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Hi Leann,
I too lost my father to brain cancer in June of 1987. I was caring for him and helping my mother through this difficult time, and one day I asked him if there was anything he needed. He replied a Christmas tree. I burst into tears and promptly called a florist to see if they could get me a tree, in the middle of June, and bless them they did. My mother passed away 3 weeks after my Dad from a heart attack. The strain was too much for her. I never thought I could live through the grief. My parents loved the Holidays and made such wonderful memories and traditions for us.
Then on December 22 of 2001 my nephew passed from Brain Cancer also at the age of 29. He suffered and fought for his life for 9 years with this disease. When he was hospitalized on the 18th, I brought him a Christmas tree, which was one of the last things he saw. His younger brother still has this tree and keeps it in his room year round. My brother like you celebrates with our large family, but doesn't always put up a tree , as he didn't this year. His pain is unbearable. I bring Christmas to him and my lost family family members by celebrating in a big way, it is my gift to them. I know they are here with us celebrating the joy and love that we have for them.
You are so right , most people cannot relate to the pain the holidays can bring to a family, but somehow we go on and live our lives to the fullest as that was their gift to us. The gift of life.
Blessings, Jill
I understand somewhat. Even though my father did not die on the holiday I will never have a Thanksgiving again without the memory of finding out he had cancer on Thanksgiving. It is in my mind every year even though he didn't pass until March 13th Thanksgiving has feelings of sorrow atached to it for me so you are not alone in your feelings and I do understand at least a little. I always try to think also though how very very glad I am that he was my father and how lucky I was to have had him.I still miss him even though it has been 14 years and think I will for the rest of my life.
