truck with the other plants from the swap (guess it'll be a surprise when it does something), and some Jacob Cline Monarda also from Ruby... all in the ground.
Although the other day I dug the one bed, it comes around a corner and I have to make another along that side of the garage to fit them all in and give them room to grow. I still have to skim the grass out from between where I dug the holes for the plants and get some mulch for it to make it a bed, but my back said it was not going to be yesterday. I might try to attack that later today or tomorrow depending on the rain. I have edging for it but need to go get mulch. It rained last night and is off and on this morning. It's still sucking up moisture from the Gulf of Mexico (aka; Lake Texas - LOL) and heading north. We are still under a flood warning. My house is up a slight hill from Christiana River about a 1/4 mile away which was over flood stage by Friday night, and the stream beside us is very small, so I'm good.
I had some limbs come down from Andrea blowing through, but the guys got rained out last week that were coming to cut trees. Sooooo...I didn't pick them up yet. I figure when they get here this week, I'll gather them then and throw them in their truck or chipper that day. Luckily, no damage to anything that matters.
Cajun - you make me tired everytime, just reading all you do. Geez! Slow down girl, you're making us all look bad. LOL Just kidding... you rock! It was refreshing to hear you actually took a day off...you really are human! Lots getting done your way for sure. The MOST important thing you need to do though, is take care of your man. Men will often blow stuff off and be "big and strong", but chest pains are nothing to fool around with. It may be nothing but don't take a chance. Get that stress test and whatever else done and make sure. Peace of mind it priceless. Can you imagine him out on the road and you sitting there wondering if he is alright more than you already do? All the other stuff around there is worthless compared to him. Get after that first!
I agree with Rosie if you could split the tray so it opens rather than threading it off a pole it would be easier. If it's a shepherd's hook like mine, it would dump on the ground anyway. If it's a straight pole it'll work. I can't tell from your pictures. Oh and Rosie - too late - someone already had that idea. I saw it on TV for tomato plants. It was a red plastic with small holes in it to allow water to seep through but no weeds. I don't recall but I'm sure it was a "just $19.99, BUT if you act now, you'll get two" , thingy. It was smaller, maybe 10-12" across. I haven't seen one that is garbage can lid size for bird feeders though, so maybe you still have a niche. Go for it!
Another thought - Rosie, and Cajun too - you both said you were going to use Roundup. I know it works good because it is literally...wait for it...Agent Orange. That said, I won't go into details, because it might be construed as political and get someone's panties in a bunch. So I will just suggest you Goggle "Round Up Weed Killer" and read about all the health issues from it, not to mention the enviornmental impact. (any doubts that remain, just search agent orange) If you have pets or well water it's even worse. Please go farther and then research it's maker, Monsanto, and learn how they are destroying our foods as well as farmer's livlihoods. You may have a different perspective about using it and opt for a more safe method. There are many recipes out there for homemade weed killers that work very well, are cheaper and much safer; like mixtures of boiling water, vinegar, salt and even bleach...simple things around the house. I'm not preaching - just making you aware - you make your own choices. That shouldn't offend anyone, but who knows? I try.
Forgot to say...thank you both for the compliment on the Night Blooming Cereus. It's also known as a Christ in the Manger Cactus. I'll attach close ups and you'll see why.
Also - yes Rosie a wheeled stand is planned for it once I get the breezeway emptied (where it lives in the winter) and have room to actually wheel something around. Too much crap in there to be able to do that before but it's getting emptied.. I'll probably get an oak pallet somewhere and make a heavy duty one - free - except for some heavy duty wheels.
Okay pics -
#1 Looking inside and downward you see how the "straw" colored stamens form a "manger" shape .You can also see a few "flying angels" stamens above the "manger". The one large white "star" from the center is like th Star of Bethlehem.
#2 The tape measure was laying in front of the blooms on the porch but you can see they are at least 10 inches across some are a foot wide.
#3 is another shot showing the same as #1 just a different angle but more the true color - pure white.
If you have never seen one, they bloom at night only. The bloom will start to open at sundown and you can literally watch it open like slow time lapse. It wiggles a little and opens, wiggles and opens until about 11 - 12. By then it is fully open. It has the sweetest smell of anything I have ever smelled...and strong. It sets on the far end of my porch which is about 40 feet away from one corner. When I round that corner I can smell it that far away even on a still night. The magic (yet sad) thing is the bloom lasts only one night. By sun up it has closed again and droops down where it withers and dies in a few days.
Second photo is my answer to avoiding mulch --- and dragging the tiny chip debris into the house. Spreading real good!
And the first photo is a close up of the mole holes!! I figure if I can't get rid of the things...I am going to drag my clutter outdoors and hope that those little devils drag it down into the "nether" regions!! Think a sofa can fit down there?? The holes are sure big enough!
Oh Missingrosie, So very cute.
Lovestopaint, Sounds like you have been doing a lot of gardening. No work for me again today, ran Ric to a Dr Appt and then several errands and my own Diabetes classes. Didn't get home till 7 and them spent an hour making phone calls for the picnic on Saturday.
Rosie how cute she is! I think I could forgive crumbs with her.
I also love the rock surrounded stream. I want to do that should we find a property with a spring or stream someday. LOVE it! The stream beside our property is not ours. It is on state property and they did dump "rip-wrap" (their term for rocks) in the big gully area they dug out. Pretty no, but am I going to change it? No. Your's is very elegant and so serene looking.
I know I am fairly new to this yardening thing but the mulch makes me like my work because it looks clean, separated and "professional". At least in my mind. LOL The creeping pretty thing you have is nice, but would quickly be in the grass and not have a spearation. I don't have the tracking in problems since the mulch will only be in beds no where near any walkways. I am also putting the beds in places where I had been using a weed-whacker which really kills my back. I'm curving it outward in inward corners (if that makes sense) so that I can just take the tractor and mow around the bed and no trimming required. Sure there will be some I can't avoid but the more areas of weed-whacking I can do away with, the better. I'm always in tears by the time I get that done.
LOL I don't know about the moles but there are LOTS of people who'll take anything. Put whatever you don't want and have no place to donate, down by the road with a free sign and it's gone in no time.
Thanks Holly - I am trying to get things done and in the ground as pain allows. After all the rain it's certainly easier digging. I'm heading out to see if I can finish it up today (except the mulch which I have to get yet.) Good luck with your classes. I hope, diet, exercise and maybe some pills will be enough and you won't need insulin.
Mom was diabetic, Dad is diabetic and I need to lose weight before I am. With genetics even that might not be enough, but I want to tackle that too. I'm hoping all this added work will help.
We like mulch for the same reasons as you (especially when dark, wet and freshly laid) but when it needs refreshing we have to get truckloads from landfill or buy bags and that is 100+ bags to load and unload and spread. If mulch stayed put, fresh, neat, etc., it wouldn't be bad. But in the woods - it is hard to rake and blow efficiently (tons of leaves on ground come fall) and the weeds grow on and thru it. It gets costly and as we age - as you know it gets tougher and tougher physically. The creeeping jenny can be walked on, stays low and is only on the side of the property where the house and walkways will halt its spread. It will grow right over the water and help filter it too. Can't be raked but blows real easily. Grows fast and tightly packed.
That is not a natural stream - it is a long 4-6-8 foot wide curving 'run' that flows in front of the house ( 50 feet??) and over a few bold waterfalls ending in a perhaps 10x 16 ( big guess there) still pond... The water then is returned to the fountainhead at the top of the run and round and round it goes. It was supposed to be PONDLESS but for reasons too many to explain, we ended up with the pond. Thanks for the compliments - it is peaceful and the water sounds nice.
Hey gals - I had a short dmail from Debbie with some terrible news. Earlier in the week she was doing some gardening and fighting with a vine, and the vine won. The vine snapped as she was pulling it and she fell on her wrist shattering and breaking bones. Not sure if it is the left or right wrist. She went to the ER where they put on a hard cast and she is to see an Orthopaedic (sp?) at some point soon to see what else will be required. She is in much pain and misery and won't be typing much I gather. So, asking for thoughts and prayers on her behalf.
I hope this message finds all others doing better than she is...for myself, just super duper busy with opening a shop with a friend and my hubby. Folks, here it is some almost five weeks after signing a rental agreement on a store front, and we are still not moved in. There are so very many things to do in order to open a business...we have been spending these last weeks attempting to get all utilities turned on and buying office supply needs and getting items to the store...so much that it is really slowing us down for opening yet...We are aiming for the 4th of July weekend at this point.
The next two days, Friday and Saturday we are holding a yard sale in the parking lot of the building. This way we can begin culling some of the items we have there. I will spend most of today pricing items here at the house and my hubby will take them over tomorrow morning. For those thinking of doing something along these lines...please talk to me before signing any thing. After seeing all that is required to open and not even considering the expenses at this point, it has certainly been a major undertaking. Things that sound simple are rarely that way...if something can come along and throw us off track, it will. hahaha Still being fun at this point though, so not too much complaining.
Just wanted to update you all on Debbie in case you hadn't heard. I am sure she would appreciate a dmail if you are so inclined. Can't promise she will answer it though...you ladies enjoy the rest of the week and have a good weekend.
oh my goodness!!
my friends... i had written a nice paragragh or two on my laptop earlier today. and i could have SWORN i hit send.
now i'm on my desktop and see it's not here. bummer!!
i can't remember half of what i said. other than ... Debbie, i hope ur taking good care of your bones and hope they heal up in record time.
hubby has been home, no HAD been home--he just left, for over a week. we got a lot done around the place, so that felt good.
and he's finally realizing that i CAN'T maintain all this alone so is going to get home every two to three weeks.
i honestly think the key this week was to make sure he knew i was also wanting HIM to REST while he was off. coming home exhausted from weeks on the road, only to be handed a honey do list has surely got to be a drag. i told him that if he were home more often, he could do one or two big things to help me that only he can do, and sit his butt on the couch and play video games or nap or whatever... i know that was a relief for him. i also made myself put my feet up WITH him, which also helped.
of course, i'm kinda thinkin his bigger incentive was my idea of hiring the work done that he wasn't home to do. that may sound a little mean, but i told him we had to be realistic. the stuff needs to get done, and if he doesn't have time to do it, then i have no choice but to pay someone to do it.
you guys seem to be getting stuff done bit by bit. Ruby, i know it's a LOT of work to open your own business. i never did a store front; i can't imagine. but i did open an online store years ago with my ex. i didn't know the first thing about selling online. i even had to buy the "HTML for Dummies" book. i did it though. it was fairly successful, but to make it really go big, i would have needed help. my ex was also a contractor, so he couldn't help much. and hiring someone when it was not making much money wasn't going to help. it was a Catch 22 situation. but i admire your commitment to opening your own business. takes a lot of heart. and they're not kidding when they say it takes a lot of blood, sweat and tears. hats off to you, dear!
i plan to work on my clutter some this week. next weekend, i'll tackle the bird feeder clutter too. i think i'll wait until fall to move the asparagus fern and gingers tho. and figure some other solution for the ground beneath the feeder. weird that it's not a problem with the other feeder on the front of the deck.
Cajun, I have only an acre & a fairly new 2,500 s.f. house.
And yet it is a tremendous struggle on my own. My b'friend is here only every coupla monthz. He is a huge workhorse but he likez to argue with me about whether THAT tree should be cut down or not. Or whether the gravel pathz need to be relined & edged, when that is the thing that bugz me the most. Also, he wantz to rent a beach house for most of the time.
SOMETHING HAS TO GIVE IN THAT SCENARIO.
So I end up hiring stuff out. Or trying to. In the end I'm never happy enuf with the work or can't afford what I want OR dislike the person trying to work with me.
Sooooo ... feeling yer pain even if yourz is times 5.
Not sure if I told you all the ceiling in the bedroom is painted, next I need to clean the upper molding and then tape and start painting the walls.
We have an acre with the house, barn and gardens plus the old small horse pasture which is just mowed with the riding mower. I have often though that I'm not sure if either of us could maintain it all alone.
Not sure which thread I talked about doing the Garden Art Bowling Balls but I know most of you follow this thread The blue glass one was done by Ric and the river rock pebbles was done by me. After gluing all the pebbles on I sprayed mine with a sealer that brought out all the pretty colors in the rocks. We haven't grouted them yet so they aren't quite finished.
I am picking up paint for the upper walls today.
Nice balls! Did you get river rock at hobby store or a rockyard? I have been ( am now actually) on road - son's high school buddy that we helped 'raise'. Was in brides high school ( private military) gorgeous grounds and dining hall catered meal - ribs, sausage, mashed potato, green bean, barbecue, etc etc etc. very elegant with all the huge old windows and moldings with light flooding call. South side Chicago. One extra day walking Michigan Ave and then Chicago pier- trains, shuttles, trolleys. I am beat! 4 yr old and 9 mo old in tow. Ladies I am beyond the energetic 'me' that I used to be! I know it must seem forever I have been at this but we hope to finish screening porch this weeken. I have had enough of helping with that...cleaning, pressure was, painting and installing the spline holders and recutting the trim.
Contractor interview coming to start bathroom remodel looooong overdue. Soooooo glad declutter end the closets. Will have to tackle the under the sink and towel/ sheets closets,
Wishing you all progress in your decluttering ( and wrist healing)
I got them from a friend that had a huge load of stones delivered for a few pathways around her home. I just brought a bucket full of them home. The spray sealant I used on them made them shine like the expensive craft store ones.
Sounds like a lovely day. Yes, I wear out pretty easy these days as well, seems like I can go go go with the Grands but once I stop I can barely move again.
Just a short note ..Still pecking letters left-handed but I am scheduled for surgery today at 2:45. They are going to go in and play “puzzle” - screwing the shattered bone pieces back where they belong, onto a plate, on the bone. I will be happy when that is over. It can then begin to heal properly. I won’t feel the bones’ ends grating on meat as they move with every move I make any more - yay!. It should also take away the Frankenstein freaky curved wrist I have now. Sure, the screws, plate, the surgery itself; will be painful but worth it, to regain full use of my hand –especially the dominate one. Other than dealing with that, I’m not doing much. My plans for doing stuff...finish setting out the last few plants then adding mulch to the flower beds I made, is now surely limited for probably 6 weeks or so. Once the intial swelling and pain from the surgery today subsides maybe I can do some one handed de-clttering but that will depend on how my twisted knee heals. Right now, even in a knee brace it hurts with each step. Very depressing and I don't need to go down that deep hole...
Carole - I'm glad to hear all is well with DH and that he will be home more often. It sure sounds like you have done a lot and as you head for a "black hole bedroom"...may the force be with you. You'll see, after a few days of working in there, you'll have a hole and pretty soon - a room! Smart too to start on the worst one. That way, when it's done you might see the other as a piece of cake!
Holly - gotta agree with Rosie - love your balls. You and Ric did well!! I want to do at least one some day but who knows when. Glad to hear you bedroom is coming along too. You go girl!
ok just this has taken me a while to type and I need to get things ready to go for surgery anyway. I said I would let y'all know when surgery was - so I did. Hope your day is better than mine!!
Hi gals - Yes, I am in agreement with paying someone to do the jobs that we cannot do ourselves and the jobs that our partners don't often see as important as we may. Sometimes it is so much easier to pay someone else to do it. I can also identify with those who once upon a time could accomplish much more than they are able to these days...I really understand how draining being grandma can be too. Speaking of that...my two grand children will be here shortly to spend the afternoon. Gosh, didn't the school year pass quickly? Thankfully these children are for the most part very well behaved...there is often bickering and tattle tales being told and I don't like either of those things...plus whining...don't do that well either.
Very slowly things are leaving my house and the walls and display units are becoming less crammed. I have been super involved in trying to open a shop with a friend and this is taking so much of my time and energy. We are now in to week number five after signing a shop rental contract, and we still aren't open yet. I think we will be able to open the weekend after the fourth of July... There have been all sort of things to do that we didn't think of when planning to do this. Didn't realize just how slow things get done. Anyway...it is closer to reality than it has been...so that is good.
Hope everyone is having a productive week, whatever you are involved in. Keep up the good work all. Take care.
Ruby good luck when you open.
I agree it is hard to get Ric to send work out to be done but I am very willing to. I have had some luck getting him to send the cars to the garage from time to time. Wrenching is very hard on his hands and especially in the winter but recently he has done two big jobs on the cars. I keep telling him that because he can do something does mean he has to do it.
I absolutely agree that sometimes it's best to hire someone to help you! If the person is experienced and efficient, I find that they can get the job done faster than I would have and it also takes the weight of the unfinished job off my mind. I hired a young boy to put together one of those strawberry pyramids for me last week and he had it done, leveled and filled with soil in less than an hour. I would have gone as far as I could and then something would have started to hurt like my feet or hip and I would have had to stop and rest and take some painkillers, thus drawing out the job even longer.
Of course, I had to be busy while he was working so I weeded. Needless to say, I had to stop when the pain started, and never went back to finish, LOL! This week I have to work in the house because the kids and grandkids are coming this weekend so rooms have to be dusted, beds made and things that I let go while the construcctions workers were here have to be done.
Of course, there is a huge downside to having a house cleaner, landscaper, handyman, electrician, plumber, house-sitter flitting around as often as I can scrounge up money to pay them: I have to guess where THEY squirreled away the flashlight, prunerz, pajamaz ("Oh, I put them on a hanger in the closet"), binocularz, step ladder, backpacks ("Oh, those are in the entry closet. On hangerz"), the dog's collar, yesterday's mail ...
My husband says that since I retired "we" (meaning ME) are going through too many paper towels ... He better watch it - I will forget about decorating bowling balls and instead concentrate on size 9.5 cement boots.
Paper towelz, huh? I use pretty much zero because of a massive stack of what we call "blue towels." You should try them. They are courtesy Jack's sister who workz at a huge laundry. They come from hospitals. Now, whether the hospitals can only use them once or these are stolen is not known to me. But you can buy them too. We have them by the hundredz and they're very sturdy.
Ha Ha ( retired from medical profession - and so I am familiar with 'borrowed' towels ). But even tho paper has environmental and $$ drawbacks - I am firm believer in not keeping wet fabric - especially sponge - in kitchen. I take one paper towel sheet and after doing counters (or whatever) I dump. No shredding either (surprisingly) I don't like using dish rags or sponges. One paper towel - at most two - washes all dishes, cleans sink, and then dumped. Ditto the toilets, sinks, whatever. Well rung out damp will do the dusting with no dust spread. I LOVE paper towels! He can suck it up.
He also said -- we seem to be going through more water and eggs... and the electric bill is higher! He has a single egg roll up omelet with onions and ham each morning...I do run the vacuum more... And I may use more water-- cooking more HOMEMADE meals. Well, I did reply to his informative and casually offered observations...and he promptly picked up his pant hems and got out of Dodge quick. -- poor thing didn't even have time to digest that egg properly. Stood at the door and " see you later guinea " and out he scurried! Tonight he will creep back in and I think he will have been bitten in the ass by the meek and mild bug. More water indeed!! He'll be getting his rubber ducky and spotted dog boxer shorts folded inside out from now on! More water...grrrrrrr...
Oh yeah, definitely good topic for some laughs...you go rosie...he will never know what hit him. Oh yeah, as dragonfly pointed out...there is this thing called time management. The time I had to do some preaching on that one was many years ago when John had a wheel barrow with a leaking tire on it...that meant each time he used it, a trip to get air at service station was required...I pointed out that purchasing a new twenty dollar tire would pay for itself quickly in terms of gas used to go to service station and productivity would be up due to not having that extra time load the thing up and going to get air in it. I believe he finally got a new tire for it.
I try to take the time a project will take me or mine to do versus hiring someone who can do it reasonably quickly when deciding on who does what...some things it is better to hire out definitely.
Anway gals, hope everyone is having a decent enough day...take care all.
Hi y'all! I just came upon this post that "lovestopaint" mentioned in another post and will go to the link that she provided way up yonder at the top somewhere. LOL!! I agree - you all are a "hoot + a half" to read what you post.
I only have one question? -- What date was the posting about the "squirrel story" posted by "lovestopaint" ?? At least I think she was the one who posted it. I want to read it too!! :)
Have a good weekend y'all!! I know I will this Saturday. I'm heading down with another "photog" friend to a mission called "San Luis Rey" somewhere down in Oceanside for a day of shooting! Can't wait! :)
Hi Rosie, Jennie and all. Yeah baby, have a great time doing your beloved photo shoots girl.
Can't say that I recall a squirrel story...must have breezed over it. Speaking of Debbie, I spoke with her earlier in the week and got an email saying the surgery to pin and set her arm has been done. She was in quite a bit of pain and experiencing some nausea. Great pain can cause that...take from someone who knows. I am sure she would love to hear from anyone who would like to write her. I believe she is trying to use a voice recognition program to communicate on here due to her right hand being the one affected. Anyway, I hate to see her going through all of this.
I had a fairly productive week, though nothing to write home about. I haven't really tackled any clutter for some time now...getting my new shop set up is taking the majority of my time and energy. I have almost finished displaying the items that I have taken over the to the shop and when that is done I can once again start going through cabinets and things around here and moving my less loved items over to there to try and sell if possible.
I am not sure exactly what happened to me this past winter but I finally reached a stage where I was ready to begin getting rid of some, in fact a lot of the collectibles I have amassed over the years. I believe that one thing that helped me over the hump of not wanting to do it before now is that I didn't have a clear vision of my end result. When one of the professionals on one of the de-cluttering programs that I have read on line suggested trying to envision my end result of de-cluttering, I was able to see my walls having more blank space and flat spaces around each room not being covered with the many items that many of the places are now. It feels much lighter to me and almost as if a burden is being slowly lifted off of me. Not sure if I am making sense here or not...I know what I mean, even if you all don't...anyway...keeping my end result in mind is where I need to keep focus in order too continue to take the necessary steps to see this project through...hopefully it will be sooner rather than later that Iw ill have a completed update for everyone.
You folks all have a good weekend. Keep on keeping on...
Perfect sense Ruby. What I noticed is a tendency to swing in the other direction. My husband said not too long ago - "don't put it all away - I like it cozy." I guess I have a tendency to go all or nothing. Things are a burden - sentimental value..."who will take care of my things?" It is a mental burden.
Ah...I am preaching to the choir!
It is an SIP - hybrid. (some post and beam). We started with a plan for small post and beam - but too $$ so went with hybrid. Very energy efficient ( like a big coffee cup!) so it worked out.
I have to tackle the bath closets --- I HATE to throw away all those shampoos and conditioners and soaps from hotels. But I won't use all up in my lifetime. Do you think shelter will take since no seal in place on those wee sizes?
@Ruby: so happy for you to reach your "ah ha!" moment! isn't it wonderful?!!
@Rosie: love your house! don't know about the rest of it, but it sure doesn't look cluttered from where i'm sitting. love your hubby's "whistlers" ~ too cute!
it was my ex-MIL that planted the seed in me at some point many, many years ago "Less is More." while i love my "things" i long for a simplistic style of living. it's a battle, but the "less" is winning, thank God. my children will thank me one day.
when i had to EMPTY my mother's house after she passed away... my deepest, darkest fear came to life. her BFF nagged, i begged, others just wanted to see what she might leave so they could snatch it up. our efforts to prod her to part with the crrrrrrap! were absolutely futile. it was this overwhelming task of going thru each and every item so that you didn't throw the baby out with the bathwater. O M G! never again.
since i had already started my journey to "less" it was likely even harder for me. i pray i didn't toss out too much* but somehow i still ended up with enough crrrrrrrap! to fill a 10x20 storage unit (which i now pay $50 a month for since July 2005). such a drop in the bucket of what was there when i walked in. holy crap.
*my sister left with a large U-Haul full of stuff. my son filled his little Honda at least 6x. my 2nd cousin took at least 2 car loads. my 1st cousin took the equivalent of a small U-Haul, some of which she donated to her church. Salvation Army took a small U-Haul full. Her trash came twice a week. Twice a week for a full month there where two rows of big black trash bags, piled at least two high the full length of her easement (or approx. 50'). At the end, we rented a full size construction dumpster. it was overflowing. are you getting the picture? guess what? it was a 2BR/1BA home with about 1000' SF. wow.
moving here with MY stuff, HIS stuff, his MOM's stuff, his wife's stuff (that passed away)... overwhelming doesn't begin to describe it. hopelessness is probably too far, but very near that. until his mom had her stroke, i felt like i was barely treading water. once she was in a nursing home, progress started (as sad as that may sound). SHE was a hoarder, but not to the extent my mother was. maybe going thru all that (even growing up) has made me the "less is more" person i am today.
many years ago, we had friends whose home burned to the ground. nothing left but ashes. we felt HORRIBLE for them. so, so sad losing everything. but they were remarkably content. we went to visit their new home and it was like a realtor's dream. beautiful and free of clutter. they said when they got over the loss, they were able to appreciate what they DID have (loving friends and family) and NONE of that "stuff" mattered at all. it was just like Ruby said "It feels much lighter to me and almost as if a burden is being slowly lifted off of me."
Cajun - oh my. Your mom left you a great lesson that your family will someday be so grateful for. Rest her soul.
I DECLUTTERED!! Thanks to lots of encouragement :0).
And, I ain't dumb...It always looks better from the ceiling down...not a lot of horizontal space for junk. You can't see it, but there is even a flying pig up there on one of the beams. And a FLAMINGO...pink.
From my current perch on the sofa...I can count 13 cow paintings...13. Cows... What do I need 13 cows for? Huh? I don't even drink milk.
And, this guy is looking down at me saying. "Ma!" Ditch the heifers --- you got ME ...and the fish..."
And these 3 are saying..." You will misssssssssss us!" "What will happen to us?" "You might NEED us some day" "We might be WORTH something" ""Maybe your sister ( brother, aunt, cousin niece) will want us..." All the old tapes play...
WAY TO GO, ROSIE!! whoohoo!!
lol I had to laugh... you have cows. my mother had frogs. I love frogs. who doesn't love frogs? but oh myyyyyy... I started setting up a fraction of her collection at the first garage sale I attempted after her passing. it covered a card table. toward the end of the day, someone FINALLY came up and bought the entire lot for $20. some of the cuter, more realistic ones I kept. very few tho. in fact, I think I might have only 4 now (?). one is a very large ceramic one I have by my front steps. I read somewhere it's good Feng Shui to have a frog greet you and your guests. anyway... point being... you gotta decide. cows? or clutter?
are these paintings you have done yourself? maybe gift them. people love to receive handmade gifts, esp. paintings.
maybe you can do what one decluttering mom did. she had watched her older sister keep every scrap of artwork her 4 kids had done until they left the house. yikes! she swore she would find a better way, and she did. she took a snapshot of the child, holding up their artwork with pride. she dated it and put it in a scrapbook with all the others, day in the life sort of thing. I thought that was an awesome idea!
maybe you can scan these and save them in a scrapbook or other album. when you want to look at them... there they are. just a thought.
It took me a bit but I found this poem for you gals.
It speaks to many things of course - I suspect the author meant it to speak to all the people in our lives that pull us down and overwhelm us with their needs.
But, it has meant other things to me and when I felt overwhelmed by the tasks ahead of me (simplifying my surroundings and letting go of 'stuff') it struck a cord and I read it every now and again. Maybe it will resonate for you because the 'stuff' that fills our closets and our spaces -as you know - lives and breathes as if it has a life of its own!
One day you finally knew
What you had to do, and began,
Though the voices around you kept shouting
Their bad advice---
Though the whole house
Began to tremble
And you felt the old tug
At your ankles
"MEND MY LIFE!"
each voice cried.
But you didn't stop.
You knew what you had to do,
Though the wind pried
With its stiff fingers
At the very foundations---
Though their melancholy was terrible
It was already late enough,
and a wild night,
And the road full of fallen
Branches and stones.
But little by litttle,
As you left their voices behind,
The stars began to burn
Through the sheets of clouds,
And there was a new voice,
Which you slowly
Recognized as your own,
That kept you company
As you strode deeper and deeper
Into the world
Determined to do
The only thing you could do---
Determined to save
The only life you could save.
Cajun - crossed post. I hear you...but let's face it --- frogs are no comparison to MY cows (grin)
You have offered some good ideas. I sure have a HEAP of photos to deal with as it is tho...
( I have all the kids stuff too - but I dealt with it -- gave it back! I had so many construction paper drawings from my son...that when he moved into his first apt...I purchased cheap plain black painted wooden frames and framed at least 30 of the best ones...wrapped them in brown paper with a red plaid bow for his housewarming gift. the black frame tied them all together and he covered an entire white entry wall floor to ceiling. Looked very sophisticated.
I didn't know that about frogs placed at entrance to greet...hmmmm... I have frogs too! I have a big frog planter I can move to the front porch. It terrifies me - I keep thinking it is a perfect place for a snake.
My son is having a yard sale next weekend it is a community sale so there should be a lot of people browsing. I might get a box of things together for him.
A group of my daughters friends do a handbags for homeless each year. They collect unwanted bags all types but mostly looking for big bags, beach bags and larger handbags they fill them with all kinds of handy things. I always collect the small bottles from hotels and other places to donate shampoo, soap and lotions and any free samples I can pick up. It is a good way to get rid of those kind of things.
That is a GREAT ideas Holly. A purse or something nice to carry papers and work stuff home when starting that new job -- filled with toiletry essentials. We have women's shelter in Chapel Hill and the job placement aspect is so important to helping getting them on feet. All the samples are new - but I worried about the lack of a seal -- if there would be concern of purposeful contamination. Those gals are at risk ...and ...I guess my mind worked overtime worrying about what would be prohibited. I will do it and see. Thank you for suggestion.
i work for the local phone company in customer service. the other day i set up new service for a lady that works at one of the local shelters. i asked her where their donation center was. told her that a lot of us in my office much prefer to donate to shelters like that, where we know what we give will be used, and if not, they can sell it for cash.
guys, i feel like a whipped puppy. i'm so glad i got an early start today. i got the burn pile going, collected all the limbs i'd cut yesterday, cut down 3 or 4 nests of bag worms and burned them. i've raked up a whole lotta busted up roots, limbs, etc. from where we originally cleared land. the bush hog breaks it up, and then after it sits, it dries out, but is far too chunky for me to be able to mow with the lawn tractor. i've gotten about 90% of it cleared where i can mow. so now i'm pushing back to the borders b/c there's a lot there TO mow. also cut down some yopons (?) and beautyberries on the edges so the oak and pine seedlings can flourish. i'm ALMOST done for the day. i had to come get something in my belly, potty, and change into my shorts. going to get my straw hat on and finish up. then i'll pot up Denise's planter. and i need to put together a plant trade to mail tomorrow. THEN I AM DONE FOR THE DAY. can't wait to get my shower and put my feet up!!
hope you are all either relaxing or making your homes more peaceful ;-)
What a fun read for me...Rosie...a woman after my own heart...I too love hanging things...I was thinking while looking at your pictures that you have good feng shui with all the movable objects...yep, good feng shui for sure...thank you so much for the wonderful pictures...I will make a note to try and take a few pictures of my before walls around here...
Rosie, I have been in touch with Debbie. She had the surgery to set the arm on Wednesday...she is still very uncomfortable but trying to make the best of a bad situation. Keep her in your thoughts and prayers please gals...she is such a good soul it seems. The two of us starting chatting on line some months back...it seemed as if almost every thing that came out of either of our mouths, we could each really relate with one another and began calling each other twins.
Both Holly and I had the good fortune to meet Debbie on May 18 at a plant swap that we were all involved in. I have known Holly now for seven or eight years and can vouch for her as being a lovely woman in every respect...love that Holly Ann...Holly, so glad that you post here and share all of your home projects with us...this is such a fun group and it is definitely a topic which seems to be on going and never ending for me. Always need to keep being reminded that I am aiming for a less stressed life style and that there is always work involved in obtaining that. Thank you all for being here and sharing what works for you and what doesn't...cheer leading, encouragement and support is the name of the game, or so it seems to be with me. How boring to face the prospect of de-cluttering all alone and no one to share with the day's finds or share the day's struggles with...So glad you are all here.
I will finish up here, throw some work clothes on and head out to shop to continue setting up. We are aiming for opening the doors this next weekend. What a long process this has been. Holly, yours and Ric's next trip south must include a visit to Something Special Emporium...please...Anyway ladies...keep up the good work...thanks for all the tips everyone. Enjoy your Sunday.
Sounds like you are on a roll. Just came in myself but I don't think I will be going back out. Seriously over did it yesterday. Got up this morning and took a pain pill and went back outside to do a few things. The pill wore off a bit ago and I am hurting even more with what I did this morning so I think I will sit back and watch all the HGTV yard makeover shows I recorded. Might go soak in either the pool or hot tub clouded over a bit ago and we got a little shower but it 's done now.
I'm in - showered and determined not to set foot outside. Mosquito bites have bites on them. But...have you had the experience of looking out the window...and seeing something that it will take a second to fix??? Outside the window is a Japanese maple...I plan on pruning come early fall. But-- there is this one crossed limb right in front of my face...daring me to come and get it...if I do - guarantee -- I will yank some weeds ...pick up a few birch limbs...and come in sweaty again and feel like a bug buffet. I won't do it! ( but it would just take a second...and I could run real fast...).
I hot tubbed and showered a good Epsom Salt soak does take the soreness out. All nice and clean and relaxed. Nothing out there that I need to do today. Ric has been cleaning and organizing the garage all those plastic pots and plant trays are all nice and organized. Yeah Ric!
Ruby, so happy you're grand opening is just around the corner. Good for you!! All the best on your new venture. And you are so right... it is a real blessing to have so many friends gather here to cheer each other on. like you said, the thought of doing it all alone... seems ALMOST hopeless. i got that feeling a few minutes ago before i came in. seemed like all the neighbors were out working from the time i got out there this morning until about 1/2 hour ago maybe longer. suddenly i realized how quiet it was. they'd all gone in and i was all alone working. my feet seemed heavier, and i was almost shuffling. i could hear my labored breathing. funny as it may sound, i felt abandoned. i was so tired i was almost stumbling. that's how i could imagine it would feel trying to declutter alone. ugh
@Holly... hope you get some pain relief. glad ur going to stay in now. sounds like we have all overdone it this weekend. UPDATE... i see u were able to get a little relief from the hot tub. good for you!! and YEA RIC for getting the garage & pots organized!!
@Rosie... crackin me up. that is SOOOOO me. i look out at the garden, see that one thing i meant to do when i was outside but got sidetracked. i could go do it in my flip flops. won't take a minute. next thing i'd know i'd be sweating from every pore in my body, out of breath, dying of thirst, saying 'what the heck was i thinking?!' my husband's the same way. last weekend, he went to show me something in the plant shed, and we started talking about something else. then i started pulling weeds, he started looking at stuff to be taken to the metal recyclers. he snapped out of it and said 'hey.. let's get back to what we were doing. i didn't mean to get you side-tracked.' LOL we both were. so so easy to do!
this morning, after i got the fire going, all i really needed to do was pile on the already cut limbs, and then get on to Denise's planter, and my plant trade. i have no idea what possessed me to start cutting the yopons and the beautyberry. i mean... there was NO sense of urgency to get that done OR to pile up the bush hog debris. seriously, Carole. PUT THE LOPPERS DOWN, CAROLE! nope... OCD kicked in, and i didn't stop until i got to the driveway's edge. Good grief.
thankfully, it was only 12:40 when i came in so i still have the rest of the day to put my feet up. i will go out after 7pm to first put my trade together, then water. Denise's planter will wait another day. she's not asked about it yet. just not enough hours in the day. good news is: there are plenty of hours left when i get home to piddle around outside. before i finish up out there this evening, i need to bring the push mower back up by the house. i had pushed it near the road so i could do the little stuff, but never got around to it. i may or may not do that today at all. you watch though: i'll get out there, and it's JUST another 10' to the part that needs mowing, and it's not that much anyway. next thing i know i'll be push mowing all around instead of just putting the mower back in the plant shed. i know me.
...: keeping Debbie in my thoughts and prayers :...
Waving hello to all...especially Debbie if she is reading. Yep, I do know the getting side tracked deal...happens all the time here. I learned some time back, during some of my de-cluttering attempts that one item on my to do list usually requires about ten other things being done before hand in order to get to project on the list...oh yeah, easy to say you are going to do such and so...but in reality there may be two dozen things that need to be moved before you can even access the so and so...
Feng Shui...has been a goal of mine for many, many years...it sounds so great in theory but so difficult to do in reality. I always got stuck on the first step which is to start with uncluttered spaces...who me? no such thing...Rosie, some years back I bought a book called Funky Shui...it was a joke, but in reality my house is more a funky type of place...I like most of my things, I am just growing tired of a lot of it. Due to health issues, grand children issues and many other life issues, home decorating has taken a definite back seat for me for some years now. I used to be one who would rearrange furniture on a regular basis, not so these days...I guess part of this may be that I am dealing with a much smaller space than in the past and it is hard to make many changes in rearrangement.
I suppose if that at the end of each day we can at least name one thing we have done productivity wise, it was a good day. I feel for Debbie who had just made plans to tackle so many issues at her house now being sort of laid up and not able to do the things she wants to. I used to suffer from very severe fatigue which didn't allow for me getting much done...it is frustrating and can become really depressing if dwelt on too much to realize all we need to do and something is preventing us from doing it. I try to take in to consideration that the small things count too and day getting lots of little things done is as good as getting one major thing done...I believe today will be a day of hopefully getting some little things done here...I can take my pick of things, that is for sure.
As always...great hearing from you ladies and Rosie you are really good for a laugh from time to time...laughter is so important too...if we can't laugh, something is missing and life isn't all that it is cracked up to be...you ladies take good care and have a great day...ciao.
I can't manage to get out of my Jammie's today. But I am doing things. The stupid shower curtain keeps sloping to the floor.i walk in and it is down. It is like a poltergeist lives here. I sure wish the thing would go to the gym for me!!
I like the shower curtain a lot. To borrow Ruby's word - it is funky. I met the gal that made it at a fair. It has a huge vase painted on it . I will attach a photo after I finish. It is a heavy washable canvas. The gal painted 2 more for me - one with my granddaughter and her two dogs (all wearing snorkel masks) diving to the bottom of the sea...( figured I would stay with the water theme) looked just like her with her strawberry curls floating upward as she dove and Wade and Sam( the dogs) exact replicas. The sea bed was sand with a clam and fishes and treasure chest and her bathing suit was pink polka dots with a ballerina ruffle - her fav! The other curtain was of my nieces big shaggy dog...(he is black but we did him in deep purple) sitting on a very fancy 'silk' striped parlor chair...a round side table with a sketch of my niece in an ornate frame on the table. On the "wall" behind the huge dog overpowering the dainty chair was a Home Sweet Home sign - askew. On the floor in front of the chair were Reilly's favorite toys...a stuffed sheep, his yellow ball and a big red bone. This dog is all arms and legs and a real house destroying mess... So it was perfect for her master bath which is primarily grey and lavender - the purple in the fur looked great.
Anyway...I JUST heard a crash...I bet that curtain slid down again! It has been up two years! What gives? Today my goal is to clean second bath and bedroom and to dust and clean my bed and bath. After that I am going to take some things to donation and then come home to read a little. It is VERY hot today.
I hope you all spend today doing exactly what you want to do.
Just gorgeous Rosie and I too would love to see pics of the other two shower curtains...I loved your descriptions and wow on the artist who was able to make these lovelies...Isn't it fun having something that is custom made and you know that no one else has one like it? Love it, love it...I can tell Rosie that you take much pride in decorating your home and having nice things...I figure that since retiring twenty years ago, I spend the majority of my time at home and I want my surroundings to be as pleasant as possible. I can only do so much with the smallness of this house, but I have fun doing what I do.
It is Friday so I want to wish each of you a very pleasant and productive weekend...tomorrow is opening day of my shop...please wish me good luck...thanks all.
Thank you Rosie, what a sweet sentiment...I hope so too. We officially opened today...we have not really advertised yet but stuck a sandwich sign out front and had a few folks come by. One sale today, so we now have a dollar bill to frame and label as being our first dollar made. This coming week we hope to do some advertising and lots of talking it up. We haven't totally decided up what sort of schedule we will open, so we are still working on things. Thank you all for allowing me to share all of this with you all...it has been the main thing on my mind for some time now, so I tend to go overboard when talking about it.
I spoke on the phone with Debbie on Friday morning I believe. She has had her surgery and actually saw the x-rays of the work the doctor did with inserting pins and other contraptions to help the arm heal correctly. It has really cut back in her ability to do much and it is really bothering her that she had such grand plans for doing gardening and clutter clearing...can't very well do much of either currently. Being as limited as she is now has a way of wearing on a person's nerves if they let it. She is the type though to try and keep herself focused on the positives versus the negatives, so I am not hearing too many complaints.
I quickly went through one of my china cabinets a while ago and picked out a few items that I will be taking to the shop to sell. I still have another larger cabinet to go through and it feels good to be moving some things out of here. Have still only touched on the outer rims of the shed where so many of my items are stored. Am sure that as time passes and I work through bin by bin, I will be downsizing quite a bit...heck, some of the bins are actually empty now and that sure feels good. I hope that all reading are having some productive days...just keep on keeping on is the name of the game...take good care all...off to feed dogs and water some houseplants that are currently living on the front deck for the summer...be good all.
there is a gal in nearby town that owns antique shop called Roxy or Roxie's. Anyway, we stopped by a year or so ago and got on her mailing list ( email ). When she gets things in... She emails ( maybe once/ month) with photos attached with description and price. NOT a big deal fancy email. Recipients can look - or not as per their desires. So the email has a list of say 6 items with just a line or two... " pretty depression glass friut bowl" ... Cast iron door stop circa 1930's... That is it... Then there is a link that takes to photo page with the longer description and photos. It is not an intrusive long drawn out email and the recipient as I said can choose what he wants to look at. I have found a treasure or two and have also been disappointed when I inquired about items and learned SOLD. The owner chooses carefully what will go in the email because like you - she has lots of stuff in shop and can't put it all and truly wants email to showcase a few things and not overwhelm. I thought about you because you have that shed full of stuff. This may be a way for you to showcase shed items you don't have room for in your shop or don't want to take there or can haul out of shed for a quick photoshoot but no way to get to the shop. Or, already have IN the shop - don't want to take back home --but is not selling and taking up space. As you get customers -- put out a book and ask if they want to be on the email list and tell them email addy not shared by you with others and won't be frequent. Just a thought. This seems to be a great tool for Roxy's owner.
My son's name is Joshua. I had a bunch of things that I wanted to get rid of -- but it was typical scenario...good stuff...worth something...may use someday... blah blah. He came by one day and I was expounding on the 'difficulties' of ownership ...straight give away, charitable donation. eBay seller, consignment, yard sale, news ads ... And he was fascinated (DUH) ( he's been sheltered and since marrying and daddy hood also works 70 hrs week out of town ...the boy don't get out much except to Chuckie Cheese!) anyway, I told him about My Secret Closet - our nearest... To give him a feel...I got a wild hair and told him if he packed it up, took it down, and dealt with the crabby gal there... He could keep the income. He liked that! He has not looked back since. Once a month when he is home weekends...off he goes. He found one for clothes and another for household. Schmoozed the crabby gal and she takes his wife's winter things in SUMMER . His spouse saves EVERYTHING - even her first breast pad -- it all has "meaning"...and so it is a battle royal for him to keep things uncluttered. The thing is - he makes a decent return. Not me. Brand new with tags doesn't net me a dollar at the consignment. I always have a Josh stack building upstairs and he makes real grocery money. She told him not to worry -- she would put on hangers for him!! Guess I ain't pretty enough!
You are a hoot Rosie...you ain't pretty enough...never!!! Cute story though. That is great that your son is on the bandwagon and is helping you in terms of downsizing your belongings...Same with Holly...yep, have Josh store them for a while, sounds good to me.
I have a son report too, or a daughter in law one. Since hearing of me opening the shop my daughter in law is using some of her off from work days to declutter their home...she has been sending the extras to me to sell. Ben brought over a good sized bag of items yesterday. I have fun prepping things to go in the shop. This haul was from their kitchen cabinets, so I took the time to wash everything he brought and then priced them and they are ready to go to shop on my next visit. As it stands once again, I will fill the back end of my Subaru on Thursday to take over and display...I still haven't much dented our storage shed yet, so I won't run out of merchandise any time soon.
Rosie, I love your email list idea and had actually thought of it already, but just hadn't gotten the paper or notebook or whatever together to have at checkout...have made a note to take one on next trip over, so thanks for the reminder. Oh yeah, I am on some local stores mailing lists and get either emails or mail circulars on occasion. Good advertising for sure...speaking of advertising, that is where we are currently with the shop. We plan to take some pics of certain items this week and post them to Craigs List and hope that will draw people in...oh yeah, your idea to have some of the larger items pictures at the shop is good too...in fact, my husband on his auction escapade purchased a few cabinets that won't fit in the shop. Your ideas of taking pictures and either having copies in a note book at the shop or using the photos of the items still here to run on Craig's List is a great one...thank you so much for sharing you very good ieias with me.
Here is hoping that everyone is doing well. Only the first of the week so far, but it looks like it will be a decent enough one so far...hope that everyone has some good plans to celebrate the 4th...you folks take good care and check in when you can.
My granson's name is Ben. ;0)
It has rained so much it looks like a jungle. The river birch are touching the ground. Hard to make plans for the 4th that are dependable. Hope it won't won't be a wash out. The mosquitos are so plentiful ...and with the grey sticky-ness... The 4th feels like it should be weeks away to get far enough from the rain potential. Yuk! I looked to the mountains and to the sea - same stuff. I got a wall needs painting... But who wants to paint when it is grey? But still hopeful the sun will poke thru.
I'm with you on the rain, I live about 1 1 /2 hours northeast and the amount of rain is just crazy, after suffering through dry summers for the past few years. My husband refuses to cut the grass until the rain stops for a day so the ground can dry out and not make it dangerous to do the slopes. And the mosquitos, yikes! I was outside for about 10 minutes yesterday afternoon and came in with so many little itches...
It does look like it will be raining on the 4th here though, which is sad. I have lived here for 7 years, on and off and was planning on going to the Scottsburg Parade for the first time, but I don't want to go if I'm going to be wet all day...
Here's hoping the sun pokes through here too, at least for a little bit.
Dragon - the weekend looks pretty --- that is something...
You are right about the mosquitos being opportunists --- from the porch to the car (20 seconds). I get nailed. I don't get how they go right thru underware. It is miserable. Plus spray + humidity is so uncomfortable/greasy.
We have had cars covered to roofs. Seniors tossed out of (condemned) apts near the mall that have had no flooding issues since the inception - 1970s. I had to turn around and go home after 10 minutes of hard rain -- ground so soaked the water got deep in minutes and cars stalling. Scary. Well, this thread is about decluttering and maybe that is exactly what this gray day needs. I got a box of papers that are calling to me!
Hey there Rosie - as far as I know there are no hard and fast rules about what is posted here...of course we get side tracked a bit...that is what makes it interesting...I am finding it quite interesting that you two are speaking of a lot of rain...not happening here or I am not paying attention or something...yeah, we are having more rain fall than normal, but mainly afternoon showers. This morning is a sunny one though. Not for sure what the afternoon forecast is. We grilled out earlier in the week and don't have any plans for outside activities, so either way, I will be doing the same thing.
I have been in communication some with Debbie. Of course she is semi-miserable with her recent accident and all that has resulted from her fall. Surgery and physical therapy has now begun. She left a message on my voice mail yesterday that she is now beginning to be able to move her fingers a bit more than in the past couple of weeks, but still not well enough to type much. I really miss having her post and talk about all that she has going on. She is super frustrated over making all the de-cluttering plans that she is now unable to do. I suspect when her arm is healed better and her frame of mind is better, she will hit it running full force.
Having been a person who has dealt quite a bit with health issues, I know the challenge it is to maintain a positive attitude when our bodies won't cooperate. It is very easy to get down over it and then begin to assault ourselves mentally. Anyway...I am sure she would appreciate a dmail from some of you.
Yesterday the rain was incredible, it rained every hour for most of the day, I put some tubs out and each one had at least 3 quarts of water by evening. The annual 4th of July parade in Scottsburg was cancelled because the parking area was under water and they didn't thing it would drain out enough to make it less of a swamp.
Rosie, how was your area yesterday, did you get hit with much?
On the plus side, the 4 day weekend and cancelled Parade is giving me incentive to do some cleaning and decluttering. I cleaned out the garage fridge and freezer and DH vacuumed the coils, then we gave it a good washing. Today I'm tackling the bedroom, tossing out old magazines and getting bags of books for Goodwill. I do like a clutter free bedroom, it's just things go in there and never come out because I don't know where to put them.
Summer, I have always been a good sleeper but lately my sleep habits have gotten very poor and I'm wondering if it's because I let the bedroom get in such a state. I wake up with a backache or headache some nights and I'm sure it has a lot to do with the clutter. I used to always make sure 3 rooms were clean, my bathroom, the bedroom and the kitchen but with the health issues I've had only the kitchen and the bathroom are in good shape, the bedroom I let go, thinking I would be able to get to it another day. Unforutnately that day never comes. I even missed doing it today because DH decided he needed my help elsewhere. Since I have a 4 day weekend and this is only day 1, I hope to come back to it on Saturday or Sunday. Tomorrow is a planned family outing to Mayberry RFD (Mount Airy, NC) to see the Andy Griffith Museum.
Give it a try, think minimalist for the bedroom, just clean sheets, comfy bed, fluffy pillows and a book; put everything else out of sight.
Actually I did move some object d'art out of the bedroom today and into my sunroom which was just completed. I like it better there and I get to share it with my visitors and it will get dusted more there because it's a new space. DH hung an old rake head in there for me so I could use it to hang my scope and binoculars and I moved some plants in there too. We tried to hang some old plates but the hangers I have are just not made to show off plates so will have to wait on hanging those.
I would love to see pics of the sunroom also.
Getting closer to painting the bedroom I have it all taped so we can paint the upper walls. Then I will have to decide if I will also paint all the woodwork and there is a lot of it. Once the painting is done the floor can go down.
Yes, another day of hard rain - but less frequent downpours. Today, even less but very hard brief periods.
We trimmed up a magnolia today and it looks soooooo good - now can walk underneath with 3 foot clearance as opposed to going around. I was scared to do - but I did. Also trimmed up a river birch with a huge canopy. That is one messy tree with all the twigs and leaves strewn everywhere from storms. Roasted a chicken and stuffed it too. Made traditional Italian stuffing with sautéed mushrooms, onions, cheese, eggs, bread, spices ...but had some great fresh corn left over and tossed that in too...it was light and fluffy. (surprisingly) and the corn added a sweetness like a corn pudding. My sicilian father would say that I have been living in South too long. It has been a great corn season -- farm stands are loaded and not $$$. Corn on cob soooooooo low cal it is ridiculous and cold makes a great snack. When done - not looking for a 'done with that -what's next?' either. Had intention of making pig picking cake - so refreshing on hot day - but instead had ice pop - lime - and it was great. Costco. Not that pale sugary taste that ice pops seem to have degraded to. - very authentic fruit. I have to stop eating desserts - my clothes are shrinking again so always looking for satisfying snack. My daughter is asking if I wouldn't like to have the grands visit ( 15 mo. And 9 yrs.) for a few weeks...just kill me now... is alcohol fattening? I may need a stiff drink!
Long trip from PA. Husband is deployed and she manages it all. She is worn out I bet. Long PA winter and she home schools Ben. He is one busy kid. Couldn't sit still in regular school. I think his softball between practice and games keeps them out at night 5/days week and she uses no sitter for Emmett. Emme is walking now. I bet she needs a break -- if she asks -- I know it is getting bad. We hope deployment will end in October - that is a year. The kids are good -- but busy. I am out of shape.
Nope, alcohol helps those poundz melt right off. Tuck in!
Would it be possible for YOU to go visit them for a couple of weekz & help out? Maybe even pony up for a little housecleaning/yardwork? I'd bet anything she has tonz of minor repairs that she just can't get to, stuff like that.
I too would quail at the thought of a few weeks alone with grandchildren (maybe becuz I never had kids & get jangled by anything more manic than a 15-year-old cat).
I absolutely love having my Grands come to see me for an afternoon that is. LOL I get them here and there for a day or so and I am worn out by the time they leave. A couple of weeks would be hard but she must really need a break I guess she lives too far away for you to do frequent shorter visits instead of one long one. It's a real hardship for our Military Spouses/Families when they are deployed.
Yes. She works hard and is very active with kid things. I did go there for 3 weeks in May. I think the idea is for her to be in her home with no kids because even if I am there to help -- and I am cooking 24/7 ( she does not cook - my son in law is the short order guy) laundry, and 85 percent of the cleaning -- the kids still expect things from her and the wee one wants to attach when she goes out. I think with them here she is totally free - wake up and forward her own boss!! She does not leave them with anyone except for a military program half day once/ week and the military moms ( and dads) take turns covering those hours. There is a strong support system in place. Lots of things for the kids. PA does a great job helping military families. I just retired (less than 90 days) and now have settled in - I can visit for a week or two without blowing entire vacation but it is a luxury for her to send them here and know they are safe and she isn't feeling like they are not wanted. She can get things done at home and also have proximity to her friends and taking in a movie and dinner like a real grown up. ( I WANT them---- it is just this TERROR I feel at keeping them occupied and no down time to collect my thoughts) it would be easier if they were closer in age.
Here are a few pic of the room I am painting. Really not a whole lot of actual wall to paint as most of it is wall paper and we aren't changing that. I would really have completely changed this room but with all the custom molding that Ric made it would be a major job to remove it all. This room is used mostly for the Grands toys and a place for them to sleep over. I would have it completely finished painting it yesterday but stopped about 3/4 finished as I didn't like the color and was going to see if I could take it back and get them to darken it. Then Ric came home and loves it. Says it's just the blue painters tape confusing my eye. It did look better when I removed some of it but I still think a darker shade would look better.
Here is what it looked like before I started painting it.
Hi, sorry, have been off here most of the weekend.
I didn't get much decluttering done in the Bedroom. We took a trip Friday to Mt Airy, NC and I drove all the way there and back (6:30 am to 8:30pm). Saturday we picked up the dog from the sitters, ran to the Farmers Market, Post Office and bank, and after trying to get to the compost pile through the tall grass with possibilities of fleas, ticks and snakes, I ended up cutting the grass, which took 3 hours, and doing some weeding. After that I was exhausted and fell asleep at around 8pm in the recliner. I woke up at 11am on Sunday and realized I was out of Salada Teabags which are a staple in my house and very hard to find. Since I got them in Harris Teeter a few months ago, and the closest one is in Durham, NC, we ran down there yesterday. I tried HT and Krogers, with no luck but did get some groceries in that I can't get here in SoBo but we didn't get home until 5pm so another day shot.
I did manage to go through my clothes and toss some items out and now have more room in my dresser drawers and half vacuumed the bedroom (didn't get under the bed or behind the furniture), moved some plants out of it to the back porch but I need another entire day to do any more.
I will take pics of my addition and post them maybe later today. Now I have to get back to work!
Hope everyone had a good weekend - it's raining here again!
Hello to All -- I didn't have time to read where I last left off, but will be back tomorrow and update then. I am writing now to say that I heard from Loves to Paint, Debbie a bit ago and she is asking for prayers being said on her behalf. She fell earlier again today and refused help to call 911 or to go to hospital, but after getting her bearings drove home despite being in bad pain. She is scheduled to see her doctor in the morning and felt this latest fall and any possible damage can be addressed then...just wanted to put the word out to those who pray that she needs some prayers said for no more damage being done and for continued healing of the other injury...thanks all...I plan to try calling and if I speak with her, I will relay any messages...hope you folks are having a better day than she is...
Just passing through quickly again...Wanted to report on Debbie's doctor visit after her second fall. According to x-rays the arm is healing well and there didn't seem to be any damage from the most recent fall...she is in quite a bit of pain with an already injured knee but is going to try and home remedy it and see what happens. If she can't get the swelling and the pain in the knee under better control, she will consult a physician then. She seems in a good enough humor and has the ability to laugh at some of the more frustrating things...that is always an asset when dealing with issues we have no control over. Anyway, she says thanks for prayers and will be returning here when typing isn't so difficult for her...
As soon as the fiasco that my life has become settles a bit, I too will be back to read and participate...in the meantime...happy de-cluttering to all.
today was a good day! I cleaned out the MBA closet, cleaned my bedroom and straightened out my plant room! I can't tell you how badly everything's hurts, especially my feet but I still feel good knowing that I will be sleeping in a clean and clutter free bedroom tonight! I am waiting for the wash to get done before I can put my head on a pillow becauseI found put that I have only 3 sets of queen sheets, all the rest of the dozen are top sheets! I usually donT have an issue because there's always a clean set but the company this week used up the other 2 sets and I let the wash back up! My question is where did the other 7 bottom sheets go? Did Dh use them for rags? did the clean sheet gods decide I didn't deserve fitted bottom sheets? And how have I never noticed this before? I know less than a year ago there were at least 5sets because there were 3 here and 2 at my apartment. tis a puzzle! Hope you are all doing okay, and had a good day!
Sounds like a good job done. LOL on the sheets, I have a lot of top sheets without the bottoms. When they get old and the elastic in the bottoms goes bad I throw them out but I keep the top sheets they come in handy for all kinds of things including table clothes for picnic tables, drop clothes, dust covers, tents for the Grands and sun shades.
Thanks! Next job to tackle is the paper monster pile for my office area. I am dreading that, because it all has to be burned or shredded and each of them comes with their own issues, like no windy days for burning and the jamming of the shredder and it's noise! And the filing is tedious in itself but at least I can do it sitting down. Maybe next weekend...
Not quite. I had most of the room painted and just wasn't sure if the color was quite right so I stopped and started to clean up. Then Ric came home and said the color is perfect that the blue tape was just throwing off my perspective. After removing the tape on one area I was still thinking maybe just a shade darker. So I picked up a sample of the next darker color and really it isn't very different and the more I looked at the walls it the better I liked it. So I still have one wall to finish up really wouldn't take long I just haven't gotten back to it. With this heat wave we are having it would be a good afternoon job here in the air conditioned house. Here is a picture of a finished area what do you think?
Terri, do you have a compost pile? Don't forget that it will eat up all that paper, easy-peasy. I don't even shred stuff but if you have lotz & worry that it will compress too much, crumple up each sheet as you go.
Looks great Holly! I like the darker color. You're right a hot day with the air on is a good time to paint inside! My DH is outside in the garage painting bee boxes and they dry fast in the heat but he's very uncomfortable.
Summer, I do have a pile, I just have problems putting whole sheets of paper with my info on them into it and witht he arthritis, it's hard for me to rip them up. I guess watering the pile might be an option, even though the ink won't run as they are laser printed but at least it would make them spongy.
Greetings all - I finally had the time to read what you gals have been up to for the last couple of weeks...heat and rain all around it sounds like. Also some productiveness in terms of de-cluttering which is always good for the old ego...I do feel good whenever I have accomplished even a small task...I now have a very large one awaiting me and today may be the day I tackle it...my plant room, which has once again turned in to a catch all since the plants went outdoors for the summer...
You gals were aware of how most of my time and energy for some months has been spent getting in to and opening the re-sale shop...that went kerplunk early last week when I gave my partner the option of staying or going because I wanted out of the deal...she decided to stay so yet another major undertaking of going over and packing up all the items that took months to put in the shop and bringing them home along with about or so display cabinets that my husband purchased for shop use...You all cannot imagine the relief I am feeling now that that the debacle is behind me...hopefully, anyway...
What I found myself dealing with towards the end of the venture is a person who was totally unappreciative and impossible to please...without finger pointing and name calling, I just informed her I wanted out. There were a few loud moments on the phone, and lots of mixed emotions on my part for a while...but this is for the best...even though that particular dream didn't succeed, at least a few good things came out of it...months back when my partner and I had the idea to do this, I had no idea that my husband would want to be involved in any of it...we have now learned that he is highly interested in doing the same sort of thing and so he and I will be now looking for closer rental properties in order for he and I to open up something that will hopefully not turned in to what the other attempt turned in to. With his involvement we can offer larger furnishings and things that will hopefully sell. Our little community has one thriving thrift store but they don't sell furnishings and I believe a second hand furniture place will do well here. Anyway...I still have a few legal things to tend to in order to be completely out of this and will attempt to address them this week.
I have pretty much let my house go to pot while being involved in the shop set up, so I have a lot of highly disorganized places to address...I am hoping to start on plant room later today. In there is a lot of store items and a little bit of all kinds of other things too. I know I will feel much better after the room is straightened and organized again...my master closet which is supposedly a walk in is filled to the front and up as high as I am tall...that too needs my attention and will get it as I work myself to it.
My twenty three year old live at home son is currently looking for a place to move out on his own...that will open up a bit of space for me, as he has the ultra small bedroom which I will most likely turn in to guest room and also use for displaying my elephant collection and of course some house plants...Holly, your guest room is looking super cool...thanks for the pics gal.
To all...happy de-cluttering and happy just living life...it is all good...until we meet again, ya'll have a good one.
Hi Rosie - even with all the upset, distress and other emotions I felt last week, I am able to look at the last couple of months and see that several good things have come from it. When my friend and I decided to go in to this venture together, I had no earthly idea that my husband would find himself wanting to be involved at all. I guess having us go ahead and take the risk enabled him to see that it is something that he too is interested in trying at some point. He enjoyed the auctions where he got some really good prices on things...needing space to store the cabinets and other items he bought motivated him to straighten the four bay garage he owns and which stays in a disorganized mess usually...So, both of these things are good things. He and I will actually be looking for space closer to home to do our own store at some point. With two women running the other shop there was no way we could have dealt with larger pieces such as furnishings and they are things that people are always looking for. There should be a good market for second hand furniture items here closer to our home because the town has a thriving thrift store, but they do not deal with furnishings either...so we will have an open market if someone doesn't beat us to it.
Believe me that emotions were running very high last week and I didn't stop to think about selling anything to her or not. I wanted to be out as quickly and as simply as possible...when speaking with her I told her that ideally I would like to be friends, but that I could no longer work with her...towards the end of me being there I finally realized that I was dealing with a person who was totally unappreciative and impossible to please...I don't have the time and energy to continue to deal with that sort of stress. For me, the whole deal was supposed to be something that I was enjoying doing, and the more time that passed, the less enjoyment I had.
We will not be rushing in to anything as we are waiting upon an inheritance check for my husband and we have no idea when it will arrive. For now, he has the cabinetry in his garage and it fits, so all is good. I can now devote some of my time and energy to straightening out the house. I can continue at an easy pace to go through things and decide what I will be selling in the next store.
I got word an hour or so ago that my adult son who has been living here is moving out on Saturday...that will give me another small space to put more of my things in. It has been crowded with him living here. My daily work load with decrease tremendously with him living elsewhere too, so I am very excited by it.
Anyway...as always...stay tuned...you never know what I will find myself involved in from day to day. Right now I am hoping that Toni and I can continue to deal with one another without too much emotion involved...I have offered to pay half rent for the rest of the year, and feel that is only fair...she thinks she will be okay with the utilities and other things on her own...I did what I felt was best for my mental health and have tried to be as fair to her as I can be. I am saddened it didn't work, but relieved it was now rather than later...
Just heard a bit of news from hubby regarding opening up somewhere...he too is feeling the stress of getting in and out of the past deal so quickly and wants to wait until school starts and our grand daughter goes back to school before we do anything much in terms of even looking for spaces...I agree, I am feeling really, really tired at times and can't continue to push my mind and body the way I did for the past couple of months. For now I will focus on watching the grandchildren three afternoons a week and getting the inside of my house straighter and now rearranged... with son moving out on Saturday...I spent a bit of time going through food cabinets today and fixing up a goodie box for him to take with him...many of the things were things he has bought and never eaten. Maybe he will eat them at the new place. I also tend to buy in bulk, so have lots of other things to help him set up a kitchen.
I am going to write and encourage Debbie to try and start participating here...seems quiet without her, and I now feel as though I am the only one talking...along with missingrosie...
This is basically one of the first chances I have had to try and catch up with the threads I like so much at Daves, so hope for some chat soon. See you folks in the funny papers...whatever that old saying means.
Oh yeah, twas me...this late blooming young man really put me through the wringer for some years...he has matured some and it is time for him to be on his own...he did move out back during those times and was gone for a year or more, but slowly worked his way back in...at least this time there were stricter rules and he has pretty much behaved himself and isn't distressing me the way he was there for a while...he has been holding down a job steadily for a few years now and just finished paying off a car loan, so the next step is to begin making a life for himself out of my cozy home. I am sure that there will be a lot less work for me after he leaves in terms of doing his laundry and cleaning the kitchen after he destroys it most nights. Now he won't have me doing those things and he will be doing them on his own...if he runs out of clean clothes, it is all his fault and if he runs out of clean dishes, he is on his own there too.
I am looking forward to having the extra room to be able to put some of the furnishings that are now quite crowded looking. I will now be able to use his room for some of the houseplants too so they won't be so crowded either.
I hope that he can succeed with this and grow up a bit while at it. All in all, we are in a much better place that we were some years back and for that I am very grateful.
Summerkid, when I first arrived at Daves I was a mess and I will be the very first to admit it...the year I turned fifty which is now seven years ago, and almost eight, I was diagnosed with two major diseases and that is on top of another autoimmune system disease I have been dealing with for about twenty years at that time...having breast cancer and a diagnosis of muscular dystrophy and a wild teenager did not for a lovely being make...It took some years to get over all that occurred that one year and I can truthfully say that I am so glad those years are behind me now...PHEW!!!
I have learned to live with the body that three ravenous diseases has left me with, and do okay for the most part. One of the amazing things about going through so much in such a short time, it allowed me to see what is truly important in life and what isn't exactly earth shattering. I had kind of made up my mind about ten years before age fifty that I wanted the second half of my life to be different from the first half...when young and healthy I took so much granted and never stopped to think about all that I was blessed with and wasn't the worlds most grateful person...again, after going through all I did, I am now of the mind set that I need to daily practice an attitude of gratitude for the many blessings I enjoy. Sure, things could be a whole lot better but I can claim to be happier than ever before and more mentally stable than ever before.
Having survived all that I have for so long, I don't suffer fools for very long...folks, even family who get in my way of peace and serenity need to move on over...I don't have the time during this second half of life. It may sound cold and hard, but I have learned so much about myself by being ill, and realizing the things that will make me ill, that I have to live my life differently than the norm...I must above all else keep an eye on my stress level or I will certainly find myself all alone in my bed too sick to function much at all.
Little boy signed the rental agreement today...I have been packing up kitchen items and bathroom items he will need when he leaves...I am excited for him as it has been difficult to watch him flounder all over the place. I would pray for a good girl to come along and maybe try to influence him to do better, but he probably isn't at a maturity level where a girl would be good for him. He is learning though, slowly for surely...he has heard some of what I have preached over the years, though he would never admit it to me. On occasion I will check his facebook page and have been quite surprised at times with some of his realizations...yes, he did hear me.
I adore the young man but it is time he no longer relies on me so heavily...it is also time for me to have less work and stress in my life...things are working as planned and I wish him the best of luck and success.
Isn't it gratifying when our kids do or say something that shows that what we taught - actually stuck? It (almost) makes up for those years when you wondered if they weren't switched at birth and where you went wrong. I have heard that the cuckoo bird lays its eggs in another's nest to be raised...and there were some years I thought I had been visited by one hellava crazy drug crazed sociopathic and vindictive cuckoo. Now, I got two really nice responsible kids who are raising lovely children. They pay their bills and are God-fearing tax paying parent- respecting adults. But there were times...eeech!
I know exactly what you are saying...I too wondered how the heck could I have raised such idiots at times...My older son who now tries to advise me on how to handle his younger brother forgets that he was exactly like his brother when he was the same age...he forgot quickly. In my older son's case it took falling in love in order for him to turn his life and ways around...he had to put some of his practices away in order to be a husband and father...I am very glad to report that he too is on a good track and has given me two grandchildren to adore with all my being.
I will never give up hope that something will eventually get my younger son on a more responsible and mature path. I suppose I am wishing he were more advanced than he is, and I just need to continue to love him where he is at...which I do most times.
Anyway, hope those reading are having a good Saturday...been a really unproductive one here so far...have a list of to do's but I like drinking coffee and chatting more than chores...again, have a good one all.
LOL, Yes I too have had my share of teenage issues but have been lucky to have 4 nice well developed children and they are raising very nice children as well.
We had 2 of the Grands here yesterday to swim in the pool, we had a great time. Today my productiveness extended to moving a dozen pots mostly orchids into the GH.
I peeled (that 's yankee for shucked) a lot of farmers market corn.
And put up potatoes $2.00 a pound!! What happened to farmer's market produce being a bargain because no middleman? Those potatoes weigh a lot and are mostly water, no? Bought loaves bread and cut up and froze for toast. Otherwise gets hard before we can finish. Planted a magnolia too close and had to cut down today - sorry sorry about that. It said DWARF! I changed the sheets. I sprayed some invasives that won't die. I straightened the pot drawer and the tupperware drawer. That's it!
good job, everyone, no matter what you did or didn't do. The important thing is that you were able to do it, whether it was taking some me time or doing for others. I have a cousin who is In a nursing home and can no longer do what she wants, she has to depend on others to do it for her and when they get to it. Whenever I feel that my life is too hectic, I think of her and realize that my quality of life is much better than hers, poor soul.
I fixed a big breakfast, helped hang some cedar trim, cut back the beautyberry that has gone wild and was surrounding a small black dragon that was starting to look decidedly unhappy. Trimmed up paper birch canopy that is wildly huge. Then the granddaughters arrived to spend a few hours. Did get two loads wash in and folded. A sad thing happened yesterday that I only discovered today... We took a magnolia down. Hubby cut it up and hauled away. Today on the flagstone lay a very squashed lizard. Felled along with the tree. That wee fella has been running across the walkway from the magnolia to a under a yew over that same route ( lives along the pond rocks) for at least two years. ;9 (
So often no matter the time of day, I'd be walking down that flagstone path, and as soon as I pulled even with the yew - out he'd zip and cross my path. I wonder if as that great tree fell, its shadow darkened that path and out he zipped.
Summer - your kitty is doing what's natural. But a tree coming down is one hellava surprise.
I am going to try to be back on here, now that I have some finger movement in the right hand and typing doesn't take forever. I missed y'all and all of our funny back and forth moments, but I have come often and read up to know what you're up to.
I want to say you guys are all so amazing!!! Everyone has accomplished so much - it's incredible! To the one who sent me a Dmail to cheer me up, thank you. It meant a lot to know I was missed and I enjoyed our conversation. I hope I was able to help you too.
Cajun - I don't know where to start with you girlfriend! You have had to oversee hubby's health (which I am glad was okay and he'll be home more often) yet still be your very own "Texas Tornado" around there. Your posts wear me out just reading them. You found so many excellent ideas on Pinterest that I am now one of your followers. You should be proud of all your accomplishments - you have even ventured into a "black hole bedroom"! Look out house, Carole is on a roll!
Holly - I absolutely LOVE that bedroom! Though I was accepted but never able to go financially, I always wanted to go to college, major in Marine Biology and specialize with dolphins. So that has a special meaning to me, but your trim work and choice of colors are so calming and inviting. I would imagine anyone would have a peaceful night's sleep in there. Your mosaic concrete pipes and BB is awesome too. You and Ric sure have a nice place and it looks like you make the work - fun.
Rosie - girl you are something special. Your poem "The Journey" came at a time that was uplifting to me just to read it. Thank you for sharing. All that work around there and taking in the grandkids to give the mom a break - awesome! So sorry to hear about your lizard buddy. It is bad enough to see "someone" that brings a smile dead, but when we think it could be by our own hands it is heart breaking no matter how small the critter because as we are taught - "all things are connected". It is true. I love your house and decor as much as your "stream". Such a peaceful place. I hope your new shower rod fixed your problem.
Ruby - you have been a great encouragement to me, both here, through email and phone. You have checked on me waayyy more than my own family. I am so glad we met. We have a lot in common and seem like we have known each other forever. I suspect we will be friends for as many years as the Lord allows. You are a very special, caring woman that I am glad I can call my friend.
Dragonfly - Welcome to the group. I think your new addition sounds lovely. Did you get any pictures of it yet? Please share.
I missed some names, but you all are amazing. Thanks to all of you for the good thoughts sent and prayers said on my behalf. It is greatly appreciated.
As for me - I am busy too. Not at what I wanted or planned to be doing this summer but off to doctors, surgeons and physical therapy 3 times a week. That is enough to wear me out because it is quite painful and made more so since the orginal fall with not one but two more falls.
I have not been told to do so by admin or anything, but this thread is quite long and I think we need a part 2, so I am going to start one where we can continue. I hope you all will follow along and we can still share out triumphs, failures and laughs.
I know I posted some and Ruby posted a couple updates but here is "how I spent my summer so far" I am just going to copy and paste from an email I sent to my cousin the other day. (which I cheated and copied and pasted some to her from elsewhere LOL) Since someone asked, this is the whole story and up to date. If you're not interested, no problem that is why it is the last thing here and you can skip it ------
On 6/11, I was out pulling some mighty big morning glory vines from my big cedar tree. I thought it was going well until the vine really started fighting back. Rocky Balboa I'm not. The vine broke, then so did I. When the vine broke, the tension worked like a rubber band, I guess. I heard and felt my right knee pop, which threw me to the ground. Bad enough, right? Nope. Dummy me tried to catch myself with my right, and dominate, hand. I heard and felt it snap and from the Frankenstein twist in it, it was clear both arm bones were broken. With both wrist and knee injured, I couldn't even get up. So I just kept screaming for help until Dave heard me. He had just got comfortable on the couch, recuperating from his back surgery a few months ago. A few more minutes and he would have been asleep!
Anyway, a trip to the ER showed I broke the end off the ulna (smaller forearm bone), but shattered the larger one, (the radius). I saw the orthopedic surgeon in 2 days, but the soonest he could get me in for surgery was a week later on 6/19. I can honestly say, it hurt worse than when I broke it. The surgeon told Dave this was a very painful operation. He was right. It was worse than either of my knee surgeries or even a complete abdominal hysterectomy. For several days, the pain was so bad I was nauseated constantly and strong pain pills never told it anything. Swelling is subsiding but it is still present and restricts some movement. I was pecking the keyboard with one finger on my left hand but am now using the right hand as finger movement returns. My fingers don't always hit the keys intended and I try to catch them as I go but if there are errors - just ignore them
I started physical therapy on 6/25 and it is helping. Though far from normal, there is more movement in the fingers and wrist, plus they say the rest will come on in time. That is a relief, because that would be terrible to lose use of that hand forever. They removed the cast right away and made a custom molded one to fit that I can remove. I only wear that now if I go outside or anywhere. Removing it allows exercises I need to do 3-4 times a day, to increase range of motion and of course they want me to use it. I have P.T. 3 x a week. The constant moving of the joints will also keep scar tissue from growing, which can limit mobility too. Now if it had broken where there are no joints, they could have splinted it with a cast until the bone grows together and done. I was not that fortunate. I got the painful kind….lucky me.
I went back to the surgeon on 6/27 to have the stitches removed. They took x-rays and I saw my contraption. I have a pretty good sized metal plate with 3 screws in the part to the arm bone still in one piece. Then there are 9 rods on the other end at the wrist, that act like rebar in concrete. He drilled the shattered bone pieces and put the rods into them, then the rods were screwed into the plate. A real squid looking piece of metal but it was shattered bad. Hey as long as it works. I have to be able to make a fist as well as rotate the wrist again. Guess that’s what we’ll do in PT and my home exercises. Nice summer, huh?
Then on 7/8 on my way home from PT, it was raining and so my shoes were wet when I stepped onto the tile floor where I’d stopped to pick up Chinese for supper. My right foot slipped a little but it was enough for my bad knee to give out again. The knee pain was extremely excruciating this time in its own right. Even though I had a tight ace brace on it, it wasn’t enough and so when it popped, it through me down again. I pulled my arms in and tried to protect my right with my left but my shattered wrist hit the floor too… somehow. I don’t recall hitting the floor at all or how. I came to screaming and there were about 6 people around me touching me saying ‘are you okay?” (which, in retrospect was a silly question…I wouldn’t be laying in their floor screaming if I was okay. LOL But hey there was concern from everyone, staff and customers) So, apparently I passed out from the pain in the knee and that may have been why they were all “are you okay?” trying to get me to come to. When I got fully conscious, I didn’t know which hurt worse the knee or the wrist. I was wearing the fitted plastic brace on the wrist, but the pain there was excruciating, too. I sat in their floor for 30 minutes or so crying before I even attempted to stand. My knee is much worse, very weak and not trustworthy. The folks offered to call 911, or family but who could do anything for me? Besides, I had another appointment with my surgeon the next day and he’d be x-raying it, so what could ER do for me that I couldn’t? I thanked them but told them no, just give me some time and then help me out. I paid for supper, then the one guy gave me an arm to hold as I limped to the truck. He went back and got my food and brought it to me and I drove slowly home, thankfully just 1 mile away. I managed to get the knee brace changed to my heavy duty one with thick material staves in the side my step-son used last year when he torn a knee ligament. I took a Percocet and got ice on my wrist. The pain subsided some what and I did get a couple hours sleep.
I went to the surgeon the next day, on 7/9. The x-rays showed everything is still in alignment in the wrist and healing well. Praise the Lord! The pain was less and after I iced it down that morning, I was able to move it as well as I could before, or almost. He was pleased at the progress of finger movement, but wanted me to increase work on the wrist, pushing it to stretch the ligaments and tendons there. That’s great except the second arm bone they never did anything with is still broken off, separated and swollen. I am just happy I didn’t go back to square one from the fall.
The knee is much worse than when it caused me to fall last month. It really hurts this time. I also can add my left hip, back and neck into the mix from I guess hitting the floor. I don’t think any of that is any worse than it already was (I have herinated discs in neck and back), just bruised and sore.The surgeon extended my PT another 4 weeks.
Well, …..another week, another fall….yup, I did. I was leaving PT on 7/19 and even though it was hot and miserable outside I felt like the wrist is making progress, the knee wasn’t hurting too bad and WAS feeling hopeful and positive. Even the therapist said he felt it was loosening up some and said it was good. Whoopee! Then I stepped off the sidewalk to the parking lot, the knee went sideways and I went down….again. Thankfully, this time it was not as violent a fall, probaly because of the stronger brace. I just crumpled so that my butt took the most, which aggravated my back, again. I managed to somehow hit my right elbow on something and I have a small lump still on the arm bone about 2 inches from the elbow. The elbow moves fine so I’m not going to worry about it. If it is broken, it is just a chip and there is nothing that they would do anyway but just let it heal on it’s own. I am not sure if I hit the wrist on the ground, me, or it was just affected by the elbow jar but it too is sore and swelled up more. However, I had heat on it and then worked with the hand and wrist off and on all night and it is fine.
I was unable to get my metal hinged knee brace on before because it takes two hands to do so. It has a metal rod that runs along the outside of the knee, then two neoprene wide straps that you pull tight and velcro closed. Neoprene does not stretch easily. I should have worn it from day one but I couldn't get it on. I didn't want to ask Dave to try to do it because he would have to bend over and pull hard too. I don't want his surgery going back a step. So right wrist, arm and hand pain or not, I have no choice. It takes me a while to get it on in bed each morning before I will even attempt to stand up. Hopefully it'll get easier to do as the wrist heals.
The conservative approach to ligament and tendon damage is RICE - rest, ice, compression and elevation. This is what I will follow. Now that I am able to wear this brace it should be stable. I will hope this works and any prayers you might offer would be most appreciated. If it doesn’t seem to be improving, I guess I will need to see someone about it. I hope not. Both knees have been operated on before and that sucks. I’m sure no bones are broken. It’s ligaments and tendons, so we’ll see. If it needs more it will have to wait anyway. If they do surgery again they will want me up and walking ASAP. That's not going to be easy to manage crutches with a shattered wrist.
Loves, So very glad to hear from you. My what a chain of unfortunate events. Sounds like maybe a walker would be of some use but with your arm broke you couldn't use that either. PT can really wear you out as well. I remember when I was going how tired I was on those days. I would come home and sleep for hours after. I hope there will be no more falls for you and everything heals well. Will see you on the new thread.