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LeeAnne, your message is particularly relevant to me as my mother has recently been diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor as well as end-stage renal cancer. The prognosis for her is 3-6 months and, due to her age (88) the treatment would be too grueling for her. We have enlisted the help of hospice to care for her in our home and, so far, it is going well. The year 2008 has not been a good one for us, we lost my beloved brother in October.
We will recognize Christmas and I've put up a few decorations, will have the children and grands down...it just won't be the same. But, as even my mother says "life goes on, death is just a part of it" and "just be grateful for each day as it comes".
I too lost a loved one(my step-daughter) in April, 97 but Christmas some how lost the gusto and glimmer that had always been there until then. We are raising her 2 children so as your mother said, Bugme, Life indeed goes on and where there isn't the same gusto there are still many very cherished memories!!!!!
Very good article. I am not always happy during the holidays for various reasons. Nor am I always happy any other time! I think during the holidays there is a lot of pressure to be HAPPY and if you aren't you can feel worse by making yourself try to fit in. Good for you to write about this! I appreciate it. I hope you find balance, beauty and peace in this season.
Our church has started a new service -
a "Blue Christmas" service held on Dec., 21,
the longest night of the year. It is special help
for folks who are sad for any reason. I bopped
into the choir room that morning and said, "Do
you suppose that anybody at all will show up?"
and 2 of the 5 people in the room said that they
are sad during Christmas.
Fitsy
Thank you for your writings. We have decorated, for the grands but, it will be so different this year without my dear, big sister. her birthday is the 24th so, things are even more difficult. Thank goodness she is no longer suffering. That helps put the JOY back into this time of year.
Thanks for this posting. I think it will help a lot of people in a difficult time. I know that I am so tired of telling people that I'm just not a socialite when I don't participate in holiday parties. It's no wonder people kill themselves this time of year; loss seems to increase exponentially the longer you live.
