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By Lee Anne Stark (threegardeners)
February 21, 2008
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This is tale of three gardeners, each with their own style, learning to "grow" together.

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It all began in December of 1992. I moved way out here from my hometown of Oshawa, Ontario. Needed a change of pace, fresh air, and no more city living.

You see, even though we were raised in a city, my Dad raised us country. We had a "cabin" up North. No plumbing, no running water, and the nearest neighbour was 5 miles away. We spent every holiday up there and I spent a few extra weeks with my Grandparents, who lived nearby, every summer.

This was where I learned about the "great outdoors". This was where I learned that I hated the city.

ImageI moved from a small one-bedroom apartment into a 3 bedroom house that was built in 1845. I had a yard!! Ok, half a yard, since there was an apartment stuck on the back of the place. I had the front yard, they had the back yard. Money was tight that first winter, but I put everything my Dad had taught me to good use. By the time spring rolled around I had me a job, but I also ate off of the land. Cattails, fiddleheads, berries, everything edible.

One gardener.

I also started digging gardens. I learned about gardening from my Grandfather on my Moms side. I remember being allowed to stay home from school in the spring to help him plant his gardens. He had 3Image city lots right in the middle of the city and they were all garden. I even got to stay home to help him pull weeds. Having the use of only half of a yard I needed to get creative. I loved my flowers but I also needed some vegetables. This is when I first started mixing the two. I planted Tomatoes, Beans, Peas, etc. surreptitiously amongst the Perennials. The locals, on their daily walks, began noticing my "unusual" gardening style.

When Dad retired in 1994, he packed up Mom and my Brother and they all moved out here too. They bought a house 10 minutes outside of the village I'm in. Sadly, Dad passed away in 1999, and Mom and my Brother suddenly became my responsibility.They say that behind every dark cloud there is a silver lining. Mom and I became closer than ever and decided it would make sense for all of us to live together. Fortunately, my landlord agreed to sell me the house I'd been renting, with the yard and garden I'd already fallen in love with. The adventure had begun.

ImageI had Mom and my Brother close by. I also had the WHOLE yard!!!

Two gardeners.

Mom is an avid gardenerer as well and so the digging began. We started enlarging my existing beds. We dug new beds. All around the house, against every wall. The whole length of the yard between us and the garage next door. We built an area for compost. We filled all of this new space with divisions of my existing perennials combined with the truckloads we brought from Moms old house. We haunted garden centres and learned where all of the "reduced" tables were.

Three gardeners.

In 2003 I met DH. Discovered he liked gardening too. Now we had some real muscle!! The driveway was double wide, and long, you could park two 40 foot tractor trailers side by side in it. DH built us a raised garden the entire length of it, 6 feet deep near the garage, 14 feet deep by the road. In the middle of it he put the old woodstove, out of the old cabin, that I refused to haveImage hauled away for sentimental reasons. DH also built the pond under the Red Maple, and put a bench there for us to sit on.

We found we needed a few rules. It is disconcerting to plant something and wake up the next morning to find it gone. Mom or DH would abscond with it thinking it looked better in "their" gardens. I have learned since to purchase only those plants that have 3 divisions in the pot, either that or buy 3 of the same plant. It kind of happened that DH's garden is the raised one he built. Mom is in charge of the back yard, all of the beds alongside the house and around the garage. I get the front yard and the long side bed.

It must be quite the sight, the three of us roaming around the yard, DH carrying the shovel, Mom the Imagewatering can, and me the plant, all of us pointing in a different direction.

Mom is a garden putterer. She's up with the birds and out in the garden. She moves seedlings around, edges the beds, rearranges plants. Mom has an artistic eye. Mom built the little two foot high picket fence around the vegetable garden. Mom always has a pocket full of twist ties and little white plant markers. She is constantly roaming around, cutters in one hand, compost pail in the other, looking for a misbehaving branch or flower. She does most of the dead-heading. My Brother keeps her hydrated by bringing her a steady stream of cups of tea.

DH is a perfectionist. He is a Lily addict and has filled his raised bed to the brim with Lilies of all kinds. He's never quite satisfied with it though and is forever rearranging things. Constantly. Not a problem under normal circumstances. The problem arises when Mom has been surreptitiously sneaking little seedlings of this and that into his bed. Her artistic eye has decided there should be a little patch of Coral Bells among the Lilies, or a Calendula or two or three along the front edge. DH is 6' 3", with feet to match, and doesn't always notice Moms little surprises, or the littleImage white stakes marking them. Luckily DH has to go past Moms window to get the shovel, when Mom sees the shovel go by she grabs her hat and follows.

I am a haphazard gardener. I don't plan ahead. I plant something where I want it to be with no regard to what's around it, except for height. I like the wild look. I prefer my garden plants to be growing amongst themselves, mixing with carefree abandon. This drives Moms artistic eye insane. She gets up early and trims things back, trying to tame the jungle before I wake up and notice. My hand always holds my little garden digger. I tackle any weed that dares show itself.

Major undertakings we vote on. Heavy lifting is DH's job. So is the mulch pile. He loves flipping over the mulch, so Mom and I concede that job to him. We have a lot of laughs, the three of us. Everything gets done, although sometimes it takes a bit longer because we can't make up our minds.

It took me not quite half of that first summer to lose the "possessive" feeling I had towards my gardens. Now I enjoy the companionship that it has brought us all, and I wouldn't change any of it for the world!!!

All of the photos are of our gardens :))

 


  About Lee Anne Stark  
Lee Anne StarkI am an avid gardener who shares my gardens with 2 other equally avid gardeners. I garden for fun and relaxation, never paying attention to the rules!! During the long, cold winter months I occupy my time playing with over a hundred house plants, my six cats and two dogs.

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Subject: Loved this


Posted by doccat5 (from Fredericksburg, VA) on February 21, 2008 at 4:58 PM:

What a great article, Lee Anne. Loved it. Very well done :)

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Posted by threegardeners (from North Augusta, ON) on February 21, 2008 at 5:20 PM:

Thank you.

:))

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Subject: Quite Entertaining Piece

Posted by frankford (from East Lansing, MI) on February 21, 2008 at 4:06 PM:

I couldn't stop reading your colorful down to earth story. It reminded me of some of my humble beginnings!

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Posted by threegardeners (from North Augusta, ON) on February 21, 2008 at 4:16 PM:

I'm glad you enjoyed it!

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Subject: Plants in the photos

Posted by shihtzumom (from Pearisburg, VA) on February 21, 2008 at 10:03 AM:

Tell us what plants you have in these beautiful beds. I love the top right photo. Is that tall phlox with bee balm on the outer edge?

The next to last photo has a beautiful white plant - what's that?

Kathy

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Posted by threegardeners (from North Augusta, ON) on February 21, 2008 at 10:40 AM:

Hi Kathy,

Thank you for the compliment.

The top right photo is indeed bee balm(a red and a deep purple), phlox(pink) and purple cone flowers. I just love that combination!!

The next to last photo(with the truck) the white plant is a Feverfew. One of my favourites.

Lee Anne

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Posted by psychw2 (from Boise, ID) on February 21, 2008 at 11:59 AM:

Thank you for all the wonderful pictures and ideas! There are blessings & challenges to "sharing" a love of gardening! I so wish there was someone in MY family besides me that loved the dirt.

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Posted by shihtzumom (from Pearisburg, VA) on February 21, 2008 at 1:30 PM:

Lee Anne,
Thanks for the info - I love tall phlox and will be using that combination in my garden this year. I ordered tons of white David phlox and will use the red bee balm to circle the phlox. Feverfew is now also on my new plant list. Stunning photos and great garden ideas.

I also wish there was another garden buddy in my family - you are very lucky to have a shovel man too.

Kathy

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Posted by Lindawalkabout (from Holden, MO) on February 21, 2008 at 10:51 PM:

A great story and life you have.

Your like my family back in 73 we moved from city to the sticks, no plumming , built our cabin and grew a garden, and learned a whole lot of things that you just got to do to get the full impact of. Going out to the outhouse in knee deep snow and wrapping bricks in newspaper that have been heated on top of the wood stove to keep your toes nice and toasty while we slept. Taking baths in a stock tank from water haul from the pond. Everyday was exciting with new challenges. I'm glad I had part of that life. oh and I'm still living in the sticks : )

Your story brought back memories and I do thank you.

Such pretty gardens you have.

tc and happy gardening all three of you : )

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Posted by threegardeners (from North Augusta, ON) on February 21, 2008 at 10:58 PM:

Thank you.

I also remember, vividly, the walk to the outhouse in knee deep snow. Heating the water on the wood stove to wash or do dishes. Washing my hair in water right out of the rain barrel. I really miss that old cabin.

Everybody should experience that way of living at least once in their lives.

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Posted by Fitsy (from Hayesville, NC) on February 25, 2008 at 9:54 AM:

Thank you for inviting us into your personal space and
story! I have been seeing our postings along, and now I
know more about who is speaking. I love your story and
your beautiful gardens!!
Fitsy

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Subject: Beautiful!

Posted by plantladylin (from East Central, FL) on February 21, 2008 at 9:24 AM:

Lee Ann, Another wonderful article! You have many Blessings in your life! Your flower gardens are absolutely Beautiful. How wonderful that your Mom lives with you and your DH and that the three of you can garden together! My DH helps out in the yard with me ... I have to have him do the heavy planting. We are complete opposites on what looks "good" though. I, like you enjoy the cottage type gardening ... a mixture of everything, meandering curves of flowers and plants while my DH likes straight lines. All flower beds to him should be square or rectangular ... no in between, no little curve anywhere! We butt heads sometimes when gardening together, maybe I should give him one bed of his own and tell him the rest of the yard is mine to be done my way! LOL. Actually he's very agreeable and with shovel in hand, usually goes along with whatever I decide.

Thank you for giving us a little glimpse into your beautiful gardens! Congrat's to you, your DH and your Mom on a great job!

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Posted by threegardeners (from North Augusta, ON) on February 21, 2008 at 9:38 AM:

Thank you Lin!!

We do have a lot of fun, even when we all disagree.

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Posted by cathy4 (from St. Louis County, MO) on February 21, 2008 at 9:59 AM:

Gorgeous gardens! I wish the pictures could be larger so I could look closer. I love stories of how people garden, thank you!

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Posted by plantladylin (from East Central, FL) on February 21, 2008 at 10:05 AM:

Yeah, Cathy4 ... I always want to click on the pictures to enlarge them ... can never get enough of pictures of beautiful gardens!

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Posted by CapeCodGardener (from Mid-Cape, MA) on February 21, 2008 at 10:14 AM:

Lee Ann, what a great article--you're such a good writer. I envy you for having all those willing gardeners in your life, not to mention, in your gardens!! The mental picture of the three of you all pointing in different directions over the location of a plant is making me laugh over and over! I'm the only gardener in my family, though I cannot fault DH for being anything but truly generous about all the time and $$ I devote to my obsession, er, hobby.
May all three of you have a wonderful spring!! (It IS coming, I think.)

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Posted by marieortiz (from Tolleson, AZ) on February 21, 2008 at 11:20 AM:

What a wonderful article!! I guess maybe I will learn to share with the wanna be gardeners in my life. Thanks for the inspiration!!

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