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Here, too, but we're supposed to get a foot or more. :-( It's too bad, because I was able to see all my garden beds again.
My kids keep asking when it's supposed to start - timing is *everything* when it comes to school cancellations.
Songs , hey we are! You guys always seem to cancel school more often than our town. My kids always grumble about that - "but Merrimack canceled!" Frankly, I hope they do cancel school. I'll never forget the storm about 6 years ago when the snow came down so fast during the day that the buses couldn't get through. My neighbors and I snow blew (is that the right way to say that?) a path to the corner so that cars could get in. Some of the kids had to stay at school until late at night. No thanks!
They're saying 1-16 inches here. It must be nice to be a weather forcaster. The only job in the world where you can be wrong more often than you're right and still be considered at the top of your field.
Victorygardener--I was giving a range based on what the different channels were saying. I always end up going by the NWS bulletins since they aren't in it for the ratings which call for 4-6 inches by Saturday morning.
Here too...expecting 6-12" with gusty winds tonight into tomorrow morning. Tomorrow, sleet freezing rain turning to straight rain coming down heavy at times w/gusty winds. The cannoe and life jackets are ready should we need them.
I hear ya Gram!! Me too...I have so many plants to put in the ground that I really should of started digging a few new beds weeks ago. But it will be at least a month before all this snow goes away, unless we get some heavy rains. I have gotten carried away w/plant orders this winter...have 32 daylilies coming not to mention rose's and other perennials. Oh, and lets not forget the seeds that are sprouting. What was I thinking???!!!!!
Thanks, all! His two favorite gifts? Sunglasses (3 pair) and the balloon I remembered to buy!
I'm in a hold pattern for panic right now. Way too many seeds, lots of dahlias, Floribundas (5) planted but then received the two rose trees yesterday (now soaking with moss and plastic bag on top, per directions), then went over my delphinium order (hard to admit to) and see 48 plants there - another "what was I thinking" episode. The caladiums and clematis arrive next month but "just to be sure" I bought more caladiums, acidanthera and freesia.
pirl, love the pic with the balloon. too cute. kinda like walkin' into the sunset after the party ;0) hard to believe Charlie's a year old already. (btw, very pretty room...the floors are gorgeous!)
pixie, I know I'll be needing more daylilies by next year. probably should be dividing some of my clumps from my original landscaping, but you know I'm going to want new ones LOL got an Oakes catalog today and DH asked me a couple of times...'did you look at this one?'...I think he likes them.
Most, not all. Many times I could (and did) make one label for a hybridized grouping. So I have one area of 20 of the exact same cross all together - no need for an additional 9 labels.
As for the deer they stop at the property next door and then return to their haunts. Somebody up there must enjoy our daylilies and the deer aren't a problem. Even at our neighbor's house they only eat rosebuds and not the hosta.
Pirl, I got it right!!!(only because I have one too) How bout the pinkish DL in the background ...what is that one? Thats the one I wondered if it was Piccadilly Princess, as I have PP coming this spring.
LOL Victor!! PP coming...at first i thought you were getting Piccadilly...then you said now! I'm a bit slow this evening, took me a second to get it.
What did those boys do so bad that your gonna trade em????????
Pirl, thanks for the name, I'll have to go look that one up!
Victor - if/when they get you crazy with their antics/running/yelping, etc. stop and say a prayer of thanks that they're healthy, happy, growing boys. We, who are parents of healthy kids, are so fortunate.
I'm in total agreement Pirl. My son is hanndicapped and has a seizure disorder, but he is very healthy considering he has seizures every day of his life. I have seen others like him who aren't as lucky.
Yes! It's the daycare. At Christmas time I said "Oh, that decoration fell down again!" My five year old, Paul, replied, "Of f---!" We had a talk. It's difficult when part of you wants to remain calm to downplay it, part is in shock and part wants to crack up. The best part of that incident was when I asked what he said, he knew it was not a nice word and proceeded to strategically change it. He said "Fug?". I said "No that wasn't it". Then he said "Frog?" Pretty funny in retrospect.
It is very strange what some girl's are using their new more "liberated" freedom to do. It's like the taboos about sex are gone but they are still trying to please boys. The combination is scarey.
Don't get me wrong. I coinsider myself a feminist. But what's going on has nothing to do with empowerment.
Dave is right.
Many young women confuse sexual allure with REAL power. The popular media, desperate for an audience, increasingly turns to more graphic depictions of violence. Meanwhile, the internet has made pornography mainstream. And female empowerment has been twisted into being a sexual object! See MTV's Spring Break shows.
At the same time, current diet trends have led to many girls entering puberty prematurely - so sexuality is awakened - with even less social maturity.
Increasingly, 'hooking up' is the objective (basically a 'one-night-stand') for both boys and girls - but the emphasis on sexual responsibility is missing. Meanwhile, Brittany Spears - the role model for a generation of teeny-boppers - has done a major meltdown before the age of 25.
Call me a cynic - but I think that virtue is hard to put a price on - literally. There is no profit margin in it. But you can always make money on vice. And in a culture that demands ever increasing economic growth - eventually vice is what gets sold to the public. No wonder little kids are picking up on adult themes - they are everywhere. Just watch the ads on tv.
For the record, I am a humanist feminist - that is, I see both men and women are exploited. For an interesting read on how modern definitions of masculinity lead to the exploitation of men read "Masculinities" by Robert Connell.
All this is true but the influence of peers is even stronger than the direct influence of media, the internet and celebrities. Maybe it's a result of trickle down, but the girls are hearing from their friends that they will not be cool or popular if they don't do such and such to the boys. When I first heard about 'rainbow parties' a few years ago I was shocked. Children are sexualized in so many ways. And the seeming explosion of pedophilia is related as well. It's so easy now for these low-lifes to share photos and videos via the net. But parents are a major problem too! They are permitting their daughters to dress like sluts at earlier and earlier ages. Why? Because their friends are doing it. Parents these days have completely surrendered their authority / responsibility when their kids reach middle school! Believe me, if I had a daughter, she would not be dressing like that, period. Similarly, both my wife and I will have the same approach with our sons. They need to know how to treat girls, despite what their friends might be telling them. Way too many parents just throw up their hands. Then when something happens you see them crying and blaming everyone but themselves.
I'm with both of you. I do this stuff for a living (counsel kids & families) and to many parents:
1 Are afraid of their kids being mad at them
2 Don't want to let their kids suffer any sadness, or
3 Don't want to have their children slow down their own social lives.
There are many responsible parents but they all tend to feel like they are swimming against the tide. I have been very lucky with my 14 year old. She always thought Brittany was gross but now wishes everyone would leave her alone because she is such a lost soul.
In a very middle class town were I work, 8th grade boys gave a party last year. Price of admission for girls was oral . This year as 9th graders, those girls went to the HS dance with short skirts sans panties alla Paris & Britt.
I do always remind myself that there are also lots of positives out there to keep from going crazy. Especially,that boys that are more open and sensitive than any boys were willing to admit when I was young. More volunteerism too. (Can you tell I'm a Libra?)
One night, when my eldest was 13, she and a friend were sleeping in a tent in the back yard. In the middle of the night, I got up and heard voices - two of which were boys. Nothing was going on. But when I phoned the parents to come get the boys, it was like I had committed a criminal offence. According to the parents, it was okay for the boys to be walking the streets at 3 am. Now - this was in a very safe, rural suburb, but there is a major highway on the edge of the community. Some perv could have snatched one or both of the boys and had been several hundred miles away before the parents even knew they were gone!
We never let our kids go to the store at the gas station at the corner of the highway for that reason. Overly protective? probably . . . But both our daughters have made it to adulthood, so we did something correct.
I've never been able to grasp the "I want to be friends with my child" concept.
What teenager ever says, "Hey Dad, let's hang out at the mall?"
Kids can select their friends and that's where the peer pressure comes into play. Friends and their parents should be viewed as extended family and if you don't approve (as a parent) then the trouble begins. I've been so fortunate with my own adult kids selecting friends at 6 and 10 years old that still remain friends. Here's my daughter at the baby shower, January of '06, with her kindergarten friends (who were in her wedding party) - Kim and Allison (at right). Kim led such a wild and uncontrolled life that she was the perfect example of what NOT to become for my Kathy (on the left) and Allison.
Just caught up with this thread - you're all singing my song! I have two girls in the thick of things - 16 and 12. I'm always the "bad guy" vs. other Moms when it comes to setting limits. No, you can't go to the mall with your friends unattended when you're 12; No, you can't go to that party if the parents aren't home; No, you can't watch an R-rated movie at your 12-yr. old friend's house. What the heck are these parents thinking, that their kids are adults? My oldest daughter has seen the light and now tells my younger daughter that limit-setting is good. She sees her former friends from middle-school that had no limits now drinking, taking drugs, getting lousy grades, getting pregnant.
I firmly believe that extracurriculars really help keep kids out of trouble. Both of my girls are heavily involved in music - the oldest is in marching band at school. I also think that parents need to be around MORE as kids get older rather than less. I've reworked my schedule to be home when they're home, thus no unmonitored computer time, etc. It's a shame that more parents don't have that flexibility. My house every day becomes "homework central" for the lonely kids in the neighborhood that need company. Seriously, I live in a neighborhood where parents leave the house before their elementary school children go the bus stop! Guess who picks up the pieces if the bus doesn't arrive? I had one girl last year (middle school) who showed up at my door crying because she missed the bus and didn't want her Mom to find out because she'd get in trouble. My heart just cries for these kids.
Very good, pixie. But let's not be so stuck with old-fashioned stereotypes here! I'm a mean DAD! My wife is a mean Mom too, but I am the stay at home right now. Our boys are only 5 and 8 but they can expect mean parents awaiting their teenage years.
Sorry Dave & Victor...didn't mean to exclude you!! DD sent that to me as I was a single Mom for several years after my divorce. She was just letting me know I did a good job and she NOW appreciates it. So all of you...Mom's AND Dad's out there with teenagers (or about to be) have hope, they only hate you for a short time! LOL
oh i dont mind. as a young person [surprisingly] i can agree with everything being said. i always am telling my bf "i remember not being allowed to wear a skirt higher than a hand above my knee" and i def had the meanest dad [in bed lights out 10 pm/12 wkends] no sleepover at boys house, no parties [well, until i was 17] and most of all, he got this guy who really was effed in the head to move to a different state. i was so mad for a long long time "you will thank me for this someday" was all he had to say on the matter, and he was right. i plan on being a mean mom. [snort] :p
The thing that really worries me is that we have 2 young girls (not old enough yet to get into that kind of trouble) which we constanly worry about their future. So much has even changed since we were in school and I am not that old - 32. Dh and I believe we are fairly good parents. We both work full time however we believe in talking to our kids and talking a lot. We spend every moment we can trying to teach, play and talk to our kids. We want to instill good morals and values and teach them love, and compassion. However I know once they begin school it is going to be a whole new world out there full of other kids teaching them the wrong things. I just hope that by keeping our doors of communication open and setting boundries that they will choose the right path. It isn't so much "our" parenting skills that worry me it is how my children will react when they get out in that new world.
Part of me would love to keep them chained up in this house until they are 20 but that is unrealistic.
Oh pirl...I remember the first time I played spin the bottle! The guy it landed on was sitting next to me and as he leaned in for a kiss he grabbed my breast and instinct(from having 6 brothers) took over and I punched him in the mouth. He got a fat lip, not a kiss!! No one wanted to play spin the bottle w/me after that...I wonder why??
Dawn, we have always felt the same way. We were concerned about life 'outside our bubble'. It was all the other parents that worried us! However, so far, and our elder is only 8, we see the impact we have had on him. There are times when it seems no matter how many times you repeat something, it just doesn't get through and that causes you to worry. Then comes one of those great moments when someone tells you what your son was telling the other kids and it was exactly what you thought he wasn't hearing from you! Or he'll be pretending to be a parent and be teaching his younger brother. Again, he'll be sounding just like us! You make a huge difference in their lives. Important thing is - it can't stop at 10 or 14 or 16.
Well all I can say is that I hope whatever we teach them stays with them. Those 2 girls are our world and we only want what is best for them and to grow up to be beautiful, intelligent women who can support us when we grow old LOL
Oh yes Victor - I am going to give them each a plant to take care of...I don't really have room to give them a garden of their own but they do love checking my seedlings daily and pointing out when they need watering. They are so cute to watch.
lol... you guys are too much!!!!! speaking of Lorena Bobbit... I went to Nursing school with her sister in law... yeap! it was pretty funny when my clinical instructor just jokingly asked my friend if she was related to Lorena... she turned bright red and said :yeah, she used to be married to my brother in law... we didn't know what to do, and of course, I didn't remember the names because I didn't speak much english when that happened... so everyone was laughing at me, when I turned bright red when my friend just said, oh Lorena cut his you know what!!!!! and of course I was not getting it and asked what "what" was...
not so bright some days!!!!
Dawn & Victor,
I actually have some expertise here. A good relationship that is loving, promotes individual responsiblity and includes fun goes a long, long way. It will not make our kids bulletproof to all the problems out there but it will greatly enhance your child's ability to deal with it.
Second most important, if a problem arises (and it can with the best of parents) deal with it. Parents that make excuses or have no time for their kids are likely to let problems grow too big before acting. Your positive relationships will help you to notice if things go awry with your kids and you both seem willing to be the adults and take action. So you're both looking good!
Children are so precious and they are only young for so little. Dh and I try to savour all our time with them now because we know before long they will be teens...those are another headache all together but for now we cherish our family time...as they grow older we will deal with those problems head on.
Hi to everyone at Northeast Gardening. Thanks to Pirl for the invitation. I'm still finding my way around the DG web site and it's nice to be welcomed by one of the forums . Right now in Glens Falls, NY it is snowing on our spring!! But that's a normal spring for Upstate NY - crocus blooming one day and the robins have to run for cover the next day because the temperature has dropped and it is snowing. It gives us somthing to talk (complain) about. I can't wait to get the 2007 gardening season started, but for now I'll just have to watch the snow fall.
Hi there grammyphoeb. Welcome to DG and the Northeast forum!!It's snowing here in Maine too, just Sunday I was admiring how much my tulips had come up. Now im muttering at how much snow is covering them!! We have gotten at least a foot of snow so far and its still snowing. Ho Hum...guess there is nothing to do but join you in watching it come down, so know you are not alone!
Hi grammyphoeb - so glad you came over to join us. We didn't get any snow down here but lots of rain. The sun, that was out an hour ago, is hiding behind the clouds now and it's far too wet to do anything outside.
Do you have any favorite flowers - roses, daylilies, bulbs, etc.?
I guess I can't complain - we only got a few inches of snow and it is starting to melt. As for favorite flowers, I like whatever I can get to grow in my less than perfect soil and what I can keep away from the woodchucks (I did pay to have the family of 4 and their mother escorted out of here last summer). I have several small beds in the backyard that I am working on to improve the soil. My containers that are full of annuals that I grow on the deck and around the house are the most colorful but with a family of 5 woodchucks they can run out green stuff and start on those too!
Right now I have some crocus that are in bloom or were until it snowed last night.
Hi Victor, thanks for the welcome. I'm looking forward to having lots of fun!! I already check the site several times a day to see what everyone is doing. Probably won't do that so much when I can get outside and play in the dirt, but promise to at least once a day. I also love photography and will probably take lots of photos of my flowers. I am strictly an amateur but enjoy playing with a digital camera and a computer.
Pirl, I came up with a favorite flower. I think we're growing this one pretty good. Although I'm not sure he'd like to be called a flower. His first birthday is next week and what did grammy get him - a sand box and gardening tools of course. I hope by the time it gets warmer I can keep sand out of his mouth. I take care of him while his parents work and he is my pride and joy!!
We certainly do have some cuties but I can't get mine to do anything I want him to. I just want him to point to his nose and wave good bye and walk. He's stubborn. He does something once and then won't do it again. As for walking - he's furniture walking but refuses to walk if anyone is holding his hands. So I am just going to work on keeping the sand out of his mouth after he gets his sand box. (I have a feeling one taste of it and that might do the trick) How do you get sand out of one year old child's mouth when they won't do anything you tell them to like drink and spit? I'll let you know how that one turns out.